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Sneaking out...

Hey :) If you are just going to tell that you are not going to help me or be judgemental please don't comment... and Please don't tell me how bad sneaking out is... I just want help on how to sneak out. I never have so I don't know what you will need to help me but ill try to explain everything:)

My house: It has two stories with a basement. I am on the top floor with my parents and my 12 year old brother... who will tell on me. Then on the main floor there are two doors with one leading straight outside and the other leading to our garadge... with a loud garadge door. Then in the basement there is a big window but I don't know how to remove the screen sooo you :P

The Guy: Yes I am sneaking out with a guy but No we are not doing bad things! I promise! :) He has a car so I don't know if that helps:P

Thx for reading this! :) If you need more info then just ask! :) Please help me! :)

Sorry we are not going to help you defy your parents.

However if you tell us why you have to sneak out and what the background is, maybe we can help you convince your parents to let you out.

Like how old are you and how old the boy. Why do you have to sneak?

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Sorry we are not going to help you defy your parents.

However if you tell us why you have to sneak out and what the background is, maybe we can help you convince your parents to let you out.

Like how old are you and how old the boy. Why do you have to sneak?

Ummm OK... We never get to see each other and I have to sneak out because I am grounded... im not a bad kid I promise :P And we are both sophmores in high school...

Why are you grounded? And for how long? What did you do?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Why are you grounded? and for how long? What did you do?

Im grouned because I have been late getting back home by like 5 minutes three times so I am grounded for two weeks.

Sophomore in HS and he has a car? But yes, why are you grounded, why don't you ever get to see each other. We need the full story.

Sneaking out equals bad kid, sorry, you are judged by your actions.

And if you sneak out and your parents find out, you will be grounded for life

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Sophomore in HS and he has a car? But yes, why are you grounded, why don't you ever get to see each other. We need the full story.

Yes he does have a car because in Montana we have a graduated licence program... but anyway... We don't get to see each other because he is in football sooooo you...

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

sneaking out equals bad kid, sorry, you are judged by your actions.

You don't have to comment... and I have never done it and I don't kow if I will because I don't know how to... sooo you.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

And if you sneak out and your parents find out, you will be grounded for life

Ya... that's why I am worried about doing it and getting caught...

Well gee whiz, so you are dating a jock. So having a limited time with him goes with the territory. But you still haven't explained why you are grounded.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Well gee whiz, so you are dating a jock. so having a limited time with him goes with the territory. But you still haven't explained why you are grounded.

She explained in #5 "Im grouned because i have been late getting back home by like 5 minutes three times so i am grounded for two weeks."

Parents are always so rigid about being "5 minutes" late...

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Well gee whiz, so you are dating a jock. so having a limited time with him goes with the territory. But you still haven't explained why you are grounded.

You don't have to be mean:/ I don't even know if I am going to sneak out or not... I just didn't know if I even could. And I go to an A school and the football players arnt like that. And I am not dating him... And I'm grounded because I came home late when I was hanging out with one of my best girl friends

Ok, I'm going to continue to be mean. You need to grow up a bit. Your parents set rules, if you break those rules you have to take the consequences.

Apologize to your parents and tell them you won't be late again.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Ok, I'm going to continue to be mean. You need to grow up a bit. Your parents set rules, if you break those rules you have to take the consequences.

Apologize to your parents and tell them you won't be late again.

Or you could just not comment?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

She explained in #5 "Im grouned because i have been late getting back home by like 5 minutes three times so i am grounded for two weeks."

Parents are always so rigid about being "5 minutes" late....

I know my parents are kind of strict :/ But I guess they are just looking out for me

You haven't met strict parents until you've met mine. I couldn't go to school dances, in fact. My dad (now deceased) was a Lutheran pastor and made me the shining example for the community. :)

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

You haven't met strict parents until you've met mine. I couldn't go to school dances, in fact. My dad (now deceased) was a Lutheran pastor and made me the shining example for the community. :)

Oh my goodness! I guess I am lucky! :) Thank you for helping me! :) If you couldn't go to school dances I don't need to be sneaking out:) Thank you soooo much you really made me think about it and I'm not going to... thx:)

I couldn't date alone with a guy until I was 16. My parents had to know him and his family and approve. Before that, I could go only with the church teens.

You have no idea how free you are. Their rules are basic but easy to follow and fair too.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I couldn't date alone with a guy until I was 16. My parents had to know him and his family and approve. Before that, I could go only with the church teens.

You have no idea how free you are. Their rules are basic but easy to follow and fair too.

Now I feel bad for saying my parents are strict...

You have NO idea what strict means!! I'm still warped at age 66.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

You have NO idea what strict means!!!! I'm still warped at age 66.

Haha! :) Ya I guess my parents are pretty chill:P

My date would bring me home and we'd sit out in the driveway for a short time. My mom would come to the back door next to the driveway and flick the back porch light on and off as my signal to get my body into the house NOW! Our neighbor up the hill watched with binoculars and reported to my mom on Sunday mornings.

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Originally Posted by teensportychick

Now i feel bad for saying my parents are strict.....

I have to say, when I started reading your thread, and some of the responses you posted, I was going to rip you a new one. I'm glad I finished reading the thread before I responded. :)

Most parents are considered strict by their kids. When you're the kid you don't understand why they don't trust you more, or why they have to spoil all your fun.

