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I am 17 right now and will be turning 18 in June, I have recently found out that they changed the law here in Texas about leaving at 18 so I was wondering when I'm 18 can I move out without getting cops called on me by my parents? And if I can move out, can they make me go back?
You do know what goes with that... if you move out mom and dad won't have to give you a dime to eat, pay the rent or anything else. Do you have a full time job that pays enough for all that? Very, VERY few 17 year olds do. And minimum wage won't cut it.
I'm moving in with my boyfriend and I just want to know if I can leave or not I don't need my "mommy or daddys" help
What will happen to you when you and your boyfriend split? Do you have your high school diploma? Are you using at least two forms of birth control? How old is the boyfriend?
Then we split, I'm about to finish high school in 3 months and I'm on the pill and 21, why does that matter
It matters because whether you can leave means nothing if you are not financially prepared to leave, and you're not. You are counting on a boyfriend. How old is he?
What if you do get pregnant or he leaves, can you take care of yourself? I would guess not.
What's with you people and those quotes...
Enyways when I move in with him I'm going to get a job and he wants a baby so I don't think he would leave mi cause of that and 21
The age of majority in TX is 18 So once you turn 18 you can leave. The reason why Wondergirl's questions matter is because no form of birth control is 100% so you could get pregnant even if on the pill. And because if he is very much older, there are other laws that might be invoked.
But the main thing is that if you do split up you will then need to support yourself. If you leave you may not be able to run home to your parents if things don't work out. It would be much better if you leave on good terms so you have a safety net.
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It matters because you also made this claim...
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Are you 17 now or are you 21? You can't be both.
And just so you know...women get pregnant every day while on the pill ( I know several on just this site)......its not 100% effective.
I'm pretty ready to move out, it would make my life much easier and once I'm 18 does it matter how old he is...
Guys want babies all the time, get a girlfriend pregnant, and when that cute little baby cries all night, takes up a lot of the paycheck for diapers and other stuff, they decide fatherhood isn't for them after all. And like Scott said, do not burn your bridges behind you. Your parents might be your salvation in six months.
I'm 18 he's 21
I'm not ready to have a kid and he knows and I don't need my parents haven't in a while
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No, you're 17.Quote:
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You said he wants a baby.Quote:
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At 21 I doubt he's got all that good of a job... money's going to be tight... and while he might be able to support himself... its not going to be cheap to support you as well... and everything else that goes with it.
Also real life isn't al sunshine and fairytales, and if you think its hard now... just wait until you have none of the money and help your parents have provided until then... an it is not insignificant. Most young people have a far lower standard of living when they leave home... it takes many years just to get back to that level much less improve upon it. Most never do improve on it these days.
And at both of your ages... neither of you have finished maturing emotionally... meaning neither of you will be the same people in just a few more years that you are now. That usually is the kiss of death an any relationship. Even if an unexpected child doesn't happen.
What kind of job are you going to get with just a high School diploma that will allow you to take care of yourself?Quote:
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How old is he and what kind of job does he have?
Guys always say they want a baby, especially to a teenager. He gets you pregnant then he gets on with his life without you.
I was ready to leave home when I was 17 too but I also knew I did not have the money to do it and did not want to be tied down to some guy taking care of me. Get yourself a job and save some money. Look at the cost of rents and grocery bills and such so you can have a better idea of how much money you are going to need. Another thing to think about, do you have health insurance? You are going to need it for prenatal care.
Don't run from the authority of your parents to another authority (a boyfriend taking care of you) be independent. How old is this guy?
Do you live with your parents now? If so, they supply housing. You don't have a job, so who pays for your food, clothing school fees, health insurance...Quote:
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This 21 year has your head in the clouds. You are not thinking realistically and you have no clue how much it would cost to live in your own.
How long have you known this 21 year old that you now are wanting to move in with? Are you parents aware you are dating and having sex with a 21 year old?
We already decided I'm moving out when I'm 18... no I don't plan to have a baby yet and not for awhile, yess he's 21 I don't care I love him and we got our minds set on how our lives are going to be.
All I wanted to know is that if I leave can my parents do something about it? But I still haven't had the answer so I'm guessing its yes.
"Those quotes" are our signatures. Some use the signature for quotes, others for links or information about themselves.Quote:
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jojo, part of what has me worried and probably the others too is that you are young and all but running away from home. You are relying on a man who as an adult became involved with a teen. Many of us have seen relationships like yours end with very negative results. Usually because they didn't expect the amount of work and energy it takes to live with another person who isn't family and can walk out at any time.
It doesn't mean you don't love him and he doesn't care about you at this point in time. What worries me is that right now you are in a us against them mentality. You are so focused on getting away from your parents that you could be ignoring major warning signs. Living together is a very different relationship than dating. You won't be able to blame your parents for the stress or disagreements. It will just the two of you trying to make things work. The dirty laundry, dishes, and other daily chores will be all yours and they get old very quickly. The bills will be all yours too.
Getting a job and finishing high school will not be easy. Add an 'accidental' pregnancy and your future will a thousand times harder than it should be.
One thing to learn now is that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. Whatever you decide to do, go into it with your eyes wide open and without the emerald colored glasses.
I never said anything about sex yes they know I'm dating him they like him
Why are you on birth control at 17 if you weren't having sex?
