Omg. I had sex for the first time Sunday night (2 days ago) and I didn't want to at all. I mean, I have an issue at not being able to say no. I barely even knew the guy. And He asked me if I wanted to have sex, and I said no. (Because I wanted to do it when I get married and with someone I love) then he kept asking and I felt like I HAD to. So he started taking off my shirt and I started shaking.. and he's like, "Im gonna do it ok?" and I responded with "I guess" he took off his and mine... I just laid there with a blank stare.. It seemed like forever until it was over...

I don't know what to do. He said the condom broke... I feel so sick. I've been throwing up for two days straight. Im not pregnant am I? How will I know? Can I take a pregancy test this soon? I feel like a tramp and I can't stop crying.. How do I get over all this? If I AM pregnant I can't have this baby!! This is terrible..

zappy,

Tramps (I hate that word) don't feel like tramps. Just like crazy people don't feel like their crazy - they just are. You are not a 'tramp'. You may have made a mistake. You could have been stronger, more firm. You need to talk to someone older, share your worries. I don't know what else to tell you at this point except to love and respect yourself or no one will and they will think they have the right to just use you. Be strong, take care of you.

Come back for a chat. Okay?

I totally agree with blue rose.YOu need to tell someone.A pregnancy won't just go away.You need to take a test or go to planned parenthood or some company like that.IN the future you should be more firm when it come to your virginity.I mean , you don't want to be one of those girls who everyone says ,heck she's is easy, you want to be one of those girls who make your boys"work".Let me know how this ends

Okay, if you ever get in tis situation with the guy and all, and he says I'm going to do this, you should have grabbed something hit him across the face, then sasid, heck no, you think you going to get this that easy?Boy you must be out of your mind, now get the heck out of way before I knock you down.Well I cleaned the text up a little bit.Hey, at our school they showed this movie about stuff like this, the speakers name was Pam, but we got the movie from this lady named Shannon Howland and you can contact her at Serenity House, Abilene, Texas .Let me know how this turns out

I don't think Im pregnant, Now Im just worried about STDs... I really wish I was more firm. I really do. I just have a hard time being mean to people... I really am, and I was scared. I was shaking. I wish guys would just listen when girls say NO. It was probably the worst "First time" a girl could have. (Besides being raped but that doesn't count as losing your virginity) I just Laid there, and all I could think was, "Man when is this gonna be over" I feel so trampish. I hate myself right now. I really really do. This sucks...

I agree, it really sucks to hate yourself, but that's how you got into this situation, so you have to stop hating yourself and learn to assert your will and take control. This cycle of self-loathing feeds on itself and will continue to get worse unless you get some help and learn how to make better choices and follow through on them. You're way smarter than you give yourself credit for. For one thing, you're smart enough to recognize a mistake when you see one, so that's a big plus right there.

Everybody makes mistakes. Where you're going wrong is in beating yourself up about it and making yourself feel worse instead of focusing on how to avoid making similar mistakes in the future. Learning to say NO in a way that is convincing is a basic life skill. It's especially important for teenage girls when it comes to sex, but everyone needs to learn it to avoid being taken advantage of in any number of ways, so don't feel like the lone ranger. And it certainly isn't "being mean to people" to insist on being respected. Self-respect and self-confidence are what you need to learn and cultivate. Talk to a counsellor or somebody else you can trust and get some help to get you through this and set yourself on a path to better things.

I don't want to talk to a counselor or anybody because I feel like I have to remain and maintain this reputation that I have worked so hard on building for myself. Im afraid the people who look up to me now (which they really shouldnt) won't anymore. But maybe that's for the best. I don't want anybody to look down on me... Mor then I feel like they already do...

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I dont want anybody to look down on me... Mor then I feel like they already do....

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The reason you feel like other people look down on you is that you don't respect yourself. The truth is that most people are so busy thinking about themselves that they don't have time to think about you. Regaining your self-respect is the only way to quit worrying about what other people think. There's no shame in needing help. The only shame is in letting foolish pride keep you from asking for the help you need.

But I USED to be the one people sought for help. NOT the other way around!

