Ask Me Help Desk - How do you know if a girl "Play Hard To Get "?

How do you know if a girl "Play Hard To Get "?

I am sorry I am new here.. so if I do something wrong please excuse me...

Lately I have been really confused about girls... well about this girl... we have know each other for like almost 2 years now... thought school... she really great and fun to be with... it just lately she seem really into me.. like always hugs me and hold on me really tight... lol.. even kissed me when I wasn't pay attention... so I started to like her...

But about a week ago or so... she seem like on and off with me... it not like we dating or anything.. but just like whenever we see each other in school she always jump on me and stuff... but lol.. she just like on and off... it like she saw me in the hallway and just walked off.. or just like " hi " "bye"... but then later that day... she like all over me again... and it keep happening...

So my question is... " is she playing hard to get " "does she like me ?"

And like after if I know her that she play hard to get... shoud I play along with her or should I just play it cool ?

Sorry for all the question guy?. this pretty much will be my second relatiionship since when I born lol... I just been date a lot but never go on relationship b.c of all the drama jealousy and fighting... so I really confused about this...

STEVEN

Excuse for my english and stuff...

P.S : I am 18 asian and she is 17 blonde... :D

It sounds to me like she does like you and that she is playing hard to get. How about asking her out on a date?

It seems as though she really likes you and is trying so hard to show you that but still trying to play hard to get. I agree with Clough, you should ask her to go out on a date, the worse thing that could happen is that she'll say let's just stick to being friends, but at least then you'll know.
Goodluck!

Hey sounds like she likes you and maybe you should ask her out on a date and see how it goes?

You thanks a lot guys... I'll try to ask her out... soon... but I just want to know.. how do you know when a girl play hard to get?.

STEVEN

From my experience, it sounds like she is by the way that you describe her actions in your first post here. It sounds like she wants you to "chase" her. She is teasing and flirting with you. That is one way that you tell if a girl is playing hard to get. You could also ask her about this stuff when you take her out on a date.

I think that she likes you and she was flirting with you but if you don't show ask you will never know. The fact that she is starting to distance herself is possibly that she is trying to tell you she likes you and doesn't feel that you are receptive of this.

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The fact that she is starting to distance herself is possibly that she is trying to tell you she likes you and doesn't feel that you are receptive of this.

That could very well be true. Excellent thought! Time for Simple Asian to make his move as far as going forward with the relationship.

I totally agree with UnAnaray, she is being distant to make sure and to see if you share the same feelings towards her. Its like she's playing a game, she gave you signs she likes you, now are you going to be smart enough to do something about it? Goodluck, and I recommed you make the move fast before she gives up hope!

I am going to ask her out for the movie this chrismast hope she will say yes... lol... to tell the true I am still scared of rejection.. not that b.c of anything.. just that I scared after that she will leave me and like feeling all akward and not talk to me (if she doesn't like me I mean )

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I am going to ask her out for the movie this chrismast hope she will say yes... lol... to tell the true I am still scared of rejection.. not that b.c of anything.. just that I scared after that she will leave me and like feeling all akward and not talk to me (if she doesn't like me I mean )

Hello, Steven!

Whether she says "yes" or "no," at least you will know that you have tried. It takes lots of practice asking people out to get good at it. You know that you will have gained nothing if you don't ask her out. You stand the potential to gain not only her friendship but also someone with whom the potential might be for you to be together as a couple. If she does say "no," then you will just have to accept that. When I was dating, I was rejected a number of times. It also takes practice learning how to deal with rejection.

I do think that it is more likely than not, that she is going to agree to go out with you. Please let us know what happens in that regard. Thank you!

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i am gonna ask her out for the movie this chrismast hope she will say yes...lol...to tell the true i am still scared of rejection ..not that b.c of anything ..just that i scared after that she will leave me and like feeling all akward and not talk to me (if she doesnt like me i mean )

Let's try to be positive and hope she says yes. If not, try to truly show her that you don't mind, and you'd rather be friends with her than nothing at all. And don't just show her that, feel it as well; because if she really is a great person to be with, then I guess you'd be willing to spend time with her as 'just friends' than nothing at all. And as Clough said before me, it takes practice to get it right, so there's no problem if she says no, you'll learn something so in the next times you'll get a yes instead.
I truly hope everything works out all right, please let us know what happens!
Goodluck!

