I hate life... my 7 year old little brother has a tumor in his brain stem and will probably die... my 12 year old little brother is abused by my real mom... and he's a jerk to me! My dad is always mad... he has anger management issues... if he gets mad he will hit me.. my step mom is only 15 years older than me! And she's a royal!! My 15 year old sister tries to control everything I do! She's like a MAJOR christian... and if I cuss she gets PISSED! And my little 10 year old sister pretty much runs my life... I have to do what she says because ill get in trouble for saying anything mean to her... she is my step moms child! And my other little sister who is 4 is the biggest brat you will ever meet in your life! And my 2 best friends Erinn and Christie are the only people I trust... at times I don't even trust Christie... shes a backstabber and she likes to bail on me and erinn! Me and erinn are planning to run away when we turn 17 and go live in North Carolina where she used to live... we live in Texas right now... and there are like 600 people in my town.. and all the guys are jerks! Everyone of them is a jerk... there are NO nice guys in my class.. there were 4 michael keena tj and justin... my best guy friends but they all moved... my life is just not going to good... and at times I just want to die! The only thing that makes me want to live is knowing that erinn will always be there for me! She is my bestest friend ever... and she might be moving... im really sad about that! I mean who am I going to get drunk with if she moves!? Anyway... I just really hate my life... and I need someone to talk to... preferably someone my age!!





Ps. I REALLY want a boyfriend but all the guys are jerks to me! What do I do about that??

Sweetie sounds to me like you've got anger issues. First you need to realize that life throws some unfair curve balls that you just got to deal with... second I think you need to start going to church with your sister, form a support group, I tell you what I had a lot of anger and pain but I tell you the moment I asked Jesus to help me he worked everything out I tell you sister there's power in prayer!

Ever since my uncle died... I won't set foot in a church...

Did the church kill him?

No but... there is 1 church in my town... and the last time I saw my uncle (who pretty much raised me when my parents weren't around) was when he was laying in a coffin in that church and every time I go in there I break down crying... and I want to kill myself!!

Hunny, I know it's hard losing someone your close to trust me I've been there lost plenty of people but it was just their time to go and he is in a much better place I know it's hard to imagine but he is. God will heal any pain and anger you have and given the chance he will show you what your calling is and deliver you from the hell your living through I promise. You just need to get a grip there is much more in this life then you and your struggles if you can't get through this now then how are you going to survive when things get worse?

I don't even know if there is a god... if there was a guy who controlled everything... and he loves us SOOO much... why would he make7 year old little boy whose never done anything wrong in his life get cancer... why would he do that? Why would ANYONE do that!
Why would he make my life a living hell! Why would he let my mom be a stripper and a hooker and let her get 4 abortions! I'm lucky my dad wouldn't let her have an abortion with me! Why would he let a 12 year old little boy be beat and thrown up against a wall and through a window because he spilled a glass of water!? There is no god!! People need to stop saying there is!! There is no proof that there is a god!!

Without suffering there could be no compassion and without saddness there would be no happiness... The devil puts obsticals in our way the only way they can be removed is by God... Trust me just try and see you'll know there's a god... I went to a revival a few weeks ago in Lakeland FL you can watch it every night on GODTV while I was there I saw a boy who had never seen before.. he had been bllind since birth, just a defect he went to this service and the spirit was there, he was healed and saw for the first time that night, I saw a man who had melanomia which is the worst skin cancer people usually die from it... he had black spots all over his skin... the whole church laid hands on him and prayed for healing and I'm telling you I saw this the black cancer fell off right there in the middle of service and he was healed!! There's POWER IN PRAYER!! If there's no God how do explain these things God wants a part in your life he wants to make your life better.

OMG this girl needs a lot more than some preaching about going to church. I do believe in God, and believe that she should go to church as well, but this is not going to solve what is going on in her life right now.

First of all, you should not be getting drunk at age 14. I know this girl is your "bestest" friend in the whole world, but if you two were true friends to each other, you wouldn't be drinking alcohol with each other. You are 14, unfortunately, friends in life come and go. Sometimes you stay in touch, sometimes you don't. That's life. Don't base the meaning of your life according to where your best friend is. It is YOUR life, not your and hers together.

