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  • Feb 24, 2010, 06:25 PM
    ramidon1995
    How to give your girlfriend space
    Threads merged and moved to more appropriate section

    My girlfriend told me today that she needed more space and I respect that and want to give her space because I love her and don't want to have her leave :( but I really don't know how to give her space please help
  • Feb 24, 2010, 08:03 PM
    suhari

    Provide space means giving your boyfriend the freedom to interact with the community. This can be done such as:
    1. let him watch a movie with coworkers
    2. let him go shopping with her girlfriends
    3. give him time to have dinner with his family
    4. given the opportunity to rest from work and not home to ask her out when she was tired
    Thanks
  • Feb 25, 2010, 01:43 AM
    dynocompe

    When your partner asks for space, you give it. TO me askign for space is basically breaking up. So I would go NO contact, and let your partner have there time to think. If they come back to youl, then you have the choice if you want to pursue it, if they don't come back to you, there loss right? And you will be much happier finding someone who wants to be with u!
    Just remember everyone needs time to themselves, and can't be smothered by there partner 24/7. Try being more independent, and having a life that doesn't always involve your partner. Always keep your friends, and the relationships with your friends strong. Have a life that doesn't involve just your partner
  • Feb 25, 2010, 09:14 AM
    ramidon1995
    I don't know how to give her more space then I already give her and I do a sport and that keeps me so busy that we only can hang out once a week or once every 2 weeks so I don't know how to give her more
  • Feb 25, 2010, 09:59 AM
    neverme

    I think that asking for space is simply that: feeling a bit smothered or as though you are losing your individual identity.

    But in light of the information that you only see each other once a week, think this girl is looking to break up.

    My advice: Talk to her, tell her that you don't see how you can give each other more space and see her as you only see her once a week.

    Tell me, what age are you? If you are very young it may be that this is all she expects from a relationship, simply the title of girlfriend and nothing else?

    Let us know.
  • Feb 25, 2010, 10:25 AM
    amicon

    Does the 1995 stand for the year you were born?
    If so the two of you are quite young,and I don't think this has so much to do with wanting space,I think she has had second thoughts about being in a relationship.

    Have a serious talk with her and ask her what she means.
  • Feb 25, 2010, 10:53 AM
    ramidon1995
    Yeah that's when I'm born and I have talked with her she says that she is starting to get annoying when I say I love you or I miss you and we have been going out for 9 months when Monday comes around
  • Feb 25, 2010, 11:02 AM
    amicon

    Well I'm sorry,but it does sound as if her feelings are changing.

    These things happen,and I would actually ask her if she wants to break up-at least that way you will know.
  • Feb 25, 2010, 11:05 AM
    ramidon1995

    I have asked that and she said she doesn't want to break up but take a break and still be going out as in complicated
  • Feb 25, 2010, 12:01 PM
    jaime90

    Space means more time alone as individuals, and less time spent as a couple. More time for her to do her own thing, to be her own person. Less contact. Just taking a couple steps back from each other.
  • Feb 25, 2010, 12:44 PM
    ramidon1995
    OK ill do that jamie
  • Mar 7, 2010, 10:31 AM
    ramidon1995
    Don't know what to do
    OK so me and my girlfriend have been going out for 9 months now and she told me that she needed space and I let her have space and we got better and yesterday it all of a sudden got really bad and I don't know what to do to save our relationship we are only 14 so were young but I like her a ton I haven't felt this way with any of my old girlfriends and I have never been able to stay going out for this long so I need to know what will help me get through this
  • Mar 7, 2010, 12:40 PM
    talaniman

    Quote:

    I have talked with her she says that she is starting to get annoying when I say I love you or I miss you
    Change the conversations back to other things, besides the sappy romance stuff. If its not to late. I mean how much more space does she need? You barely see her at all unless you're always texting, and calling. Stop that, too.

    She doesn't sound that interested to me, And I would give her plenty of space until she called me. So what if she dumps you? Do you know how many girls around you would be more than willing to share some good times with you?
  • Mar 8, 2010, 09:32 AM
    The Dark09

    Just let her hang with her friends, parents, or some people she knows.
  • Jun 20, 2010, 12:14 PM
    ramidon1995
    Don't know what to do
    Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year and we r young and neither one of us want to go really far but. Today we were watching TV and she like got on top of me and we started to makeout and I was feeling her up and we both enjoyed it is it time to go a little further was this a bad thing to do just give me your thoughts (we were both fully clothed)
  • Jun 20, 2010, 12:59 PM
    Kitkat22

    How old are you? Do you know the risk of pregnancy and STDs when you have unprotected sex?


    You say you're both young... I would guess you are way to young to have sex. Wait till you're older and you're ready for a relationship.

    I would hope you are being properly supervised... sounds like you aren't.
  • Jun 20, 2010, 01:05 PM
    redhed35

    Your 15,your too young.

    Simple as that.

    Don't put yourselves in the situation where you could both get into trouble.
  • Jun 20, 2010, 02:17 PM
    talaniman

    Keep your clothes on, and you will be all right, all of them.
  • Jun 20, 2010, 02:21 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Keep your clothes on, and you will be alright, all of them.





    Yes... Exactly!
  • Jun 21, 2010, 04:49 AM
    Jake2008
    If the two of you have gone that far, don't kid yourself that it won't happen again.

    She should be on the pill, and you should be carrying condoms.

    Telling 16 year olds not to have sex when they want to, doesn't mean squat usually.

    Your head may tell you not to, but your hormones get in the way.

    The relationship itself seems to be up and down and all over the place. Try dealing with that first, knowing where you stand, before you go any further.
  • Jun 21, 2010, 09:40 AM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jake2008 View Post
    If the two of you have gone that far, don't kid yourself that it won't happen again.

    She should be on the pill, and you should be carrying condoms.

    Telling 16 year olds not to have sex when they want to, doesn't mean squat usually.

    Your head may tell you not to, but your hormones get in the way.

    The relationship itself seems to be up and down and all over the place. Try dealing with that first, knowing where you stand, before you go any further.




    Don't let yourself be in that situation with her again. Wait till you fall in love a few years from now and even though this sounds impossible to do
    Try it.
  • Jun 22, 2010, 07:22 PM
    positiveparent

    She wants more time to do her own thing, go out with her g/friends, watch TV listen to music, hang out with the girls, just basically being who she is...
  • Jun 22, 2010, 07:24 PM
    Kitkat22

    She's telling you nicely she wants out!
  • Nov 8, 2010, 08:25 PM
    CEV1972
    Im 38 and have yet to understand this female phrase. I have yet to be in a relationship where I wanted to say such a thing to the person I claim to love. It seems irrational to say I love you and want to be with you, then, throw in the "but, I need some space...". To me this is someone who is questioning the feelings they "claim" to have.

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