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But I USED to be the one people seeked for help. NOT the other way around!!

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And now, you need help. It happens to everybody. No blame, no shame. Get on with it.

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As you have helped others now is the time for you to receive help. There is no shame in that, and it will help you get over the helpless feelings you have, and give you a chance to learn new skills in dealing with males in the future. Don't feel bad as this happens to many times as you well know. Find an adult that you trust and start the healing process.

Well honestly I've never been in this situation. zappy you have to learn to be more assertive. Learn how to use your refusal skills. But here's a suggestion, go to a doctor. Their not going to tell anyone. Your risking your life. I just learned about std's and all these different types of aids and crap. And this is not a joke. Its your life. I serioulsy recommend you get tested.
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I have no way of getting there... so I guess Im just screwed... for the second time

If you can't say no, just shake your head, if they start to unbottom get up and leave. If you keep saying yes, then the male will not know you mean no.

Many males have trouble understanding no to start with. And there are other issues besides being pregnant to worry about having sex where a condom broke or unprotected.

If you need to practice saying NO, say no other other people for little things to practice.

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I have no way of getting there... so I guess Im just screwed.... for the second time

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Call some one for a ride ride, catch a bus, or walk whatever, just go see a doctor and find an adult you trust to talk to. Sitting and crying never solved a darn thing, so sorry for being harsh, but get busy and lose the excuses.

I know exactly how you feel. But I think you are throwing up from nerves because signs don't show until 2 weeks after your first missed period. Did this guy call you back?

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I have no way of getting there... so I guess Im just screwed.... for the second time

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Get a few home pregnancy tests from the drugstore.

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I have no way of getting there... so I guess Im just screwed.... for the second time

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Get a friend to help you or somehing.

Ok so I know Im not pregnant... Im OK now... I just don't want STDS. Its hard for me to find anybody I trust in, but I'll figure something out. I really appreciate all your help... And for Orbit... No, we haven't even spoken to each other. I don't think I can even look at him, Im too freaked out. He really scared me

How old are u? I would most certainly pray to God if you're under 18. Do you people know anything. You don't just go and have sex with some guy you don't know well. For all you know he could have aids or some other sexual transmitted disease. Go to the pharmacy and ask them for a pregnancy test device or anything like that. U can send me a private message if u wish.

Hi zappy I'm really sorry to hear your story.. but all the people who have replied are here to help you with their advice so uve got help ;o)
I don't know how old you are but you sound young and unexperienced... when it comes to these things you have to be tough! VERY TOUGH! These things will keep happening and not just people you don't know even people you know well! I have had bad experiences which kept haunting me... I knew the guys vey well wit my family and all so I didn't expect it even more and being tough wit them is even harder. But guys like this are just a piece of crap you have to use your strength if need be never give in! NEVER!
Just don't give up everyone makes mistakes there are some amazing guys out there even thought we might doubt it at times!
Trust me you could find a guy who would accept your nos. I've been going out wit a guy for almost a yr and I'm still a virgin he isn't but he respects my choice... (ohh and by the way I'm MUCH older than you)
Calm down hun and just check stuff out wit the help lines no one would know who you are!
Good luck tc and hope to hear from you soon

You should have stuck with your first answer. Told him no and told him to get the away from you, please excuse my language, but that is idiotic and I would whip his if I knew where he lived. Men are stupid pigs that only want one thing. I hope they all die out.

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Omg. I had sex for the first time sunday night (2 days ago) and I didnt want to at all. I mean, i have an issue at not being able to say no. I barely even knew the guy. and He asked me if I wanted to have sex, and I said no. (Because I wanted to do it when I get married and with someone I love) then he kept asking and i felt like i HAD to. So he started taking off my shirt and I started shaking.. and he's like, "Im gonna do it ok?" and I responded with "I guess" he took off his and mine... I just layed there with a blank stare.. It seemed like forever until it was over...

I dont know what to do. He said the condom broke... I feel soo sick. I've been throwing up for two days straight. Im not pregnant am I? How will I know? can I take a pregancy test this soon?? I feel like a tramp and I can't stop crying.. How do I get over all this? If I AM pregnant I can't have this baby!!!!!!!!!! This is terrible..

