Ask Me Help Desk

Ask Me Help Desk (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forum.php)
-   Teens (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forumdisplay.php?f=327)
-   -   I was Dating a 16 year old girl turning 17 and I am 14 turning 15. Help me? (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/showthread.php?t=762935)

  • Aug 16, 2013, 03:45 PM
    Irish_rebal
    I was Dating a 16 year old girl turning 17 and I am 14 turning 15. Help me?
    I lied to her about my age. I said I was 15 going 16 but I'm 14 going 15. When she found out she decided we should just be friends. How do I get her back. I really like her and she never had any problem before she knew my real age.

    >Threads merged<
  • Aug 16, 2013, 03:54 PM
    J_9
    Chronologically 15 follows 16. It's not necessary for you to tell us that you are "15 going 16." We already know that. It would be freaking if you were 15 going to be 41.

    So, you are 14 and she is 16. She doesn't want a relationship with you as you are too young for her.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 03:57 PM
    N0help4u
    You thank your lucky stars that she didn't tell you to hit the bricks. You be great friends and who knows maybe in a few years she might get more interested.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 04:00 PM
    Irish_rebal
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
    Chronologically 15 follows 16. It's not necessary for you to tell us that you are "15 going 16." We already know that. It would be freaking if you were 15 going to be 41.

    So, you are 14 and she is 16. She doesn't want a relationship with you as you are too young for her.

    But can I get her back. We were already dating until she found out. Our birthdays are both in August hers is 24 th. I'm 31st. So dats y I said turning and an age. Because our birthdays are both this month. So can I get her back. I thought age was but a number or sum thing

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    You thank your lucky stars that she didn't tell you to hit the bricks. You be great friends and who knows maybe in a few years she might get more interested.

    Thanks. :) ^^^
  • Aug 16, 2013, 06:15 PM
    Irish_rebal
    I think if you abort this child it's a selfish thing to do. I understand your young and confused but the baby is still a human. Please don't kill the baby for such a reason as this. It's only fair for the baby. As a mother you should want to have your child. Having kids seems scary but as soon as you look at your child you will realise how big a mistake abortion is. You will regret killing your baby for the rest of your life if you do get an abortion.


    *******This post and all replies have been moved from someone else thread to prevent hijacking!!!!!!!*********
  • Aug 16, 2013, 06:21 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Irish_rebal View Post
    I think if you abort this child it's a selfish thing to do. I understand your young and confused but the baby is still a human. Please don't kill the baby fo such a reason as this. It's only fair for the baby. As a mother you should want to have your child. Having kids seems scary but as soon as you look at your child you will realise how big a mistake abortion is. You will regret killing your baby for the rest of your life if you do get an abortion.

    You have no right to force your views on anyone. Abortion may not be right for you, you may feel that abortion is killing a child, but to guilt someone into keeping a child she can't afford, or doesn't want, is worse.

    The OP has made her decision, and that's her right. If you disagree, the only person you can control is yourself, your body. You have no right to dictate what someone else does with their body.

    If you're against abortion, don't get one. The OP isn't against abortion, and until you're in the OP's exact situation, you have no right to judge, and no right to dictate what she should or shouldn't do.

    Also, you're a 14 year old male. You have no idea what it takes to be a single mother, and you never will. Keep your penis in your pants, and your opinions to yourself. If you can't offer support, offer nothing.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 06:46 PM
    Irish_rebal
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    You have no right to force your views on anyone. Abortion may not be right for you, you may feel that abortion is killing a child, but to guilt someone into keeping a child she can't afford, or doesn't want, is worse.

    The OP has made her decision, and that's her right. If you disagree, the only person you can control is yourself, your body. You have no right to dictate what someone else does with their body.

    If you're against abortion, don't get one. The OP isn't against abortion, and until you're in the OP's exact situation, you have no right to judge, and no right to dictate what she should or shouldn't do.

    Also, you're a 14 year old male. You have no idea what it takes to be a single mother, and you never will. Keep your penis in your pants, and your opinions to yourself. If you can't offer support, offer nothing.

    Ok sory. My child was aborted 7months ago. My girlfriend is 17. I felt so sad and I still do. I am sory it's just I don't want you to go through the same pain I am going through. Sory
  • Aug 16, 2013, 06:59 PM
    N0help4u
    I am against abortion too, but Alty is right that we can not play God in guilting someone into something. God is in control of all things, so we can only trust his will be done in the grand scheme of things. Things happen in this life that we have no control of and people have free will.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 07:01 PM
    Irish_rebal
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    We are not fortune tellers, only time will tell.

    I understand we're your coming from. But is their sum thing I can say or do to get her back with me. I am desperate for this to work. Thank you for all the advice so far also. :)
  • Aug 16, 2013, 07:02 PM
    ScottGem
    First you are too young to feel this way. Second, she has told you how she feels, there is nothing you can do.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 07:05 PM
    Irish_rebal
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    First you are too young to feel this way. Second, she has told you how she feels, there is nothing you can do.

