Hello.. I'm 15 and my boyfriend that I have been with for a month and abit is 18. I have found out today I have chylimidia and I know I have catched it from my partner. How can I tell him this because are relationship is going so well that I don't want to lose him but if I got it treated and he didn't that would put me off sex with him? Or any type of sexual intercourse. He isn't exactly understanding when it comes to these things he would twist it saynig I gave him it spread about that I have/had chylimidia and gave it to him? I would really appricate it if anyone could take some time and give me some advice on how to tell him because I would love to have sex life with him without all off this complications. And I am starting to think why I am not going mad at him for giving it to me, so why should he get made if I am willing to stay with him after giving me a STD and just wanting him to get it treated for his own health? Thank you.

If you continue to have sex with him and he isn't under a doctor's care for chlamydia, you will be repeatedly reinfected. Is that okay?

Yeah that is okay. Um what if I didn't tell him and just carried on using a condom what will happen? And what if he gave me oral sex and I never had it and he still did will he give it back to me through oral? Even if I didn't give him none?

He doesn't sound like the kind of guy who wants to use a condom. And you'll put a condom on him when you have oral sex with him? He'll be overjoyed.

"Even though symptoms of chlamydia are usually mild or absent, serious complications that cause irreversible damage, including infertility, can occur 'silently' before a woman ever recognizes a problem. Chlamydia also can cause discharge from the penis of an infected man."

In which country do you live?

He doesn't like wearing condoms but I make him even oral sex. And I live in england?
So if he went down on me when I don't have the std and he still has it will he pass it back after going down on me?

Yes, he can pass it back to you. You both need to be treated.

If you care at all for your boyfriend you will tell him - chlamydia can cause serious, lifetime problems. If you do not get treated for chlamydia, you run the risk of several health problems.

"For women. If left untreated, chlamydia infection can cause pelvic inflammatory disease which can lead to damage of the fallopian tubes (the tubes connecting the ovaries to the uterus) or even cause infertility (the inability to have children). Untreated chlamydia infection could also increase the risk of ectopic pregnancy (when the fertilized egg implants and develops outside the uterus.) Furthermore, chlamydia may cause premature births (giving birth too early) and the infection can be passed along from the mother to her child during childbirth, causing an eye infection, blindness, or pneumonia in the newborn.
For men. Chlamydia can cause a condition called nongonococcal urethritis (NGU) -- an infection of the urethra (the tube by which men and women pass urine), epididymitis -- an infection of the epididymis (the tube that carries sperm away from the testes), or proctitis -- an inflammation of the rectum.

If you are old enough to have sex you are old enough to handle the consequences. If you can't handle the consequences, then you are too young to be having sex.

Are you prepared for a pregnancy?

Isn't 16 the age of consent in England? And you are 15?

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Isn't 16 the age of consent in England? And you are 15?

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Great catch - yes, it's 16. Now there's a whole new set of problems.

Just out of curiosity - who diagnosed the Chlamydia?

You may not care about your own health, but if you really care about your boyfriend then you have to tell him.

If he leaves you because of it then obviously he's not as wonderful as you think he is.

Personally, I'd be relieved if he left. He's way too old to be having a sexual relationship with a child. He's a predator. Your relationship with him isn't legal.

Do your parents know about this?

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

You may not care about your own health, but if you really care about your boyfriend then you have to tell him.

If he leaves you because of it then obviously he's not as wonderful as you think he is.

Personally, I'd be relieved if he left. He's way too old to be having a sexual relationship with a child. He's a predator. Your relationship with him isn't legal.

Do your parents know about this?

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I don't know law in the UK - wonder what the responsibility of the Physician who diagnosed her is.

Yes that's right?

Ella, does your doctor know you are only 15?

Do you know what that means, that you are under the age of consent?

I'm a very mature 15 year old and yes I know the law. But my boyfriend can't help the way he feels and nor can I yes my parents know and they have met him and like him they thought differrent before hand but after meeting it is all fine. And I went to brook clinic in the centre of bristol. They dignoised me. Its for under 25's only so yes the legal age is 16 but they help teenagers under the age of 16 to. I don't really care what you have to say about this I find it normal. And at the end of the day I'm happy. I do care about my health this is why I took the test and caught it from him. It wasn't exactly planned now was it?

