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Drugs and sex over me

First of all let me start by saying how ridiculous I feel for resulting in a website to get advice, but none of my friends or family can relate to me so I guess I have no other option. Im a junior high school so I'm not really a genius on this whole relationship thing. Im "talking" to this kid. We had a thing a few months back but he ended it because of multiple bull reasons. But now, he wants me back. I could go into great detail but this would take forever. Making long story short.. he is in college and he's into crazy drugs (Heroine, Exctacy, ect) and I hate that so much but he seems like he has a good head on his shoulders he has a job, he's got a lot of friends, still goes out and parties and does stuff. Hes not a total up, yet anyway. I just don't know what to do because I know that it will brake him soon, and it will brake me because I really like him. I just don't know what to think. My mind is so mixed up. I don't know if he even really likes me or if he just wants me back for sex. He seems like he genuinely likes me, but that's what I thought a few months back too... but when we talk and hang out it seems like sex is all he ever talks about. I Don't KNOWWW. . Someone help me out.

Run as fast as you can, as far as you can, from this guy. If he is into heroin it will only be time before he is stealing from his family and others to support his habit.

Luckily you know now that he is into drugs, before the relationship becomes more (marriage). Eventually, if it hasn't happened already, the drugs will be his prime interest and you will fall second or third to his addiction.

Just let him know that you may be available once he is clean and sober for at least a year.

Well he actually snorts herion.. is that different?

RUN! You can see the red flags being raised, now LISTEN to them and run for the hills. This guy is all around bad news

Its not that simple, I can't just "run" from him. Which is why I posted this thread. I need help with what to do.

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well he actually snorts herion.. is that different?

No it's not different. Heroin is heroin no matter how you do it.

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Its not that simple, i can't just "run" from him. Which is why i posted this thread. I need help with what to do.

What to do? Get him and his addiction out of your life. It's a lot simpler than it seems.

Which my advice stays the same. My fiance's ex was addicted to heroin, he "quits" all the time and it has now led him to stealing $100,000 worth of jewelry and pawned it off for $1700.

You came on here looking for someone to tell you to stick it out and help him, which is why you won't go to your parents or friends because they would agree with us.

Im sorry... did you say you were in JUNIOR High school and he is in COLLEGE??

What the h3ll are you are you even thinking with THAT? Let alone the massive drug addiction he has. Oh yeah, don't forget about the statutory rape that he seems to be okay with.

Yeah, this is a quality, stand up kind of guy. Maybe you can convince him to straighten up his life for you.

C'mon... your posts reflect more intelligence than your actions seem to

He just graduated high school bud. He starts college this year, I'm 16 if I want to its not rape.

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He just graduated highschool bud. He starts college this year, im 16 if i want to its not rape.

Depends on where you live. It very well could be rape depending on his age and the laws of your area.

You're 16 but in junior high? Doesn't junior high go to 8th grade? I was 13 in 8th grade. Things aren't adding up here.

And a 16 year old in JUNIOR HIGH!?

Okay let me make this clear. I am A JUNIOR in High school.

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Im sorry... did you say you were in JUNIOR HIGHSCHOOL and he is in COLLEGE?????

That was the FIRST thing I caught. Wow. Sounds like this guy is a real winner! He can't find anyone closer to his age?

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im not really a genius on this whole relationship thing.

You made it very clear here.

Look... he is an addict. It won't be long before he is stealing from you and your parents to support his heroin addiction.

The best advice would be to talk to your parents and get approval to date a heroin addict.

Sounds like you guys are real winners. You don't understand that in high school there are four years. FRESHMEN, SOPHOMORE, JUNIOR, AND SENIORS

Oh we got that. Make sure you use your prepositions in your sentences. They come in handy

16 and 19 are not far apart, which is not the point of this at all.

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Im a junior high school

I understand, my daughter is a sophomore. At one time I was a Freshman, Sophomore, Junior AND senior. I get it. It's how you worded it.

