I have no way of getting in contact with my girlfriend because she's been in the hospital because she had surgery last week on her stomach.. And my friend alexis goes to see her everyday because she has to sneak in to see her in the hospital and sometimes alexis is really mean to my girlfriend and then recently, alexis decides to tell this awful lie to her about me saying that she doesn't make me happy and that I have other girls to be with and stuff like that.. that never came out of my mouth.. and that's why my girlfriend has the impression that I don't want her anymore when I really do. I never said that I didn't want her or that she didn't make me happy.. Ive been so stressed out because I haven't heard from her until yesterday when she calls me.. I ask her what's going on and what did I do? And she told me that alexis tells her everyday that I don't want her and that she doesn't make me happy. And I'm sitting here confused and upset because I never said that and I told my girlfriend that I never said that and that alexis is lying to her. I have proof that I never said that. But my girlfriend was like that she doesn't know what to do. But I'm thinking that she should trust me and stuff over alexis. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year and 6 months now.. she knows I love and care for her and I know she loves me too. I know she's not done with me because she didn't say she was when we were on the phone.. now I'm just waiting to hear from her again.. Then today my girlfriend calls me and I told her what was on my mind and she said that she can't do this anymore and I asked her if she loved me and she said yes and that's why I have to let you go, if you love someone, then you have to let them go sometimes.. then I told her to not let people influence her wrong decisions and getting into her head.. and that's what I think is happening because her family is trying to not let her want me anymore, and I think its wrong.. I know she still wants me.. But I don't know why she asked me what I would do if she found someone else?. I ask her why would you say that and she said she just asking and that she doesn't have anyone else.. :( but I kept calling her cousins phone over and over again to talk to my girlfriend because my girl doesn't have a phone and she was with her cousin at the time and then her aunt answers the phone and says that my girlfriend is done with me and is happier without me.. her aunt was lien I think because my girlfriend didn't even say that when I was on the phone with her.. I love her so much more than anything in the world and we both promised each other that we would never let anything or anyone get between us or find anyone else and that we would be together forever.. I have all of her love notes that she wrote me in the past and it just brings tears to my eyes.. I still have all the things she has gave me and everything and she has everything that I gave her:( I just want her to realize that I really do love her with all my heart.. please someone help me...

Why on earth can you not see her in the hospital for one, and if she seriously doesn't trust you enough to believe you over her friend she's not worth it. No trust = No relationship, period.

How old are you guys?

PS: Please use punctuation and proper grammar.

I am sorry to hear about the situation. Why can't you visit her? Well if that girl sneaks in, why can't you? If you really want to get your girl back, bring her flowers while she is in the hospital. Flowers always makes someone smile :D You could also make something for her. Collect some pictures of your favorite times with her and make them into a collage in a picture frame or shadow box, that's if you like 3D objects. If she will believe someone who is not loyal to her in the first place, then she is not worth your time. If she can't trust someone who she says she will love forever, tell her to start walkin' and don't let the door hit you on the way out!

Sounds like she has someone in the wings. The fact that she would believe someone else over you is questionable too. She may have been using that as an excuse.
Leave her alone and go no contact. You need to get over her.

She's 16 and I'm 17 and I'm not saying that she believes her. I just think that her family is influencing her to not go out with me but she never told me she was done with me or anything. And I can't go to the hospital because I have no way to get there.. But I found out that she had her phone back and I said can I please talk to you and she said that she can't talk to me and she probably said that because her uncle was right there next to her when me and her were on the phone.. Then the uncle took over the phone and told me to chill out and that I need to give it up and then he hung up and then my girlfriend texts me 25 min later and says what do you need to tell me... So I know she still cares since she had the desire to text me.. Then I just texted her how I felt and now I'm just waiting to hear back from her.. And I told my dad about this and he said that she is probably doing this for her parents to get off her back about dating and when it cools down that she will come back to me and everyone I have talked to says that she will call me when she is nowhere near her family and that she is alone.. Because I know she loves me just as I love her... Just waiting to hear from her..

So I take it she is not allowed to date?
Then leave her alone until she is

She is allowed. Her family just doesn't like me because of what happened in the past. But now I haven't heard from her and people keep telling me that she will call me within 24 hours

Seems like other people know more about what's going on than you do. Maybe you should be asking them.
Just back off. She does not want to be in conflict with her parents. Why don't they like you?

I'm not going to back off I love her and I know she loves me.. I'm just waiting to hear from her. And because me and my girl had relations.

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im not going to back off i love her and i know she loves me.. I'm just waiting to hear from her. and because me and my girl had relations.

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Is that why her parents don't like you?

I need to know that she still wants to be with me..

Just need to know she still wants me because she never said that she didn't want me anymore or that we were over

You haven't answered any of my questions. You seem to be a bit possessive with all this "my girl" business.
You seem to be pushy calling her cousin's phone over and over again. Your girl friend said she is letting you go. It does not matter what you think she feels, this is what she said she wants to do.
Why don't her parents like you?

