All my m8s no I am and they got no probz but I don't know... in some ways I fell I am and in others I don't feel like it :( can anyone help me on this..?
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All my m8s no I am and they got no probz but I don't know... in some ways I fell I am and in others I don't feel like it :( can anyone help me on this..?
First, please write in full english so everybody can understand what exactly you are saying.
As far as if you personally think your bi sexual. Then maybe you are. Do not let your friends influence on how you think or feel. Is this something you feel on your own?
If so then maybe you are? At the same time many teenagers go through a period of experimentation but does not make them gay or bi or whatever.
In another formus I thought that you were having problem with your girlfriend?. and now suddenly bi?.
The other 1 is done I've finished with her, and I have been think I have been bi for the last year
What kind of help do you want? What specifically are you looking for here?
If you are truly bi-sexual, then that is your nature. Does it disturb you or are you at peace with this? Are you worried about what others may think of you? Are you concerned about balancing a relationship with a female and a male at the same time?
What really do you expect from the members here?
I once thought I was bi-sexual, but after a few months I stopped and turned to being completely straight.
But it doesn't matter if you are or not, you said your friends accept it, so what's the problem?
Many males have various thougts and some fantisies about other males as they are growing and developing into being a adult, often these are far from being bi or homosexual but merely part of the development and too many times are misunderstood for something they are not.
As you grow and develop you will come to grasps with who you are and what you are.
The problem is this guy likes me and if I turn ouut not to be bi he will probz hate me for eveer and he is 1 of me m8s :(
Are you interested in him? Is he definitely gay/bi (I mean this as in is he sure or is he having mixed feelings like you?)?
Please Write this in complete english and I might be able to answer you, but I honestly think that you already know the answers within but never deeply look at them because your afraid to.Quote:
Originally Posted by mackythehacker
Jesushelper,
I think he's trying to say "the problem is this guy likes me and if i turn out not to be bi he will probably hate me forever and he is one of my mates."
You will know if you bi sexual or not. If you are sexually an emotionally atrracted to both males an females you are a bi sexual an its nothing wrong with that. As far as liking your friend goes just let him know that right now your not sure about your sexuality. If he really likes you he will wait an maybe even help you figure out what's going on.
Hello macky:
Cool. That means you have twice as many possible bed mates.
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The problem is this guy likes me and if I turn out not to be bi-sexual he will probably hate me, and he is one of my friends :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Jesushelper76
I'm sure he won't HATE you for not being one.. since he's your FRIEND!!Quote:
Originally Posted by mackythehacker
Hey dude,
This is like the third time I have written this but it keeps timing out so here goes (again)
Don't feel pressured to label yourself as gay/bi/straight just yet, just be yourself and try to work out what you like/don't like
You're very lucky if you have friends that really do support/accept you regardless of your sexuality (it's very rare for teenagers to be supportive to other teens who 'come out', I was bullied from the age of 11 for being gay [and I didn't even realise I was until I was 15])
Ask your friend how strongly he feels about you, if he cares deeply about you then it's unfair to test out your sexuality on him because it will really hurt him if you decide you don't care for him like he does for you
I'd suggest you talk to your friend and explain that you're not sure of your own feelings yet and you don't want to hurt him.
If you decide it's worth taking the risk then make sure he knows your uncertainty in advance so he knows what he is getting into.
It wasn't that long ago that I was around your age (I'm 22 now) and I remember how important your friends are and how it sometimes feels like you'd never find other ones if you lost yours but if your friend would be angry over your sexuality then he's not a very good friend.
Hopefully he won't be angry with you, don't forget he's going (or has been through) the same feelings and confusion you are so he should be able to understand.
I wish you all the best with this, if you need more advice on sexuality try Home - Queer Youth Network - The UK's National LGBT Youth Organisation run by and for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered Young People. Gay Youth Groups, Homophobia, Support, Message Boards, Coming Out, Schools, Training, Radio, Resources, Confe, the guys/girls there are all really helpful and supportive.
