I have a boyfriend, he's 16, I'm 12. My friends say that he is a nice guy, but is he just trying to get in my pants? He is coming over to my house for New Year's, along with 2 other friends, is going to try something?
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I have a boyfriend, he's 16, I'm 12. My friends say that he is a nice guy, but is he just trying to get in my pants? He is coming over to my house for New Year's, along with 2 other friends, is going to try something?
That is the only reason that a 16 year old would be seeing a 12 year old.
Does your parents know about this, I am sure they would never allolw this.
They do know, and they trust me. He has been a family friend for years.
Will your parents be there the whole time? Is this something that the parents have initiated?
IF he lays a hand on you sexually, he could face jail time as well as being labeled a sex offender for the rest of his life.
Why do you call him your boyfriend?
Um I say wel there is a big chance that he might just want to get in your pants but don't b to quick to judge see how he acts on new years eve and depending if he tries something out of the ordinary then you can be sure that he just wants to get in your pants
Tell him straight up... n tell him what u expect of him
I say he's trying to get in or he's a REALLY nice guy
A very wise man told me, "they can say just about anything, want to talk to you, be your friend, la dee da, but until they get in your pants, all the talking is a means to an end." I always wanted to get into their pants too so, the heck with talking. But, you are very young. Maybe you are mature, but, it is illegal to get together with him in that way. He can wait! Talk to your parents about the upcoming party. Be honest with them and with yourself. Tell him that you need to wait a few years before going there. There are plenty of fun things the two of you can do together, without getting naked.
Listen to your inner voice... you would not be asking this question if you were not worried.
Friend of the family or not he is 16 at that age hormones are running wild. He is at a different stage in his life than you are. You would probably more comfortable with a boy your own age. But my opinion is at 12 you do not need the problems that come along with dating.
Hopefully he is a nice guy and won't try to do as you fear. Follow the advice to talk to your parents, and tell him straight up if he is just wanting to get in, then he can just get out!
Girl he is just trying to get down your pants. The younger the easier. Don't fall for it
He might. At your young age I wouldn't trust someone who's so much older. And, depending on the laws of your state, "trying something" might be illegal and constitute statutory rape. Why the hell-o are your parents allowing him, along with "2 other friends", to come over to your house for New Year's in the first place? Sounds like a bad idea to me and could lead to real trouble.
Why is every one thinking that us men are pigs
Has anyone ever stop to think that he may just want to spend time with her?
Okay, I'm 12 too. This relationship sounds kind of, well... Wrong! You and him are at different stages in life, his hormones are running wild when you have just recently learnt about hormones. He's thinking about college and employment (hopefully), while you're thinking about the latest must-have fashions and your homework assignments. Either this guy's a pedophile or you look and act 16. Hope that wasn't to harsh but this guy sounds like a preventable episode of the Maury show waiting to happen!
Hello cheer girl:
Listen to simone. Of course he wants in your pants. All men and boys want in as many girls pants as they can in. That's how we're wired. That's a GOOD thing.
As long as you know that, then don't let him him. The girl is IN CHARGE of that doorway. It doesn't mean he isn't a nice guy. Even nice guy's want it. Nice girls want it too, but you're much too young. Besides he'll go to jail for a long time if he does and gets caught.
excon
Now excon, you are just wrong, I am 17, and I don't want to get with as many girls as possible, I don't want to end up with AIDs or HIV or any other STD at that,
Although it may be wrong for him to be with her, I doubt he wants to get in her pants! As I said I am 17, and IF I was dating a 12 yo I wouldn't want to get into her pants!
WHY WONT PEOPLE GIVE US MEN A CHANCE, WE ARE NOT LIKE THE BOYS IN THE MOVIES, WE HAVE MORE CLASS THEN THAT!!! WE ARE NOT PIGS!!
In fairness, I have to recall that at age 17 I had a number of friends who were girls. Not because I wanted in their pants. I wasn't ready for it at the time, but did want some sort of friendship... not knowing what or where things would lead... how many times have I heard older guys say "If I knew then what I know now..." so that tends to tell me that people view the situation differently with age. One never knows what a person's intentions are, but a lot of assumptions are made... might be accurate a great deal of the time if you look at the high teen pregnancy rates, but that also means there are times when the assumptions are wrong. The girl will know his intentions soon enough, and either way it doesn't hurt her to have ideas of what to do in either case.
oneguyinohio, I do agree with you to a point, no one but him knows his intentions, but why should some of these people worrie her or give her stress when all really wants to do is just see her? I don't think it is right for people to be making those kinds of assumptions, why don't the people that are making the assumptions of him only wanting to get into her pants go around and ask a bunch of 16 and 17yos if they would get with a 12yo
I agree with what you are saying. I'll bet that some of those boys would say yes. Not all, and maybe not many. Some people form their opinions based on personal experiences, what they hear from others, or maybe even out of caution... choosing to error on the side of caution and not take a risk.
Basically none of us can tell you that 100%. It's quite possible he's a nice guy, maybe he's not. Keep an eye on how he treats you over time. If he starts pushing the issue of sex then he's likely not the nice guy. Same if he tries the old "if you love me you will" bit
You shou;d not ley any one do anythink to you don't like as you will grow to regret it as I was raped when I was 13 and it was all my fault as I was very druk don't let any one do this to you its one of the worst things that will happen in your life
Twinkelstar. A 13 year old drunk girl is not at fault if she gets raped. She may have used bad judgement in beinh where she is at or drinking but no one has the right to rape another person.
