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I LOVE MY English teacher, she means so much to me. Without her I really don't know where I'd be, but everyone mocks me because I love her. No one understands my feelings, I am really so sad. Why? Is it a crime to love a teacher? Oh help me I am really so sad :(
Can I ask what age you are?
A lot of teens fall for a teacher,its quite common and having crushes on teachers is all part of growing up,however in saying that,it would be unprofessional for your teacher to do or say anything to promote these feelings.
I suggest you hang out with your friends and have fun with them.
I am 16! believe me you don't understand my feelings.I love her more than anything in the world she is a mother to me.I was lost but she came to my life to guide me,she made me a better person and for her I give my all and I would die.she loves the way I love her and she is always with me!!
I am grateful to her for everything!
I'm not quite sure I understand your question,can you clarify?
I love her and she feels the same.she means everything to me.I love her since 2007 and my love for her stills the same!! my friends mock me because I love a teacher they say I am crazy AM I?
THANK U for all your care I am really happy for thisUR GREAT AND I MEAN IT!
I am so confused right now. What are you wanting from us? To find out if you are crazy?
I was brushing up on some of your other posts. You had a lot of posts concerning writing a song about a girl who loves her teacher so much. I find it very obsessive the kind of behavior you are showing.
I want to know this:is it a crime to love a teacher?
WHY don't u understand me?
No, it is not a crime but you are 16 and it is not love. It is a crush. You will have many in your life and this will pass. To save yourself some embarrassment and the teacher as well you should probably let this be as far as it goes.
YEAH I love my teacher and so what?if you see what she've done to me you won't say this at all.I am sorry for annoying :(
You are not annoying me by any means. I am just trying to help you understand some things about love and what the difference is between love and a crush. You say you love her but how does she feel? You know if she did for some reason love you too it could end her career at her school and probably every school in the country?
She loves me as her daughter she is always with me whenever I need her.I really understand the difference between love and a crush.look I just love her the way I love my mother no more!
She is like a mother to me really!
Thank you for understanding me anyway I will always be grateful!
Ok, if that is the only love you have for her then there is nothing to worry about and you shouldn't care what anyone says. You are fine with the feelings you have.
Yeah this is what I feel for her she is such an amazing teacher that no word can truly tell.I ve written to her more than 40 poems and even songs
That is very nice of you to do that. As long as you are happy then that is all that matters.
Thank u! your so good to me adam and I like this
Nothing lasts,
You said that she loves you too, that you know she does. What kind of things do you two do together? Has she told you she loves you?
There is a problem with this. If she is trying to cultivate a relationship with you, no matter how innocent it may be, she could still get into a lot of trouble.
Teachers aren't supposed favor anyone. They're there to teach, not to love.
I think there is something deeper going on and the OP should talk to a professional about it. When someone mentions help and how they did things for them and obsessive love then there may be lines crossed that aren't written here. There is a syndrom called nitightingales syndrom and it involves people becoming obsessed with those that have helped them through a struggle or through trauma.Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
And to the OP. Have you written your own mother songs and done things like you have with your teacher ?
You mean you love her as a friend/family
Or do you LOVE LOVE her as a significant other
Hello nothing:
You think your English teacher is amazing, but it ain't cause she taught you English.
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Yah you should give up on your crush it is illigal to act on it
How does your biological mother feel about this relationship?
You say "you don't know what she has done for me". What exactly has she done that is so wonderful?
You say that the other kids pick on you about this relationship? Do you share your inner most feelings with them? You should know at your age that kids jump on anything that would seem odd. So why do you let them know?
And what are you going to do when she is no longer your teacher?
She is no longer my teacher and I still love her as my best friend.I was lost and unhappy but she came to my life to show me the right way.I love her the way I love my mother no more!
I love her because she taught me english very well and she is really amazing.she is no longer my teacher but I still love her like before.it is an inocent love be sure!
Okay, I understand fully because I'm in the same problem but he's my old historey teacher. It hurts. I know that. Im still having a problem getting along in my life. But as for the people who tell you your only 16 screw them Because they won't know when your in love only you will. I do think You should wait till your 18 so she don't get into trouble. My old teacher is Married though. Ita hard because I fell as if I can't live without him. But there nothing anyone can say, this is too you her and god. Talk to your teacher. I hope for the best and any way I can help I'm here. Let me know how things go.
So your teacher took advantage of you naivety and innocence and made you rely on him to the point that you can't function in every day life because he's not there?Quote:
Originally Posted by tucker1818
You think this is a good thing?
To top it all off this man is married. Did you two have an actual relationship or was it all in your head? Because if he touched you in an way that's inappropriate, he belongs in jail.
Please do not encourage someone to fall in love with and have a romantic relationship with an adult when they're only a child. It's immoral!
