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I need help. I'm young and I was completely trashed one night and I barely remember anything I did. But one thing I remember is thinking I did sexual things with this guy. But I don't compltely remember everything so I don't know what to do about it because the guy doesn't remember. I think his penis might have went in me one time but that's it.. what are the chances of being pregnant?
Just wondering if anyone out there knows if the chances of being pregnant would be lower if you had sex with someone related to you, than with someone non-related?
Same chances.
Sperm does not know your related.
However there may be genetic problems with the baby depending on how close the relative.
There will be other posters who may be able to give a more comprehensive answer.
How long ago was it?
Have you had a period since?
Have you taken a test?
Is this question related to your other question?
It was 2 days ago
I haven't had it, I'm new with the period thing so my period isn't consistent
I haven't taken a test because I don't know how long you have to wait
And yes it is related
OK,for the sake of keeping all your posts and answers on one thread,stick with this one,that way you will get all the answers to your post together.
Can I ask what age you are?
What if it only went in you one time though?
I'm 15, can you please tell me that I'm probably not pregnant? I'm not sure if it went in me & what if it was only one time and that's it like in out done
Go back into your other thread and all your questions and answers will stay on the one thread,less confusing for you and other posters.Quote:
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Yes,even if it was in for a minute.
I'm afraid I can't tell you if your pregnant or not,no one on line can tell you that.
If it was less then 72 hours,you can still get the morning after pill,the sooner the better.
You need to tell someone,I know that sounds scary,but the sooner you go to the doctor the better.
How about your mother?
I can't tell anyone.
If I get my period, I'm not pregnant right?
And what dos the morning after pill do?
If you get your period your not pregnant,however you did say that your periods were not regular.
Your best option is to see your doctor.
Are you willing to take a chance?
It's a big gamble and if your pregnant its not going to go away if you ignore it.
As scary as it is,telling someone now while they can help is a lot better then having to say your pregnant,should that happen.
How about an aunt,a sister?
Can I ask what age the guy was? Is he related to you,and how close?
As far as I know you CAN still get your period even if you are pregnant. I was a month along and I was still spotting.
Here's a link to a Google search for the morning after pill.
morning after pill - Google Search
Here's some advice... you can take it or leave it, your choice. I would advise you to get yourself on some sort of birth control and also to not get trashed. At 15 you still have your entire life ahead of you. Not only do you run the risk of an unwanted pregnancy, but you also run the risk of some pretty serious STD's, which can cause you mild discomfort, embarrassment, harm your reproductive organs and make it difficult for you to conceive when you are ready for children, or even can kill you. I hope everything works out for you.
He is my age, 15
And 1st cousin
I'm tlking to him now about the whole thing and he told me we didn't have sx.. but we did stuff
Unfortunately if you had un protected sex, even for one second, than yes there are chances that you are pregnant.
I know you don't need a lecture right now, and I am biting my toung on wanting to tell you how irresponsible it was to get so trashed at such a young age. I have to ask, do you think this sex was consensual? You said you were related, how closely are you related? Why do you think that you had sex?
There's a chance you're pregnant even if you get your period, especially if it's not regular.
Even if the guy's penis doesn't go completely in, you could get pregnant if sperm end up inside you.
Every time you have sex, even with protection, you take a chance of getting pregnant. The best way to manage your life is to not have sex if you can't afford or if you don't want a baby.
The morning-after pill prevents the fertilized egg from attaching to your uterus and starting to grow. This egg is then expelled from your body, sort of like having a period.
From Emergency Contraception (Morning After Pill) - Planned Parenthood
Emergency Contraception (Morning After Pill) at a Glance
* Birth control you can use to prevent pregnancy up to five days (120 hours) after unprotected sex
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Legally in the US, if she was drunk. It cannot be consensual because she was not in the state of mind to consent. Something I learned from my law course
He's telling me he remembers now & that he's 100 percent sure we didn't have sex. I know it was irresponsble & I'm extremely dissapointed in myself. So please don't lecture me I already know. I not one of those trashy girls who does that I'm actually a good kid who made a big mistake.
Lets leave the getting trashed thing to the side for the moment,and lets talk about the 'stuff'.Quote:
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Doing 'stuff' can still get you pregnant.
I can only urge you to see a doctor, if neither of one can remember exactly ,then you nor him can guess every thing is OK,just because you really wish it is.
You have to think,you have be mature about this,both of you.
Hi... I know you're scared. I would be terrified. Listen to me.. We are here to help you and we will not judge you. We have no idead of who you are or where you live Ok?Quote:
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This cousin who you had sex with, did he force you in any way? Remember what Red said and she's very smart.. you need to talk to your mom. If you feel she won't understand talk to us. OK?