I already told u.. I said because we had relations and they found out that we had it.. plus I'm not possessive..

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i already told u.. i said because we had relations and they found out that we had it.. plus I'm not possessive..

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99% of possesive people say they aren't possesive.

I'm not crazy. I know she loves me and still wants me when things get better. I have faith

Faith doesn't give your girlfriend trust, because if she believes her friend, she has no trust for you.

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Faith doesn't give your girlfriend trust, because if she believes her friend, she has no trust for you.

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She never said that she believed her.. Her family is pressuring her into doing something she feels is wrong.. There influencing her..

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She never said that she believed her.. Her family is pressuring her into doing something she feels is wrong.. There influencing her..

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You have no idea who is influencing who, especially when you are in no contact with her in the first place.

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You have no idea who is influencing who, especially when you are in no contact with her in the first place.

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When I called her yesterday, she said she couldn't talk to me plus her uncle was right there..

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When I called her yesterday, she said she couldn't talk to me plus her uncle was right there..

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That doesn't mean they're influencing her. I think you just need to take a deep breath and stop overreacting about this situation.

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That doesn't mean they're influencing her. I think you just need to take a deep breath and stop overreacting about this situation.

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What should I do then

1. Believe none of what you hear, and half of what you see.

2. Stop over thinking the whole situation.

3. Learn to trust your girlfriend, and the love you have for one another. A year and six months should have been enough time for you to part ways for a little while and not have to worry about her growing away from you.

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1. Believe none of what you hear, and half of what you see.

2. Stop over thinking the whole situation.

3. Learn to trust your girlfriend, and the love you have for one another. A year and six months should have been enough time for you to part ways for a little while and not have to worry about her growing away from you.

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Ok.. Is it normal for her to ask me what if she finds someone else?

If you have to ask your girlfriend of 1 year and 6 months "What if you find someone else" then maybe you shouldn't be with her, because that says that you don't trust her.

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If you have to ask your girlfriend of 1 year and 6 months "What if you find someone else" then maybe you shouldn't be with her, because that says that you don't trust her.

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No that's not what I meant... She's the one that asked me saying, "what if I (meaning her) find someone else"

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No that's not what I meant... She's the one that asked me saying, "what if I (meaning her) find someone else"

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She must be pretty insecure and/or untrustworthy to be asking that.

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She must be pretty insecure and/or untrustworthy to be asking that.

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Plus her aunt and dad wanted to file a complaint on me for trying to get a hold of her by calling her cousins phone to get in touch with my girl so maybe I should just give her time to think..

You have had sex with their 16 year old daughter and they are not happy about that, I don't much blame them and you are not taking no for an answer. Leave the girl alone until things lighten up with her family. Don't make her choose between you and her family.
You may feel she is your girl, but she is their daughter and she is a minor and under their protection and support. If you care so much for her, give her space.

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You have had sex with their 16 year old daughter and they are not happy about that, I don't much blame them and you are not taking no for an answer. Leave the girl alone until things lighten up with her family. Don't make her choose between you and her family.
You may feel she is your girl, but she is their daughter and she is a minor and under their protection and support. If you care so much for her, give her space.

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She doesn't like her family at all because they treat her like crap and I am giving her space I haven't texted or called her. Plus I think she's going to wait to be with me also and that she will contact me when she ready to talk to me

You sound very possessive and immature. Many a 16 year old had said their family treats team like crap because they don't let them have their way. What did her parents do, tell her she can't have sex with her boyfriend? She needs to grow up too.
Leave the girl alone. She may contact you, she may not, but you need to butt out.

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You sound very possessive and immature. Many a 16 year old had said their family treats team like crap because they don't let them have their way. What did her parents do, tell her she can't have sex with her boyfriend? She needs to grow up too.
Leave the girl alone. She may contact you, she may not, but you need to butt out.

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Not possessive or immature so you can stop saying that... And they do because I've seen it and so has a lot of other people including nurses. And that's not it at all. That's just the reason why they don't like me.. Never said it had to do with anything about what I'm talking about now.. And I am leaving her alone. When things cool down a bit I have a feeling I'll hear from her..

Whatever kid.

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Whatever kid.

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Are you going to reply to what I said?

How do you know what the nurses and other people are thinking about her parents?

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How do you know what the nurses and other people are thinking about her parents?

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The people I know have told me and I have seen it for myself

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How do you know what the nurses and other people are thinking about her parents?

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My thoughts exactly, he's over exaggerating and over analyzing everything about this whole situation.

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My thoughts exactly, he's over exaggerating and over analyzing everything about this whole situation.

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How am I over exaggerating and over analyzing?

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How am I over exaggerating and over analyzing?

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My goodness, someone lock this thread. You're hopeless.

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My goodness, someone lock this thread. You're hopeless.

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? All I did was ask a question..?