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  • Feb 7, 2007, 11:16 AM
    chipmunk2921
    This is to all girls. Even if your not a teenager
    If you was to cheat on your boyfriend would you tell him or keep it a secret. This is just a question to find out how many different answers I get. My girlfriend and I are happy togather and she would tell me if she was cheating on me. I know that for a fact.
  • Feb 7, 2007, 12:32 PM
    saraispiel19
    Truth hurts but it's better thαn hαving α big fαt hαiry elephαnt in the room. I'd go with honesty.
  • Feb 7, 2007, 12:50 PM
    Sentra
    Let me turn the tables on this a little bit...

    Worrying about whether one would keep it a secret, could mean that person is nowhere near being ready for a committed relationship.
  • Feb 7, 2007, 01:03 PM
    makri
    I would tell him.
  • Feb 7, 2007, 01:06 PM
    starsbooty
    I would tell him the truth, if you are in a relationship there is no point in lying to each other.
  • Feb 7, 2007, 01:09 PM
    kanicky73
    I would most definetely tell the truth.
  • Feb 7, 2007, 01:09 PM
    curlybenswife
    If you can't tell the trueth then you don't deserve another let alone the one you have
  • Feb 7, 2007, 01:15 PM
    pamela77
    I would tell him. Although I wouldn't do it anyway, if we were having problems and if I was attracted to other guys I would end it before I do anything.
  • Feb 7, 2007, 02:38 PM
    shygrneyzs
    Having been a teenager once in the dinosaur era, I did make that mistake and not tell and he found out. I swore I would never ever do that again and I have kept that promise - mostly because I vowed never to cheat on anyone. It is far better to find out why I would want to cheat and discuss it with my bf/partner, etc. If it is entirely my problem, I need to correct or move on.
  • Feb 7, 2007, 03:24 PM
    SoAlone
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chipmunk2921
    If you was to cheat on your boyfriend would you tell him or keep it a secret. This is just a question to find out how many different answers i get. My girlfriend and i are happy togather and she would tell me if she was cheating on me. i know that for a fact.

    Probably not tell them because girls cheat on their boyfriend to just have someone on the side and if their boyfriend was to find out they would probably dump them.
  • Feb 7, 2007, 05:31 PM
    addy
    It depends.If he was a playa, I wouldn't tell him.I know that's mean, but he would deserve it. If he was a nice guy but you weren't into him, I would say that I am really sorry but I think it is wrong to like sum1 else when you are already in a relationship, so I am sorry but I don't want to hurt you when you can get sum1 all to yourself.
    If I had made a mistake, I would have to look at the relationship, decide if I liked the guy and he liked me enough to forgive me.If not, I would just tell him we shouldn't be together.
  • Feb 7, 2007, 06:48 PM
    blueshadow_393
    I wouldn't tell him, the reason I'm cheating is to get away from him. But I also wouldn't cheat, if I felt like I wanted or should cheat then I would get out of the relationship
  • Feb 8, 2007, 09:52 AM
    chipmunk2921
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Sentra
    Let me turn the tables on this a little bit...

    Worrying about whether or not one would keep it a secret, could mean that person is nowhere near being ready for a commited relationship.

    I agree with you. Thanks for all your posts.
  • Mar 6, 2007, 07:21 AM
    jojo114
    Not tell him.cause what would be the point of going out with him in the first place if your going to go tell it to your boyfriend.
  • Mar 6, 2007, 07:27 AM
    Krs
    If you really cared and loved that person you firstly wouldn't do it, but if you did, you have to tell them... its not fair on that person.
    No one wants to be cheated on, being male or female.
  • Mar 6, 2007, 07:29 AM
    Squiffy
    I wouldn't cheat on my partner. If I did it would mean I didn't love him, so of course I would tell him.
  • Mar 6, 2007, 06:07 PM
    kristynn
    I don't know if I got the question well, but to me it seems obvious...

    If I have a boyfriend and I have to cheat... I'll make sure I'll break up with my boyfriend first. :rolleyes:

    But if I want to keep my boyfriend, I won't cheat.
  • Mar 24, 2007, 08:51 PM
    daizeebug
    I don't think I'd tell him at first because I'd be nervous he'd flip, but everyone knows I can't keep secrets... so yes, I'd spill the beans!!
  • Mar 25, 2007, 01:58 PM
    louie1
    I would be honest - I do not understand how people live with dishonesty.

    There is nothing worse than lies.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 02:18 PM
    Megg
    I've talked to people online and texed people. I lied and said I wasn't doing anything. He took my cell and found out. Almost broke off our engagedment and relationship. He was hurt. I was too, because he clearly wasn't making me happy. But because I love him I stopped don't want to lose a good thing. I have my own problems, but lying was always the biggest. I do lie, but because I don't feel like getting chewed out. Most of the reason I am who I am because of my parnet's being bad one's. But my fiancé is helping me day by day to become more the person I should be.
  • Mar 25, 2007, 02:24 PM
    louie1
    My exhusband constantly lied even about really minor things, it is a pet hate of mine but then I am told that I am to honest for my own good I guess there is a balance out there hope you find it!
  • Apr 17, 2007, 02:13 PM
    cassy1990
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chipmunk2921
    If you was to cheat on your boyfriend would you tell him or keep it a secret. This is just a question to find out how many different answers i get. My girlfriend and i are happy togather and she would tell me if she was cheating on me. i know that for a fact.