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Ummm my answer to this question is that just to relaxe.. because you can make yourself seem pregnant by being so nervous. And then you think your getting morning sickness or something.. also to when your pregnant you don't really get morning sickness until you're a couple months along.. believe me I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant and I had horrible morning sickness until I was 5 months. You might want to wait until your suppost to get your period and if you skip it then you should take a test and then tell your parents and get to a doctor right away.. good luck

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Omg. I had sex for the first time sunday night (2 days ago) and I didnt want to at all. I mean, i have an issue at not being able to say no. I barely even knew the guy. and He asked me if I wanted to have sex, and I said no. (Because I wanted to do it when I get married and with someone I love) then he kept asking and i felt like i HAD to. So he started taking off my shirt and I started shaking.. and he's like, "Im gonna do it ok?" and I responded with "I guess" he took off his and mine... I just layed there with a blank stare.. It seemed like forever until it was over...

I dont know what to do. He said the condom broke... I feel soo sick. I've been throwing up for two days straight. Im not pregnant am I? How will I know? can I take a pregancy test this soon?? I feel like a tramp and I can't stop crying.. How do I get over all this? If I AM pregnant I can't have this baby!!!!!!!!!! This is terrible..

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You should learn how to say no my dear. Even if you feel like you're going to hurt others when you say it. You need to think about yourself when it comes to things such as this. And you are not a tramp. Tramps go out and screw everything that walks. Hahah. ;) So don't think of yourself like that. And this is somewhat rape. You could have stopped this. And this jerk wad who did this to you needs to get a life. :D Wait a week or so and go get a pregnancy test. If positive, talk to a counsler or a doctor about it. I hope you're not pregnant honey. Best of luck!

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Omg. I had sex for the first time sunday night (2 days ago) and I didnt want to at all. I mean, i have an issue at not being able to say no. I barely even knew the guy. and He asked me if I wanted to have sex, and I said no. (Because I wanted to do it when I get married and with someone I love) then he kept asking and i felt like i HAD to. So he started taking off my shirt and I started shaking.. and he's like, "Im gonna do it ok?" and I responded with "I guess" he took off his and mine... I just layed there with a blank stare.. It seemed like forever until it was over...

I dont know what to do. He said the condom broke... I feel soo sick. I've been throwing up for two days straight. Im not pregnant am I? How will I know? can I take a pregancy test this soon?? I feel like a tramp and I can't stop crying.. How do I get over all this? If I AM pregnant I can't have this baby!!!!!!!!!! This is terrible..

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Well if its two days ago you can't tel you pregnant at least 5 days before your missed period. The issue with the guy he's and asswhole and you shouldn't talk to him ever again. A person that does that to a girl doesn't need to have a nice girl with them. Try to relax and maybe your body is trying to get used to all the changes after your first time. Its a lot to have sex the first time because your body is experiencing all these new changes and its just getting used to a new woman that your going to become. Your hips might grow a little and you might get a little bigger in your private areas. That is something very common. However it is also common to get pregnant on the first time so if the condom did break you should wait those 5 days before your missed period and take a pregnancy test. Telling your parent or a counselor is also a good idea if you have anymore questios.


Hope all gets well

Doubt your pregnant and it sounds like your 2 kids virgins and if so no need to worry about std either bros ar e doctors as for aids unless your with an IV drug user who shares needles or has anal sex with a man the odds of that are 1 in over 20 million. Relax brothers both are great doctors they educated me,

Everyone makes mistakes, try not to beat yourself up over it. Instead try to deal with this within yourself by promising yourself that if this kind of situation arises again you will stand up for yourself! And say no, and get out of there..

I think me and your boyfriend have same a little same situation but I most worried than to my girlfriend because I don't know if she would becme pregnant. I always keep asking her if there are changes happen to her health and body because it was my first time to have sex with a girl and I don't use any contrcptive so I'm worried because wer not yet ready for the responsblties because wer to young.. I always pray to god that hopefully she's not pregnant and promise to not do it again until I don't have regular job... thnx:rolleyes: :(