You need counseling. Period. Talk to a school counselor-an ADULT, someone in your family-AN ADULT or someone who can actually help you to weigh out your options. Running away, and drinking alcohol. You are 14-At age 17 you most likely will have gone through some major changes/events in your life-different than what you are going through now.

No doubt you are going through some hard times, but if you talk to someone, not only can you save yourself, but you can save the life of your sibling(s) who is being abused. That alone is something that can make you feel good about yourself, your situation, and to help you feel as if you have made a difference.

Start from there, stay in counseling, keep yourself strong. You are at a hard age in life-and are living a hard life as well, and things will be/seem unfair -but if you do this, you will succeed, you WILL make it, and you will overall be the better person that right now you think you could never be.

HAHA you've obiously never seen what God can do... He's better than any counseling... He's the answer to all of our problems

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HAHA you've obiously never seen what God can do... He's better than any counseling... He's the answer to all of our problems

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God doesn't just reach down and cure us, or solve our problems.

He gave us a brain and free will so that we could, through him if we are so inclined, make our own decisions, solve our own problems, and seek help when we need it.

She needs counseling, and if she wants to ask God to help her with that, OK.

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HAHA you've obiously never seen what God can do... He's better than any counseling... He's the answer to all of our problems

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I apologize in advance if I am out of line, but I think YOU need counseling.

This girl has a lot of issues that she needs assisted with and all you can do is tell her to pray and all her problems will be solved. Not that your advice is wrong or bad, it is quite good in fact, but it is inaccurate in my opinion as right now, as she does not even know if she believes in God.

She's asking help for her problems, not her religion.

I do not believe in religion that is what drives people away from God... He created us and trust me he can solve any problem. There is nothing he can't do he is a BIG God. If he can create this whole complex world and everything worked out great then he can do anything.

Anyway... I just really hate my life... and I need someone to talk to... preferably someone my age!!


I think that right away you should call this number: 1-800-448-3000
Boys Town National Hotline

(Not Just for boys)

Teen & Parent Crisis Hotline - Suicide, Depression, School & Abuse Help

The Boys Town National Hotline is a 24-hour crisis, resource and referral line. Trained counselors can respond to your questions every day of the week, 365 days a year. We can help teens and parents with suicide prevention, depression, school issues, parenting troubles, runaways, relationship problems, physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, chemical dependency, anger and much more.

Any problem anytime... the Boys Town National Hotline is here to help. In 2007, more than 500,000 children and families were helped through the Boys Town National Hotline, including more than 38,000 youth who made calls where hotline staff intervened to save the caller’s life or provide therapeutic counseling. Over the past decade, more than 7 million callers have found help at the end of the line.


These people can help you

Shirley

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i hate life...my 7 year old little brother has a tumor in his brain stem and will probably die...my 12 year old little brother is abused by my real mom...and hes a jerk to me! my dad is always mad...he has anger management issues...if he gets mad he will hit me..my step mom is only 15 years older than me! and shes a royal !!! my 15 year old sister trys to control everything i do! shes like a MAJOR christian...and if i cuss she gets PISSED! and my little 10 year old sister pretty much runs my life...i have to do what she says because ill get in trouble for saying anything mean to her...she is my step moms child! and my other little sister who is 4 is the biggest brat you will ever meet in your life! and my 2 best friends Erinn and Christie are the only people i trust...at times i dont even trust Christie....shes a backstabber and she likes to bail on me and erinn! me and erinn are planning to run away when we turn 17 and go live in North Carolina where she used to live...we live in Texas right now...and there are like 600 people in my town..and all the guys are jerks! everyone of them is a jerk....there are NO nice guys in my class.. there were 4 michael keena tj and justin...my best guy friends but they all moved........my life is just not going to good...and at times i just want to die! the only thing that makes me wanna live is knowing that erinn will always be there for me! she is my bestest friend ever...and she might be moving.....im really sad about that! i mean who am i gonna get drunk with if she moves!?!?! anyways.....i just really hate my life...and i need someone to talk to...preferably someone my age!!!!!





ps. i REALLY want a boyfriend but all the guys are jerks to me! what do i do about that???

