Originally Posted by
HelpinHere
Yep, I understand the 16 year old mindset probably better than most here, as I am 17.
I understand that she must learn from her mistakes, and I wasn't trying to say she WILL become dependant here. I was trying to say that she needs to learn from both her mistakes, but her own actions too.
If we tell her what to do, she may do it and it may work. But, what if something happens again, and she can't come here, and forgets what someone said. She may get all worried and worked up thinking she will screw up more because she had Alt to tell her what to do this time, but is on her own next time.
Now, if she can do it herself this time, then she knows she can do anything herself, including talking to her boyfriend, avoiding temptation, and any other challanges she must face. If she starts with something small, like telling her boyfriend, (not exactly small, but not really big either) then the bigger stuff will get a little easier.
At least, that's the way I see it.