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If I saw you in the store or walking down the street, thought you were pretty and wanted to approach you. What should I say to you and how would you want me to say it. I'm a little shy (but working on my confidence), not into pick up lines, just want to be myself and don't want any awkaardness :)
What would put a smile on your face?
Just talk. Try to figure out common interests. No harm in talking :)
Just be yourself. Start with a simple "hi how are you" and see where it goes from there. Most women like being approached with a simple hello instead of a pick up line.
And don't forget to smile!
Hi is a good way to start. After that just talk about something you have in common. Of course you just met so you don't really know what you have in common, but you know you have one thing in common, the place you met. Look around, find something to talk about that you can both put in some input. If you're at a store and she's looking at something. Say hi and something like "you've got good taste" or something like that.
Well since you are judging the women by how they look, you must consider the fact that they are going to judge you in the same way. You don't have to wow the girl with great lines because the fact that you are walking up to her is impressive enough. To show you risked total embarrassment by attempting to talk to her (because she could be mean or want to embarrass you) says a lot about you. So she'll be impressed by that. BUT, just like her first impression to you was her looks, YOUR first impression to her will also be looks. So confidence and what you say may not be enough. If you are going to approach girls you don't know in an unfamiliar environment (i.e mall, store, etc... ) instead of a familiar girl in a familiar environment (i.e school, work, etc... ) then prepare yourself for the worst. Because some girls might not think you are attractive. They may be flattered that you came up to them. But the may not be physically attracted to you. So make sure you take that into consideration before approaching a girl. Be realistic. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself "Could I reeeeeaaallllyyy get that girl? Or am I in over my head?" Remember. 5's don't get 10's. And 2's don't get 7's. Make sure you stay within your league. And if you want to take a chance and shoot for someone who IS out of your league then good luck. It may happen. It might not. It depends on the girl.
But after you've been given the green light, ask her about herself. Remember, YOU can up to HER. So don't finding a topic her responsibility. Have your stuff in order before continuing. What's you're name? My name is... Nice to meet you. Do you go to school around here? So do I. Blah blah blah. But don't let it carry on for too long. Remember she's out for a reason. She may need to finish shopping. Or buy something before it's sold out. Or catch up with some friends. So keep it short and then get the number.
Lol I don't think you need any more instruction than that.
Lol your right iDish. Maybe its not instruction I'm lacking maybe I'm scared someone will just laugh at me.
Maybe you think I'm talking about picking up hot girls to get dates or get a girlfriend. Although I want to, I'm not. Just having a normal conversation with a girl with no intentions. Even just smiling and saying hi has made me go jelly knees before.
Foreverblue- in your opinion do girls get hit on on a regular basis and do you think they appreciate it or think 'i wish all these guys would stop hitting on me all the time'
Just a thought?
I know this thread is only for girls...
But mr anonymous, here's a tip...
You should actually ask GUYS that question, and see what worked.
Sure, you can ask the store owner which product works best... but getting suggestions from the people that actually USE the product may be even better.
This works for me... about 95% of the time. Sure, I don't always get their number... but they at least talk to me, get my name, and I get their names, and we have a nice, short chat.
Are you ready for this method?
It's..
(walk straight. No need to stick chest out, but at least have good posture)
(smile on your face)
(walk up to the girl)
Hi, how are you? I'm ______ (insert name here).
And then depending on the situation, you vary it up a bit... if it's a girl at school, "Can you believe that test?!?" if it's a girl at work, "How's your week going?"
etc. etc. etc.
Why does she have to be pretty?
That is a very good point. That's why guys usually find a girl attractive. We are very much stimulated by what we see.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
'pretty' in my eyes may not be the same as pretty in sombody else's eyes...
Very true. But then again, girls are also attracted to guys in the same way. Without knowing anything about that person, what else do you have to go on?
Eyes. It's the eyes.
Ah, for me, it's the teeth.
Teeth are good, shows how much a person likes him or herself, but the eyes are the windows of the soul. Eyes that squinch up a little when the person smiles.
Eyes?Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
How about good eyes and teeth?
Obviously, eyes matter too... but really, for me, the teeth does it. If I don't like your teeth (doesn't mean they have to be straight and sparkly... I just have to like it), then... sorry.
Ahah big a smile showing off your teeth and say hi! Start with that an dif she says hi back start of a conversation ! TRUST ME!! Keep it short and cute! Smiles made girls always smile back! Aaha
Haha smile and wave boys, smile and wave
Maybe I have to learn to soften my face more. Sometimes when I'm dwelling on something serious. I tend to scrunch up my face a bit. I guess its not a good look :) :s
And when she talks, LISTEN, and ask questions to keep her talking. Women love to think the guy is actually listening to them talk. Make good eye contact without staring, and make noises like, "Oh, wow!" and "How interesting!" and "You don't say!" and "Hmmmm" and "Oh?" You can bore her later with all your own adventures once you've captured her heart.