Yes my doctor knows my age and yes I know but becus I went to clinic they don't need no consent if I'm old enough to have sex I'm oold enough to deal with it. And at the end off the day I'm very mature I never said I couldn't deal with the problems but I wanted some advice.

What you and your parents (and the Doctor) think or how you feel is immaterial - your boyfriend is a rapist in the eyes of the Law. All you need is one person to report him - a friend's parent, your parents, someone else.

A very mature person wouldn't be withholding information which could very seriously impact her partner's future health and ability to have children.

That's the thing my friends wouldn't do that my family wouldn't if you knew the area I lived in and the people I knew and if you knew me no one would do that to me and my boyfriend plus he isn't a rapist when he found out how old I was he didn't want nothing to happen but he fell for me. He didn't plan it. And I'm 16 in a few days. And I will tell him eventually its hard to just come out and say it. You wouldn't know what he is like and what he is capable to do.

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Originally Posted by EllaOneill

you wouldnt know what he is like and what he is capable to do.

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Yeah, sounds like he loves you a lot.

I wonder what other STDs he will give (or has already given) you.

I meant that in a way that my whole life would be ruiend he isn't understandable he wouldn't just say yeah lets go get me treated he would twist it sayi gave it to him break up with me and tell everyone I gave it to him. And I've been tested for everything else thank you! And I have nothing else. It was becus before we got together he had sexual intercourse with one of my friends which have it but doesn't know about it. Stop getting rude please just because I'm 15 it dose not mean nothing. Age is just a number and always will be!

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Originally Posted by EllaOneill

i meant that in a way that my whole life would be ruiend he aint understandable he wouldnt just say yeah lets go get me treated he would twist it sayi gave it to him break up with me and tell everyone i gave it to him. and ive been tested for everything else thank you! and i have nothing else. it was becus before we got together he had sexual intercourse with one of my friends which have it but doesnt know about it. stop getting rude please just because im 15 it dose not mean nothing. age is just a number and always will be!

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More proof that you are not mature.

Age is just a number, huh?

So you'd be okay with having sex with an 80 year old? How about a 4 year old? Age is just a number, after all!

You are in a BAD relationship if you know he'd ruin your reputation if you told him you caught an STD from him.

Congratulations! You're an idiot who is staying with someone abusive.

You're so smart that I hope you don't tell him, you reinfect yourself, and it causes infertility for the both of you so that NEITHER of you can pass on your idiotic genes.

Do you WANT to never be able to have children? That's what will happen if you stay with him and you are not BOTH treated.

Don't you think he should know what he's carrying around and giving to girls? And he's true to you, of course, and wouldn't think of sleeping around.

I am mature. I wouldn't do something like that. Its him. And to be honest here why the f*** you trying to say I'm immature or even trying to justify yourself with my maturaty. You don't know me this website is for help. I asked a complete different question, was my question ' I am mature'?
No it wasn't. What you tryying to do here? Getting some weird enjoyment on pissying of a 15 year old girl. And I'm not a child I'm a adolescent and in a few days classed as a adult. I am very very mature I work in a care home already as a support worker for old people.
But back to the point if you have no friendly, supportive advice could you just leave my question please. Thanks.

You are underage, you are being sexually abused, and you got an STD from a guy whom you are so afraid of that you dare not tell him what he did to you.

What did I miss?

I am not stupid I'm getting myself treated tomorrow morning at brook clinic when I get back to his house I am going to sit down and tell him. I wouldn't have sex with him if I've treated myself and he hasn't? Yes I would like children thanks. I'm not in a bad relationship its just boys for you can't you lot remember back when you was young because I'm pretty sure you'd be in the same boat okay. Unless your all elderly and can't remember back then.

That he cares for me. I don't want to tell him because I don't want to lose him and yeah I have my uncle with me now and he is 45 he has even said that if it was him and girl saying she had it he wouldn't be understanding I need boy advice you girls just don't understand what goes threw the brain of a boy. Sorry but my dad is a phychologist and he would know

I would never have dated a guy like that -- and I didn't. I dated guys who respected me and cared about my welfare (and their own) and who wouldn't trash my name.

Well how old are you then because you obviously haven't lived in my generation grama or have any children from places we are from.

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Originally Posted by EllaOneill

my dad is a phychologist and he would know

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I also know, am a professional counselor, and know what goes through (not "threw") a guy's mind.

