My girlfriend broke up with me after 2 months. When we were dating she would be so scared of losing me she would cry and she's had a pretty hard life. And Well after school got let out a few days after, her brother got in a bad car accident and well she didn't come online for 2 weeks. After she told me we didn't talk and then she finally came online after 2 weeks and then just flat out broke up with me.

She said she didn't even miss me, or think about me, but she also said she loves me but isn't in love with me. Could she really mean that, or is it just the fact she is going through a lot?


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How old are the two of you?

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Originally Posted by J_9

How old are the two of you?

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She's going to be 17 in December and I'm going to be 18 in September

So you are 17 and she is 16. Doesn't matter how old you are GOING to be. What matters is how old you are now.

Right now she is going through so much that it's best you just leaver her alone. Let her deal with her brother's accident and the aftermath. Situations like this can cause serious family disruptions. The last thing she needs is for you to try to expect her to spend time with her.

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So you are 17 and she is 16. Doesn't matter how old you are GOING to be. What matters is how old you are now.

Right now she is going through so much that it's best you just leaver her alone. Let her deal with her brother's accident and the aftermath. Situations like this can cause serious family disruptions. The last thing she needs is for you to try to expect her to spend time with her.

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She also apparently stated to one of are mutual friends who she talks about everything to and even stated to her that she didn't miss me, my friend asked and she said "nope" so bluntly and she talked to are other mutual friend on the phone and apparently said she's having a good summer and has been busy and I don't know how it could go from being tragic to being good and all that just not meaning anything it seems and I'm pretty sure (not being cocky just confident) I'm the best boyfriend she's had even her friends and my friends saw it everyone saw it.

Either she is lying because she is scared of not being able to contr losing people she loves or if she really does miss you she may never have really lived you and your relationship wasn't what she had you thinking it was. You can tell her you are there for her if she ever wants then its all in her hands.

Maybe she got tired of you. Maybe that is why she broke up with you. It happens.
Maybe she found someone else. This also happens.
It's over, stop focusing on it and move forward.

Confusion, mixed with shock always comes with being dumped for any reason. In time though you will accept her changed feelings, and be a good boyfriend to another, and realize he is the ONLY one that knows why she dumped you.

Leave her alone, and resume your life before she came along, and the confusion will disappear when the emotional dust has settled.

She doesn't miss you because she has many other things on her mind and in her life, and being with you is not a priority or her wish.

Why would she be in a relationship with me and tell me she loved me and be so affectionate if she didn't really love me...

I just want to know when a girlfriend breaks up with their boyfriend cause they kind of possibly lost feeling after not seeing them in person for awhile could feelings ever possibly come back by simply just seeing each other again in person and talking after not seeing each other for awhile say like a month and a bit?


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Anything is possible.

Hypothetical questions about relationships are fruitless. Human variety is too great. ANYTHING is possible, or not. Let us know if it's true in your case. Or tell us more about what's going on and what you are hoping for.

You have good answers there. There is no reason to repeat your question.

If you have further questions regarding this "relationship" you need to respond on your original post. Duplicate posts get deleted.

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why would she be in a relationship with me and tell me she loved me and be so affectionate if she didn't really love me...

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Faulty premise. She DID love you. She stopped. Happens a million times a day all over the world.

Keep thinking about what my ex said when breaking up with me and they just didn't seem right..



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Yes if course, people say things they don't mean a million times a day all over the world - when breaking up, at any time.

Yep, there are quite a few reasons people say things they don't mean. Often its to ease their own guilt, make you feel bad.

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Yep, there are quite a few reasons people say things they don't mean. Often its to ease their own guilt, make you feel bad.

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Hmm that's what I thought. Thank you

I still think about my first ex and it still hurts a lot for me to think about even though its been nearly a year and I've had another girlfriend since then... that just recently broke up with me so I'm not sure why it still hurts me today



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I've read your other thread and this is becoming a theme of self pity. You just got dumped by your other most recent girlfriend, now you are thinking about your previous ex who dumped you. Seems like bad feelings piled on top of bad feelings. No one likes to get dumped, period. It's a pretty crappy feeling, especially being dumped by two people in a row. You're still young. Trust me, it happens to the best of us. It's natural to harbor feelings of an ex, even after a year. We all do it, some more than others, and some even after 2, 3, or 10 years. As you move on in life and in new experiences, these things get much easier to deal with. Eventually they become a thing of the past.

I'm in my 60s and remember all the guys I dumped and got dumped by when I was a teen. I learned something from each situation -- how to be nicer/kinder, how to be more diplomatic, how to be more accepting that a relationship wasn't going to work. Dating and early relationships are a training ground for finding "The One" you will eventually partner with or (hopefully) marry. We find out what we like and don't like in the opposite sex and also who we are what kind of people we are.

What are you learning about yourself?

My ex out of nowhere even though I haven't msged her that much at all with in the span of time since she broke up with me finally decided to message me and told me to stop talking to her and before that according to are mutual friend who I had a slight conversation with about her mentioned I annoie her a lot even though I didn't message my ex that much since the break up occurred like honestly maybe 4 times with in a span of a month each message being sent very far apart from each other but she hasn't deleted me or blocked me at all... and its been 2 days since she msgd me telling me to stop talking to her...


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Drop messaging her and why don't you block her so you aren't tempted

Myabe she's been busy for the last 2 days with a new boyfriend.
How in the world would we possibly know what she's thinking?

Wow, that is some run-on sentence you've got going there.

As for why she hasn't blocked or deleted you... hmm... ask her?

Maybe she wants to see that you are getting a life

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Drop messaging her and why dont you block her so you arent tempted

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I have stopped... I already said I harldy msgd her..

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Wow, that is some run-on sentence you've got going there.

As for why she hasn't blocked or deleted you.....hmm....ask her?

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We;; u get what I'm saying so whatever...

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Myabe she's been busy for the last 2 days with a new boyfriend.
How in the world would we possibly know what she's thinking?

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Uh no that's not the case at all I know very well that's not it...

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Myabe she's been busy for the last 2 days with a new boyfriend.
How in the world would we possibly know what she's thinking?

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And I wasn't talking about you reading her mind I'm sure she's not the only one who's not delete there ex after breaking up with them...

That was just one of a million possible reasons.
A common one is curiosity! I shouldn't be telling you that though. That's why I said something cruel - in the hopes you'd get angry and start saying she's not for you anyway. Which is the only healthy way to deal with being dumped.

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i have stopped....i already said i harldy msgd her..

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Stopped and hardly are hardly the same thing. Why do you feel she should block/delete you? Maybe she hasn't really given it a thought.

There is no reason for her to block you. She just does not need to message you. Perhaps she wants you to suffer by looking at her page and seeing all the fun she has without you.

The issue is, why have you not blocked her or stopped talking with her.

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we;; u get what im saying so whatever...

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Maybe "whatever". It makes your question much easier to read, and more people are willing to look at it, if it has some sort of punctuation in it. It's ridiculous to have to read it a few times to try and figure out what you're saying.

So anyway... You've got an answer for everything, don't you?

You came here asking something that is technically impossible for us to know the answer to... how can we really know what she is thinking? There are all kinds of reasons she didn't block you... we don't know her. We don't know what she is thinking.

I saw a good answer here... why have you not blocked her? You're never going to get over this if you can't let go.

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