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  • Mar 24, 2007, 11:48 PM
    peaceandlovex3
    I'm fourteen and I need to know if I'm pregnant.
    OK so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

    My last period was February 28. I had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. I've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. So what I want to know is it possible that I may be pregnant? My period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

    Symptoms:
    I tire easily.
    I'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if it's a mind trick or what]
    I feel sick off and on, but not too much.
    Sometimes I have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
    My breasts are noticeably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
    And whether its just me or being pregnant, I've gained a few pounds recently.

    I'm just freaking out and I would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

    Also, I have slight cramps, but not like my period.

    MEGAN<3
  • Mar 25, 2007, 12:12 AM
    peaceandlovex3
    I know people are looking at this so will somebody PLEASE give me an answer? :confused:
  • Mar 25, 2007, 01:24 AM
    beautifulshirebabe
    Dear megan
    Last year my friend who is in year 9 had unprotected sex and didn't take the morning after pill the next day.
    She started experiencing the symptoms you had the next week and finally took a pregnancy test and it turned out positive.She did something about it and managed to terminate the pregnancy.
    I would urge you to take a pregnancy test very soon,and if it does turn out positive do something about it quickly, you will probably have to tell your parents , and yes I can see that they would get angry and upset , but it will help you in the end.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 07:14 AM
    peaceandlovex3
    Well I'm definitely not having an abortion! - I think its so wrong. - if it turns out that I'm pregnant, I'm keeping my baby. Anybody else know of any help or advice??
  • Mar 25, 2007, 07:33 AM
    J_9
    Hun, I would not advocate abortion either. But are you ready for the DEMANDS a child can bring? Can you afford the clothes, diapers, formula, doctor visits, etc? How will you be able to afford all of this and more?

    Physically your body is still changing too, it is not ready to carry a baby, this is why many babies of teen moms are usually premature and of low birth weight and may have many permanent developmental delays.

    You may want to consider adoption. There are many people out there who cannot have children who can give your baby a life it deserves with money to afford these things, both parents in the home, etc.

    If it were not for adoption, I would not have a husband, sister-in-law and brother-in-law. My in-laws adopted 3 children from girls in situations very similar to yours. They were wealthy and gave these 3 children everything that they would not have had if they stayed with their teenage biological mothers. Please consider adoption if you are pregnant.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 07:56 AM
    peaceandlovex3
    Yes. I realize this is going to be a long hard ride. But I just don't think I can really live with myself if I give up SOMEBODY that is literally part of me! As un-ideal as it may be, I have my mom, and my boyfriends parents. And as soon as I can I'll try and balance a job and school. I'm still in the very early stages of this and am not even posotive that I am pregnant yet. I think I can't do a lot of this thinking until it is actually REAL and permanent. Thank you so much for answering me though. I really need all the view points I can get.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 08:02 AM
    TheSavage
    Young lady -- if you get lucky and are not pregnant, I really hope you will take this lesson to heart and use protection.-- may the deity you follow be with you.-- Savage
  • Mar 25, 2007, 08:09 AM
    JoeCanada76
    First of all you need to wait. There is no way of finding out if you are pregnant or not yet. Some of the symptoms you are having could be symptoms of the period coming as well. As a girl matures the body changes and her period changes from time to time as well.

    As far as having unprotected sex and around your fertile time does not guarantee that you are pregnant, but the possibility is always always there.

    There are some people who even try to become pregnant but can not for up to a good year.

    What you need to do is wait for your period to be due. If you get your period, I would wait a few days and take a pregnancy test just to be on the safe side. Usual recommendation is that you wait at least 3 or 4 days after your period is due to take the test. Make sure you take the test first thing in the morning with your first pee.

    As far as adoption, PLEASE DO NOT RULE OUT ADOPTION IF YOU ARE PREGNANT.

    There are different options for adoption even open adoption which would give you the right to see the baby and be part of the babies life even though in the care of other parents.

    Best of luck whatever happens. Hopefully this is a learning lesson to you to always use protection.

    Joe
  • Mar 25, 2007, 08:16 AM
    mcaklavin
    The symptoms you are experiencing could be early pregnancy or signs of an approaching period. Unfortunately, you're going to have a wait. Our family is praying for you and think your decision to have the baby if you are pregnant is a very brave and unselfish one. No baby is ever a mistake, and every child has a purpose.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 09:14 AM
    louie1
    Do the test - then deal with all the questions - your symptoms could just be there because you notice them, do not stress out and do not wait - deal with the truth not what might be a lot of time and energy can be wasted on maybe and if you are pregnant you are going to need every ounce of strength you have. Get to the shop!!
  • Mar 25, 2007, 10:06 AM
    ScottGem
    I may be reading between the lines here, but I have the feeling you want to be pregnant. I have feeling that you researched your fertile period BEFORE you had unprotected sex.

