I'm 17 year old boy and She is 16... She said she Really likes me and wants to date me. I do want to date her too... hell she's always on my mind. The issue is that she likes this other guy which seems pretty cool but he's kind of crazy in his own way. But anyway She Likes him and me and can't decide. She said to me if we dated it would work out well... but she likes this guys too. We made out few times and they kissed too. What should I do? Should I make bring it up a notch and see what happens from there? Or should I wait and see who she choses... I think I did fall in love with her. But we are not dating its unofficial between us.

Don't waste your time. She "really likes you" but she's kissing on another guy. She's using both of you. She "can't decide" because the longer she's "deciding," the more time she has getting away with kissing on both of you.

Bah. Find someone else.

She is the closest I've ever been with a girl... she isn't using us I know her all to well to do that. I just don't know what to do about the situation still... I see why you say its time wasting but I think I have a shot... I Really want her

Then you tell her that she either makes up her mind ASAP or you're done. She can't keep you on a string like this forever.

Its only been 20 minutes when me and her talked about this... I'd give her some time to think about it

Okay, give her some time. But don't give her too much.

How long of time? A week?

A week is good. No more than that, though. Then it's just games.

OK I really thank you for this advise... but now I just don't know what to do now, I can't get her out of my mind

I think you need to settle down a notch.

This may be the only girl that you've been closest to but wouldn't your rather let her be just that instead of getting hurt?

I see her as being wishy washy-- she will only end up breaking your heart.

My advice to you is to spend time with other people as well and not focus your attention on just her and the possibility you will become an item.

If she does pick you then great, but don't treat it as if she's doing you some kind of favor.

Like I said, don't just focus on this-- girls come and go and relationships are always ready to be made-- so get busy; find your passion, if you already have one keep doing it, meet new people, hang out with friends, volunteer, get a job, look at colleges for next year...

You'll be okay.

Sarah

Don't try to convince her to pick you, for one: you want her to be with the person she genuinely wants to be with.

If you can, I think it would be best to minimize contact with her as much as possible this week. If she talks to you, okay, but keep in mind what I wrote above.

I'm sure you have hobbies and friends! Go out and keep yourself busy: try not to think about her, and don't talk about her, that'll just make it worse. Find something that you enjoy, and that's time consuming!

Thx sarah... u see since I'm so close to her now and she dates that other guy well I'm sure we won't be able to do what we do now right? I don't want it to seem like she is cheating on him then that would make her and me both look bad.

Torrid I agree with what you just said about don't push it... I don't want to push it I want her to be happy too its just that even when I do my hobbies I think about her... hell when I work I think about her. Lol the only time I don't think about it is when... u know when you dream about something and that morning you can't remember at all... well that's the only time I don't think about her.

Well, try for at least this week to put thoughts of her on the backburner. I know it's very difficult, I've been there, but it'll make it even harder, thinking about her all that time throughout the week, and her potentially picking the other guy.

Just be careful with your heart.

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Thx sarah.... u see since i'm so close to her now and she dates that other guy well i'm sure we won't be able to do what we do now right? i don't want it to seem like she is cheating on him then that would make her and me both look bad.

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There's nothing wrong with having friends with the opposite sex when in a relationship. If you are not flirting with intent, if you are not kissing or being sexual or making plans to be together then I don't see a problem-- if he doesn't like it then tough cherries. If she drops you like an old shoe because of him then she was a fool anyway, so good riddance.

:)

Sarah

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There's nothing wrong with having friends with the opposite sex when in a relationship. If you are not flirting with intent, if you are not kissing or being sexual or making plans to be together then I don't see a problem-- if he doesn't like it then tough cherries. If she drops you like an old shoe because of him then she was a fool anyways, so good riddance.

:)

Sarah

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Lol? That's funny but... I really like her like no other so all I can do is just wait...

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lol? thats funny but .... i really like her like no other so all i can do is just wait...

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Don't waste your time waiting.. sometimes someone better is right around the corner.

Sarah

There isn't any other girls that I'm interested in... so I'm SOL

He's a stubborn one, this guy is...


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Mostly you should wait for her respond.

Hey, I think this girl is just messing with both you guy. You should talk with her and tell her that its hard when she plays games like that. I think you should go out with your friends and don't show her much attention, because maybe that way she will realise that you are important ta her. But if not I'm rele sorry bouth it;)

You should tell her to choose between you 2 . Have u 2 both take her on a date or just hang out ask her which one of you does she like more. And if she say him don't get sad or nothing there plenty of more girl to pick from hope this helps. If she pick him first don't go out with her if she want you afterwards

She has to choose the one of you right? Well what I would do is show her what you can offer. Do not try and convince her you're the right one because you want her to be sure about it. Maybe cook her a meal and be very sincere. Be her shouler to cry one. Woo her.
Courtney.

Simple
If you want here then go for it.

What's the worse that could happen, nothing, what a couple of days of funny looks and akwardness, who cares.
Be clever about, if someone else is likes her also, get them out of the picture for 5 minutes, maybe using a distaction or anything.
That's the time you need.

Hang out with other girls and if she really likes you shel start getting jelous and really want you over him. There's no threat to loose him, but there's a threat to loose you and shel go after you. Best of luck.

Ha I am in the same situation. Have been "friends" with this girl for some time. She now hangs out with other guys (groups I am guessing and texts with other guys) Have been reassured not to worry about stuff like that. Am I too trusting?

Hope you figure things out man, its tough.