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My Girlfriend and I are both virgins and we been dating a while now and were thinking of having sex...
1) what should I do if she bleeds?
2) what condoms should I buy?
3) what positions can we do if we do it in my car?
4) how can I get her very wet?
5) will I *** fast as a virgin??
How old are you??
16... why?
My Girlfriend and I are both virgins and we been dating a while now and were thinking of having sex... 1) what condoms should I buy? 2) what positions can we do if we do it in my car? 3) how can I get her very wet? 4) will I *** fast as a virgin??
XaviRaul : 16... why?Quote:
How old are you??
How old are you two?
What kind of birth control does she use??
Depending on where you are in the world and the age of consent,even still I'm not going to give you any sex tips.
What I will say is at least your asking for information,your trying to do the right thing,which is very mature.
There is one little teeny tiny titbit of information you should look into before you have your other questions answered.
And that is pregnancy.
What are the risks?
What will you both do if she gets pregnant?
How will you afford a baby?
What will your parents say? Your friends?
Are you both emotionally ready,financially ready,mentally ready to take on a baby?
Even on birth control there is a chance she could become pregnant.
These are questions you both should take seriously as there are consequences to your actions.
Get informed,get ALL the information not just the bits that your interested in,for your sake your girlfriends sake and for both of your futures.
The best position? Sitting quietly in the delivery room.
Unless you are ready to be a parent, you need to refrain from sex.
Comment on kaka67's post
Old enough come on some one help me lol
Comment on J_9's post
Ha this one is funnyy
If you were old enough you wouldn't have to ask this question :p
Is it risky that why they invented condoms
And yes I could afford a baby
And idc what my family or friends say
And yes were both emotionally financially ready
And she doesn't take birth control
Xavi, condoms aren't 100%, there are people on this forum and all around the world that got pregnant while using three different forms of birth control. It happens. Every time you have sex, even with protection, there's a possibility of pregnancy.
You say you can afford a baby. How? You're 16. Do you have a job? Can you afford your own place, afford the costs of rent/mortgage, food, electricity, water, other bills, baby supplies, medical bills, and more? How? I'm 40 and I can't afford it, so how can you?
You say you're emotionally ready. Do you know what having a baby involves? If so, how do you know? Have you ever cared for a baby 24/7? I doubt it.
The fact is, you're 16, you're way too young to be a father, which means you're way too young to have sex.
What's the rush? If you're in love than why not wait until you're old enough?
You're financially ready? Please, tell me your secret to success. I'm way passed 16, have steady well-paying job, and there's still no way I could support a baby right now. Do you actually know all that goes into supporting a baby? Let's just talk about the first year or so. Way more doctors visits. Then when the baby comes you'll have to pay for the hospital stay. Hopefully the baby comes out healthy, otherwise that'll be an even larger hospital bill. And there's your girlfriend's health to consider. Someone correct me if I'm wrong but aren't there even higher risks at that age? And then you'll need a carseat. And you'll want a stroller. And you'll need clothes. Don't forget, babies grow really fast so you'll need new clothes very often. And diapers. Lots and lots of diapers. Think hundreds. And food for the baby. And things like a crib, maybe a playpin and a high chair. Toys for the baby probably too. And of course if you're 16 you'll want to be able to finish school so you'll have to find childcare. And that's just some of the financial burden that comes with a child. That's not even going into the physical and emotional stressors. And it's an eighteen year commitment. Are you both really ready for this? Are you sure you're ready for late night feedings? Missing out on things like prom because you have a child? Missing out on going out with your friends because you have a child to raise? You're still a kid yourself, now is not the time to bring a child into the world. And that's what sex leads to, children.
And, even with birth control, there is always some chance of pregnancy. Even if she begins taking birth control and you wear a condom and you use both correctly, there is still ALWAYS some chance of pregnancy.
Xavi...
I'm the mother of a very mature 17 year old. She's not ready to be a parent any more than you are.
I'm also a nurse. I deliver babies for a living. I can assure you that pregnancy and parenthood is NOTHING like you think it is.
Can you...
Afford an apartment and all the utilities without help from anyone? Yes, right now. If you had to, could you move right now and be able to afford rent? Electric? Heat? Food?
Do you have your own car? Do you make the car payments? Put gas in the car? Pay the insurance?
Now, a baby is going to cost you a few hundred dollars a month. Formula is not cheap. It's VERY expensive. Remember, not all women can breastfeed and not all babies like to breastfeed.
Now, at 16, your girlfriend would run some very high health risks being pregnant. Some of these risks can not only be permanent, but they could damage the baby permanently or even rear their ugly head and be permanent when your girlfriend is older.