    If that's the case and it turns out you aren't pregnant, then I hope you get some counseling as to why you would want to do this to yourself and a child. You ARE too young to have a child. I'm not going to go into all the reasons this is a big mistake. There are other threads here that more than adequately make that case.

    If you were lucky enough (and I do mean that) to avoid getting pregnant, I really hope you rexamine what you are doing with your life.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 10:12 AM
    Megg
    If you turn out pregnant, if you don't want an abortion, have an adoption. I'm 21 and being pregnant is a possibility for me. But I'm engadged so it's not tooo much of an issue. Money is tight, so personally I would give it up for adoption. I think abortion is wrong as well. It all depend's on what you think. You may be too young, but if your pregnant your pregnant. That make's you grow up real fast. Next time, wait to have unprotected sex until your with someone who your practically married to. Meaning that you both know your sticking together. Have a bit of money to, lol. Good luck.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 04:26 PM
    peaceandlovex3
    OK. So screw all of you who think I did this on purpose! There are a lot of sites I've come across when trying to find pregnancy symptoms and what other people think that ask you to put in your last period and what not to determine the likelihood of pregnancy. Before my "accident" I didn't even completely understand how ovulation worked. So screw you. If you want to actually HELP please do, if you want to be judgemental and sinical, don't bother answering.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 04:59 PM
    ScottGem
    First, I have every right to judge you. That's what we do here. People post their problems and we have to make a judgement on the info they give us. We then use that judgement to try and help them. If I read you wrong, I'm sorry, but your reaction indicates to me I didn't.

    Other people had already given you good advice on what to do now. That's why I decided to give you advice for the future.

    That fact that you didn't fully understand ovulation yet were willing to risk your life and that of a possible future life, is shameful. Its shameful to our education system that doesn't provide children with the info to protect themselves.

    Nor did you have an "accident".

    I sincerely hope you aren't pregnant, but if you are I would counsel you with advice on how to deal with it. But until we know, I'm going to give you advice on how to deal with the future.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 05:19 PM
    peaceandlovex3
    Right you can tell from my reaction that you were right about what you think. But that's OK. Because I know the truth. And its pointless to argue with someone who definitely does not know me, or even understand my situation. So whatever, think what you want if it makes you feel better. But I'm not going to think twice about your so called "advice for the future". And just for the sake of saying it again, it really was an accident, whether you believe it or not. For all you know I could have been forced into sex.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 05:25 PM
    sexiibabii
    First of all no one should judge her.. she is here asking for advice not what you think about her or what she did or didn't do that's really wrong and if you have advice for her give it to her if not then don't bother I would not want this done to me I'm fourteen as well so seriously stop
  • Mar 25, 2007, 05:42 PM
    JoeCanada76
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jesushelper76
    First of all you need to wait. There is no way of finding out if you are pregnant or not yet. Some of the symptoms you are having could be symptoms of the period coming as well. As a girl matures the body changes and her period changes from time to time as well.

    As far as having unprotected sex and around your fertile time does not guarantee that you are pregnant, but the possibility is always always there.

    There are some people who even try to become pregnant but can not for up to a good year.

    What you need to do is wait for your period to be due. If you get your period, I would wait a few days and take a pregnancy test just to be on the safe side. Usual recommendation is that you wait at least 3 or 4 days after your period is due to take the test. Make sure you take the test first thing in the morning with your first pee.

    As far as adoption, PLEASE DO NOT RULE OUT ADOPTION IF YOU ARE PREGNANT.

    There are different options for adoption even open adoption which would give you the right to see the baby and be part of the babies life even though in the care of other parents.

    Best of luck whatever happens. Hopefully this is a learning lesson to you to always use protection.

    Joe

    I can not add anything to this advice, but I do not want it to be lost. So here it is again.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 05:43 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    She is 14 and having sex, someone needs to talk to her, since it is obvoius by these actions she is not thinking but living some lie or life style that is being sold to the children today.

    She is still a child and in such needs to be talked to as a child.

    And the boy who is having sex with a 14 year old child needs to be talked to seroiusly also.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 05:47 PM
    sexiibabii
    I'm pretty sure she did not intend on getting pregnant if she is and I understand how some adults might think she needs to be spoken to as a child but right now what she needs most is comfort and being able to know people are there for her if what she thinks is true I hate how adults forget what it is like to be a teenager
  • Mar 25, 2007, 05:48 PM
    peaceandlovex3
    Thank you for those of you with the kind and helpful words.

    Also, the guy I had sex with was also 14.

    I don't know why we need to be talked to. That's how life is today. It may not be ideal, and may get me into situations like this. But its what happens.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 05:49 PM
    peaceandlovex3
    Also, thank you sexiibabii for defending me. <3
  • Mar 26, 2007, 10:14 AM
    sexiibabii
    Your welcomee=)
  • Mar 26, 2007, 10:42 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by peaceandlovex3
    thankyou for those of you with the kind and helpful words.

    also, the guy i had sex with was also 14.

    i don't know why we need to be talked to. thats how life is today. it may not be ideal, and may get me into situations like this. but its what happens.

