I've been talking to some girl and we went out on my birthday , I told her I like her after 3 weeks and she told me she did not feel th same way, but still she continues to hang with me and I've only known her for a month now. She told me she still likes her ex who broke up with her about 4,5 years ago. I've talked to her ex since we go to school together and he says he would be happy if I was with her, now I want to pursaude her to date me , we have fun with one another ,she comes to my house some times, she said she like me but not as much as I do. Any idea's on what I should do

Hi, Jeha!

Is her ex currently dating someone else, please?

Thanks!

He told me he was basically in a relationship with someone else

Does the girl that you're trying to date know that?

Not sure

Maybe you ought to ask her, then.

But ibelieve she does

To be really sure, I think that you should ask her if she does.

Do you know that this girl has fun doing things with you? Also, does she actively seek you out for conversation as well as to see if there might be something that the two of you could do together?

This is what my friends think, exact quote they say I should " it" and just stop talking to her but I think she does like me bus has not let go of some one who does not want her


She asked me to accompany her to her friends youth night so she would not be bored

Does she have many female friends?

Also, have you dated other girls previously?

I apologize for all the questions! However, asking them is frequently the only way for someone answering to really get a true picture as to what's really going on.

She does not have many feemale friends, yes I've dated other girls previously, but its been a while about 4 years since

I've read a bit of previous postings by you on other threads...

Do you plan to go to a college or university to further your education?

Yes I do, but I will be on the island that I reside on and so will she

What is the primary lanquage that is written and spoken on that island, please?

Staten island ny. English

Okay.

Do you worry A LOT about whether that girl likes you or not?

Yes, like I play Xbox with her and she says that I'm like the only one she can play with, I don't exactly know what that means. She kind of gives mixed feelings

What if you spent your energy just concentrating on how to share a good time with her and having a good time with her and not worrying so much as to whether she likes you or not?

Obviously, she does like you...

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Originally Posted by Jeha

she asked me to accompany her to her friends youth night so she would not be bored

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That does not sound like a great invitation. You have to decide if it sounds good to you.:)

Well I guess I'll have to get back to you on that since its tomorrow that I'm going with her, but I did invite her to my house today to watch a movie with me and she came

I'm still here! But, someone else just came online who I've been helping for a long time concerning a business that he has.

Its OK, I'm just saying I'lll find out tomorrow

How was it when you watched a movie together, please?

Sounds to me like you are in the friends zone, and that's cool if you can accept and enjoy it. Forget about romance and holding hands though, and that may be hard for a guy wanting a girlfriend to have, hold, and kiss on.

Well it was OK we basically just sat there and watched in nothing more- but when I went out wit her Friday I was talking to her- her excuse was that she was not even sure what a real relationship consist of. I baically just told her how I felt and how I think we are wth each other but, I suggested to her to think about it( I think it was actually wrong for me say that but owell) but she did agree to thinkabout it and she told me [not to get my hopes up] sadly. Now I kind a see that I should prob just move on now you we can be friends but she's obviously not into me so owell- lol but I didask her to give me a little kiss on the cheek she did I was just messing around though. So what I think

I think you were pushing very hard for what YOU want, and not paying attention to what she TOLD you about HER feelings.

That happens when we get carried away by our own wants. We fail to take the feelings of another into account.

I must agree wit you, so do you think I should just tell her to just forget about think about it? I'm not trying to force my way on her. I also think I would find it difficult to be just friends, since I've liked her ever since I met her.

Can I get an answer for my last question