She keep telling me about it, and I don't know why. I've told her many times I don't want to hear it.
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She keep telling me about it, and I don't know why. I've told her many times I don't want to hear it.
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Why are you talking with your ex?
Why are you continuing to listen to her sex life? Hang up, walk away.
Do you know the expression 'rubbing salt in your own wounds?'
All you have to do is hit a button *click or *delete or walk away. She's rubbing it in that she moved on and left you
Well we have been pretty close again like best friends.. well were afte me telling her for the last time I didn't want to here it she said she didn't want to friends any more but you before that we were close having regular goofy convos and suchQuote:
Originally Posted by joypulv
Sounds like she enjoyed torturing you, and when you finally put a stop to it, she ditched you as a 'friend.' I say friend in quotes because you were just a toy. Consider yourself lucky that she is gone. It hurts for a while but why keep hurting over and over in little ways? Hurt once and be done.
To control you some, make you miserable.
The real issue is why are you even talking to them. Ex's are ex's for a reason. Stop talking and stop listening
She does it because you allow it.
Quit saying that... you can be friends with ex's u know...Quote:
Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck
If she was such a great friend, like ”best friends” then she would respect your wishes.
Friends don't make friends feel uncomfortable.
You can be friends but she keeps rubbing it in...
That makes you a glutton for punishment when you keep going back for more.
Your choice
Some people can be friends with their exes. At this point, you and she cannot be friends.Quote:
Originally Posted by james101
From the following quote, I don't think she wants to be friends. She wants play games and as long as you allowed it she wanted to keep you close. It was amusing to her. Think of a cat playing with a mouse.
Time for a life lesson. You cannot go back to the way things were. You are not the same people you were before you dated. Your relationship is not and cannot be the same as it was.Quote:
Originally Posted by james101
Take some time to learn about yourself. Who you are now. Don't stay caught up in the past. Encourage yourself to move forward.
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Poor guy, you are her friend and that's what happens with exes when you stay friend and keep talking. You are like her bet girlfriend, or she loves to get you upset. Either way leave her alone and quit trying this friend thing for a while. Friends can talk about ANYTHING, and not be upset.
No I don't I've told her many times to stopQuote:
Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
But she doesn't.Quote:
Originally Posted by james101
When are you going to draw the line in the sand?
If you have had to tell her many times, she has had many opportunities.Quote:
Originally Posted by james101
Stop talking to her.
My ex isn't to fond of me right now but its for no reason and I did nothing but she doesn't want much to do with me and she deleted me off Facebook and we kind of had a fight cause she was being rude to me for no reason and well the last thing I said to her(was being honest and wasn't rude about it) I told her she was being selfish and has some growing up to do... but will she possibly ever talk to me again if I message her in like a month from now? I really miss her and I know she's had problems in her past so that could be the reason or part of the reason she was being the way she was and broke up with me cause she's been hurt a lot.
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It sounds like there is more to this story than you are telling or that you know. Is there someone else? She is moving her life forward and that doesn't include you for whatever reason. You might want to consider doing the same. If you do that the only way for you to make a clean break is no contact. We have all been through this and we all survive.
She for whatever reasons doesn't want you in her life any more. By pushing the issue trying to talk to her you will only be giving her more reason why she ditched you.
Maybe it was the icing on the cake.
More likely the relationship was heading toward ending, and one argument as you've stated, doesn't end a relationship. Nor does thinking you've done nothing wrong, which doesn't sound like you have a lot of insight.
So with you being clueless about why she would possibly break up with you, and wondering if she'll come back, seems a dead end street.
What good would waiting do.
I didn't do anything wrong though I know that for a 100% factQuote:
Originally Posted by Oliver2011
I know I've done nothing wrongQuote:
Originally Posted by Jake2008
No I wouldn'tQuote:
Originally Posted by N0help4u
If she's been hurt a lot in her past, perhaps she is not taking a chance on being hurt again, even if you've done nothing wrong.
You may see many things about her that there is to love, but she may not see anything. Pushing you away may give her an 'out' not to face her own fears.
In other words, there could be many reasons she could be carrying around the guilt of her past, or the regrets, or the pain. There is not much anyone can do when someone allows their past, to affect their future to such an extent, they cannot move forward with their lives.
Being burdened in that way limits independence, confidence, drive, ambition, etc. Learning to stay in one place, would eventually put a life in a stagnant place where nothing ever changes, because of the fear the past will repeat itself again.
And of course, it does.
I don't know what to tell you, but, should she come around and be willing to communicate with you, protect yourself from going through this again.
Sorry about a lot of question about ex's but um these are things that are coming to my mind and it would be nice to get an answer to some of the questions I'm thinking so um I'm wondering when her and I were dating when she was upset depressed like with really stressful things I was always there for her and always did everything I could clearly showing how much I care, like the whole me holding her and calmly talking to her always telling her everything is going to be okay and allowing her to talk to me and tell me what was going on no matter what it was so I'm wondering if there is a chance that will happen and shed be that upset again and maybe miss having me be there?
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If you are implying that there is a chance the relationship might work, my answer is probably not.
For whatever reason it broke up, that was the end of it.
If she is needy, and needs support, and a shoulder to cry on, and someone to help her solve her problems, let it be somebody else.
Why did you break up? That is the big thing. If it's over, it's over.
Your no help... NEXT!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Jake2008
I don't know...Quote:
Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
In my experience, no matter how close we had been when we were together, once we broke up, rarely did we become friends or even care about each other again. The guy and I may have had pleasant memories about each other, but never acted on it, like trying to get back together again. He moved on and I moved on.
Interestingly, a guy I had really liked and had dated for a year or so during high school ended up marrying one of our classmates and had a daughter with her, Years later when the daughter was in high school, he and his wife divorced but remained friends, especially for the daughter's sake. He is now one of the committee heads for our 50th high school class reunion and has been emailing with me, remembering the good times we had together. Neither of us is interested in the other romantically, but it took over 50 years to connect with him again! Maybe that will happen to you and this ex.
Just can't wrap your head around the fact her feelings changed and it will never be the way it was. Just can't accept that can you? You must still be in deep shock and denial, or just don't know how to let go and move on.
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Look up the meaning of ex. No longer. In the past. Don't be her friend. She's not yours. It isn't going to get you where I think you want to go. Unless you want to hear about her sex life all the time. There's other girls. If she's your best friend, then l, well, find a bester one.
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