    There is another example. That's NOT how life is today. Teenage pregancy is actually decreasing. More girls are keeping their virginity until they are 18 or even older. You made a choice, but you made one without the information you needed to make the right choice. That you didn't have that info was partially your fault, partially your parents fault and partially the school system's fault.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by sexiibabii
    im pretty sure she did not intend on getting pregnant if she is and i understand how some adults might think she needs to be spoken to as a child but right now what she needs most is comfort and being able to know people are there for her if what she thinks is true i hate how adults forget what it is like to be a teenager

    I'm not so sure she didn't intend it. As Savage said, we haven't forgotten what it was like, but we have more knowledge and experience to try and help those who are going through it.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by sexiibabii
    first of all no one should judge her.. she is here asking for advice not what you think about her or what she did or didint do thats really wrong and if you have advice for her give it to her if not then dont bother i would not want this done to me im fourteen as well so seriously stop

    As I said before, judging people is part of what we do here. That doesn't mean we don't support. As for giving her advice, she has gotten very good advice from everyone.
  • Mar 26, 2007, 10:47 AM
    sexiibabii
    I'm not saying it wasn't "good advice" but if you didn't see she was getting kind of angry from some of the replys she was getting so I said no one should judge her... I'm only 14 I no I'm not a genius and I only had this thing since yesterday I don't no exactly what and what not to do on here but in my opinion if someone posts something looking for help that's what they need, help not judgemental people telling them they made a big mistake or they shouldn't have done it.. its not like by saying you should have done it can change anything so all I'm saying is that in my point of view people here need advice and to know that people care or understand not people being mommy and daddy or w.e
  • Mar 26, 2007, 03:50 PM
    ncgirl_21
    My advice would be to take your pregnancy test if your period still hasn't come 3 days after your suppose to start. If you are preganat then go to an adult that you can trust weather it be your parents or w/e and talk to them and schedule a doctors appt. then tell whom ever needs to be told so that you your parents your bfs parents and your child's father can all sit down and discuss what the next opitions are. I know that in this day and time peer pressure to have sex at young ages is there I use to be there but I keep my virginty till I was 20 and I've only had 1 partner so mayb after this incedent you should try to hold out longer but if you want to continue having sex please use protection if your comfy enough w your mom tell her you need birth control. Im not judging you at all its your life but don't let sex ruin it for you there's a lot left as far as school goes and there's things your not going to want to miss I promise
  • Mar 26, 2007, 05:04 PM
    sammmy2026
    So, are you pregnant or what?

    My suggestion see a doctor or take a test
  • Mar 26, 2007, 05:07 PM
    sarahm2003
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by peaceandlovex3
    ok so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

    my last period was february 28. i had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. i've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. so what i want to know is it possible that i may be pregnant? my period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

    symptoms:
    i tire easily.
    i'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if its a mind trick or what]
    i feel sick off and on, but not too much.
    sometimes i have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
    my breasts are noticably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
    and wether its just me or being pregnant, i've gained a few pounds recently.

    i'm just freaking out and i would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

    also, i have slight cramps, but not like my period.

    MEGAN<3

    Just get the test
  • Mar 26, 2007, 06:50 PM
    dlee
    I truly think you need the emotional support of your parent(s). Once you have discussed this in the open, you may find that it will take a lot of stress off you as well as help you deal with how to handle it, whether you are pregnant or not.

    It is also important that your parent(s) know in case you are pregnant and have a medical problem, especially a miscarriage. It is hard for you to know at 14 years of age what problems can occur when you are pregnant and what may be harmful to you or our baby.

    I strongly encourage you to also ABSTAIN from sex. You are way to young to be a mother and it is a huge responsibility for you even if you have the help and support of your mother, boyfriend and his parents. Then you have to think about what affect this will have on everyone else you will be relying on to help you. The best protection is never a guarantee!
  • Mar 26, 2007, 09:50 PM
    Ging1994
    You might be might not be pregnant and nobody has the right to judge you until they know you as a person but you did make an erasoposible destion in having unprotected sex hope you don't do it any time soon again well if you are pregnet I would keep the baby get a job and wish all goes well and have a long talk withis father lol I misspelled erasoposible whatever hope everything runs smothly
  • Apr 5, 2007, 03:08 PM
    Nirvana14
    I actually think that you're very conscious about having sex-especially unprotected one. Even if you are pregnant, it's your responsibility to keep it. If you have an abortion, you'll feel so guilty and conscious about it. The baby doesn't deserve to die just because you were so silly not to take protection. If it turns out to be positive, keep it or give it for adoption, but CERTAINLY don't kill it. Tell us if it is. May God help you!
  • Apr 5, 2007, 11:09 PM
    chally
    Hey! So I am going threw the same thing I have no I dea either... have you taken a pregnancy test at all?? And like I was tokd it may just be your head playing tricks on you... you can make yourself think your pregnant... but you may just very well be... I say take a test and that shouls help a little bit... hell take two! Haha I wish the best for you and let me know what happens later on OK!
  • Apr 7, 2007, 10:29 AM
    Ging1994
    Have you gotten your period yet answer this question and get a pregrancey test done
  • Apr 10, 2007, 03:00 PM
    arturosmommy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by peaceandlovex3
    ok so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