Its not for sexual reasons... and I'm ready and I know I practically live with him I clean make food and doo all the chores I'm used of it
Having your minds set on how live is going to be and it actually being that way are two different things. This is immaturity speaking. When you leave home, you want to do it with your parents blessing. You don't realize it now, but you will need them down the road and any guy who is willing to have you leave your family home without your parents blessing, does not care about you. He is being selfish
How long have you known this guy? What kind of job does he have?
If they know you are dating him and like him, why are you worried about them making trouble for you?Quote:
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Cleaning up after and cooking for a guy does not mean you are ready to be living with someone. You should be doing those things at home.
How long have you been dating this guy?
No once you are 18 you are able to make your own decisions.
Thank you scottgem! Finally someone who tries to answer my question!
I've been dating him for about 3 years now
Hmm, an 18 year old dating a 14 yr old? That doesn't sound good. And if your parents can prove he had sex with you before you turned 17, that could spell trouble for him.
Your parents were OK with their 14 year old dating a 18 year old? If you were my daughter, I'd have had a real problem with that.
Why are you afraid of them making trouble for you if you move in with him? Did they know he was messing with you at 14?
My parents isn't like that does shell only want to call the cops cause I left! And umm I take my thank you back! None of you people help me I don't know why I even use this stupid website all it has it stupid white people who don't know what the to say
We'll be here when you need us again.Quote:
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jojo, stop playing games with us. Your past threads are available for anyone who wants to read them. I suggest they do.Quote:
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You need to be honest with us and yourself. You have been sexually active. You have had a pregnancy scare (if you aren't pregnant). Apparently you finally decided you have been dating him for three years instead of (now) around nine months.
At 18 you will be legally considered an adult.
Hmm 4 months ago you were dating only 5 months:
Your immaturity is showing. You throw a tantrum because you aren't getting the answer you want to hear.Quote:
I am 17 and my boyfriends 20 we have been together about 5 months
In one of the other threads you said you cook and clean for him (besides being a sexual partner). Looks like he's got a maid with benefits.
So are you pregnant now?
No wonder you got so mad with you last statement. You are not being honest and you're getting the answers you want.
You want to move in with a 21 year old you have been dating a few months. You have no clue young lady. No wonder you are concerned about your parents.
You need to get yourself a job, save some money and get an idea about how much it would cost for you to live on your own.
I have a feeling this is the 21 year old filling your head with this move in with me and have a baby and everything will be wonderful stuff.
Gee... we have yet another 17 year old that thinks they have all the answers to life... well, remember what we told you when you find these things all out the hard way that you don't know ANY of the answers you thought you did. Its obvious she is bound and determined to do that anyway. After all Trailerparks need residents... and someone has to work minimum wage jobs.Quote:
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You actually seemed somewhat intelligent BEFORE that last outburst... all I can say is good luck... you are going to need every bit of it you can get with that attitude.
One reason we say what we say is because we have been through it, a lot of people we know have, and we hear from teens like you here, day in and day out. Some are defiant like you and some are in tears, wanting to kill themselves. The boyfriend usually kicks them out about 2 months after the baby is born, and they can't go home... they end up in homeless shelters. They can't even get welfare right away, and housing can take years.
Every single one of them believed that their love was forever. Tell us, how many people do you know who have been together more than 5 years, tops?
(PS We aren't scorning you or looking down on you, and race has nothing to do with it.)
Also notice she said "move in with him".. apparently they don't think enough of each other to get married. So when he gets bored of having sex with her, or just listening to her complaining, because she's not a wife... just a squeeze.. he'll throw her out and move onto another... happens every day.
Well I am not white and you know what I think of what you are doing. You are thinking like a 17 year old who has been blown away by a 21 year old. He has filled your head with love and babies, moving in and we'll be happy. Has he offered to marry you if you are pregnant? If he truly cares for you he would be telling you to stay on the good side of your parents and when you do move out it will be with their blessing. You have not known this guy long enough to be moving in with him, especially at your age with no job.
I bet her parents are thrilled she wants to move in with him to become his full time sex toy (there is a better name for it but it would not be appropriate to use here), until he gets bored at least. I bet they won't like him so much then.
I am getting in here a little late. But >
1. if it is true and real love, guess what, it can wait and it will still be true love after dating 2 years and maturing more.
2. if it is true love, he would marry you first, and then consider babies.
3. if it was true love, you both would worry and be concerned enough to both have education and better jobs, so you can provide for each other better.
4. if he really loved you,he would be trying to respect your family more
When you turn 18 you can do whatever you choose to, but don't burn your bridges, just in case your desperate dream doesn't work, and you have to have the support of family AGAIN. I fail to see the wisdom of counting on a fellow you have not known very long though you have intense feelings for.
LOL!!!! Thanks for the laugh! How do you know what color any of us are? And what would being white have to do with anything that you asked and the answers you were given?Quote:
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Ok, I will tell you what you want to hear even though it's not the right thing....
YES! Move out and live with him! At 18, you are legal to do that! Go! Live your dream!!!!!!
Of course, when everything comes apart, you will know the "stupid white people" were right.
I was 18 once and I knew everything there was to know! I knew how my life was going to be and that was it!
I was wrong....
Have fun!
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