He is usd to getting drunk so I believe he would remmber & that iw wouldn't. He is telligme he remembers it all & that he didn't talk to me about it because he though I didn't remember.. but idid but not all of it and he did, so he said we did stuff but didn't have sex.
What sort of stuff? And listen to Red, she knows what she's talking about.Quote:
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I know you're terrified. You deserve a hug and a shoulder to cry on right now.
How old is he? Even one drink messes up your head, so I wouldn't trust his memory, plus why would he want to admit anything? Did he ejaculate? If so, where?
I am terrified. And I trust my cousin wouldn't lie to me about something like this. But I'm still nervous.. I know red knows what she's talking talking about. But like fingering that's all
You are scared and young and you trusted him. We all make mistakes and I won't preach at you. Was he the one who started this? Please tell us and let us help and since I don't text at all and can't seem to get the hang of it please use full words and not text speak. How do you feel about all this? Were you attracted to him?Quote:
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Just to be sure, go see a doctor.Quote:
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No he did not ejaculate
Okay, I understand how you are feeling. I want to know if you think you did this voluntarily, why your cousin is doing sexual stuff with you, and how old is your cousin? I know this is hard, and I know you main concern is you being pregnant, but like Red has mentioned, only your doctor can tell you for sure.Quote:
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Not only pregnancy issues here, STD's are a present danger with doing "other stuff" as well.
We are here, we can help you through this as much as we can online. But this is really concerning me that your cousin took advantage of you while you were drunk. Has he done this sort of thing to you before?
I am not attracted to him at all he is my cousin.
He was a litte drunk too that's why he did the stuff & no it was the first time we drank together
I would be very wary about this,this is your life your talkng about.Quote:
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again,I would ask you to tell someone,someone you trust,an adult who can help.
I would also advice that you not drink until your old enough to handle it,its NOT cool,and look what happened the last time.
both of you need to understand how serious your actions were,not only were you drinking underage, but both engaging in underage sex ,which not only could result in a baby, but a baby with a disability,I don't know exactly the probability of the disability,but still a baby.
I truly hope your not pregnant,and that you have learned a valuable life lesson.
again I strongly urge you to speak to another adult.
No, I wanted to know if he has done sexual things to you or other family members before. And I am sorry if I have missed this, but how old is he?
I have learned my lesson and I can assure you that I will not do it again. I understand ths is my life I'm talking about & a baby and I'm extremely worried about it. I might talk to my siste abut it
I'm going to give you some advice okay? If he would take advantage of you are there younger girls in the family he would do the same? He I think knew what he was doing and I honestly believe he will do it again to someone else.Quote:
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Please I ask you to talk with your mom. She may know of things about this cousin that she didn't tell you. She is your mom and nothing will make her hate you. She can help you through this. Please, for your peace of mind and ours , talk to her and you may be saving another litlle girl, someone younger than you. Please.
Yes I understand. I am going to do that, I knowi have no other choice and I can't do this on my own
Promise you will and let us know. You have friends here and we will help you get through this. Mom is your best friend... Hugs:)Quote:
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I will let you guys know. Thank you so much for all the help, you helped a lot more than youthink. I'm going to take all of your advice, please pray for me and hope I'm not pregnant
Good girl *hugs*Quote:
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If there is a planned parenthood in your town, I would still suggest the morning after pill, just to be on the safe side. If your cousin was willing to take advantage of you in a situation where even a stranger shouldn't take advantage of you, then he may not me telling the whole truth about what went on, just to save his own skin. I hope all works out for the best with you.
Okay, I do realize that everyone is thinking that her cousin took advantage of her, but I see this in a different light, and trust me, I'm one to look at all the angles when it deals with molestation.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't he also 15? So two 15 year olds both get drunk, and they both do something stupid. The fact that they're related is wrong, but alcohol makes you do stupid things you otherwise wouldn't do. Most of us have memories of nights like that. ;)
I hate the double standard that since she's a girl, she is automatically the one that was taken advantage of. That's not always the case, and it doesn't seem to be the case here, in my opinion.
Yes there are laws in place that if someone is drunk they cannot consent to sex. But both of them were drunk, so who gets charged?
To the OP. You got drunk, he got drunk, you both did something really stupid that I hope you'll never do again. Now it's time to protect yourself from a possible pregnancy. Don't rely on wishing and hoping that it won't happen, because it can. Now is the time to act. You can't wait a day or two. Talk to an adult, someone that can get you the help you need.
Stay sober and stay smart. :)
You're totally right Alty.
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