    my last period was february 28. i had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. i've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. so what i want to know is it possible that i may be pregnant? my period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

    symptoms:
    i tire easily.
    i'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if its a mind trick or what]
    i feel sick off and on, but not too much.
    sometimes i have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
    my breasts are noticably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
    and wether its just me or being pregnant, i've gained a few pounds recently.

    i'm just freaking out and i would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

    also, i have slight cramps, but not like my period.

    MEGAN<3

    Well I'm 14 years old and I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant.. those are the symptoms I got before I found out I was pregnant.. it is a possibility that you could be pregnant. So go to the doctor asap... good luck
  • Apr 22, 2007, 10:48 AM
    akms
    Put her/him up for adoption millions unable to don't want to and who are queer would love your baby and take care of her/him abortion may be wrong in your eyes but imagine people who want kids desperatly but can't have them
  • Apr 26, 2007, 04:46 PM
    Sigh
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by peaceandlovex3
    ok so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

    my last period was february 28. i had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. i've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. so what i want to know is it possible that i may be pregnant? my period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

    symptoms:
    i tire easily.
    i'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if its a mind trick or what]
    i feel sick off and on, but not too much.
    sometimes i have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
    my breasts are noticably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
    and wether its just me or being pregnant, i've gained a few pounds recently.

    i'm just freaking out and i would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

    also, i have slight cramps, but not like my period.

    MEGAN<3

    I think you just need to relax.. that could be why you think you are experincing these syptoms because you are stressed out about being pregnant. Take a pregnancy test and see where it goes form there. Good Luck with everything!! I know when wanted to be pregnant I thought I had syptoms but didn't really it was just my mind playing tricks on me!
  • Apr 29, 2007, 12:39 PM
    bonanza123
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by peaceandlovex3
    ok so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

    my last period was february 28. i had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. i've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. so what i want to know is it possible that i may be pregnant? my period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

    symptoms:
    i tire easily.
    i'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if its a mind trick or what]
    i feel sick off and on, but not too much.
    sometimes i have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
    my breasts are noticably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
    and wether its just me or being pregnant, i've gained a few pounds recently.

    i'm just freaking out and i would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

    also, i have slight cramps, but not like my period.

    MEGAN<3

    Your wouldn't have gained weight that quikly, and your nerves are probably making you sick. Get a pregnancy test and try that. Then see when your next period is. If I was you, I would tell my mother about what happened. Even though she will get angry, things will be taken care of... just let her know! She will eventually forgive you!
  • May 6, 2007, 11:08 AM
    ST3V3NZBABYZMAMII
    Try not to think about it too much you mind can play tricks on you and that can cause a lot of stress on you. I know how you feel I'm 16 years old and I would even throw up somethimes and it was nothing it was just my mind playing tricks on me you should take the test as soon a possible so you don't have to stress it anymore and know for sure if you going to be a mother or not
  • May 15, 2007, 05:16 PM
    boredness
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by peaceandlovex3
    ok so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

    my last period was february 28. i had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. i've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. so what i want to know is it possible that i may be pregnant? my period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

    symptoms:
    i tire easily.
    i'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if its a mind trick or what]
    i feel sick off and on, but not too much.
    sometimes i have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
    my breasts are noticably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
    and wether its just me or being pregnant, i've gained a few pounds recently.

    i'm just freaking out and i would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

    also, i have slight cramps, but not like my period.

    MEGAN<3

    It sounds like your pregnant. My sister is pregnant and she had the same symptons before she found out she was pregnant
  • May 15, 2007, 06:15 PM
    shatteredsoul
    I hate to say it but you definitely sound pregnant! You should have had your period at the end of March , right? I think you should go get a pregnancy test from a pharmacy or something because you could be almost two months along. The sign of the tenderness and sore nipples, that is a big sign, so is being so tired. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I kept thinking I wasn't because I had cramps too. What are you going to do if you are? YOu definitely need some help and support to get through this. First, you have to find out for sure.
  • May 15, 2007, 06:49 PM
    Xrayman
    You have described the classic symptoms of early pregnancy. Yes, a test would confirm this now.

    Don't hesitate.

    Best wishes to you.

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