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Is my girlfriend really a virgin?

Hello and thank you for viewing and answering my question.

It all starts like this.

I am a 18 year old boy who just lost his virginity to 15 year old girl (don't judge). Me and my girlfriend have been dating only 2 months and few weeks. She gave her virginity to me last week. I though it was odd since she gave it to me so quick. Not only that she wasn't bleeding down there and when I first enter her it really didn't hurt her and it actually please her. There many things that I don't get. Is that when we fool around she would ask me to use two finger instead of 1 (when she was still a virgin). Though she has dated other guys in the past. I still can't get it past me. Her history is that her 2nd boyfriend almost had sex with her twice. Once in her backyard (were disrupted). And another when they were in the movies. He was fingering her (she didn't want 2) and he then try to but supposedly could not get it in. Now I am sorry for saying such vulgar things, but I need know. Is my girlfriend really a virgin before she got to me? She is my first girlfriend and my first love (Ive been doing a lot of moving and kick boxing so I didn't have too much time for relationship)

It doesn't sound like "virgin" behavior to me...

Do you see my problem?

It doesn't seem like virgin behavior to me either. But, it also doesn't seem like you "love" her like you say you do, you say you don't have time for her and you don't trust what she says. If you are unable to trust her (whether you have good reason to or not) then you guys probably won't work out. Also, I'm not judging you but I would advise you to be careful with her, she is young and you could possibly get yourself into trouble.

Yes, I see your problem...

She may also have a problem too.
The problem of insecurity and the need to feel excepted...

Might be the cause for early sex and then lying about it...

Don't judge her, just talk to her about it...
She might appreciate that from you...

No what bothers me is that she lied to me about that. And one of the few things I told her is that I expect honestly about this thing. If she wasn't a virgin I would be fine with that it just I want to know the truth

Not judging but warning, you do realise you can go to prison ( and be someone else's girlfriend) for doing this. 15 is illegal in almost every place. And in most places you will be a sex offender the rest of your life.
Just read on here and you will hear of cases every day where this happens.

With that said, it is hard to say, enough other activities could have already caused enough, but it really don't sound like a first time.
But either way, she isn't now for sure.

Yea I know I just turn 18 and she turning 16 next month

O and to make sure you don't think I'm getting on the defense. I thank you guys for looking out for me and answer my question

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Originally Posted by laodemon22

yea i know i just turn 18 and she turning 16 next month

It doesn't matter, you still had sex with her when she was 15. A lot of guys aren't fully aware of what could happen to you in this situation and when something comes up most of these guys are completely dumb founded because "She didn't care that I was older" and "She made the first move", etc. Of course it takes two, but what about when the parents find out? Your opinions won't matter then!

I don't mean to be so harsh. I just want you to know, it COULD possibly happen.

Yea thxs man for the advice

Well I Say Since She Has Been Fingered B4 Maybe That Why It Didn't Hurt That Much The Fingers Help A lot When Opening The Whole It Helps Relax The Female That How The Guy I Lost It To Did It And It Didn't Hurt At All When He Did Do It. And About The Whole Age Thing Who Am I To Judge I Was With A 18 Year Old Guy When I Was Only 10 Years Old.(I Looked Older Then 10)

I'm just hoping the post above mine is a joke or a typo... you were 10 he was 18? My god what is this world coming to

No its not a typo I know it was wrong but I was 10 I didn't really know better

I personally think no she isn't but I don't think you should leave for her for that reason she probably likes you so she lied and said she was a virgin because a lot of guys like girls that are virgins so she probably think you were like that but you should just confront her and your probably going to be alrite if you take my advice let me know how it turns out

No not really, she is a liar!! No offense

She not a virgin, try to get her to confess if she don't confess she's not the one for you.

Well I don't think she's a virgin... either does my best friend beside me.. If you're a virgin.. it does hurt and you do bleed.. so if it gave her pleasure the first time.. well then.. she's not a virgin.. just my opinion

I would say she wasn't but dang you just put all you guys private life in the open

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Originally Posted by ladyprincess

i would say she wasn't but dang you just put all you guys private life in the open

Only way to find out for sure on your answer

Whoa that is a good age difference and no I'm not judging if you love her you wouldn't think twice & you would believe what she says. You have every right to be concerned or think differently but honestly it dosen't sound like she's a virgin so I'll have to agree with the others who commented about it

I think she may not be a virgin, and not to judge, if your having unprotected sex your as dumb as a box of rocks.

OK now she telling me that when we first did do it. It did hurt her and she just lied to me

Would it make a difference if she was not a virgin?

My opinion is she was probably a virgin, I know most said it wasn't virgin behavior but listen the membrane that covers that area, what makes you a virgin can break from riding a bike falling over riding a horse and so on. And maybe she was possibly fingered before, and if it felt good to her and shje was a virgin go you buddy :)!! And also is that you prepared her body right and made her, (in lack of a btter word) wet enough it didn't hurt so bad. Don't judge and be straight with her she loves you or she wouldn't have given it up or had sex with you.

Y are you having sex with 15 year old girls in the first place? Do you have a thing for virgins? Find someone your age and you won't have these problems. You don't love her that's obvious. And who cares if she's a virgin or not does it really mater. Seriously find someone that's your age your going mess up this girls life.

