So much going on in my life, I hate school can't stand my teachers can't be bothered listening to my friends and all their winging or drama. Can't stand being in the same room as my mother and listening to her constantly asking me what's wrong or lecturing me on my behaviour. I feel like I just want to pack my things and leave. I don't know what to do I hate the thought of getting up in the morning and having to see these people. I hate my mom I know that's a horrible thing to say but you don't know her she's so nosey always in my business always snooping god I wish she would just stop. Now I sound like one of the complaining but it can't handle it anymore

DO you honetly believe ANYTHING is going to be easier on your own? Well hate to tell you its going to be a LOT worse. You have it easier now than you will ever have it.

Upset a boss... you find yourself fired, upset your landlord... you find yourself having to find a new place to live. Don't show up for work. You don't get paid and you get told to not bother returning.

Don't get paid you don't eat, you don't get a place to live because you get thrown out, you don't have water, light or heat.

When you find fault with everyone and everything around you... the problem isn't there... but within yourself.

What do you do... stop expecting everything to go your way... its never going to happen... the best you can hope for is some things to go how you hope... when they do count your blessings.

As long as your parents pay the bills and are responsible for you... they are entitled to snoop. They are entitled to snoop even when they aren't. They brought you into this world and raised you. As long as you and them are breathing air..they are going to snoop....they snoop because they care.

WHat you really need is counceling. Do you have a councelor at your school? If not you could talk to your parents... who can make arraingements to see one.

So is this why you want to overdose on codeine?

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I don't want to overdose on codine I like the feeling I get when I take lots of it. I'm not unhappy I don't want to die.

Very common (even among your classmates, and you probably don't even know it).
I went through it, and that was 50+ years ago.
As said, running away is worse.
And in relation to your other post, yes, you can die from too much codeine. Most overdoses fail, however, (you need a LOT and doctors won't give out enough for a fatal dose) and you end up in a hospital with your stomach pumped and sometimes some damage.

What I did was read and read and read, in my room, until I was done with high school (no computers then). Can you do that?

I don't expect everything to go my way, I know that's not how this world works I'm not stupid. I would just like to be able to block my ears and not listen to everyone talking at me. My mother might be responsible for me but I would like to think I can have some sort of privacy, what she does is not caring but looking for reasons to yell at me..

You don't get to do that... you have to listen to people even when you don't want to... Privacy is a privilege that's earned, its not an entitlement. Try behaving in the way she expects... then she won't have a reason.

Your "right to privacy" really doesn't apply as a child. And its not nearly as extensive as an adault as you might think.

Do you understand the saying... you reap what you sow? It means there are consequences to actions and behaviours. You have them as a kid... and you still have then as an adult. The fact is even dictators in third world countries are not exempt from them.

Again... you don't get to define what caring is... because you really have no serious responsibilities as a kid beyond school... you will grasp the significance of this when you are an adult , supporting yourself successfully and have kids of your own. Its something that as a teen... you don't yet have the maturity to understand yet. But in time you will.

The only thing you are entitled to is food, clothing and shelter. What exactly they are is dependent on those providing them, and what they can afford, and what they want them to be. They might not be what you want. If you get a choice...consider that a privledge.

Even as an adult..it might be many years until you can afford what you want....before then you settle for what you can afford.

Life is like that...you settle for what options you have availble to you. And you make the most of them. Stomping your feet and getting upset won't change anything. In fact it usually results in fewer options when you do it.

I wouldn't mind listening to certain people if they had anything worth me listening to. My friends just complain about other people behind their back and then act like they are friends to their faces what a joke ! My mum goes through my room checks my phone ask me a million questions accuses me of being high all the time she tries and gets in my head and no matter how much I ignor her it never stops, caring I'd rather she just focus on my sister not me. Reap what I sow fair enough but I haven't done anything to her so why does she act this way? And why only towards me?

I don't think you want to overdose. I think you want to run away mentally as well as physically. Drugs of any type may seem like an escape but in reality they are a trap that holds you where you are or puts you in a worse situation.

You haven't said how old you are or how long before you graduate.

For someone who is 'happy' you seem full of 'hate'. You have a choice. You can hold on to the hate. Look at everything in a negative way. Build up walls of anger and resentment. Or you can decide to change your attitude. Get involved in activities that help you feel good and positive about yourself and life. Focus on learning about things you like. Focus on doing well in your classes whether you like the teachers or not. Make new friends who might have more in common with you than your current friends.