WEll.. pretty much today is the sucky-ish day every... as everyone saying GIrls are the most complicated and confused thing in the world.. is right... hand down...

as I with all the high hope I have I asked her out and I even before that gave her a x-mas card saying "gonna be apart this x-mas just made me reallized how much i gonna miss you and love you ".. after she read the card she was about to cry... and I ask her " there nothing i want for christmas but you so will you be my christmas ? "

and she like shock... quite for like 2 minutes X_X... then "i am sorry Steve...i see you as a brother ..the one i love so much "

BS all the way ;... why didn't I stick with just dating and have to ask for a relationship.. . ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...

sorry guys for making you guys helping me and all but now I F****d everything up...

I'm sorry to hear she doesn't share the same feelings. But I hope, after some time of course, you can try to accept the fact and tell her (if you mean it and feel like it) that you'd rather be her "brother" than nothing at all. And the right girl will come along, she might even be across the corner, you never know. Don't stay in your misery too long though, stick to being friends with this girl, she seems really nice.

It OK you have nothing to be sorry about...

I am trying to accpeted the fact but you know it just not easy and stuff..

And I don't want to lose a great friend like her you no.. when pplz tense to know tat someone like them but they don't have the feeling back?. they have this akward feeling and like trying to avoding them and not talking to them and stuff...

I willing to be friend with her and stuff... just... ahhhhhhhhhh

It just needs time. Your willing to be a friend, let her know, and see if she can as well. The awkwardness won't last long though.
Goodluck!

it just feel sux to be alone and don't do anything during x-mas... new year... and stuff

Do you have family with whom you can spend time?

you u got a point there... I have family and friends... sometime it all you need... ^^

but as I am saying I want to... u know to have someone I like/love spending x-mas time with...

it just feel weird

Feel your pain, females don't make life easy for a young guy, but don't worry, look around and see all the options you haven't tried. Don't let fear, or the actual rejection, stop you from finding what you want elsewhere.

You I heard you man.. thanks a lot... I am 18 and still have a lot to learn huh ?

How was your Christmas, Simple Asian?

It's been some time since I've last posted, how have you been Simple Asian?

lol.. thanks for all the help ^^...

To Clough and Silent...

my x-mas was sux... X_X... been rejected before christmas was already a pain.. but I planned to go hang out and have fun with friends during christmas so I can forget things...

but for anyone that live in COlorado... u know that we had a big butt white christmas.. it snow all day and we stuck in the house with family >>..

to tell u I am not really a family guy.. lol... and no phone call or texting from anyone... I felt lonely...

sorry to be all whiny about it... it just ahhhhhhhhhhh pretty sad lol...

how about u guys ?

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lol..thanks for all the help ^^...

To Clough and Silent....

my x-mas was sux.....X_X.......been rejected before christmas was already a pain..but i planned to go hang out and have fun with friends during christmas so i can forget things...

but for anyone that live in COlorado ...u know that we had a big butt white christmas..it snow all day and we stuck in the house with family >>..

to tell u i am not really a family guy ..lol....and no phone call or texting from anyone ....i felt lonely ....

sorry to be all whiny about it ....it just ahhhhhhhhhhh pretty sad lol.......

how about u guys ?

Well I guess the same thing happened to me. I was supposed to go out to a cool party with my friends but something happened and it got cancelled. So I spent it at home, with my family. One thing I am afraid of is that I've got a big exam coming up and I can't seem to get myself to study! :(

Oh you pretty much it the same thing happening to me,. got to have final after get back from vacations.. and then one more semester... college here I come..

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lol..thanks for all the help ^^...

To Clough and Silent....

my x-mas was sux.....X_X.......been rejected before christmas was already a pain..but i planned to go hang out and have fun with friends during christmas so i can forget things...

but for anyone that live in COlorado ...u know that we had a big butt white christmas..it snow all day and we stuck in the house with family >>..

to tell u i am not really a family guy ..lol....and no phone call or texting from anyone ....i felt lonely ....

sorry to be all whiny about it ....it just ahhhhhhhhhhh pretty sad lol.......

how about u guys ?

My Christmas was fine! Spent it with my daughter who is here from California. I was supposed to have the neighborhood Christmas Party at my home the Saturday before Christmas. Had to call people on that day and cancel/postpone it because of the weather. Am planning to have the party at my home this coming weekend.

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oh ya pretty much it the same thing happening to me,...got to have final after get back from vacations ..and then one more semester....college here i come ..

You're going to have many more prospects for relationships once you get to college and also be more likely to find someone who is really into the same things that you are because of people taking certain classes because they might be majoring in the same or similar subject.

