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Can't find a woman

This might sound silly but I'm in high school and I see everyone around me being in relationships. Why am I not in one? Even the real ugly dudes are getting girls, why can't I? I am an average guy but every time I get to like someone I allways get friend zoned. I hate it! I feel like nobody likes me and I hate that! I'm a awesome guy when u get to know me but girl never sit down and talk to me. What can I do to help?

Do you sit down and talk to girls, or are you waiting for them to approach you.

I doubt that everyone is in a relationship. If that were the case then there wouldn't be single girls to date, or single guys.

If you only want to be in a relationship because you think everyone else is, then you're doing it for the wrong reasons. Why not just make friends, and if you meet someone you really like, then go from there.

I'm not wanting to cause everyone else is, I truly want this in my heart.
The girls I like are in relationships, just about all of them. I don't just go up to a girl cause I'm kind of shy.

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Originally Posted by HeathFunk

I'm not wanting to cause everyone else is, I truly want this in my heart.
The girls I like are in relationships, just about all of them. I don't just go up to a girl cause I'm kind of shy.

If you choose girls that are already in a relationship, that's half the problem. Being too shy to talk to people is the other half.

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Originally Posted by Alty

If you choose girls that are already in a relationship, that's half the problem. Being too shy to talk to people is the other half.

What can I do not to be so shy?

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Originally Posted by HeathFunk

What can I do not to be so shy?

That's not an easy question to answer. It's something you'll have to figure out. We're each unique. What works for one person, won't work for someone else. I've never had issues with shyness, so I really couldn't tell you how to even begin going about being less shy.

Maybe someone else will have better advice on that aspect of your problem.

Good luck.

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Originally Posted by Alty

That's not an easy question to answer. It's something you'll have to figure out. We're each unique. What works for one person, won't work for someone else. I've never had issues with shyness, so I really couldn't tell you how to even begin going about being less shy.

Maybe someone else will have better advice on that aspect of your problem.

Good luck.

I apricate your help, Thanks.

I'm always shy around girls and I need help not to be.

First, how old are you? 8? 22? 67?

I'm 16

What's wrong with shy? We need shy people to balance out all the loud, mouthy ones.

What are your two favorite classes?

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What's wrong with shy? We need shy people to balance out all the loud, mouthy ones.

What are your two favorite classes?

Weight lifting and world history

Do you belong to any after-school clubs?

Do you belong to a church?

Well I'm on the wrestling team and I love god, I got to church but not that often.

It sounds like you hang out and are interested in stuff where there are no girls.

Do you ever see a quiet shy girl at school?

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It sounds like you hang out and are interested in stuff where there are no girls.

Do you ever see a quiet shy girl at school?

Not really, I just hang out with my friends and talk to girls some times at school.

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Not really, I just hang out with my friends and talk to girls some times at school.

Well, if I remember those days correctly, most girls won't try to crash into a cluster of guys.

I suggest you make a move toward a shy, quiet girl you see around school.

I bet Wondergirl could agree with me, but I might be able to help you out a little :)

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I bet Wondergirl could agree with me, but I might be able to help ya out a lil :)

Go for it, Lil Pea!!

He got to answer come on HeathFunk I don't bite :)

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He gotta answer come on HeathFunk I dont bite :)

What's your answer, sweet pea?

Listen you like weight lifting and history. Like wondergirl said you isn't going to find any girls that are interested in that stuff. I am but I'm different than them. Anyway. Find an activity or a subject that girls find interest in. If you have child development take that. It will help you meet girls and it will also go your way if you want to be a parent. :) get into a subject or take a deep breath and go up to her and just say hi. Find out what interests her. That first hello might be hard but it will get easier :) I been down that road a lot of times. If you need anymore specific help just say so :)

My younger son took some of the home ec classes in high school. He learned how to mend his own clothes, learned how to cook, and he had a date every weekend.

HeathFunk you just need to get out of your comfort zone just a little. If you ever need a little encouragement or some help Wondergirl and I will be here. She helpe me a lot. :) she has awesome advice if I was you I would take it :)

Talaniman Rule-Talk to them all.

Practice making female friends until its as natural as making guy friends. When you stop being afraid of YOURSELF, OR REJECTION, then you won't be shy. You don't hunt for a girl friend, you make a friend.

HINT- Find out what they are interested in. You have to have confidence in your own social skills to interact with others. Mostly its paying more attention to others, than your own shortcomings. I'm a shy guy too, just not around other people. :)

Good luck!! :d

Thanks everybody, it helped me a lot! Thank you all so much.