Look at your own behavior and attitude around the house. Do you help out? Do you act like a member of the family or do you hide away ignoring everyone and everything? Do you keep up with your school/home work? Are you failing your classes? Are you always tardy or 'home sick' a lot? Do you spend hours on the computer or texting with people you shouldn't? Are you giving off signals that you can't be trusted?

Ask your mother to sit down and talk with you about boundaries. Find out why she is concerned and 'invading' your privacy.

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I wouldn't mind listening to certain people if they had anything worth me listening to. My friends just complain about other people behind their back and then act like they are friends to their faces what a joke ! My mum goes through my room checks my phone ask me a million questions accuses me of being high all the time she tries and gets in my head and no matter how much I ignor her it never stops, caring I'd rather she just focus on my sister not me. Reap what I sow fair enough but I haven't done anything to her so why does she act this way? And why only towards me?

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Ok, good... you got the point I was trynig to make... and answer to some of this other points. You see thiings only from your own perspective. With the hormone swings you are barely able to deal with at your age.. its easy to see things in an exaggerated manner. Its not uncommon and its very likely you are doing it right now. Toss in the tendencies of a teen to exaggerate in their behaviour... A simple comment or action ends up blown out of porportion. Surely you have seen your friends doing this.

Ever hear the saying... the squeaky wheel gets the grease? What it means is your actions in the home are making you the squeaky wheel... and are drawing their attention more than your sister is. Erratic behaviour is always more noticeable to others than it is to the person who is acting erratically.

The other thing... "her trying to get in your head"... and your mother "asking you a million questions" Clearly exagerations... understand how much a million of something is? And you are aware.. people talk with each other all the time... they even ask questions... why should your family be any different than anyone else. It's a normal social behaviour.

Wow, you have a phone of your own... that says a lot. Who pays for it each month? Somehow I doubt you do. You are better off than half the world right there.

Yes, some parents are horrible. My mother accused me of things I didn't do either, the main one being sex. I DO know what it's like to be screamed at for nothing at all. At that was before the days we have now, with teenage girls doing some really naïve things online.

You didn't answer my question...

I don't think I'm full of hate just tired, tired of everything. I try to see the positive things but trust me its not easy being in high school to find anything positive. I don't fail classes but I'm not at the top either. I am always at school my mum only let's me stay at home when I'm dying and there is no need to skip classes when I can sit in the back put my headphones in and not be noticed. I just turned 15. I don't really know what signals I could possibly give of to make my mother act the way she does. I can't speak to her I haven't spoken to my mum in about 4 months or my sister if I did I would say something I would regret so I don't say anything I do all the chores she asks of me

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Wow, you have a phone of your own... that says a lot. Who pays for it each month? Somehow I doubt you do. You are better off than half the world right there.

Yes, some parents are horrible. My mother accused me of things I didn't do either, the main one being sex. I DO know what it's like to be screamed at for nothing at all. At that was before the days we have now, with teenage girls doing some really naïve things online.

You didn't answer my question...

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Sorry I do read when I'm at home, I do have a job and I brought my own phone and buy my own credit I don't ask for anything I'm great full for what they provide for me

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I don't think I'm full of hate just tired, tired of everything. I try to see the positive things but trust me its not easy being in high school to find anything positive. I don't fail classes but I'm not at the top either. I am always at school my mum only let's me stay at home when I'm dying and there is no need to skip classes when I can sit in the back put my headphones in and not be noticed. I just turned 15. I don't really know what signals I could possibly give of to make my mother act the way she does. I can't speak to her I haven't spoken to my mum in about 4 months or my sister if I did I would say something I would regret so I don't say anything I do all the chores she asks of me

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Read the highlighted part again... you have your answer why in that same highlighted part. Thats not only just a red flag.....but bells, whistles and fireworks as well.

You not speaking to your mom or your sister, your taking codeine, your sitting in class with head phones on, your complaining, all of these are signs there is something wrong and your mom is picking up in them. The fact that your taking codeine is a big enough thing to make her curious. Most moms are not dumb, when there is a problem we know it. Your attitude about your friends is pretty negative. You're doing an awful lot of complaining about them, but you're 15, hormonal, doing drugs, (codeine is a drug) so you are probably not a joy to be around either.
Speak to a counselor at your school. Maybe he/she can set you up with someone to talk to on a regular basis. You are your biggest problem

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Read the highlighted part again... you have your answer why in that same highlighted part. Thats not only just a red flag.....but bells, whistles and fireworks as well.

