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My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, we both live east coast US but cannot see one another for quite some time because of multiple reasons. What are some ways I can show him how much I love him and things we can do to keep our relationship strong until we can finally be together. Our age difference is a pretty big one so there are some, but few limitations. We're going pretty strong as of now, some fun things to do as input would be nice to have regardless :) Thanks!
You are 15(?), how old is he??
Why is he in one place and you in another? Did you meet him online?
Why such a big age difference?
We just got along really well when we were friends and then hit it off when we started dating. It just sort of happened.
Have you ever met this guy in person?
At this stage that age difference is extreme. And most likely inappropriate and illegal depending on what's being said. You should consider other options.
Okay, so you are 15 and he is 20 (from what he told you on the internet). How can you be so sure he isn't 40 or 50? Maybe a child predator.
She doesn't and I'll bet he's at least forty and a pervert. . Maybe her parents don't know.:(Quote:
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What does this mean?Quote:
Originally Posted by ImmortalKiss
How do you date when you've never met? I would love to hear the answer.Quote:
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I agree. Something doesn't sound right.Quote:
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I'm not referring to help or making a long distance relationship by doing anything illegal, just as an FYI.
I know I'm 15 years old and I'm ignorant to say the least, but why must everyone, even teenagers my age, consider the internet to contain nothing but bad people and bad things? I haven't met him in person, though things like web cam chat, phone calls, pictures, IM's are things that we exchange. One person at the least will say something like "he could be lying to you" or something along the lines of faking a web cam chat etc. etc. I'm cautious enough that I can tell when something is fake or suspicious. My friend's are also familiar with him. I actually began talking to him because he was friends with one of my closest friends. Just stating a few points, but all I asked was for simple things that the two of us could do that we can have fun doing and make our relationship stronger. I have found however that I cannot obtain that information here.
Now you're finally telling us things ("he was friends with one of my best friends") that you could have clued us in about right from the get-go. Instead of talking about "dating," now you're asking for simple ideas that the two of you can do together. And you "cannot obtain that information here" only because you hadn't told us the whole story.Quote:
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No I'm afraid if you came here looking for what you want to hear... You
Aren't going to find it here. We try to give teens such as yourself advice that will keep them safe. Going out with a guy you've never met and who
You say your friends know him is asking for trouble.
Do you want to end up a statistic in the newspaper or with your picture plastered everywhere saying "Have You Seen This Girl"? It happens every single day and I hope your parents (and I think they are) are smart enough to keep an eye on you.
If I though one of my daughters were having an on line romance with someone older whom they had never seen, their laptop would go out the window and I would personally hunt the guy down and beat the living crap out of him.
You do this thing and you stand a chance of getting your Dad in trouble, cause my guess is if he knew the guy he would take a baseball bat to him. Grow Up.
Thank you for confirming, I'm sorry I was so outright without sharing details in the first place.
I wish you'd keep my parents, Father especially out of this. He's rightfully in jail for the next 40 years of his life.
I see your concern as a mother but my mom does know however that him and I were talking. She was slightly concerned but did lots of background on the guy, well background that was available like what college he went to etc. and she said he checked out fine but wasn't really pleased that I was talking to someone who had that amount of years on me.
What do you mean, you were "so outright"? I've never heard that expression before.Quote:
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Outright! How?
Do you know what she means, Kit?Quote:
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Nope... she said the guy lived a few hours away and she had never met him... she didn't mention a "friend" knowing him.:confused:Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
The key for now is to do exactly what you said... keep it fun.
You sound smart enough to understand why concern is shown for the age difference and knowing each other only online.
Take it slowly... how long have you been speaking?. get to know each other more... what do you have in common?. what interests do you share? Keep it casual and friendly, but don't let down your guard completely and listen to your gut. Never ignore any red flags if you ever start to feel uncomfortable... easy to try and pass it off as being silly or worrying about him not liking you, but you have to remain smart.
Just as a side note... I met my husband out of the blue online and was very cautious even as an adult.
I'm thinking she meant that she came right out with her questions without providing more information to allow for a clearer picture of the situation.Quote:
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That's my guess anyway... :)
I think she just coined a new word. :DQuote:
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