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So I am 5 days late, and I took a pregnancy test but it came out (-)
I am afraid to tell my parents, and I am still with my boyfriend.
He is 19, and yes I know it 4 years apart but oh well !
Anyway, I have another pregnancy test, and I am going to take that one too.
But HELP ME PLEASE!
I don't believe in abortions.
I'm assuming it came out positive. Did it? This "(-)" sign has me confused.
Where in the world are you?
You don't say what help you want. Can you respond and explain what we can do to help. How long have you been with your boyfriend. Is he aware you might be pregnant? Did you have unprotected sex? What is your general locale?
The (-) means it came out negative.
If its negative why are you worrying? I know that you are worried and I know they can be wrong, but seriously the test is negative! And if the next one comes back negative then you really have nothing to worry about
Except that she is 15 and sexually active with a 19 year old. The OP should count her blessings that she is possibly not pregnant and abstain from future sex, especially with a 19 year old.Quote:
Originally Posted by imsurroundedbyfish
But like didn't your first test come out negative? Doesn't that mean you're not pregnant? Omg I really hope that the second test gives you a negative too. I know if I got pregnant there's no way I'd keep it at 15!! You're life is OVERRRRR if you do that. I mean baby and kids need attention 24/7 where does that leave you when YOUR STILL A KID TOO?? Holy girl... imma cross my fingers for you.
Having a kid at 15/16 does not end her life. Yes it would be difficult, but it does not mean the end of her life. There is no need to be overly dramatic. The OP would need support and being over dramatic with statements of a child bringing about the end of her life is not helpful.Quote:
Originally Posted by diordoll
Please, this is a serious site. We give advice here, we don't judge, and we don't scare people.Quote:
Originally Posted by diordoll
Yes she's young, but if she's pregnant that doesn't mean her life is over. She has options. It's not a death sentence.
She does need to seriously look at her relationship. She's way too young to be having sex, and she's way too young to be involved with an adult. She's still a child.
To the OP. I hope you come back and tell us what advice you're looking for. I too am confused by your post. A (-) means that you're not pregnant. Negative means no, positive (+) means yes.
If you do think you're pregnant then wait until your next period is due. If you miss this one then retest. Make sure you follow the directions on the HPT exactly for accuracy.
If you're not pregnant, it's time to call off this relationship. You're too young for any of this, and your boyfriend could go to jail for having sex with a minor.
I didn't mean her life was over in a literal way. Sorry. I meant that at 15 life as she knows it is over. She can't party or chill with friends and stuff. She has to be all about a kid and that's really sad at her age.
Sorry. I meant that life as she knows it will be over because she'll be all about having to GROW UP and FAST. She's 15 and a kid herself. I'm sure she hasn't had enough time chilling with friendz and partying herself.
If you don't believe in abortion then don't you think that you should be on the pill and condoms? Because if he wasn't a virgin before he had sex with you then whoever he sexed before you better not have had an std or you can get it. Condoms protect you from std's, the pill protects you from getting knocked up. Now that you had this horrible scare make sure it doesn't happen again, feel?
First, find out if you are pregnant, and don't tell anyone that he has been having sex with you, which you shouldn't be doing in the first place. Because as he is 19 that is statutory rape, and the father of your potential baby will be labeled as a child molester for the rest of his life. Which he is, regardless of whether you notice it or not, considering that you are a kid.
Good Luck,
Javi
And again I have to correct you, or at least make things clearer. Remember, we're talking to a 15 year old here. We have to be 100% accurate when we give advice.Quote:
if you don't believe in abortion then don't you think that you should be on the pill and condoms? Because if he wasn't a virgin before he had sex with you then whoever he sexed before you better not have had an std or you can get it. Condoms protect you from std's, the pill protects you from getting knocked up. Now that you had this horrible scare make sure it doesn't happen again, feel?
Condoms help protect against STD's. They are in no way a sure fire way to prevent them. Condoms fail all the time.
The pill helps prevent pregnancy, but it's by no means 100%. There are women on this site that used three different forms of birth control and still became pregnant. It happens all the time. More often then you may think.
The only sure way to prevent pregnancy is to abstain from sex. At 15, that's really the only option she should be considering.
Yea he knows of the possibility, and the condom broke, and I have been taking tests but they all come out (-) and I haven't gotten my period.
Yea I know, but I still haven't had my period
I still haven't gotten my period.
You should see your doctor.
There are other possible issues, such as infections and more. And in life not all people will have regular periods.
OK - first, calm down. The first test was negative but it was too early to take it. Follow directions on the package and take it first thing in the morning, after enough time has passed for a reliable result.
Next, this should be a wake up call. You are too young for sex. You are not at a point in life where you can accept the consequences of failed birth control and are not in a committed relationship (Nothing short of marriage is committed enough for risking pregnancy in my view). As you are probably realizing, there are not easy or good options when you get pregnant too young so do not risk it.
Your boyfriend is too old for you and will rush you into situations like the fear you are now experiencing. Break up with him. Date boys your own age, and keep things age appropriate - meaning, sex is off the table.
If you are pregnant you have time to work through things. Tell your parents, see a doctor. If you don't believe in abortion, great (I don't either). I am an adoptive parent - I am pro-adoption. It's an option well worth considering that allows you to finish growing up, but also allows your child to live and for you to provide all that you want to him or her by choosing a family that can provide what you most value. But you are not even sure you are pregnant, so don't need to worry about all that yet.
What you do need to worry about is living way, way too fast for your age - this boyfriend has to go, no matter anything about him, whether you love him, whatever - he could go to jail for having sex with you - is that what you want?
Even if you're not pregnant, you should talk to your parents about this experience.
If you still haven't gotten your period it's possibly time for another test. There could be other causes. See your doctor about it, they will also be able to perform accurate tests (more accurate than home kits).
It has been mentioned already I know, but I'd just like to draw your attention to the fact that your boyfriend could get in serious trouble with the law for having sex with you. He is above the age of consent and you are under it, therefore it could be statutory rape (depending on your location). Under the AOC you have no consent to give, therefore it's rape.
Let us know if you do turn out to be pregnant.
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