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Why is it so hard for her to understand I don't want to speak to her I do as she asks I don't get in trouble well hardly ever. Why does she talk talk talk

When you are living with someone who takes care of you, (your mom) and you don't want to talk to them, that is a problem. How can you do that to your mom? You talk about your friends not having anything to say worth hearing and about how immature they all are, you are acting like a brat. Your mom talks to you because she loves you and wants to know how things are going with you. She talks to you because it is rude to live in the house with people and ignore them because you don't feel like talking.
Get some counseling.

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Why is it so hard for her to understand I don't want to speak to her I do as she asks I don't get in trouble well hardly ever. Why does she talk talk talk

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Because that's NOT a normal behaviour... you are not behaving in a normal manner and she sees this... she's your mum... and contrary to what you believe... she does care.

If she let you do things they way you want... you will certainly make a disaster of your life before you are an adult. One that you might spend the rest of your natural life trying to correct.

How can I be so certain... because I have the benefit of a lot of years experience seeing people very much like you do just that.

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You not speaking to your mom or your sister, your taking codeine, your sitting in class with head phones on, your complaining, all of these are signs there is something wrong and your mom is picking up in them. The fact that your taking codeine is a big enough thing to make her curious. Most moms are not dumb, when there is a problem we know it. Your attitude about your friends is pretty negative. You're doing an awful lot of complaining about them, but you're 15, hormonal, doing drugs, (codeine is a drug) so you are probably not a joy to be around either.
Speak to a counselor at your school. Maybe he/she can set you up with someone to talk to on a regular basis. You are your biggest problem

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I don't normally complain I don't speak to people so I can't complain guess I just needed to get it out, in a way I felt comfortable with. And your right I'm just some hormonal teenager who it sucks to be around. It's not like I take codeine all the time so I don't speak big deal she should be happy I don't she wouldn't like it if I did

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Because that's NOT a normal behaviour... you are not behaving in a normal manner and she sees this... she's your mum... and contrary to what you believe... she does care.

If she let you do things they way you want... you will certainly make a disaster of your life before you are an adult. One that you might spend the rest of your natural life trying to correct.

How can I be so certain... because I have the benefit of a lot of years experience seeing people very much like you do just that.

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My life is already a disaster and there is nothing she can do about it there is no point in talking to her you might think I hurt he by not talking to her but its better for us both this way. I can do this myself I just need some quiet to think it all through I need her to stop just for a bit. But I don't know how to get her to understand

You can't fix it yourself because you don't have the benefit of seeing the situation with a clear mind... nor do you have the benefit of ife experience to know the right way and the wrong way to do something.

The fact your life is such a disater (your words) now... is because you've been making all the wrong decisions and doing all the wrong things.

At 15 you don't have the answers you need to fix it. That's not a swipe at you.. its just a fact that some things require a lot of experience to understand... much less fix. And you are the least equipped individual being you lack the experience or the objectivity needed. Because you are in the middle of it. Even an adult is not in a position to self diagnose because even if they have the experience... they will lack the needed objectivity to see things how they really are... and not how they think they are. The two many times are not the same.

Also...the things that seem so importat to a teen...are usually not to anyone else more than a few years older....and the things a teen thinks are insignificant....can and many times do have life long ramnifications.

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You can't fix it yourself because you don't have the benefit of seeing the situation with a clear mind... nor do you have the benefit of ife experience to know the right way and the wrong way to do something.

The fact your life is such a disater (your words) now... is because you've been making all the wrong decisions and doing all the wrong things.

At 15 you don't have the answers you need to fix it. That's not a swipe at you.. its just a fact that some things require a lot of experience to understand... much less fix. And you are the least equipped individual being you lack the experience or the objectivity needed. Because you are in the middle of it. Even an adult is not in a position to self diagnose because even if they have the experience... they will lack the needed objectivity to see things how they really are... and not how they think they are. The two many times are not the same.

Also...the things that seem so importat to a teen...are usually not to anyone else more than a few years older....and the things a teen thinks are insignificant....can and many times do have life long ramnifications.