    if I was in that situation, I would totally tell him. Not for the fact that I cheated on him but just out of respect for my boyfriend. Even if it hurts I have to tell him. Plus, if you do cheat on your boyfriend there must be a reason why and something might be going wrong in the relationship. So the best thing to do to avoid this situation is to talk out everything and all the feelings that each person in the relationship has

    ps= I've never cheated either lol
  • Apr 17, 2007, 03:34 PM
    Ging1994
    I'd break up with him cheating is the worst thing to do
  • Apr 24, 2007, 07:40 PM
    akms
    Comment on saraispiel19's post
    I'm trans female to male does that count as a girl
  • Apr 30, 2007, 06:05 AM
    tugman_1
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chipmunk2921
    If you was to cheat on your boyfriend would you tell him or keep it a secret. This is just a question to find out how many different answers i get. My girlfriend and i are happy togather and she would tell me if she was cheating on me. i know that for a fact.

    I have never cheated on a boy so I don't know
  • Apr 30, 2007, 07:40 AM
    a_broken_promise
    for me it all depends on how serious the relationship is. but if i truely cared for this person i would tell them. but if you truely care for them you wouldnt do it in the first place!
  • May 1, 2007, 07:27 AM
    shorty_got_skills
    The truth hurts a lot but its better than living with a huvering cloud of guilt! HONESTY,people its amazing!
  • May 1, 2007, 10:28 PM
    SnaveLeber
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chipmunk2921
    If you was to cheat on your boyfriend would you tell him or keep it a secret. This is just a question to find out how many different answers i get. My girlfriend and i are happy togather and she would tell me if she was cheating on me. i know that for a fact.

    That depends... if I decided I never would do it again, that it was a mistake... then I wouldn't tell him, because it would only make him not trust me, when I knew he could. If I was going to continue cheat, id tell him then break up, becasuse he would find out eventually anyway
  • May 4, 2007, 07:25 AM
    xxjadexx
    I would tell him! Its no good keeping things as they always come out in the end! But would you lads tell the truth or keep it? I know some people that would lie! I've had it done to me before!
  • May 4, 2007, 07:28 AM
    joeysgirl
    Well one of my friends is cheating and know I just look at her like she's a slut... she has to boyfriends and a lover... I think that its wrong and I wouldn't do that to anybody no matter who it was...
  • May 4, 2007, 07:45 PM
    Eris09
    If I had time before I hit self-destruct.

    I don't handle guilt well. Who knows what I'd do?
  • May 6, 2007, 07:58 AM
    ST3V3NZBABYZMAMII
    I Would Tell Him I Wouldn't Be Able To Liuve With Myself Knowing I Did Something Like That
  • May 7, 2007, 05:45 AM
    joeysgirl
    I wouldn't do it period I don't care who it is.. I still wouldn't do it
  • May 7, 2007, 09:07 AM
    xxAngskixx
    I have cheated on my boyfriend a few times (this is all down to alcohol!) and every time I've told him I've had to have a drink because I've not had the guts to tell him sober! :(
    I have had no idea why I did it... but if your g/f goes out drinkib with ova people or hangs about with loads of other lads be concerned. If it kills you and you want to know say to your girlfriend "I love you so much and i trust you with my life but i want to know if there is someone else because being with you has been too good to be true...honestly and even if you haven't which i doubt you have cheated on me i just want you to be able to tell me!" if you say something along them line it'll be fine because:

    A. You've told her you trust her
    B. You've told her you love her
    C. You haven't shouted at her
    And
    D. You've let her know that you want to be told!

    That way ahe wouldn't feel so scared if she ever has cheated on you!
  • May 7, 2007, 10:17 AM
    joeysgirl
    OK then sounds like my friend kayla harmon...
  • May 8, 2007, 08:33 AM
    fix-what-you-broke
    There would be nothing to tell, I wouldn't cheat full stop. Its happened to me in every relationship I have been in except the one I am in now, hurts like hell and I wouldn't want to cause that pain to someone else,sorry I couldn't give an answer to the question though
  • May 8, 2007, 04:35 PM
    Catalyst93
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by chipmunk2921
    If you was to cheat on your boyfriend would you tell him or keep it a secret. This is just a question to find out how many different answers i get. My girlfriend and i are happy togather and she would tell me if she was cheating on me. i know that for a fact.

    Whoever would cheat on their boyfriend and not tell them isn't worth it. No way in hell.
  • May 9, 2007, 09:40 AM
    abi123
    Well I did cheat on my last boyfriend it was only a snog but I didn't tell him but I wish I did cause we had a big row and I chucked it in his face he told me if I just told him he would have understand we didn't talk for like a month and he said some really nasty things. We are now back to geter and happy and if it happened again I would tell him 100% so its beter to be honsted!
  • May 17, 2007, 04:57 PM
    courti3
    Well.. I would tell my boyfriend... we've been together for over a year and I trust him and he trusts me. If he cheated he would tell me.. and I would do the same.. but I don't think that would happen
  • May 17, 2007, 05:03 PM
    alkaline
    I have to be honest, it's what you want, right?

    I wouldn't tell. Granted, I probably wouldn't even do it in the first place, but if I did I wouldn't tell.

    I'm a pretty honest person, which is why I wouldn't do it to begin with, but I wouldn't tell. If I felt really guilty about doing it I'd probably just break up with the person for a different reason.

    Maybe it makes me sound like a jerk, but at least I'm being truthful with myself I guess.

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