There's a boy I like at school but my mom won't let me date hin, because she thinks I'm too young, and I'm 13. How do I convince her to let me date him?
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There's a boy I like at school but my mom won't let me date hin, because she thinks I'm too young, and I'm 13. How do I convince her to let me date him?
You can not do anything to convince your mom, because you are too young.
Joe
I don't think you are to young, dating someone at your age helps you grow as a person. But don't let it all get to your head only dating nothing else. Try and get your mom to trust you more and maybe she will let you date him.
I have a 12 year old daughter and there is no way I would let her starting dating at 13 either!:rolleyes: I would allow her to hang out with her friends at the mall, sporting events or at my home but not to date! Is this boy 16 years old or older? How do you expect to go on a date if he isn't old enough to drive? Do you know what could happen on a date? You are "just coming of age" right now and your body is changing! Of course you like boys... I did too but it was limited to seeing these boys in school, sporting events or the mall!
Trust me, you have PLENTY of years to date!
Sorry but... I am with your mom on this!
Well that's true but in the end its all up to the mom, ask your mom to go to a movie with this boy and she can drive you there and she can pick you up to know your safe. And if you have to tell her she can watch the movie to know your safe. Like SINGLE4 said you are "just coming of age" but going on a date will help you develop in your mind as well. But in the end moms are always right and if she disagrees just agree with her.
Be friends with him because mothers seldom change their minds when it comes to dating but dads a even harder when it comes to dating their daughters so setlle being friends with himQuote:
Originally Posted by pinkflower23
Unfortunately, I have to agree with your mother. 13 is too young to start dating. You've got a lot of maturing still to do and aren't ready to handle the emotional baggage that comes with young dating. You've got your whole future ahead of you and you need to be looking at the long term, not just what you think will make you happy right now.
Pinkflower, I have a daughter that is 13 and she is not allowed to date either. Nor will she be able to until she is 16, well, that is what I say and her Dad says 40 LOL.
I understand how important boys are in your life right now, but your studies need to come first. Your mother is just protecting you from all of the heartache and emotional baggage (as well as some more dangerous things) that come along with dating.
Dating at age 13? That is too young to be dating. Don't rush to grow up. Enjoy your youth. Your time will come.
Talk to your mom sit down and talk to her tell her that you are 13 and you are growing up tell her that kids your age are dating just sit down and talk with her abou it
Dating can be a part of a teens youth, just because a kid goes on a date doesn't mean it's a set-up for them to get pregnant, get real isn't there any trust in the world, a teen can't even date these days anymore. I think 13 is a good age to date not to start dating meaning going on dates every few nights/week, but to go out on a date to experience it and grow from it. Think about it.Quote:
Originally Posted by richsaha2007
Closing - It is up to the mother, if she has enough trust she will let her date, not a lot will change a mothers first opinion but if you work hard enough to show your trustworthy in the future you may get what you want just don't ruin it.
So true
Fair enough/very true
Yes this is true but 13 is still young, it would be wise to be careful in what you do. One small date won't hurt? It may but it also may not. Be careful it's up to mum on this oneQuote:
Originally Posted by major_soccer_freak
You are still growing up. I wuold be very unhappy too, if I found someone I like and didn't get to go out with her. But, be careful if you get to go out. Nothing is what it seems. Watch you glass ( someone might drug you ) and don't do anything you don't want to ( you know what I mean). Yes, I am a bit paranoid, but these things DO happen. If you get to, be careful.
Best wishes, me.
I don't think you are too young to date, I was dating at 13. But I do think you are too young to be starting a serious relationship (trust me you don't want that at your age) umm why don't you get your mom to meet him. Introduce him as your friend and just hangout with him in groups of friends. Have him over, so that your mom can learn to trust him and you. And then once your mom knows him... maybe she will give him a shot
One thing not mentioned here is the age of the boy. That makes a little bit of a difference here. If the boy is a few years older that is a recipe for disaster. But I vote with the 13 is too young to single date group. At 13 you are a bit too young to think about relationships. Also, you want to show mom that you are growing up and understand her concerns. So compromise. Try a group "date" or just a group hangout.