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I just don't want to talk!! This is my decision you might think it's the wrong one but its not. Nothing can be fixed if I don't speak nothing will get broken. It's easy I need quiet she needs move on leave me alone

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How about this idea? -- you're a good writer and want to think all this through. Every evening, list in a notebook or in a Word file five things that pleased you and made you feel good during the day. They could be small things, like answering a question correctly in history class or enjoying a favorite dessert OR they could be bigger things ... or things in between. This will push your brain to think through more things going on in your life.

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I just don't want to talk!! This is my decision you might think it's the wrong one but its not. Nothing can be fixed if I don't speak nothing will get broken. It's easy I need quiet she needs move on leave me alone

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And that is exactly WHY she doesn't... Its not normal for one thing... for another its being very disrespectful to her. This little thing about family hierarchy.. and the parents being in charge and all.

There is this other unfortunate reality of life... ignoring a problem doesn't make it go away... it causes it to fester. 99.99% of the time the worst thing you can do about a problem is ignore it. It usually takes someone until their late 20's to understand this, and why. A few adults never learn it.

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I just don't want to talk!! This is my decision you might think it's the wrong one but its not. Nothing can be fixed if I don't speak nothing will get broken. It's easy I need quiet she needs move on leave me alone

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Your mother is not going to "be move on and leave you alone" That is not what moms do. They care about their kids, what's going on in their life.
You need some counseling, perhaps with your mom as well. It's obvious you have some issues (although I think mostly is teenage angst) but you also need to learn to respect your mom and some manners. You don't live in a house with people and not talk to them, it's rude.

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And that is exactly WHY she doesn't... Its not normal for one thing... for another its being very disrespectful to her. This little thing about family hierarchy.. and the parents being in charge and all.

There is this other unfortunate reality of life... ignoring a problem doesn't make it go away... it causes it to fester. 99.99% of the time the worst thing you can do about a problem is ignore it. It usually takes someone until their late 20's to understand this, and why. A few adults never learn it.

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I'm not trying to be disrespectful I'm not, not talking because I want to hurt them Im doing this for them and me, they just don't see it but how could they I guess they will never understand. My parents might be in charge but they can't control my body. I'm not ignoring my problem, I am a dealing with it but its not that easy why I need her to stop. I thought by now she would give up

Your age is really showing here.
Parents don't just give up on their kids. You are not dealing with your problems because you don't know how. What you are doing to your family is just rude. You think you know the best way but you don't, you have no clue.

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I'm not trying to be disrespectful I'm not talking because I want to hurt them Im doing this for them and me, they just don't see it but how could they I guess they will never understand. My parents might be in charge but they can't control my body. I'm not ignoring my problem, I am a dealing with it but its not that easy why I need her to stop. I thought by now she would give up

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I understand you might not be trying to be... but the appearance of it is there. And all it has to do is appear that way to her.

Being quiet and keeping it to yourself is not dealing with it. You don't have the experience or the skillset to deal with it. The proof is you don't "get" why she doesn't give up. Your behaviour is raising all kinds of flags that you are up to something... including things you might not actually be doing right now.

Your behaviour is WHY she isn't giving up... and in fact... its a pretty good indication that she is acting like a good parent. And that she really does care.

People who care don't let people wallow in their misery and do whatever they want particularly when its self destructive. And what you are doing is self destructive... but you can't see that because you lack the objectivity that we have.

It takes an incredible amount of apathy to sit back.. and let someone do things self destructive when its clear its happening.

At least you aren't surrounded by people like that... and one day you will understand how lucky your to have them.

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Your mother is not going to "be move on and leave you alone" That is not what moms do. They care about their kids, what's going on in their life.
You need some counseling, perhaps with your mom as well. It's obvious you have some issues (although I think mostly is teenage angst) but you also need to learn to respect your mom and some manners. You don't live in a house with people and not talk to them, it's rude.

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I'm rude disrespectful and have no manners wow. I hope that's the way my mum looks at it I hope she thinks I'm just being a little brat I hope she's angry I hope she loses patients and gives up. I hope she can't wait for me to leave good I'd rather her, I want her to think that. Then she might stop. I'm just trying to not hurt anyone but it seems that no matter what path I choose its going to happen I just get to chose how much I hurt them and this is the better way

What is your problem, what problem is it you're trying to fix by not talking to your mom? Why are you trying to make your mom angry with you?
And yes, when you live I a house with people, people who are taking care of you and you don't talk to them, that is rude.
Why do you not talk to your siblings.