    Ok. Thanks to everyone for the messages. ;(

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    I am against abortion too, but Alty is right that we can not play God in guilting someone into something. God is in control of all things, so we can only trust his will be done in the grand scheme of things. Things happen in this life that we have no control of and people have free will.

    Yes. I know how bad what I said sounds. I am sory. I just know how low it makes me feel every day knowing that my child could have been here for 2weeks of his life but my girlfriend got an abortion. It just ruined me. I'm sorry
  • Aug 16, 2013, 07:16 PM
    N0help4u
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Irish_rebal View Post
    I is their sum thing I can say or do to get her back with me. I am desperate for this to work. :)

    Desperate turns girls off.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 07:20 PM
    Irish_rebal
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    Desperate turns girls off.

    I know. I don't act like that around her. I have not said anything about getting back together with her yet. I just want to know if there is a way to get her over the small age gap
  • Aug 16, 2013, 07:23 PM
    Homegirl 50
    You're 14 and got a 17 year old pregnant. Who was going to take care of that child? Maybe your girlfriend realized what a mistake your whole relationship was let alone bringing a baby into it.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 07:29 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Irish_rebal View Post
    the small age gap

    It may be a small age gap, but at the ages you two are, it's a huge maturity gap.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 07:35 PM
    Irish_rebal
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    It may be a small age gap, but at the ages you two are, it's a huge maturity gap.

    Ya I understand that too. But I think I'm mature. And she is slightly immature for her age and I like that. It's funny. :)
  • Aug 16, 2013, 07:41 PM
    talaniman
    You realize what you are asking is how to change her mind about you and no one has that kind of control over another.

    In addition on another thread you had gotten her pregnant and she had an abortion, and that probably woke her up to see that you two were just not ready for responsibility and like she needs a long time to think.

    So cool your jet and learn from your mistakes and not just the aborted pregnancy, the lying too. Young unwanted pregnancy, lying, and broken trust are romance killers for sure, and your very young age make for a disaster for you both.

    Be grateful she she keep you as a friend.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 07:54 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Well that's you. Don't push your circumstances on to her.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 07:55 PM
    Irish_rebal
    And what did I lie about. I just want to get back together. We went through the legal system and its all very vague my parents didn't tell me much.
    I'm only realising how much I've screwed up my entire life now.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    Well that's you. Don't push your circumstances on to her.

    You are so write. I have messed up my entire life. Really bad. I only get that now.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 08:02 PM
    N0help4u
    Sorry I was on my cell phone. I meant
    Is this the girl you got pregnant or not since this one is 16 and the one you say you got pregnant is 17.
    If a 17 year old guy got a 14 year old girl pregnant he would be going to jail.
    I wasn't saying you were lying about anything
  • Aug 16, 2013, 08:06 PM
    Irish_rebal
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    Sorry I was on my cell phone. I meant
    Is this the girl you got pregnant or not since this one is 16 and the one you say you got pregnant is 17.
    If a 17 year old guy got a 14 year old girl pregnant he would be going to jail.
    I wasn't saying you were lying about anything

    It was another message that said I'm lying. I'm 14. Not her. We finished with the courts and no charges were pressed
  • Aug 16, 2013, 08:07 PM
    odinn7
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    Sorry I was on my cell phone. I meant
    Is this the girl you got pregnant or not since this one is 16 and the one you say you got pregnant is 17.
    If a 17 year old guy got a 14 year old girl pregnant he would be going to jail.
    I wasn't saying you were lying about anything

    Ages keep changing. In one thread he said he was 16... here he is "14 almost 15"... it's getting tough to keep things straight.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 08:11 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    In the end, you lie, I think you are lying here.

    But she is the mature one, since she does not want a person who lied, and a child who is too young to date.

    Get over it and move on
  • Aug 16, 2013, 08:16 PM
    N0help4u
    Yeah I know you are the younger one. I didn't know it went to court, You should have learned something there about getting out of your league
  • Aug 16, 2013, 08:20 PM
    Irish_rebal
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    Yeah I know you are the younger one. I didn't know it went to court,. You should have learned somthing there about getting out of your league

    Well you I have now. I am going now
  • Aug 16, 2013, 08:28 PM
    Alty
    My take on this. Who knows what's the truth and what's a lie? You lied to this girl, you lied to us on this site, so really, I don't believe a thing that comes out of your mouth anymore.

    I would suggest you get help and learn to stop lying. You're not good enough a liar to fool the people on this site.
  • Aug 16, 2013, 08:48 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Thread closed, stories change, plus alias abuse

  • All times are GMT -7. The time now is 03:24 PM.