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I think I can help you find other teens to talk to about your problems.


TEENS WITH PROBLEMS: Talk to a Teen Help Representative Now

Please Call the Toll Free Phone Number Below

Ask for
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And mention the
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There is also a girl named Stacey that is 16 and has a site on Yahoo sites that I think you might like to visit.

The web address is: Teens-Talk : Teens-Talk

Here is what she says on her site:
Description

Hey my name is Stacy and I am 16 years old. I wanted to start a group where teens can come and talk about their problems, the system, God, whatever you want. You don't even have to talk about anything if you don't want too.
You can just join and maybe you will see something you like and I hope it might help you

You asked for other teens to talk to... hopefully this will help.

Shirley

First you need to see what is wrong in your own life, since you can not change what others do or say. Fourteen year olds first don't get drunk and go out drinking, and often our outlook of what other people seem ( like jerks) change when we change our outlook and how we live our own lifes.

If a parent is physcially abusing you, report them, period, no second thoughs about that.

In the one defense, yes we need to seek out counseling, seek out help for abuse, but then God can reach down and change our lifes at one swoop, does not happen often but does happen at times.

I called CPS on my mom but they just went and talked to her... and then they left and she like went crazy on my brother... not ever calling them again!

You are correct CPS is a joke!

If you can't talk to anyone else talk to your counselor at school. The school has a lot more pull than you would think and the counselor is there to help you.

You can depend on only one person in life... yourself! If you want it to be different, you must make it happen.

Find a job even if it is delivering papers or mowing lawns. Join a boys and girls club or similar event at a Rec center. Visit the elderly in a nursing home. Sit in a park and draw pictures. What ever interests you, find something and become involved in it. (no drinking is not getting involved). Cleaning up trash is getting involved.

You will find when you are involved in an interest, activity or community you find no time to dwell on things that you cannot change. You cannot change your environment, you cannot change your mother, but you can change yourself.

It sounds like you don't like yourself or anyone else right now. Become the person you want others to be and you will slowly see your life change around you.

Find a different church to go to if that one has bad memories. Try volunteering or going to a non denominational church like the Salvation Army. You can become involved in activities through the new church and meet other young people your age... boys go to church!

Become a mentor for your brother.. do you want him to feel like you do? He needs you to be strong for him and a role model. Believe me he will copy your actions and follow in whatever footsteps you are walking.

If things get bad, take your brother to the park, go to the library for a little while until the situation is defused. Leave, take your brother and just go for a long walk. I always found that worked quite well. If you are not there you cannot be in an abusive situation. Just disappear when the situation is ugly and when you return it is not so bad. You won't be young forever.

Start really studying hard at school and perhaps you can get a scholarship to college and than you will pretty much be on your own. If that doesn't work as soon as you are 17 you can get a job and get your own place and maybe attend some type of technical school or training so you will be on your own.

It is called growing up and becoming a responsible adult. Life isn't a given to anyone. If you want life to be better than it depends on one person... YOU... to make it happen.

Shirley

Hey there, you have your 14 year life full of a lot of challenges. I agree, you need to find an adult you can trust, sounds like your whole family is having a hard time.
But, you are the one asking for help, I want you to look up in your phone book and find a woman's group that deals with domestic violence. They don't know you and they will know where to find the right person for you to talk to, just tell them that you need help.
If you feel that you are afraid of sharing some of this information, usually there is a crisis line, and you can call annomiously and spill your guts, they should have the resourses to help you find the right person to talk to, don't be scared, you can even figure out how to block your number if you are concerned about someone stepping in that you don't want, but you are doing the right thing, reaching out, don't give up. Sometimes life just sucks and we all need someone to guide us, all of us need help from time to time.
Be careful, but call someone. If you can't find the phone number, tell me what city you are in and I will find one for you. Be strong, I can tell you are already a strong young woman, and you need someone to talk to.
Sending you a hug,
Michele

I'm not 14 but I'm a youth pastor at my church and I'm around 14 year olds all the time. Many of them have been abused and hurt by their parents and/or siblings. It's important first to realize that you're not responsible. You can't help the family you were born in. You can't fix your family. What you can do is change who you are. You make some good points about why there isn't a God but the reason many of the bad things in happen in life is because God gave us free will. Now you can choose to just forget about God and do things your own way or you can try out this God thing. It helps. I tell my girls at Church all the time that it takes more than just asking God for help... you have to meet him half way.

