OK, Im 10. I'm going to miiddle school in August. My older friend that goes to middle school talk abou it all the time. She says she got asked out on th first day!! :eek: and I don't ant to be mean or anything but, she isn't pretty. And that makes me wonder, do guys not like pretty girls too? I'm not that pretty, well I don't think I'm pretty, and I'm a little bit chubby and so is my friend. So until my friend told me that , I wasn't worried about dating at all because I thought no one really would like me. So, my questions are,

1. What is it like to have your first REAL kiss? Will I be saying " what ever"?
2. Should I wait for the guy to ask me out? Or should 'I' ask?
3. if I was going to ask, how would I go about it?
4. When I have a Boyfriend, should I just kiss him when I want to or should I wait for the right moment. Or until he kissed me.
5. Should it be on the lips? Should it be a peck on the lips? Should it just be on the cheek?! This is so confusing! :confused:

Dates.

For actually going out on a date, should it be a group thing? Cause I would be fine with that or a date at the movies or something but just the two of us would be a little bit akward.

PARENTS
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I don't want to ask my mom if I'm allowed to have a boyfriend, because then she would be suspicious and nosy. If the awnser is yes, then that would be cool but I can't take a risk if its 'No'.

And if I go on a date, I don't want my mom to drive me cause then she'll ask who I going with. And after the mmovie, if my date goes home before me, my mom will be wondering why I'm sitting all alone waiting for her.

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Your 10. You shouldn't be dating. Period.

Like my PopPop used to say "you don't even know how to wipe yourself yet"
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Your only 10 your mother should be involved if you do go out with anybody.

Right now you are at a very impressionable age.

If you want to go out with a boy why not just go on a group outing? I don't see anything wrong with you and a few friends going bowling, to a hockey game, to the mall or having a movie night.

Your way to young for sex, so what you'd be doing with this boy is basically what you would be doing if you were friends-- hanging out.

I bet the girls that say they have a boyfriend at school only talk to their boyfriends at school and on the phone... sometimes. That in my book is not dating.

You should be open to talk to your mother about these things. I'm sure she would be more than happy to talk to you-- I bet she has her own stories to tell you.

That's my take.
Sarah

No dating until you are 16. I checked with your mom and she agrees.

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Originally Posted by mudweiser

Your 10. You shouldn't be dating. Period.

Like my PopPop used to say "you don't even know how to wipe yourself yet"

Sarah

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Its called "ask me help desk"
That didn't even awsner my questions. So it isn't helpling.

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its called "ask me help desk"
That didnt even awsner my questions. so it isnt helpling.

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Now that something I expect to be said from a child. Yes, a child. Your not even an teenager yet, and even teens have restrictions when it comes to dating!

I am helping you. Helping you from getting hurt and making bad decisions.

Sarah

Dating is full of confusion and mixed emotions. Enjoy being 10 and doing what 10 year olds do and that's just having fun without all of lifes complications.

You'll have plenty of time for all that later in your life.

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OK, Im 10. im going to miiddle school in august. My older frend that goes to middle school talk abou it all the time. she says she got asked out on th first day !!! :eek: and i dont ant to be mean or anything but, she isnt pretty. and that makes me wonder, do guys not like pretty girls too? I'm not that pretty, well i dont think im pretty, and im a little bit chubby and so is my friend. so until my friend told me that , i wasnt worried about dating at all because i thought no one really would like me. so, my questions are,

1. What is it like to have your first REAL kiss? will i be saying " what ever"?
2. Should I wait for the guy to ask me out? or should 'I' ask?
3. if i was going to ask, how would i go about it?
4. When i have a Boyfriend, should i just kiss him when i want to or should i wait for the right moment. or til he kissed me.
5. Should it be on the lips? should it be a peck on the lips? Should it just be on the cheek? !! this is so confusing!!:confused:

Dates.

for actually going out on a date, should it be a group thing? cause i would be fine with that or a date at the movies or something but just the two of us would be a little bit akward.

PARENTS
:eek:
i dont want to ask my mom if im allowed to have a boyfriend, because then she would be suspicious and nosy. if the awnser is yes, then that would be kool but i can't take a risk if its 'No'.

And if i go on a date, i dont want my mom to drive me cause then she'll ask who i going with. and after the mmovie, if my date goes home before me, my mom will be wondering why im sitting all alone waiting for her.

:confused:

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And by "dating" I don't actually mean what you think. I'm still a kid, I know that. But it's middle school. Its not like I want to date, but I could imagiine that it would feel good to be asked to be someone's girlfriend.

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And by "dating" i dont actually mean what u think. im still a kid, i know that. but it's middle school. its not like i want to date, but i could imagiine that it would feel good to be asked to be someones girlfriend.

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Okay then what is dating to you? What does being a girlfriend mean to you?

Sarah

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Okay then what is dating to you? What does being a girlfriend mean to you?

Sarah

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What is dating to me? Well that is why I'm asking these question. Dating to me might be well, going out on a date. I'm not even sure. Being a girlfriend to me is being girlfriend worthy.

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What is dating to me? well that is why im asking these question. dating to me might be well, going out on a date. im not even sure. being a girlfriend to me is being girlfriend worthy.