That doesn't change anything, he's still a drug addict.

It might not be the reason you're asking the question, but it's a red flag none the less

So I should just completely stop talking to him?

Sorry.. where I come from Junior High is 6th - 8th grade. That would have meant you were 13 - 14. Of course, where I come from there is no consent at 16 either.

Ok, regardless of that, take it from me. Heroine is a very serious drug. He may not even realize what he is getting himself into.

You cannot save him. And you cannot afford to keep him in your life because this will bring nothing but bad for you and anyone else that is in his life.

Another point... all he talks about is sex? What about you and your interests? Does he care about them at all?

I think you know the answer here.

Yes I apologize, I forgot the word in. But yeah I know what I SHOULD do. But I don't want to at all. Im just trying to find every way around leaving him.

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Im just trying to find every way around leaving him.

Why? All he's going to do is bring you down with him. Your life will be a wreck. Have your parents lock up all of their expensive items in your home otherwise they will be gone before you know it.

This guy is BAD news. Not the kind of guy a 16-year-old should be associating with. I'm sorry to say that, but it's the truth. No good can come of this. I have a cousin who has gotten into drugs like that. He's now over 30 and because he has made such poor choices, the only job he is able to hold is pizza delivery. No offense to pizza delivery people. ;)

Man this thread is moving fast...

I was in a similar situation VERY recently... similar in the way that I was in a relationship... I KNEW what the right answer was but I didn't want to believe it.

I ended it. It was hard... it still is hard. But, nonetheless, it was the right thing to do.

But he's never brought me into his drug life. He told me about it once just to let me know but he hasn't brought it up since. Im just worried.

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I ended it. It was hard... it still is hard. But, nonetheless, it was the right thing to do.

Often times, the right decisions are the hardest ones to make.

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But he's never brought me into his drug life. He told me about it once just to let me know but he hasn't brought it up since. Im just worried.

He hasn't yet, but the time will come where he will slip up, or the addiction get too strong.

You have your whole life ahead of you, don't ruin it now.

You don't need him... Honestly. He's a bad influence on you... ( taking drugs)... if he's taking them your more likely too as well. And if he seems to go on about sex all the time.. that's probably all her wants...

Don't fall for iit.. You can do so much better..

Good Look :) x

I equate drug users(especially heroin and the harder ones) as cancers, because they start with just themselves, then slowly they spread beyond control and you're left wondering "If I had caught this earlier" but by then it's too late.

Btw, if your parents don't approve, then yes, it is rape.

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the post wants to get off the subject of age and grades,cant you people help her without calling her a liar..

You really have to take all things into consideration when trying to give someone advice. It's typically called "reading between the lines" and therein usually lies the answer.

Where did it go?

I was wondering the same thing DrJ

But you guys should understand, if you really like someone. You can't help it ha. Its like no matter what gets in the way.. I'm still going to like him. And no I made it seem like all he talks about is sex. Nah its not just about that.

You keep evading the drugs issue. Aren't you concerned about that.

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You really have to take all things into consideration when trying to give someone advice. It's typically called "reading between the lines" and therein usually lies the answer.

read between the lines or interogating

No, zippit you are incorrect. Being as Drj and myself have read countless posts(evident by our post count) we have seen information that gets hidden between sentences, there are several issues here that raise red flags.

1. Drug user
2. She's 16, he's 19
3. Seems like she won't tell her parents about him
4. He talks heavily(she retracted her statement about all the time) about sex

That's four huge red flags she needs to be aware of and she is ignoring.

Okay. You said he does "all of these crazy drugs" but "still has a good head on his shoulders."

Okay. Okay. Hold on while I try to figure how exactly you think someone can have a good head on their shoulders when it's rotting away from drugs.

RUN AWAY. If you don't run away, he'll get you sucked into his bad habit, and then you'll have a "good" rotting head on your shoulders, too.