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So I was dating this guy and the other night hwe were talking and I told him about my past, which is kind of a bad one. He got mad because I didn't ttell him in the beginning. He just broke up with me because he said he couldn't trust me. I want him back. Is there any way for me to get back with him?
Why would you even want someone who cannot deal with everything about you? Get a real man, and not an immature kid, who is insecure, and can't appreciate what you have been through.
I know it was probably hard for you to tell him about your past, but your intentions were good.
Your past is the past and, if he truly loved you, he should have been able to accept that and appreciate the fact that you were being open and honest with him. Consider yourself lucky that he's gone.
You were honest,he couldn't handle it,so he broke up with you.
Consider that a lucky escape.
He is an immature kid,you can do much better.
Agree with Tal and amicon, you got off easy. Why would you want someone that is so lacking in understanding?
Time to get a real man who can deal with someone who has had a past, good bad or indifferent!
Why would you want to be with someone who can't take you for everything you are. Everyone has a past, mine's not perfect, I've done things I'm not proud of. I'll go on record that I was a player(not in the sense of dating multiple people at once but just kissing whoever and not letting my feelings get involved) and my fiancé put that aside.
If you can't put aside the one you're with past, then you don't deserve to be in their future
Well, I wouldn't want to tell someone about my past either if I knew they would judge me and break up with me over it.
Your past is your past. It has nothing to do with him and he has no business getting angry at you for it. If he cannot accept your past then he has no business in your future. You're better off without him, trust me.
WHO the hell is he to judge you? Is he innocent as a baby? I don't think so.Past is past if he can't understand this and appreciate your honesty then he's not worth it.
Thank you sooo much...Quote:
Originally Posted by AmericanGirl01
No in a way his is worse than mine... He told me that he couldn't trust me because I "kept it hidden" from him...Quote:
Originally Posted by mistyjane
Okay, I don't know if many will agree with me on this one, but this is where I stand on this.
I believe that honnesty is the best policy in a relationship. I believe that if something happened in my boyfriends past that can/will affect the relationship he and I have, or our future together then I 100% believe that you should come clean about that.
However, if things happened in your past that have nothing to do with your relationship with him then your past is really none of his concern and your not obligated to tell him anything that you don't want to.. especially if he's going to hold these things against you.
You came clean about your past, and he used it against you and broke up with you. Does that sound fair to you?
I have known nathan for my entire life and when my boyfriend broke up with me he let me cry on his shoulder and everything. Then he told me that he has liked me for the past 3 years and still does. He said he's tired of seeing me continuously hurt and that he wants to be with me after I am done getting over my ex. Should I go out with him?
Depends on how old you are. You just broke up with one guy, and here is another one already. You sure move fast.
Sounds like you want him as a rebound.
As long as you heal first and don't jump into a relationship with your friend then it may work. If you jump in before your healed you will be using him as a Rebound to heal your own pain and then he is the one that may get hurt , not a nice thing to do to a friend right??Quote:
Originally Posted by OmNomNom
And don't forget if it doesn't work you may just lose him as a friend as well , a good thing to ponder :cool:
Be with him if you really like him, not to just use him. Don't date him if you just need the comfort. In the end think deep down if this is what you want. You don't want to leave him heart broken like you are right? I mean make sure there is some feelings there at least and not just coming from him also coming from you. It goes both ways
My opinion if you have to ask others if you should date this person, the way you phrased it I would say no. You asked should you go out with him and the only reason you gave was the he let you confide in him and because he has liked you for 3 years. I didn't see anything about you liking him, I didn't see anything about a past interest in him. I think you feel like you need to go out with him to repay his debt to you, I really don't like that situation. In his mind he really doesn't care if you like him at this moment or not, he thinks that if you're treated well that you'll like it and stay. I would just heal and worry about dating other people later. It sounds like you had a rough break up... good luck
Heal from the recent breakup before you jump into another relationship.
Rebounding's not fair on the new guy.
Rebound relationships never work. If you want a good relationship you're going to have to take the time to heal from this one before you start another.
Thank you... the reason I asked is because if he asks me out I don't want to make things awkward between us if I say no.Quote:
Originally Posted by Devorameira
If he asks you out,tell him you're not ready to start dating yet.
Honesty is the best policy.
thank youQuote:
Originally Posted by amicon
Most times when we try not to be awkward, we are not honest. Be honest, and awkward can be dealt with.
Regarding my last post about that guy. He's been my friend since second grade and actually I do like him. I have liked him since 7th grade, its just for the past 2 years he has been dating my friend rose. I'm not sure what to do now that he's not with her. I really do like him but I don't wannt to ruin a good friendship.
Is this the same guy that got mad at you when you told him about your past?
You said in your previous post that you're still getting over your ex. What's the hurry to jump into another relationshp, especially when there is so much drama surrounding it?
Why don't you take some alone time to heal and reflect. If you jump into another relationship so fast you're just going to end up making the same mistakes over again. Not to mention, he dated your friend for two years. Perhaps your just looking to fill the void from your last relationship.. you're willing to settle for anyone... you're rebounding and this guy seems like an easy catch.
In my opinion, forget about this guy.. this whole situation sounds very messy.
For now, just enjoy the friendship as you get over the break up.
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