You I agree group dates are a lot of funn and its much less awkward for you and less to worry about... acutually... a group date is more fun than just a single date.. in my opinion
Basically she still thinks you're too young to date. There's no real age I think you have to be to date (ok at least a teenager). 13 is still really young to start dating. You're body is changing and I'm sure the guy you like is changing too. I'd wait till at least 16 to date. I didn't start dating till I was 20. I'm glad I waited. As you age you'll find guys never really grow up or change. At 13 there's so much changing your life you should just wait.Quote:
Originally Posted by pinkflower23
I'm stuck w/ the same question. My mom said I had to be sixteen to date!! Can you believe that.Quote:
Originally Posted by pinkflower23
Maybe you can start talking to your mom and just bring up that stuff like bfs and gfs and maybe shell change her mind
I don't think 13 is too young to date, if you're going to date casually. That's actually an ideal time to start that sort of thing, since it would let you develop that important one-on-one dynamic that kids usually don't have at that age. Having the chance to pick that up in a low-stress environment like casual dating would be extremely valuable.
However, that's not the way the world works. Kids that age don't date casually. They over-invest themselves emotionally, and end up hurting themselves in a number of ways because they get overwhelmed by so many new things coming up all at once.
Don't worry so much about getting out there and dating. Go out with friends, do the group thing, and maybe even do a little bit of semi-dating within the group. Just have fun, and don't get hung up on the next thing that you could be doing.
Yep! I agree with mosts posts here... 13 is tooooooo young to be worrying about boys. You should be only worrying about school, friends, having regular fun.
Your moms trying to protect you..! Because she loves you... if she didn't love you... she would allow you to go out there and experience things that are too mature for a girl your age...Quote:
Originally Posted by pinkflower23
I do not think you are too young to "date"... maybe you should tell your mom to give you some trust and promise nothing sexual because that you are too young for.
Too bad we can't verify the age of respondents. I'd be willing to bet that all those almost all those who think 13 isn't too young are teens and those who do are adults. :)
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Originally Posted by Nosnosna
I agree... very well said... :)
My girlfriend was started in a relationship when she was 13 or 14.
It lasted 13 months and she lost her virginity to him.
She seriously regrets this now, at the age of 18 and has since decided not to have sex until marriage, a decision which I respect.
Conclusion: This commitment at 14 turned out to be a big mistake which she thoroughly regrets.
I know how you feel. I am in high school (freshman) my mother says I can have aboyfriend but I can't go on a date with him, therefore it makes no sense to have a boyfriend. Just tell her how you feel, find away to let her know his true personality. This may help her change her mind. I know that when I let my mother see my crush's myspace that she became more openminded. Once she found the age differnce she changed her mind. Become friends with this boy, have him over with a couple other friends to watch movies or something. Let your mom get to know him and then ask her if you can go to the movies with some friends. Go with him, after all he IS a friend, rite?
This is extremely disrespectful of your parents, on the order of asking mom if you can do something right after dad said no. You might think you're outsmarting your parents, but really all you're doing is lying to them, and if they find out about it, you're probably not going to be having any more friends over or going out with friends for quite some time.Quote:
Originally Posted by jaimie02
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Originally Posted by Nosnosna
HUH?? Where did you get ANY of that from Jaimie02's post?? She asked her mom and she initially said no. Then she showed her mom what the boy was like and gave mom a chance to get to know him so mom was more willing to let them have a relationship. Sounds to me like Jaimie02 handled the situation very well. And she should be complimented.
Please read notes more carefully before responding, especially if you intend to go off on the poster.
13, your now a teenager. Prove to your mom that you can take on more responsibility, and don't be pushy, but talk to her. Many kids have dated as 13, even younger. Sometimes you have to wait, and sometimes when the time is right it will happen. 1st you should become friends with the guy. If you are already maybe you and him can go out together, not really a date, but a little time to hangout. You don't nessiserally have to call it a date. You can have a little hangout time.
That's not how I read it at all. I read it as:Quote:
Originally Posted by ScottGem
Not allowed to date, so establish the person as a friend.
Get permission to go out with friends.
Date said person under the guise of going out with friends.
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