Well then stop acting like I'm not right? When I know I am a teenage boy that acts younger and more immature than he should wouldn't be like that even if he thought he was a bad kid. And I'm a younger I like to right in slang thanks

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Originally Posted by EllaOneill

well how old are you then because you obviously havent lived in my generation grama or have any children from places we are from.

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I am not a grandmother, and I have experience you can only dream of.

Now, back to your question. Have we sufficiently answered it, or do you have any others?

Oh, because we've NEVER had relationships with boys, so we don't understand?

I was in a relationship a LOT like the one you're in now when I was your age. The BEST thing I ever did was get out of that relationship.

Whatever, though. You want to hear what you want to hear, and not what we have to tell you. You want advice that fits what you already think you should do, not advice on what's actually best for you.

You're dating a guy that had sex with an underage girl after less than a month of dating, and you're more worried about KEEPING him than you are about the fact that he put your health at risk?

Yeah, that sounds REAL mature. It's soooooooo mature to care more about whether a boy is going to leave than you care about the fact that he gave you a disease that can make you sterile.

Good job.

Glad I'm not going to have to worry about your intelligence and maturity reproducing.

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Originally Posted by EllaOneill

well then stop acting like im not right? when i know i am a teenage boy that acts younger and more immature than he should wouldnt be like that even if he thought he was a bad kid. and im a younger i like to right in slang thanks

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Huh? That makes no sense. I'm guessing it's your poor spelling. And no, you're not correct in how you are thinking.

"my dad is a phychologist"

Well, if he is I hope HE can spell it. I'm surprised that your Uncle is okay with child abuse.

I am also amazed that "Brooks" hasn't reported your boyfriend.

WG, the part you missed is where the boyfriend used to have sex with her girlfriend.

Nice that he's limiting himself to one social circle, though.

And, yes, it is good news that this STD will keep both OP and her boyfriend from populating the World.

Well then stop being rude to me I wouldn't be rude back. Give me respect ill give you respect just because you're an adult it doesn't mean you can treat me any different to anyone else because I'm a child. And nope that's all thanks

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well then stop being rude to me i wouldnt be rude back. give me respect ill give you respect just because your an adult it doesn't mean you can treat me any different to anyone else because im a child. and nope thats all thanks

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Good news - you admit you're a child, acting like a child, thinking like a child.

You earn respect. It's not a given. Earn respect and it'll be given to you.

I think this thread is done - anyone care to close it?

And, poof, "that's all" and she's gone.

(Wonder what her lifetime plan is? Abusive boyfriend followed by abusive boyfriend? At least the STD very possibly rules out "unwed mother.")

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Originally Posted by EllaOneill

well then stop being rude to me

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Ummm, I was nice until I got slapped.

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I'm a child.

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Please make sure that 18 y/o guy knows that.

News flash - she KNOWS he's playing her. She's "addicted" (her words) to him. She's giving other people advice. Here's a totally different story - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ml#post2805074.

Troll? Attention getter? Something else?

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Oh, because we've NEVER had relationships with boys, so we don't understand?

I was in a relationship a LOT like the one you're in now when I was your age. The BEST thing I ever did was get out of that relationship.

Whatever, though. You want to hear what you want to hear, and not what we have to tell you. You want advice that fits what you already think you should do, not advice on what's actually best for you.

You're dating a guy that had sex with an underage girl after less than a month of dating, and you're more worried about KEEPING him than you are about the fact that he put your health at risk?

Yeah, that sounds REAL mature. It's soooooooo mature to care more about whether a boy is going to leave than you care about the fact that he gave you a disease that can make you sterile.

Good job.

Glad I'm not going to have to worry about your intelligence and maturity reproducing.

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Not being funny but I have just said I'm getting myself treated tomorrow morning so I am worrying more about my health but the same time not up for losing my boyfiend but going to find it hard to tell him so you don't know nothing so go away

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News flash - she KNOWS he's playing her. She's "addicted" (her words) to him. She's giving other people advice. Here's a totally different story - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ml#post2805074.

Troll? Attention getter? Something else?

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I am not a attention getter and not being funny this isn't even about my boyfriend that advice, its about a different boy. This is my first relationship since omg if ALL off you lot knew what it is like to be me you would know why I'm with my boyfriend and stuff okay.