Man that sounds like my life... my life is messed up my mom left and my aunt took care of me wit my 2 sisters but she already had 3 kids so she had to send my sisters to the children's aid... n I haven't seen them since I'm 15 now and I talked to them once... I left when I was six... running a way is never the answer bt if you have to make sure its ful proof... please reply and ill c your options thst you cann take 3 years is along time... I'm @ [email protected] be care ful... n good luck :) may god be with u... if you get a boy friends you can probably live wit him... but don't rush itt

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Good Luck

Holy I'm so so so sorry... :( wow your very strong... u to gudd luck

If you have so many problems like this at home it seems a good idea to find somewhere else to live for a while, like help_ful101 said. Not permanently of course, just maybe it'll be a wake up call for your family to see how hard things are for you. Have a talk with Erinn and her parents, she seems like she'll understand.
And about the drinking - I can see why you do it and I know a lot of 14 year olds who do, but it's really not worth it, there are so many other ways to have fun and forget problems without damaging your body. The odd drink is fine but it seems you're a regular binger, which, as you probably know, will lead to serious health issues in the future. Maybe join a youth club, or do some afterschool activities. This will also lead to you getting a larger group of friends so you aren't so dependent on Erinn, and maybe even new boys ;)
Siblings always are guna get on your nerves. That's what they're there for :) If you have a talk with the older ones, who'll understand you, maybe you can get across how sad they're making you. This is really important.
I don't really know what I can say about your sick brother, I'm really sorry and I wish you all the best of luck, it sucks that some people get a bad hand in life but if you stay strong you can work through it :)

Ps I'm 16 so hopefully I count as your age :)

This lass isn't wanting some faith trip she's wanting advice... and not from 2 millennia ago. Look KT lifes a , I was abused at a young age, I've had mates die when I was 3, 4, and 5. then my nan died at 6 and then another mate and my dad at 9. and then at 16 I found out I was pregnant. Since I had my daughter lifes turned around... DON'T GET PREGNANT... its not easy and it really isn't a way out. The reason it helped me is because the responsibility took me out of a very bad depression, started by drinking. Things will start looking up for you love and eventually, if its what you want, you will be able to go back to church, I managed to.

I hate to break it to you all, but "this lass" hasn't responded to this thread in about a month, which is kind of worrying considering the content of the question, and how many answers she's gotten, not even considering the 10-ish PMs we all know have been sent to her. And by "kind of," I mean "very." Either way, posting further responses doesn't look like it's going to do much. Good luck, wherever you are, Occifer KT.

Im sorry if I am no help because I am only 12, but I feel really sorry for you.

Sometimes, yes, life sucks. Your getting all of lifes suckyness now. Im sorry but I have no idea what to do about your family :( you could try to go to your best friends house most of the time? Also if there's no nice guys in your yr - its better to be single. TRUST ME. You'll end up hating them more in the end once you break-up with them. I think the best thing you can do though- about your family- is just pray and pray and pray to God.