From what I've read...you sound like my daughters friend....She's a whiny kid that nothing goes right for, everyone hates her, blah-blah-blah....

You won't talk to your mother and you want her to leave you alone but you don't get that not talking is one of the things that's making her like this towards you. Then you complain that she accuses you of doing drugs but you do...so they aren't false accusations. Then you claim you don't want to hurt anyone but the simple fact that you won't communicate is hurting your mother.

Yes, yes...your life is sooo difficult. Right, I get it. At 15, you have the answers, the adults know nothing. You want to move out where life will be awesome!

You are in for a rude awakening when you actually hit the real world.

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I understand you might not be trying to be... but the appearance of it is there. And all it has to do is appear that way to her.

Being quiet and keeping it to yourself is not dealing with it. You don't have the experience or the skillset to deal with it. The proof is you don't "get" why she doesn't give up. Your behaviour is raising all kinds of flags that you are up to something... including things you might not actually be doing right now.

Your behaviour is WHY she isn't giving up... and in fact... its a pretty good indication that she is acting like a good parent. And that she really does care.

People who care don't let people wallow in their misery and do whatever they want particularly when its self destructive. And what you are doing is self destructive... but you can't see that because you lack the objectivity that we have.

It takes an incredible amount of apathy to sit back.. and let someone do things self destructive when its clear its happening.

At least you aren't surrounded by people's like that... and one day you will understand how lucky your to have them.

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I'm so confused I don't know what to do I should have never wrote this question, I don't know. It's lose lose. I'm so angry at myself I should have just said nothing. Talk about messing with my head

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I'm so confused I don't know what to do I should have never wrote this question, I don't know. It's lose lose. I'm so angry at myself I should have just said nothing. Talk about messing with my head

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So? You aren't the first 15 year old to be wrong about something... and you won't be the last. Parents are there to stop you from doing stupid things... or as least doing them as often. I'm a few more years you will be able to look back and see what we are trying to tell you... and why your mother is doing what she does.

Assuming you don't fall in with the drug users and end up living to get your next fix until you get a hot one and your life ends rather abruptly.

Kids that act in this manner. Are seriously at risk of doing exactly that. Its not just about yesterday or even today... but tomorrow as well.

Most teenagers think they have all the answers to everything.....they all find out how wrong they were when they first move out and have to support themselves .....meaning paying rent, food, utilities and everything. Working part time and living at home with mom...is nothing like life in the real world as an adult. You have it easy as a teen....life as an adult is very unforgiving. You do what you have to do..even when your don't want to do it.

Don't and you get fired....do that enough and nobody will hire you...without an income you don't have a place to live..or food to eat...and you are sitting on the street begging for money....and at risk for some serious abuse....I don't know or haven't noticed if yuo and a boy or girl.....but homeless on the streets as a girl puts you at serious risk of abuse, as a young person of either gender....that includes rape.

Want stress?.....worry about being one step away from being jobless and homeless as an adult. Compared to that a 15 years olds problems are nothing. And you will think this as well in a few years. If you aren't being sexually abused or physically beaten....then the problems are really unimportant. There are lots of kids of all ages that those are a fact of life.

Perspective can be a usefull tool to keep you grounded in whats important and what isn't at any age.

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From what I've read...you sound like my daughters friend....She's a whiny kid that nothing goes right for, everyone hates her, blah-blah-blah....

You won't talk to your mother and you want her to leave you alone but you don't get that not talking is one of the things that's making her like this towards you. Then you complain that she accuses you of doing drugs but you do...so they aren't false accusations. Then you claim you don't want to hurt anyone but the simple fact that you won't communicate is hurting your mother.

Yes, yes...your life is sooo difficult. Right, I get it. At 15, you have the answers, the adults know nothing. You want to move out where life will be awesome!

You are in for a rude awakening when you actually hit the real world.

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You don't know me you think I don't know what the world is like you would be surprised how much you hear and see when you stop when people forget your around. I don't usually wine or complain I don't talk! I came here for advise because I couldn't handle it any more to vent I suppose. I don't have all the answers if I did I wouldn't have came to this sight why is everyone so quick to judge me?