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Originally Posted by Lizard-Liss

My opinion is she was prolly a virgin, I know most said it wasnt virgin behavior but listen the membrane that covers that area, what makes you a virgin can break from riding a bike falling over riding a horse and so on. And maybe she was possibly fingered before, and if it felt good to her and shje was a virgin go you buddy :)!!! and also is that you prepared her body right and made her, (in lack of a btter word) wet enough it didnt hurt so bad. Don't judge and be straight with her she loves you or she wouldn't have given it up or had sex with you.

You can NOT break the membrance like that. Not even a tampon can break it. Some times the first time you do it it doesn't even break. Falling off a horse?? Riding a bike?? Where do you get your information from?

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sorry yes, those are real ways for it to happen,

That's what I thought too?? Correct us here ladies.

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Originally Posted by honey2700

Y are you having sex with 15 year old girls in the first place? do u have a thing for virgins? find someone your age and you wont have these problems. You dont love her thats obvious. And who cares if shes a virgin or not does it really mater. Seriously find someone thats your age your going mess up this girls life.

Well.. like I said I was untouch and I didn't want to look embarrassed myself in front of an experiencing girl. Plus I though I was in love and stuff. I know this sound pretty girly from a guy, but I can't exactly say I had a normal childhood

Some girls pretend it doesn't hurt, the best thing to do is honestly ask her. She may not want to talk about it, she could have bad experiences in the past if she's worth it wait until you trust each other more to open up.

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Originally Posted by laodemon22

Hello and thank you for viewing and answering my question.

It all starts like this.

I am a 18 year old boy who just lost his virginity to 15 year old girl (don't judge). Me and my girlfriend have been dating only 2 months and few weeks. She gave her virginity to me last week. I though it was odd since she gave it to me so quick. Not only that she wasn't bleeding down there and when I first enter her it really didn't hurt her and it actually please her. There many things that I don't get. Is that when we fool around she would ask me to use two finger instead of 1 (when she was still a virgin). Though she has dated other guys in the past. I still can't get it past me. Her history is that her 2nd boyfriend almost had sex with her twice. Once in her backyard (were disrupted). And another when they were in the movies. He was fingering her (she didn't want 2) and he then try to but supposedly could not get it in. Now I am sorry for saying such vulgar things, but I need know. Is my girlfriend really a virgin before she got to me? She is my first girlfriend and my first love (Ive been doing alot of moving and kick boxing so I didn't have to much time for relationship)

I had the same thing happen to me, but don't worry if you hit her right, she'll love you to death.

I was 15 when I lost my virginity... it took my ex boyfriend 5 days and it was my idea! It was just the right time! I also enjoyed it and never bled.. you don't have to bleed, your "cherry" can get popped when you are getting fingered! I actually recall telling him to go faster! I WAS A VIRGIN. Although the days after that, I was sore and could not sit properly for 3 days... but it is possible your girlfriend is not lying.. I highly doubt she is, I've never met soemone who has lied about being a virgin..

Some girls lie about it... even I lied about having my virginity, but never to my boyfriends.

I wasn't going to say anything on this post because I think what you are doing is disgusting, your girlfriend is a child.

Anyway, maybe she had sex before but regretted or maybe she didn't. Kids are so uneducated about their bodies that they don't understand that the majority of girls have a broken hymen before they have sex. Use tampons? Your hymen is gone. Were you active in sports as a kid? Hymen is gone. Maybe your girlfriend has just been active with digital sex so she is already "opened up" as the kids say.

I think that maybe you date kids because you want a virgin? Is that why you are so upset, your perfect little girl isn't so perfect after all?

Holy Glinda.... I agree with you but damn! That's VERY forward of you.

I was also going to pass on this since it's a few months old. But I got to go along with Glinda. You were 18 and knowingly and willingly had sex with a 15 year old girl. That qualifies you as a pervert, a pedophile and enormously stupid. You shouldn't even be dating a 15 year old let alone having intercourse with her. What's even worse is you had intercourse without having really strong feelings about her. If you did, it wouldn't concern you whether she was a virgin or not.

Its too bad we can't report you to the proper authorities.

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Originally Posted by Canada_Sweety

Holy Glinda.... I agree with you but damn! That's VERY forward of you.

I'm sorry I just get so mad with these older guys taking advantage of children. It makes me sick to my stomach.

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Originally Posted by laodemon22

I am a 18 year old boy who just lost his virginity to 15 year old girl (don't judge).

Me and my girlfriend have been dating only 2 months and few weeks.

Though she has dated other guys in the past. I still can't get it past me.

She is my first girlfriend and my first love (Ive been doing alot of moving and kick boxing so I didn't have to much time for relationship)

To quote yourself Don't JUDGE!

What the hell difference does it make. Guys who ask this or get hung up on this are immature and insecure.

Guess what... she's probably not going to be your last girlfriend or love. So... while it lasts, get past this mental crap. You are wasting mental energy on an issue that will mean NOTHING to you in several years, when you are older, wiser, and you are so insecure about who slept with who and when.

It's a waste of energy. Get over it, whatever the answer is.

Above all else, if you can't accept her cause she slept with you so fast (hmmm, gee, didn't YOU make that choice too? Shouldn't she be writing here about whether you just in it for the sex) then get out.

And, yes, you are having sex with an underage girl. You can go to jail.

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Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

I'm sorry I just get so mad with these older guys taking advantage of children. It makes me sick to my stomach.

Mine too.