Okay, I know a lot of people have this problem with their boyfriends, but for me it's a recent guy friend. I won't say his name (obviously), but I would just like an opinion on whether it's not headed in a good direction so I could get out of this friendship before it heads in any other direction.
He is a senior in high school, as am I, and he will be attending the same college as me next year. That was what made us first start talking. He then gave me his number and I gave him mine because he told me he likes to party and wants me to hang with his friends in college. I haven't been to a legit high school party or anything so I told him that sounds cool. We kept exchanging messages for 3 days all during the day. The whole time he would ask me what I was doing or ask me random questions to "get to know me better". I thought this was sweet of him. Especially when it seemed or he made it seem like we have a lot in common. Then one night apparently he sent me a text late at night and I didn't respond so when I saw him the next day, he said "You never responded to my text." He didn't say this angrily per se, but it was still weird since we barely started talking.
Then today our class decided to go to the pool since the school year is almost over. I was having a fun time. When I began talking to my other guy friend and we were resting in the deep end on a floatable raft, he came up and was all "What are you two talking about?" and was completely serious. I looked at my other friend and then told him "Nothing." It seemed weird and caught me off guard that he asked that when we aren't even going out so it's not like he needs to be jealous of anything or me talking to other guys. And I'm not into either of them anyway. But later one my girl friends took my phone and sent a text to some of my recent people in my inbox saying "Hey babe." I almost passed out right then because I didn't think they would send that to HIM. Eventually he texted back and said "Hey babe? U on crack? Haha jk was up" I didn't want to lead him on so all I said was "Hah good one. Sorry my friend took my phone and texted that to everyone." He responded with, "Right.." and I said, "I'm serious, but ok? whatever." Then he responded with "I know I'm joking" When I didn't respond he said "U not going to talk to me?"

What I'd like to know is if he is becoming possessive as a friend? Should I worry? Could this be a hint as to what he could be like if I got into a relationship with him?

He might like you and think that you may like him. You may have been showing him signs that you like him but you didn't mean to. I wouldn't end the friendship just yet but I would talk to him and set the facts straight. And if he doesn't accept that then my best guess would be to end the friendship.

That's probably true. I'm 18 and this is my first guy friend (never been in a relationship before either) so I guess I'm reading into this too much. My friends also said that since I added a smiley face at the end of some texts he probably thought I liked him. I've stopped doing that. He still keeps texting me random questions just to keep our conversation going. I've tried keeping my side of the conversation blunt and nice, but he keeps texting me "So wats new? What u up to?" and also he's been saying Nom Nom Nom (like the cookie monster) and it bugs me.
I want to keep this mutual, but someone told me just by reading his texts he seems like the clingy type so I should try to avoid him.

That's probably true. I'm 18 and this is my first guy friend (never been in a relationship before either) so I guess I'm reading into this too much. My friends also said that since I added a smiley face at the end of some texts he probably thought I liked him. I've stopped doing that. He still keeps texting me random questions just to keep our conversation going. I've tried keeping my side of the conversation blunt and nice, but he keeps texting me "So wats new? What u up to?" and also he's been saying Nom Nom Nom (like the cookie monster) and it bugs me.
I want to keep this mutual, but someone told me just by reading his texts he seems like the clingy type so I should try to avoid him.

He does seem clingy. Has he just got out of a relationship?

Someone told me that he is currently in one, but I doubt that. Especially with how much he's been focused on texting me. And whenever I don't respond for a few minutes he's like ? Or "Cool. Don't answer, watever." If he was in one he wouldn't be concerned with what I'm doing. If he just got out of one, I would think that he wouldn't be so eager to get a new girl right away. But how should I know? I'm not a guy haha.

Here's another recent example:
(It may not mean anything, but it shows how I read too much into everything.) My phone has never gotten this many texts so after he told me "What do u wanna talk about?" I said "Idk, but my phone's about to die."
He said, "That sucks. So ur saying bye? I guess?"
All I said was "soon" and he said ":(...i see."
He clearly wants to keep talking, but I'm thinking in my mind, enough already!

Lol! Well my thoughts are he likes you and he wants you all to himself and that's maybe why he gets jealous when you talk to other boys. Now do think you could handle just dropping the friendship or seeing if talking to him about it?

Yeah, I mean I'm not into getting into any relationship with him. He's nice in person and he hasn't been rude by text, but just by the way he acted today in the pool and how he keeps wanting to text me all day long is a little overwhelming especially since I've not had any experience with guys. It's hard for me not to appear through text like I just want a friendship because I hate leaving things awkward or silenced. Obviously he feels that way too, but the difference is I tell myself not to text back if there's no need to whereas he fills the silence with more questions or asks me what I'm doing. Seriously it was like he was playing 21 questions with me before. When he first started texted me he's like "So tell me more about urself! I feel like i only know a little about you." Ever since then it's like he is trying to make us seem like we have a bond because our interests are apparently all similar. I'm thinking eventually he'll say "We have so much in common and we're both going to UNCC." And then from there he wants me to himself like you said. I don't want that. I just want to let him know without coming right out and saying that I don't like him like that. I'd rather make him know I don't want to have things become complicated. I just don't know how to go about this whole thing cause I've never had to deal with guys who are into me.