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So? You aren't the first 15 year old to be wrong about something... and you won't be the last. Parents are there to stop you from doing stupid things... or as least doing them as often. I'm a few more years you will be able to look back and see what we are trying to tell you... and why your mother is doing what she does.

Assuming you don't fall in with the drug users and end up living to get your next fix until you get a hot one and your life ends rather abruptly.

Kids that act in this manner. Are seriously at risk of doing exactly that. Its not just about yesterday or even today... but tomorrow as well.

Most teenagers think they have all the answers to everything.....they all find out how wrong they were when they first move out and have to support themselves .....meaning paying rent, food, utilities and everything. Working part time and living at home with mom...is nothing like life in the real world as an adult.

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I'm not a drug user I was in pain so I took more pills that I should have it felt good wanted to know if it could harm me was curious that is all I don't even smoke I don't drink anymore nothing I've learnt what happens when u do stuff that you shouldn't just was curious made me feel a little numb for a while. I hear what my mother goes through being an adult I know the real world is hard that's why I don't burden her with my stuff

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I'm so confused I don't know what to do I should have never wrote this question, I don't know. It's lose lose. I'm so angry at myself I should have just said nothing. Talk about messing with my head

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You wrote the question because you need help. It's why anyone asks for our advice. Just sometimes they aren't ready for the responses and they lash out. Most stop and think and listen. It may take a few days or weeks or months. But they do and we are still here for them.

You see this as a 'lose/lose' situation and it isn't. You have the ability to turn it into a winning one. Sure things might be rougher for a while but the path isn't very smooth right now, is it?

Look at how your thoughts, as expressed to us, have already changed. You started off telling us you "hate" your mother. Now, you tell us you are trying to protect her and yourself. Here's the thing, it is her job to protect you whether you like it or not. It is not your job to protect her. She cannot help you or give you support if you shut her out.

If you don't know how to open up to her and let her try to help, you might think about letting her read this thread. Sure she might get upset, but she probably already thinks there is a lot worse going on.

I don't know what all is going through your mind, but most of us have been there, done that and have the t-shirt, hat and bag to prove it. You may not be ready for this thought, but your mother probably has too. Give her a chance to help.

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I'm not a drug user I was in pain so I took more pills that I should have it felt good wanted to know if it could harm me was curious that is all I don't even smoke I don't drink anymore nothing I've learnt what happens when u do stuff that you shouldn't just was curious made me feel a little numb for a while. I hear what my mother goes through being an adult I know the real world is hard that's why I don't burden her with my stuff

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And those are exactly some of the types of things that result in withdrawn behaviour... I'm glad that you say you don't do them... but the fact is as I said... appearance is everything.

So what do you do... you talk to your mom... without your sister around. You could even show her this thread. But you aren't going to "fix this" on your own.

Nobody is judging you. What did you expect from 6 hours of beetching... I mean venting, about everything and everybody? I mean YOU hate everything. YOU said so... for 6 hours!!

Does your sibling get the same treatment as you? Is she older? How does SHE deal with it?

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And those are exactly some of the types of things that result in withdrawn behaviour... I'm glad that you say you don't do them... but the fact is as I said... appearance is everything.

So what do you do... you talk to your mom... without your sister around. You could even show her this thread. But you aren't going to "fix this" on your own.

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I don't know if I can speak to her, without breaking down or anyone if it was that easy I wouldn't have stopped talking. I haven't spoken in ages and to be honest I don't really want to I'm scared to if I could just act normal I'm such an idiot, I should have just acted normal and she would have never harassed me I get stupid me

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Originally Posted by Noone2014

I don't know if I can speak to her, without breaking down

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And maybe that's okay. I'm guessing she just might break down too, as you two talk heart to heart.

Speaking to and breaking down with your mom is OK. She loves you and will understand. Give her some credit.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Nobody is judging you. What did you expect from 6 hours of beetching... I mean venting, about everything and everybody? I mean YOU hate everything. YOU said so... for 6 hours!!

Does your sibling get the same treatment as you? Is she older? How does SHE deal with it?

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Your right I have done nothing but poor me I understand I haven't really thought about everyone around me I'm just as bad as my friends talking behind their backs. I don't hate everyone I guess I'm just angry with myself. I apologise for getting angry when you have just been trying to help. My sister is younger than me her and mum get along great it's not like I didn't get along with them either its just hard to explain