Please, use 2 or 3 forms of birth control until you graduate college, have a full time job and can actually afford to have a baby. Don't try to convince me that you are ready to be a parent. I've been a parent 4 times, 3 of my children are older than you, so I do have a grasp of what stage you are in your life.
Even if she doesn't get pregnant, what will her parents say? If she does what will her parents do? Obviously before you take drastic steps into adulthood, you should be fully educated on the subject, and McDonald's is hardly a great job to raise a child on.
Comment on talaniman's post
I don't work at McDonald's I work my dads restaurant I'm the manger there I make money that I could support a big family
Comment on J_9's post
Yes I could afford that and more
I so need a job at a restaurant then.
I didn't realise they paid SO MUCH!!
Manager my bottom, manager of what, pot washers?
Xavi, I think you need a serious reality check here..
When her family gets a hold of him and finds out what he is trying to do to their daughter, he will have all the reality he can handle.
Yeah you should and if you didn't know I'm the MANGER! AND SOON TO BE THE BOSS!!
Wow. A sixteen year old working in a position he still can't even spell. It's manager, not manger.
Comment on justcurious55's post
Lol... hahah I love this anSwer!!
Comments on talaniman's post
I know right ? So what are you going to tell YOUR daughter?lol
I don't know what tal would tell his daughter. But if I were this girl's parents, I'd be telling her she'd better stay away from you or I was getting the police involved. Depending on the exact laws of were you are, you're risking charges like statutory rape and/or contributing to the delinquency of a minor.Quote:
Comment on talaniman's post
I know right ? So what are you going to tell YOUR daughter?lol
I have already told my daughter to stay away from cocky young snots that only want one thing. Then I told her she is the one to pay the costs of a mistake, while they run, and hide.
I have already schooled her into using her brains, and not just her heart, to make good decisions for herself. Not just my daughters but my son, and the nieces, and nephews that I have influenced.
My advice to you young man would be the same. Think with your big head, and educate yourself, before you go in with no knowledge, and do something that turns into a big mistake. Ignorance is no excuse. Look I know your anxious to pop your cherry, and that of your girl friend, but without knowledge to back up your desire, you're just two kids playing with fire.
Maybe you should be talking with your dad, before he has to talk to her parents. You may learn something that you need to know.
Xavi, let's do this a different way, since we're obviously not getting through and all you're giving us is attitude, which just proves you're not mature enough for sex.
How much do you think a baby costs? If you're in the States do you know the cost of actually having the baby, not just caring for it afterwards, but going to the hospital to deliver.
Write a list of what you think the monthly expenses are, than post how much you make every month (be honest) and lets see if you're actually ready to be a dad and provider.
Your going to do it in the car? Nice.
Listen to the advice your given. If you can't even afford a hotel room how can you afford a baby?
Any idiot can have a baby but it takes a real man not too. Which one are you?
The fact that you have to ask us all of these questions, clearly shows that you two aren't ready to play house.Quote:
Originally Posted by XaviRaul
You both are young. You have your whole lives ahead of you. Concentrate on school and getting a good education so that you can conquer the world.
Please be smart and wait.
Hahahaha I'm just laugh at all the answers people tell me hahaha its funny when you put something up and all unknown people say hahahahah
So you find our advice funny? I wonder if you'll find it funny at 2am when you're changing your screaming babies diaper while trying to figure out where next months rent is going to come from.Quote:
hahahaha I'm just laugh at all the answers people tell me hahaha its funny when you put something up and all unknown people say hahahahah
None of what we're telling you is a laughing matter. The fact that you think it is shows how very immature you are.
I hope your girlfriend wises up and finds a boy that is willing to wait until he becomes a man before playing with fire.
In the end the decision is yours. We can't tell you what to do, we can only give you the facts and hope that you're mature enough to listen, to actually read what we're saying and understand that we're only telling you what we know to be true. Sadly you've proven that you are not mature enough to listen to the very wise advice you're getting. I hope you gain that maturity before you become a father.
Something to keep in mind. Yes, we're all adults, but we were all teens once too. I was far from an innocent teen, but I got lucky, very lucky, I didn't get pregnant. I regret the things I did when I was younger. If I could go back I would. It's that experience that is leading to the advice I'm giving you.
I hope that it sinks in. If not, I hope you don't end up regretting it. I hope that your girlfriend doesn't either.
Good luck.
I find it funny someone can have serious romance in a car, how sad, too cheap to even pay for a motel ( or not old enough to even pass for old enough to rent one) I can even see him being so loving he puts a plastic down so he won't get blood on his seat.
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