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Dating is when you go out on dates with somebody. You go to the movies, bowling, picnics, hiking trips, bonfires, concerts, etc.

If this is what you want to do I see no problem doing it with a group of friends. I do see a problem when it is just you and a boy alone.

As for being a girlfriend, that means being loyal, trustworthy, understanding and caring. The only difference between a girlfriend and just being a friend is the romance-- and that you are too young for.

Sarah

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Dating is when you go out on dates with somebody. You go to the movies, bowling, picnics, hiking trips, bonfires, concerts, etc.

If this is what you want to do I see no problem doing it with a group of friends. I do see a problem when it is just you and a boy alone.

As for being a girlfriend, that means being loyal, trustworthy, understanding and caring. The only difference between a girlfriend and just being a friend is the romance-- and that you are too young for.

Sarah

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I've always been self conscious. And just being asked is a confidence boost for me

Why are you self conscious? Do you think your overweight? Is it your hair? What is it that makes you uncomfortable with yourself?

Having self confidence has nothing to do with getting people's approval- if you live like that you'll never live a happy life- I can guarantee you that.

Sarah

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I've always been self consious. and just being asked is a confidence boost for me

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Well if you get asked, then you get a confidence boost and then you politely tell anyone who asked that you aren't ready to be anyone's girlfriend.

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Well if you get asked, then you get a confidence boost and then you politely tell anyone who asked that you aren't ready to be anyone's girlfriend.

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Thanks :)

YOU ARE GOING INTO 5TH GRADE! It may seem like "the thing" to do in 5th grade but relationships are adult activities and last time I checked, 5th graders aren't even through puberty yet. Please enjoy your childhood while it lasts because it goes by sooner than you think. Don't be in such a rush to grow up!

AND YES, you should always tell your parents things or else you will lose trust between each other!!

Ok well as everyone thinks this is bad idea I'm just going to give you the straight up facts. I'm only 19 and I remember being your age, you need to stop worrying first and just relax. Second of all never chase a boy let him come to you, if he wants to be with you he will figure out a way to make you aware of that. The whole first kiss thing, you will know when your ready and when it feels right. If you feel comfortable and secure enough to kiss him doing it with class, trust me your innocence has much more signifigance than you will realize in the situation. A kiss on the chick is a cute and sweet gester of affection. As for the parents thing you are only 10 and I'm sure it won't be that serious so leaving them a little out of the loop won't hurt anyone, dates will be much better on a group level at this point, it will help you see how he reacts with his friends and let your friends get to know him. Plus it will put less pressure on you to do things you may not be ready for. I hope I could help let me know if you need anything else!

Also.. for everyone else since when is there something wrong with a little puppy love. Middle school crushes are harmless.

You should kiss him yourself first, and read up on being a good girlfriend. Maybe you can create moments to have an excuse to kiss him. In middle school there are no dates. There are just walking each other to the bus and to classes, kissing before you go into class, kissing when you come out, kissing goodbye and kissing hello. It's just a lot of kissing. I have never had a boyfriend, but so many in my school do, and all you see is kissing. My friend had her first kiss when she was 11. My sister had a boyfriend in kindergarten. What ever feels right to you, you should do. Go on group dates only, so your parents won't get suspicious about sitting alone, and take a carpool. Most parents are relieved when their kids go on dates in groups instead of one on one. If you go in a group, you sneak off with him and then kiss. Then come straight back! STRAIGHT BACK! Don't spend an hour because then your friends will be suspicious also and blab on the way back home. Just go for a quick kiss, and come back. You can hold hands and hug, but when it comes to kissing, do it privately.

Also guys like pretty unpopular girls and ugly popular girls. If you are ugly, or plain, do everything in your power to become popular. If you are pretty, then you're fine. And If you date a popular guy, that automatically puts you in the popular group.

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You should kiss him yourself first, and read up on being a good girlfriend. Maybe you can create moments to have an excuse to kiss him. In middle school there are no dates. There are just walking each other to the bus and to classes, kissing before you go into class, kissing when you come out, kissing goodbye and kissing hello. It's just a lot of kissing. I have never had a boyfriend, but so many in my school do, and all you see is kissing. My friend had her first kiss when she was 11. My sister had a boyfriend in kindergarten. What ever feels right to you, you should do. Go on group dates only, so your parents wont get suspicious about sitting alone, and take a carpool. Most parents are relieved when their kids go on dates in groups instead of one on one. If you go in a group, you sneak off with him and then kiss. Then come straight back! STRAIGHT BACK! Don't spend an hour because then your friends will be suspicious also and blab on the way back home. Just go for a quick kiss, and come back. You can hold hands and hug, but when it comes to kissing, do it privately.

Also guys like pretty unpopular girls and ugly popular girls. If you are ugly, or plain, do everything in your power to become popular. If you are pretty, then you're fine. And If you date a popular guy, that automatically puts you in the popular group.

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Please watch the dates when responding to questions. This one is over 18 months old. Im sure the issue has resolved itself by now.

ALWAYS WAIT FOR THE GUY TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!! And be sure to feel confident about your body! :)

Wow your 10 you don't need to worrie about all that yet ! Plus your way too young !