Give yourself a break... most of us do foolish things when we are young and use poor judgement. The person that raped you was a criminal and hopefully was punished/prosecuted.
Does his friends say anything about him dating a girl 4 years younger..
Granted, it means nothing when he's 26 and you're 22...
But he's a sophomore/junior in high school, and I believe you're somewhere along the lines of 6th or 7th grade... no?
Thanks for your interest but I've had so many people tell me this ill never change my mind but ill never change what happened I've grew to accept it now xx twinkel x
I think that he is just trying to get in your pants!! I mean y else would u be asking that question if u didn't think that he was going to
Oh please! Why is a 16 year old boy wanting to spend time with a 12 year old girl? He is either developmentally challenged or he's a creep/Quote:
Originally Posted by 13sldr
Do your parents know you are dating this guy? Are they going to be around while this guy and his friends are at your house?
I'm sorry, there is something fishy about a 16 year old boy calling himself a 12 year old's boyfriend. There is also something wrong with parents that would allow such a thing.
I think you should be very careful with this guy. It would be fine if he was just a family friend who came over, but I noticed you called him your boyfriend. That really worries me because of your age. When I was 16, and no offense to you here, if a 12 year old had asked me out, I would have had absolutely zero interest. I would have just said no very nicely and explained that the age difference at the time was just too much.
Did this guy ask you out or did you ask him? Either way, it seems wrong to me. At 12, you're still very young and at a totally different place in your life.
It concerns me that YOU are concerned about New Year's Eve. Talk to your parents about the situation. If the guy tries anything, you just say no and tell him to leave. It's that simple, or at least it should be. I'm afraid he may not listen to you, especially if there is alcohol involved (not saying there is, just don't know). Make sure you guys are somewhere where people are around. Don't go into a bedroom or basement or anything alone with him.
I know you feel like this guy is safe because you know him well, but please be careful anyway. Sometimes rapists are the people who we do know or even live next door to. It's better to be safe than sorry.
Are you going to be home alone on New Year's Eve? I ask because I knew a girl who was raped in her own home on New Year's Eve while her parents were out at a party. She invited kids from school over, they drank a little, and a guy from her school raped her. All the other kids were drunk and passed out, and the guy was actually sober. It was really sad. She is still trying to cope with it years later. So my point is, if you were planning on doing a little partying while your folks were out, please reconsider. It better to call it off now and be a little embarrassed, than to get yourself into a situation you might regret forever.
Now, that being said, I'm not saying you are going to be drinking or anything. But, I don't know you, so I just wanted to say it to be on the safe side. :)
Are these other 2 people his friends or yours? I would be wary if he wanted to come over with other older guys and hang out with you.
Bottom line, in my opinion, you would be better off not having this guy as a boyfriend. Just tell him that you want to wait until you are older. If he is decent, he'll respect that and agree with you. Be safe and good luck!
WELL u all should be happy 2 know that New years came and me and him were in a room by ourselves and he didn't try ANYTHING!! I asked him straight up if that was why he was goiin out wit me and he said that if he wanted that he could go 2 any of his ex's!! So me and him are still good :)
That's good but in the future I'd advise against being alone in rooms with any boy.
The issue isn't her having male friends, it's allowing herself to be alone in a room with them. This is not to say that every male friend she has is trying to get in her pants but she has to be vigilant and keep her guard up.Quote:
raggablue disagrees: what if she has male friends hey, what's wrong with that? Most of my friends are girls, that doesn't mean I'm trying to get it on with them
raggablue disagrees: what if she has male friends hey, what's wrong with that? Most of my friends are girls, that doesn't mean I'm trying to get it on with them
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What many people have said here is that a 16 yr old boy is unlikely to have any interest in a 12 yr old girl except a physical one. Is it possible that he doesn't? Yes it is. But the odds are greater against it. Most of us are simply saying to be cautious here.
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raggablue disagrees: what if she has male friends hey, whats wrong with that? most of my friends are girls, that doesn't mean im tryin to get it on with them
I'm sorry a 12 year old girl should not be entertaining male friends in her bedroom period IMO and a 16 year old boy has no business in a 12 year old girl's bedroom. She calls him her boyfriend, so if she were mine, there is no way he'd be in her room. At 12 she would not even have a boyfriend. There are just something's you should not do.
I tried this link but it told me that its invalid. Please may you enlighten me on the guidelinesQuote:
Originally Posted by ScottGem
Link works fine for me, but you will find it at the top of the Forum Help forum
I'm 14 and I reli liked this 18yr old I met - randomly, we went out a few times (3) and every time he just wanted to get inside my pants - at first I thought maybe I was being paranoid but then one night I was at a park with him and my m8ts he took me - tried it on with me but I was a bit freaked out to do anything in a park and shunted him off - then he walks round the corner sees my other friend and about literally 5 minutes later he is Fkin her in a bush.
I haven't spoken to him since
shows that most of the time they are complete Dks .x
You need new friends!Quote:
Originally Posted by fiona445
Well you know... I kind of have the same problem, but I'm 15 and my best friend is a 23 yrold guy, and my parents think we're more, well all I can really say is look at his backround, if he's sexual be careful, even if he's a family friend, I got raped by a family friend when I was like... 6-8 and he was 10-12, so be really careful, and to tell the truth I do think that's all he wants cause your really young for him in particular, that's if he's not a virgin, but uh... just be careful and if he puts a move on you tell him that if he really care's he'll wait, I'd say the same to my friend if I were you.
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