(by the way, don't feel that being gay/bi means you have to have sex with other guys, this isn't true)
There is nothing wrong with being Bi. Be proud and never ashamed. You really need to face yourself, and come to see that the reality is that you are attracted to Females and Males... GuD LucK
Well I mean't it in the fact that if he's bi or not than he should face it... its and 'example'
Kk, ill try and see if he likes me, and if he does then I don't know what to do, but if he says no, then that's fine but I don't want to tell him, because he went out with the other guy and he dumped hand that night me and my friend found him in his bedroom slashing his upper arms, lower arms, wrists and upper legs, but we only seen him cut his wrist, he told us about the others later on in school.
Its only natural that you're concerned about your friend, but cutting is ulimately his problem. It's great if you can be there for him and help him in anyway but if he cuts himself that's his problem, not yours. So if you decide that you're not bi and he takes it personally and cuts himself, it is not your fault. As long as you're open and honest with him and don't lead him on you're not doing anything wrong. If you're bi, great. If you're not, still great. Just be yourself.
Hi MackytheHacker! Your cute :) anyway some of my friends think their bi so I know what your going through. You'll know if your bi if you can see yourself with both a girl and a guy (at different stages obviously) and you can love them both equally. If you can imagine having a sexual relationship with a guy and a girl then you've nothing to worry about. Although some people are right. Sometimes it is just an adolescent stage, but sometimes its not so don't worry about it too much.
Thanks for that :) I am one of those people who think there ugly :P lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Foofighter
Thanks everyone :D , ill talk to him ill keep u all up to date with it... :) thank you all! :D
I'm 16 and I still don't even no if I'm gay, bi or straight. Im so sure I'm bi, but then there is this girl I think I like. There are also guys I think I like. But then when I'm all alone, no influences at all, I don't feel gay at all, I don't know its confusing. So this is what I have been doing, not dating anyone because I'm afraid like I'm going to find out the answer or something. But I am probably going to go out with the girl I like and then if I'm still not sure, screw my image, ill date a guy and find out if I'm attracted to him.
I think what makes people feel gay, me included is that we don't have girlfriends. Im not saying I never had a girlfriend, or I have never kissed a girl, or can't get one, I simply just don't have a need for one right now. So subconsciously I believe I am gay and do gay things. Because I have done a lot of stuff, and I have had a person I would almost call a boy friend.
Just keep waiting or just try both sides. What helped me wait and not care as much as I use to is that I thought about my friends and realized they don't all have girlfriends either. And no, none of us are nerds or anything and have dated the very popular girls. Im just saying that because people always say like you're a nerd if you don't have a girlfriend or you can't get one.
If he's one of your mates then you should be able to tell him your not sure if you are bi but you'd like to find out. Then when you do find out one way or the other tell him. This is a hard thing to do but being honest with him will help you both, an may help you continue the friendship later.Quote:
Originally Posted by mackythehacker
You think you're bisexual. Congratulations! Have a sticker! :p
But to be serious... why try and label yourself? What you need to do is think long and hard about these following questions:
Am I sexually attracted to men?
Could I see myself being in a relationship with a man?
Could I possibly be gay?
The first thing I need to ask you... how old are you?
When I was younger, I went through a rough time trying to figure out what exactly I was, in the sense of my sexuality. Some guys and girls have to go through that, others do not. You just so happen to be one of those guys that has to. Throughout my childhood, I had always gone from one extreme to the other. I'm straight. Then a week later, maybe I'm bisexual. I couple weeks after that, I'm gay. Then I'd go back to thinking I was straight and that the idea of me being gay is absolutely absurd. Guess what: I'm gay. How... ironic...
You also need to figure out if you could see yourself in a relationship with the guy that likes you. Is it possible that you have romantic feelings for him? If you do, then you need to keep certain things in mind... how are your parents going to handle having a bisexual, or potentially gay son? How will your friends, peers, and your surrounding community feel about it? You may think it doesn't matter, but it does, because these are people that you interact with everyday of your life.
Now... if it turns out you don't want that for yourself. If you don't want to be in a homosexual relationship (yes you are bisexual, but if you're in a relationship with another man, it's still a homosexual relationship), then you need to consider your friend: if he's going to be upset with you/mad at you/not want to be your friend anymore/etc, then what does that say about the way he handles his friendships or even values them?
There are certain things you need to think about before coming to a final understanding. Whichever you are: gay, straight, or bisexual... just keep in mind that you are who you are because you are meant to be that way. Whatever anybody tells you, just remember that it's not a choice.
Hope this helps.
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