Gd Luck and Best Wishes,

MeMeMoo =]

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i hate life...my 7 year old little brother has a tumor in his brain stem and will probably die...my 12 year old little brother is abused by my real mom...and hes a jerk to me! my dad is always mad...he has anger management issues...if he gets mad he will hit me..my step mom is only 15 years older than me! and shes a royal !!! my 15 year old sister trys to control everything i do! shes like a MAJOR christian...and if i cuss she gets PISSED! and my little 10 year old sister pretty much runs my life...i have to do what she says because ill get in trouble for saying anything mean to her...she is my step moms child! and my other little sister who is 4 is the biggest brat you will ever meet in your life! and my 2 best friends Erinn and Christie are the only people i trust...at times i dont even trust Christie....shes a backstabber and she likes to bail on me and erinn! me and erinn are planning to run away when we turn 17 and go live in North Carolina where she used to live...we live in Texas right now...and there are like 600 people in my town..and all the guys are jerks! everyone of them is a jerk....there are NO nice guys in my class.. there were 4 michael keena tj and justin...my best guy friends but they all moved........my life is just not going to good...and at times i just want to die! the only thing that makes me wanna live is knowing that erinn will always be there for me! she is my bestest friend ever...and she might be moving.....im really sad about that! i mean who am i gonna get drunk with if she moves!?!?! anyways.....i just really hate my life...and i need someone to talk to...preferably someone my age!!!!!





ps. i REALLY want a boyfriend but all the guys are jerks to me! what do i do about that???

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Im not going to preach to you or tell you or your f***ing up nor do I think god will solve yours problems. You need to solve your problems. By the time I was 14 I had tried many drungs and drank most weekends. But your life is what you make of it. And yes I do think you need to talk to someone... Your still young and have a good chance to find yourself. I do think finding an activity that you enjoy could help such as dancing, horseback riding, soccar, dirt bike riding ANYTHING were you can refocus your anger into something positive and replace the alcohol. I understand it, it is a chance to go to your "happy palce" and escpae the harsh realities of life. But you can find a sober "happy palce" And siblings are usually there to tourture you. My brothers were so mean to me as kids but now that we have all grown up you cannot find three closer siblings than us. As far as your father goes if he's beating on you than maybe you need to go into foster care until he can fix himself. Oh by the way boys suck. Lol. Don't worry too much about that right now you have a lot of time to deal with boy drama. I hope this helps a little.

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I hate to break it to you all, but "this lass" hasn't responded to this thread in about a month, which is kind of worrying considering the content of the question, and how many answers she's gotten, not even considering the 10-ish PMs we all know have been sent to her. And by "kind of," I mean "very." Either way, posting further responses doesn't look like it's gonna do much. Good luck, wherever you are, Occifer KT.

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No need to get nasty, I'm only a kid myself. And anyway a lot of other things could've happened mr pessimist

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i hate life...my 7 year old little brother has a tumor in his brain stem and will probably die...my 12 year old little brother is abused by my real mom...and hes a jerk to me! my dad is always mad...he has anger management issues...if he gets mad he will hit me..my step mom is only 15 years older than me! and shes a royal !!! my 15 year old sister trys to control everything i do! shes like a MAJOR christian...and if i cuss she gets PISSED! and my little 10 year old sister pretty much runs my life...i have to do what she says because ill get in trouble for saying anything mean to her...she is my step moms child! and my other little sister who is 4 is the biggest brat you will ever meet in your life! and my 2 best friends Erinn and Christie are the only people i trust...at times i dont even trust Christie....shes a backstabber and she likes to bail on me and erinn! me and erinn are planning to run away when we turn 17 and go live in North Carolina where she used to live...we live in Texas right now...and there are like 600 people in my town..and all the guys are jerks! everyone of them is a jerk....there are NO nice guys in my class.. there were 4 michael keena tj and justin...my best guy friends but they all moved........my life is just not going to good...and at times i just want to die! the only thing that makes me wanna live is knowing that erinn will always be there for me! she is my bestest friend ever...and she might be moving.....im really sad about that! i mean who am i gonna get drunk with if she moves!?!?! anyways.....i just really hate my life...and i need someone to talk to...preferably someone my age!!!!!





ps. i REALLY want a boyfriend but all the guys are jerks to me! what do i do about that???

