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  • Jan 20, 2008, 10:35 PM
    moco448
    17 year old dating 14 year old what to do?
    OK so I'm a 17 year old male turing 18 in three months and I'm dating a 14 year old freshmen girl turning 15 in 2 months, I was wondering weather an intimate relationship is out of the questions? For example kissing, holding hands the works I understand the age of consent in Washington is 16 and ia understand sex under 18 is wrong as well, but does that mean she jail bait? And if are parents are OK with us dating is it still legal?
  • Jan 20, 2008, 10:57 PM
    rockerchick_682
    Why would you want to date someone that's soon going to be four years younger than you anyway?

    As long as your relationship isn't sexual I'm pretty sure you'll be fine.

    And if you do have sex with a 14 year old I just might have to hunt you down and teach you a lesson.
  • Jan 20, 2008, 11:04 PM
    iwondersometimes
    This is dangerous territory also because you have to keep in mind --

    If at any point you piss her off, she could easily say that you had an inappropriate relationship with her and get you into a lot of trouble. Think with the big head, not the other.
  • Jan 21, 2008, 12:34 AM
    moco448
    Well thank you and she knows what she's getting her self into I guess and I'm sur that for now it won't go that far
  • Jan 21, 2008, 03:55 PM
    450donn
    HUmmmm 18 dating 14 is not OK in my book. Now, if you were 25 and she was 21 then no problem. The difference is how much prison time you get for rape?
  • Jan 23, 2008, 08:23 PM
    rockerchick_682
    I agree with the others, it's what trouble you'll be getting into if she ever gets really pissed off at you.
  • Jan 26, 2008, 07:18 AM
    PolluxCastor
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rockerchick_682
    Why would you want to date someone that's soon going to be four years younger than you anyways?

    The difference in age is 2 years and 11 months (or there abouts).
  • Jan 26, 2008, 08:26 AM
    ScottGem
    While I have to wonder what attraction a 14 year old would have for a soon to be 18 year old, there is nothing illegal about dating. Especially if the parents are OK with it.

    But it does mean you have to be EXTREMELY careful that it does not get physical. ANY sexual content beyond kissing and hand holding, can get you in trouble. Yes she is jail bait until she turns 16. Even then, you could still be in trouble because of the age difference.

    But the fact that you asked the question leads me to believe that you are genuinely interested in this girl so as long as you both remain fully clothed and keep your hands away from "private parts", you will have done nothing illegal.
  • Jan 26, 2008, 08:36 AM
    s_cianci
    Nothing is illegal about it as long as you keep it in your pants.
  • Jan 28, 2008, 09:15 PM
    moco448
    Well thank you all so mush you have added a much needed side to this. After talking to my parents and some of my friends and not wanting to believe them you have pushed me over the edge in a good way I do now relive that we have very little in common and I think she was mostly after the hole my boy friend is 18 thing and I'm sure that she was thinking mostly sex and I was too so I decided to end it since then I have found a new girl friend that is 16 and is a senior myself being an old junior I think that this is abut as close as I can get to my own age me and her have much more in common and spend much more time together already. Thanks again
  • Jan 30, 2008, 08:57 AM
    zcollector2007
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by PolluxCastor
    The difference in age is 2 years and 11 months (or there abouts).

    Hey may I ask you where you got your age different info at like a site or something because I need to find it ad print it out send the site to my email address {e-mail removed-<>}
  • Jan 30, 2008, 09:04 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by zcollector2007
    hey may i ask u where u got ur age different info at like a site or something because i need to find it ad print it out send the site to my email address {e-mail removed}

    The OP stated he was 3 months from 18 and the girl 2 months from 15. Therefore, she will turn 15, one month before he turns 18. So the age difference will be one month less than 3 years. Just simple arithmetic. Do you need a calculator that calculates age differences? If so, post in the computer software forum
  • Jan 30, 2008, 09:12 AM
    zcollector2007
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem
    The OP stated he was 3 months from 18 and the girl 2 months from 15. Therefore, she will turn 15, one month before he turns 18. So the age difference will be one month less than 3 years. Just simple arithmetic. Do you need a calculator that calculates age differences? If so, post in the computer software forum

    I was meirly asking for a legal docomentation saying how far apart u may be when dating under the age of 18
  • Jan 30, 2008, 09:17 AM
    ScottGem
    First, may I call your attention to the guidelines for using the comments feature found here:

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/feedba...ure-24951.html

    The reason it didn't help is because your question was vague and unclear. But the information I gave you was VERY accurate. As I answered in your other post, you will not find any documentation that refers to the age differences when dating since nowhere is dating regulated by law. Its only sexual relations that is regulated by law.
  • Nov 12, 2009, 06:23 PM
    LoveLev
    My boyfriend turned 17 this August. And I'm turning 15 in January. I wanted to know if there were others in this situation, so I googled it and found this. And he seems uncomfortable with any kind of sexual encounters every time I happen t bring it up. All we really do is kiss. And I think that is because of the age difference. But honestly I don't think it's that bad...
  • Nov 30, 2009, 05:06 PM
    Chelseacmk
    I'm a 14 year old girl truning 15 in may. And I'm dating a 17 year old boy. We have been in love yes in love for 2 years. We meet through my cuzins but just to scared to tell each other. We are committed . But have to wait to get married. We love each other a lot! And are sexully involved. I see nothing wrong with this. As long as you love each other right? +}}}}
  • Nov 30, 2009, 05:42 PM
    I wish

    Old thread.

    Closed

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