I learned, from a young age, that the best way to get a woman to start talking to you consists of the four magic words:
How was your day?
... it's a 40 minute speech.
Hmm.. Well I think if a guy came up to me randomly in the street I probably would be a little like Okaaay who is this guy. But its never happened to me lol and I think if your genuine it would probably go your way. I mean why not go speak to someone spontaniously. You never know who you could meet. Go for it what's the worst that could happen? I know ask them for directions then ask them to take you there haha, like a café and invite them for coffee to say thanks for showing you the way :P
The best thing to do is start with Hi.Then say who you are and tell me I'm pretty... then just move on... say what you really want to... ask me on a date... but don't be afraid of rejection... its a part of life.Quote:
Originally Posted by mr anonymous
This goes for guys and girls both. Most of us would rather talk about ourselves than anything in the world. If you can get her started, and then really listen to what she says and use that to ask more good questions, you may never get her to shut up. The trick is not to come off as just being nosy in the beginning.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
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Originally Posted by AsClOsEaSiTgEtS
Yeah I guess rejection is a part of life...
What id want you to say is...
Hi I saw you from over there and was wondering if you'd like to get to know each other a little better?
And if you're as shy as you say you are say this...
Hi I was wondering if you'd like to talk sometime? Maybe over (put preferred form of communication here)
Just smile at her then think of
A product in the store pretend you don't know
Where it is and go up to her and ask for her to help you find it
She'll think your sweet instead of a pervert
Calling her names
:)
Just talk to me, and if you like how I look just say it. All girls need a compliment, and you could be the person to turn someone's whole day around just by doing so. :)
Don't just go up to a girl that you are physically attratcted to because you are going to miss out on all the girls who have great personality's. The best place to meet someone is at a youth group where you can talk comfertably and learn about each other. I no that this may sound sexists but you're the guy and most girls believe in the 'guy asks the girl' rule. I myself do because if the guy is to chicken to make the effort and take the risk to come up and talk to me than I don't think he's worth the heart-ache. As girls though it is our responsibility to let you guys know that we are interested in you. Anyway make small talk and remember to be polite. Us girls actually like it when a guy asks us what we are interseested in and not talk about guy stuff because us girls (most) aren't really into that stuff. Hope this helped
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For me it depends are you hot if you are go for it tell her she looks good . If you think your not try the friend approch say something like do you go to my school I think I ve seen you around try a converstion starter
I'm a dictionary now let me put some words in your mouth
Just act normal and if I happen to look at you give me a smile that puts off a vibe that your nice because most guys don't smile and go for someone you know a little better because guys that just pop out of nowhere are like fake
Thanks
"you have beautiful eyes u know that"_ it'll make me feel comfortable and give me a heads up that you would like to get to know me_ but remember stay cool calm and collected when approaching a girl
Say hi introduce yourself or ask a question relating to were ever the girl is and try to start a conversation
Just be yourself. Ask herhow she's doing. And cheesy pick up lines, depending on them, will make her laugh. Just walk up to her, and talk as simple as that.
Be spontaneous ! :)
I'm not forever blue, but when I was younger it was definitely the latter. Always getting hit on by guys that were not interesting to me. I definitely wished they'd stop.Quote:
Originally Posted by mr anonymous
They often did not smile either. One time a guy started staring at me on the bus, kind of glaring and wouldn't take his eyes off me, like he owned me. I was 16 and kept glancing at him and them looking away anxiously. I finally gave him that short teenage stare that says, stop staring at me. So, he leaned toward me and said "Smile, b****."
Oh, yeah, I really wanted to smile for him then. :rolleyes:
If I smiled chiks would run away lol:D. I mean I don't disrespect them or anything. For me to smile, someone needs to crack a joke. And honestly my fake smile looks scary...Quote:
Originally Posted by hertaylor
Anyway-you know how they say "be your self" well the guy who sad that knew what they were talking about so just be yourself.
-cheers
Haha if you have a sense of humor you could pull off a cheesy pick up line and run with it..
Excuse me.. how much does a polar bear weigh?. enough to break the ice.. I'm so and so, you caught my attention haha
If the girl has a sense of humor too she would enjoy that. Just be sweet :)
OK first piece of advice
1. don't say were HOT say were beautifull
2.just talk normally
3.follow first 2 advices
Girls have different opinions about that guy walking down the street, don't over complement (like "nice shoes, nice hair, nice shirt, you have pretty eyes, you have a pretty smile" all at once) just be yourself and maybe break the ice by complementing her ( just ONE subject! Not a whole bunch) maybe find out what you two have in common like favorite movies then if you were talking about movies ask her if she wanted to go see a movie sometime. Remember, the nice guy always gets the girl, that's just my opinion.
Good luck! :)
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