When I was a teen I was a bad kid. Well, not horrible, but I did things I shouldn't have. I got lucky, I survived. Came close to being 6 feet under a few times though, but some of my friends weren't as lucky as I was. Most of them lived to regret it, but some didn't.

Now that I'm a mom, and the world is even more scary than it was when I was a teen, I set rules because I love my kids. It's not that I don't trust them. I do, but I also have to trust every kid they hang out with, and I know how hard it is to say no to your friends and then end up doing something that could change, or ruin your entire life. Like sneaking out. It's a small step, not a huge transgression compared to some of the things you could be doing, but, once you're out, it's a scary world out there, and so many things could happen.

I think that there has to be a balance. Let your kids experience life, but do have rules. You can't protect them from everything, but you can do your best to protect them from the worst. That's what your parents are doing.

Hey, it's only a 2 week grounding right? So, when you're no longer grounded, show them that you've learned something. Be on time when they let you go out, and show them that you have a good head on your shoulders, that you are learning, and that you can be trusted. Sneak out once, and get caught, it will take a lifetime to get their trust back again. It's really not worth it at all.

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Originally Posted by Alty

I have to say, when I started reading your thread, and some of the responses you posted, I was going to rip you a new one. I'm glad I finished reading the thread before I responded. :)

Most parents are considered strict by their kids. When you're the kid you don't understand why they don't trust you more, or why they have to spoil all your fun.

When I was a teen I was a bad kid. Well, not horrible, but I did things I shouldn't have. I got lucky, I survived. Came close to being 6 feet under a few times though, but some of my friends weren't as lucky as I was. Most of them lived to regret it, but some didn't.

Now that I'm a mom, and the world is even more scary than it was when I was a teen, I set rules because I love my kids. It's not that I don't trust them. I do, but I also have to trust every kid they hang out with, and I know how hard it is to say no to your friends and then end up doing something that could change, or ruin your entire life. Like sneaking out. It's a small step, not a huge transgression compared to some of the things you could be doing, but, once you're out, it's a scary world out there, and so many things could happen.

I think that there has to be a balance. Let your kids experience life, but do have rules. You can't protect them from everything, but you can do your best to protect them from the worst. That's what your parents are doing.

Hey, it's only a 2 week grounding right? So, when you're no longer grounded, show them that you've learned something. Be on time when they let you go out, and show them that you have a good head on your shoulders, that you are learning, and that you can be trusted. Sneak out once, and get caught, it will take a lifetime to get their trust back again. It's really not worth it at all.

Thx for not riping me a new one:P Haha! :) When I posted this I was talking about it with the boy and then I started thinking some of these same things... Thank you so much for telling me what you thought of it from a moms point of view it was very helpful and I don't want my mom to be scared of me getting into trouble:) Thank you soooo much! This is by far help most help I have ever gotten on this site! :) And you it is only two weeks I think ill make through:P Lol! :)

My mom kept constant track of my comings and goings. She sighed with happiness when I didn't get pregnant until after I'd been married for four years. :)

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My mom kept constant track of my comings and goings. She sighed with happiness when I didn't get pregnant until after I'd been married for four years. :)

Ya I am for sure waiting until I am married! :)

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Originally Posted by teensportychick

Thx for not riping me a new one:P Haha! :) When i posted this i was talking about it with the boy and then i started thinking some of these same things....Thank you so much for telling me what you thought of it from a moms pint of view it was very helpfull and i dont want me mom to be scared of me getting into trouble:) Thank you soooo muh this is by far hem most help i have ever gotten on this site! :) And ya it is only two weeks i think ill make through:P Lol! :)

You're more than welcome. I'm glad I could help.

I have a young teenager right now. So far he's not getting into any major problems, but once he really notices girls, I may have to put bars on his windows. His bedroom is way to easy to sneak out of, except for the squeaky gate and the fact that his father is a night owl.

The two weeks will fly by, then you can show your parents that you do understand why they have rules, and that you're mature enough to accept those rules, and abide by them.

One day you'll be making the rules for your own kids, and you'll remember how you feel right now, and you'll really understand why your parents were strict. I can tell you, when your child is 5 minutes late for curfew, to them it's just 5 minutes, for the parent it's 5 minutes of pure hell wondering why they're not home, could they be in trouble, could something have happened, are they safe? If you spend 5 minutes thinking the worst, that 5 minutes feels like hours. It's hell.

Our kids are our lives. Every time mine are out of my sight I worry, I wonder, I hope that they'll be okay. It's really hard to just let go and let them make their own mistakes, because you never know if one of those mistakes will the one that ruins their lives.

We just want the best for our kids. The very best. Of course we also have to realize and accept that we have to trust that we raised them well enough that they'll make the right choices, and stay safe. It's hard to do, but it's something every parent has to go through. You see, we have to learn too, we don't know everything.

You may have started this question wanting to sneak out, which would have been the wrong choice. But, you made the right choice in the end. If your parents could read this thread, they'd be proud. I am. :)

Haha! :) You seem like a great parent and my parents are too and now I see why they freaked out over 5 little minutes... My parents were actually giving me a lot of freedom and I broke some of there trust...

Thank you soooo much! :) I think my parents would maybe freak out a little if they read this:P Haha! :) But I think they would be proud to! :)

Thx again! :) SOOOOO much! :)

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Or you could just not comment?

True, but then I wouldn't be helping you. You may not like what I have to say, but its valid and maybe it gets through to you (as I think it has along with other's comments).

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