You may just have to tell him. Maybe try giving him hints that you don't like him like that. And he might catch on. And just because he texts you does not mean you have to text back and if he ask's you why you didn't text him just tell him you had things to do or you were sleeping or eating. But I got to go I have school and if my mom catches me up late I'm going to get in lots of trouble. But goodluck and I will give you some more advice tomorrow! K? Bye! And I hope things go well! Goodluck! :)

So here's what happened so far today with HIM...
HE hasn't texted me at all yet (phew), but I doubt that'll last for long. During first block, we didn't really speak. I find that he has more courage to talk to me or I guess flirt to him when we aren't in person. The guy friend I was in the water with yesterday wasn't there today and he barely ever misses school.
But I remember at one point during class today when we were outside filming and his friend walked by me singing or saying a random phrase over and over, I was just like "Your friend is weird!" (all jokingly of course) and HE's like "Hey, you can't call my friends weird." In my head I was like okay??
And then towards the end of class I was sitting in this random lounge room waiting for the bell to ring along with other some other guys and girls. I was sitting on one end of the couch with a soph guy on the other and the couch sits 3. HE came in a little later and sat directly next to me and began talking to everyone around me without including me in, but he let his leg touch my knee, (I was wearing a skirt). He didn't pull away, so I shifted my leg away so it wouldn't seem like it grossed me out about the touch even though I don't like him like that. Then I heard that people were discussing how they wanted a Starbuck's drink, but how they were so expensive. I was like "Yeah, I wouldn't mind having a McDonald's frappe because they're cheaper and they're good too." I guess everyone hadn't tried it yet because no one said anything. Then HE was like "Let's all just stare at Jen awkwardly." In my mind I was like whaaat? I mean that wasn't even a weird comment at all, but it was his way of making me feel embarrassed.
He had done this one time after he first started texting me when he said he couldn't wait to go to college and party it up and how he is the life of the party etc. The next day in class he was telling his friend his plans for the long weekend and I was like "What? You aren't going to a party? I thought you lived to party," with a smirk. He said, "Um, no? I never said that." I was like "You want me to show you your text?" And he said, "There wouldn't be anything to show cause I never said that. You must have read it wrong." Ughh. It's like he wants to embarrass me in front of people and act like I'm wrong and he's right. It's so weird. I was just trying to be a friend but it's like he can't handle other guys like his friends talking to me or even my guy friend.
His personality is so hot and cold and I don't know how to handle this. Are there any warning signs I should look out for in the future to avoid this whole thing?

This guy sounds socially awkward, like he's trying to be funny and maybe people don't understand him. I know a guy like that, and he can say something sarcastic, but with no sarcastic tone, so you think he's serious. They're hard to read. Good luck. Guys like that bother me.

I would just end the whole friendship cause you may go down a road you do not want to. He embarrass you and lied. He seems like the type that would tell your secrects just cause you made him mad. Do you want a friend like that? And do you want to end the friendship?

I don't know. Is that bad? Ha. I mean I don't mind having him as a friend, but if he wants to be anymore than that I'm not going to comfortable with that. He's just not my type in all senses. I usually just go off whether they're nice or trustworthy and less go by looks, but he's neither cute or seemingly willing to be a friend by how he's back and forth between hot and cold. The fact that he only wants to be communicating nicely by texts isn't a good sign and then has his moments of shutting me out or making jokes that can put me down. If he sees that I was gullible and believed him he's all like "I was kidding okay?" He doesn't apologize cause I don't think he thinks what he says is bad.
Do you think I've led him on too long that it's too late to make him know I don't want to go out with him or anything? And if he eventually does ask me out and says how we have so much in common so we'd be a perfect fit, what should I say if I don't want to but also want to be sensitive about his feelings. I mean we're both going to the same school next year so I can't use the fact that it couldn't last anyway.

I bet there will be a ton of other people at the same school next year. I wouldn't worry too much. There will be plenty of other people there you can be friends with.

Yeah, you're right.
So at this point I doubt he'll text me at all tonight. (: Finally get a well deserved break. But if his other texts and the way he treats me were any hint, I know the break off won't last through this 3 day weekend. Maybe he realized I didn't like the way he treated me in class and is backing off. I hope so but I don't know if guys can read us girls well and can tell when we just want them to back off.

What do you think I should do if and when he texts me next? Think I shouldn't respond or since I don't mind being friends just send him even shorter texts back than I have been so that he gets bored?

Do you think he just doesn't know how to show his feelings to me? Or what?

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Yeah, you're right.
So at this point I doubt he'll text me at all tonight. (: Finally get a well deserved break. But if his other texts and the way he treats me were any hint, I know the break off won't last through this 3 day weekend. Maybe he realized I didn't like the way he treated me in class and is backing off. I hope so but I don't know if guys can read us girls well and can tell when we just want them to back off.

What do you think I should do if and when he texts me next? Think I shouldn't respond or since I don't mind being friends just send him even shorter texts back than I have been so that he gets bored?

Do you think he just doesn't know how to show his feelings to me? Or what?

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Try this. The next time he texts you send him one back that says "sorry busy" and leave it at that and see what happens. If he doesn't respect that then go your separate ways. Right now he's more worried about image then anything else.

If he texts you don't text back. If you don't he might get the hint that he hurt your feelings and that you probably don't like him like that. If you re-read your posts you kind of answered you own question. He seems like a friend you might not want to be friends with. I would just end it. I mean if you look at it the answers are there. He lies, embarasses you, and is cruel. But to me it seems like you still want to be his friend. If that's so then just talk to him.

If he texts you don't text back. If you don't he might get the hint that he hurt your feelings and that you probably don't like him like that. If you re-read your posts you kind of answered you own question. He seems like a friend you might not want to be friends with. I would just end it. I mean if you look at it the answers are there. He lies, embarasses you, and is cruel. But to me it seems like you still want to be his friend. If that's so then just talk to him.:)

I think you should go with your gut. 'He sounds a bit weird to me. You are not that into him so I would just back off.
Too much game playing and guessing for me. Creeps me out just reading this.
Leave him alone.

All right, thanks guys! I'll figure it all out. I'll just ignore his texts or say I'm busy.

I think that is a good idea.
Trust your gut.

Hope things go well for you! :)