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I'm 12 my life kind of sucks too I turned to emo friends and eye liner and a lot of black but if that's not for you just find that one special friend that you can lean on for support someone you can talk to. Hope everything works out

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i hate life...my 7 year old little brother has a tumor in his brain stem and will probably die...my 12 year old little brother is abused by my real mom...and hes a jerk to me! my dad is always mad...he has anger management issues...if he gets mad he will hit me..my step mom is only 15 years older than me! and shes a royal !!! my 15 year old sister trys to control everything i do! shes like a MAJOR christian...and if i cuss she gets PISSED! and my little 10 year old sister pretty much runs my life...i have to do what she says because ill get in trouble for saying anything mean to her...she is my step moms child! and my other little sister who is 4 is the biggest brat you will ever meet in your life! and my 2 best friends Erinn and Christie are the only people i trust...at times i dont even trust Christie....shes a backstabber and she likes to bail on me and erinn! me and erinn are planning to run away when we turn 17 and go live in North Carolina where she used to live...we live in Texas right now...and there are like 600 people in my town..and all the guys are jerks! everyone of them is a jerk....there are NO nice guys in my class.. there were 4 michael keena tj and justin...my best guy friends but they all moved........my life is just not going to good...and at times i just want to die! the only thing that makes me wanna live is knowing that erinn will always be there for me! she is my bestest friend ever...and she might be moving.....im really sad about that! i mean who am i gonna get drunk with if she moves!?!?! anyways.....i just really hate my life...and i need someone to talk to...preferably someone my age!!!!!





ps. i REALLY want a boyfriend but all the guys are jerks to me! what do i do about that???

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Everyone has problems I know by me saying that is not giving you a conclusion to yours but the things you go through as a person just makes you stronger unfortunately your only fourteen years old and you need to be with an adult your to young to be on your own. Do you have any aunts or grandparents that might be willing to take you in? If so I would ask them if not just pray and keep living your life the best way you can you can't control how other people act but you can control you so just take it easy and hopefully things will start to get better for u

U don't need a boyfriend right now because that would only add to your headaches cause boys your age want sex and they will get it by any means necessary even if they are in a relationship they will seek sex anywhere and you don't need to be crying and stressing cause he's cheating just take it easy

Just talk to your step-mum and dad telling you you want to run away. That might stop them from being so mean. Talk to your brothers and little sister as well. I have a 8 year old little brother who gets on my nerves the whole time trying to wind me up. I have know talked to him saying I'm now grown up I have4 my own life so don't control it as he used to control mine as well. I learned to love him more after he stopped eating after a bowl infection and had servere anerexia, but now my life is happier. Erinn sounds like my friend polly. I also have a friend calledJAde who is like christine and we have just split up today over a huge argument as she always attention sought. Try and go to church as it can sometimes clear your mind. Talk to the school they may help you with any moving problems as all of your friends have moved, and maybe you could change schools and meet new boys. I thought I would never have a nice boyfriend, but since I moved schools I have found a really nice one.
Good luck in all of your problems!

I think the counseling will help you in the long run. If u had sumone to tlk to about your problems then maybe you would feel better. Trust me... ive seen my mom down like you and she did try to kill herself.. that's not the way to go. Get some counseling and help get your brother away from the abuse... u can make a difference. I wish you the best of luck.

It's OK to be mad at your dad, but if your saying you wan't to die then you need to go and think about what you will be missing. If you die then who will your friend be able to hang out with (if she does not move), and you should be hanging out with your little brother because he may not have a lot of time left. I hope this will help!

Well I am your age, I am 16 and I have had my fair share of problems in my short life too. I think you need to find someone to talk to and if you are not comfortable talking to an adult you can email me at any time you like [email protected]
I have had my share of problems as I said and I have felt exactly how you feel but I did find help and I could tell you about what I did. I do not want to broadcast it on here so if you would like email me and we can talk. I am not a religious person at all and I would really like to help you if I can. I hope to hear from you and help you

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I meant to disagree..

Heyy there
I'm fourteen as well, I live in London and my life isn't so perfect either..
But no doubt about it, you are going through a difficult time in your life but sometimes in life, you have to overcome those challenges. I mean yesterday was history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift. That's why they call it the present. Think positive! I know it isn't going to be easy but in the end, it's going to be worth it, don't die before you've lived.

So silly