I am an english teacher myself, and being quite young I know how boys tend to think. I have favourites in my class but not the relationship your teacher shares with you. Do you "love" her or lust after her? What do you mean when you say that she feels the same way about you? Believe me when I tell you that you are going to grow up and meet some body more wonderful.
SHE LOVES ME LIKE HERR DAUGHTER AND I LOVE HER THE WAY I LOVE MY MOTHER BELIEVE MEcause only her who helped me and see this song I ve written about her and then you will understand:
No one cared about what I felt
No one understood my sorrow
But you came to my life
To give me hope for a better tomorrow
No one felt my pain
When I was in the 8 grade
No one but u
This act I will never forget my whole life through
(chorus)
Thank you for everything you ve done
But do you do the same things with anyone
Thank you anyway
For being the teacher your
Your an amazing person
Your a shining star
I'm wondering what she taught you. She obviously didn't teach you proper English.Quote:
Originally Posted by nothing lasts
We don't allow text talk here, you're old enough to write in complete sentences with proper punctuation.
Well, in that case I'm happy that you had someone to guide you through your tough times. :o My favourite teacher till today is my eighth grade english teacher. Met her just last week after a long time, still love and respect her very much.Quote:
Originally Posted by nothing lasts
What happened today to change your mind?Quote:
My favourite teacher till today is my eighth grade english teacher
You said that you're an English teacher, so tell me, what's wrong with the sentence you wrote?
I'm not buying it.
While your mother tongue is english, mine is tamil. And I'm pretty sure that my english is good enough for people to understand me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
Your right! thanks for understanding me anyway!!
She taught me to be strong she taught me that life is like a train she taught me to be me she showed me that dreams come true.I really don't understand what do u want to know exactly .
Nothing lasts, the problem is not the fact that you care about your teacher, the problem is that you're obsessed with her. If anyone reads your other threads and posts, it's all about your teacher.
This isn't normal, nor is it healthy. That's why we're concerned.
Obsession is never good and you're obsessed. If you had a normal adoration for your teacher that would be fine, but the level of obsession you have isn't.
Of course you don't see it, that's the way it usually is when someone is obsessed, they don't see that it's not healthy and it's gotten out of hand.
If you show this level of obsession to this teacher then I see a restraining order in your future. The way you post about this obsession gives me chills and they're not good chills. I can only imagine how this teacher feels, unless of course she's encouraging all of this in which case my first fear would come into play, that she's using a young, naïve, innocent girl for her own means.
I know you won't agree, but those are the red flags I'm seeing.
Alty had to spread some rep but I caught that too. Really, I am only an English Undergrad and your telling me you don't see the mistake here?Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
Actually, my "mother tongue" is German.Quote:
Originally Posted by chocodrip
The fact is, you claim to be an English teacher yet you don't write like one.
For example, in this sentence, it's I'm, not I'm and English should have a capital as well.
I just find it odd that an English teacher doesn't write proper sentences.
Exactly! We all make mistakes, but every post this supposed English teacher has written is full of errors. I'm just not buying it.Quote:
Originally Posted by neverme
Also, why would anyone encourage the obsessive, potentially destructive, behavior of the OP?
Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
Read the other posts - you'll "buy it" even less!
Any student who loves a teacher as much as he/she loves his/her mother has been set up by the teacher.
I see this as a form of child abuse.
Having a MIL that is a 4th grade teacher, I almost take offense to this. Sorry Judy, no harm here. But my MIL is one of these teachers that stays with their favorite students for the rest of their lives.Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
She believes that, just as doctors and nurses take oaths to "do no harm," she took an oath, as a teacher, to mold the futures of these children, some of whom come from very unstable homes. She has bought entire Christmases for some of these children who had nothing. She's made sure they had coats on their backs in the winter and food in their bellies. Thus, some of her "children" who are now grown, still keep in touch with her, have named their children after her, etc.
So, I don't see this as child abuse, but maybe a teacher who feels the same, although the OP has become obsessed.
I don't see that the teacher has a problem, necessarily, but the OP does.
However, we cannot speak for the teacher as we don't know her side of the story.
And I had a favorite teacher, someone who actually shaped my life, encouraged me, inspired me. Your MIL sounds exceptional but I think the majority of teachers are.
This could go on all day but the OP has said that his friends mock him out because of his "love" for this teacher; he "loves" the teacher more than his mother - agreed that I am reading something more into this (something I always criticize when others do it) BUT I find it difficult to believe that the teacher is not aware of OP's feelings and along the idea of "do no harm" has a duty/responsibility to address the situation, somewhat distance herself before the OP becomes even more obsessed.
Not stepping on anyone's toes (I always wanted to teach English, that's my undergrad degree, my life went in another direction) but this seems (to me) like more than a harmless crush.
I notice the OP has 4 (or 5 ?) threads about her love for this teacher, everything from writing songs to stories and back again. This is an obsession and someone else has to see it.
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