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You're going to have many more prospects for relationships once you get to college and also be more likely to find someone who is really into the same things that you are because of people taking certain classes because they might be majoring in the same or similar subject.

Very true to that and thanks a lot... I recently found myself still very young and have a lot to learn... lol... wat was I thinking that I turned 18 and think I am all legal and an adlut... but not really..

But one thing for sure... girls are a big mystery and us guys are going to be the pplz that going to solve it... lol

Have you got an idea as to what you would like to concentrate on for a major in college?

not a clue.. X_X... hahaha as a senior in high school... up until now I still have no clue...

been the past two years I have been thinking a lot.. but I couldn't figure out what to major in college... school couseler and me dissuses about pilot but the fly time money cost and go out state is not really a thing I want...

but I don't want to study chemistry or biology.. so no doctor or whatever... lol... so I don't really no

What are some things in which you are especially interested in now... other than girls? LOL! :p

lol... hahahahaha... you got me there... girls are interesting.. but trouble.. lol

I have no interesting in anything.. I go around.. lol... I play pretty much all kind of sports and just having fun... dont have a job.. not that I don't want to.. X_X... asian parents T_T... ahhhhh they like... " you need money ? we will give you ..just concentrated in school..and be good ...." you no.. so I have no experiment in any kind of job.. so I can't like try thing that I want to try.. lol...

turn 19 in a month.. and don't know what to do in college... but I think I going to go to a community college.. you no to take some course classes and save money

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lol...hahahahaha....you got me there ...girls are interesting ..but trouble ..lol

i have no interesting in anything ..i go around ..lol...i play pretty much all kind of sports and just having fun......dont have a job..not that i dont want to ..X_X...asian parents T_T ...ahhhhh they like ..." you need money ? we will give you ..just concentrated in school..and be good ...." you no ..so i have no experiment in any kind of job ..so i can't like try thing that i want to try ..lol...

turn 19 in a month ..and dont know what to do in college...but i think i gonna go to a community college ..you no to take some course classes and save money

You do know that a girl, or rather, young woman, is going to be more interested in a guy who has some direction and purpose in life. Correct? I'm not getting on your case here, but just trying to help you.

Lol... don't worried, NONE TAKEN

I no I no... it just that I still imature... or should I put it as.. some part of me still want to be in high school..,. dont want to grow up and taking responsibility yet...

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..some part of me still want to be in high school.,..dont want to grow up and taking responsibility yet.......

Some of us still don't want to grow up, no matter what age we are. :) Me included! :p But, sooner rather later, it is time to learn how to take charge and deal with the responsibilities of being an adult. It's really a "war zone" out there in the "real" world when we are not under the shelter of our parent's wings!

What are the courses that you are presently taking in high school? I'm trying to get a feel for how we can go with some direction for you.

lol... very true...

but you no ? It just have that feeling that inside you like " you dont want to grow up..you dont want to ....you having the best time of your life ...why grow up ,,? " lol... it just really get to me

me in school taking classes is one word... crazy... T_T>..

in COLORADO state... we have 7 classes and a lunch... and in my school... students only need to take 3 courses classes... 2 electives... but I have to take 7 classes and one lunch (I am not saying anything about asian parents... but they want their child to be you no.. perfect X_X...

1AP PHYSIC (I am not having fun in this class )
2/AP CAL ( yeah college course)
3/AP ENGLISH ( lol... I just came to this country 3 years ago... speak no english back then )
4/AMERICAN LIT (another English class )
5/AP CHEMISTRY ( which I don't like at all )
6/US GOVT/ ECONOMIC (supposed to take this last year but didn't have time)
7/GYM ( hahahaha finally I can relax)
8/and LUNCH ( but I have to be the translator for Vietnamese/Chinese parents visitor or new student that immagrant here )

4 College Courses... 2 main classes in high school.. and a gym,. lol
so I am packed T_T

A translator? Cool! :) That's something that you could put on a resume now and also later!

Are there any classes that you feel you do better in than others?

Yeah, I do know about the perfectionist attitudes and sometimes competitiveness of people from certain cultures that does happen. :)

Some Americans can also have perfectionist attitudes and also be competitive. Some cultures just seem to be a little more that way than others, though.

Lol... yeah I enjoy being a translator... it just really fun...

Uhm... I have all As in all the classes... these classes are hard... but I just pay attention and took notes... and trying to go thought hw.. so they all kind of the same...

Sometime... I just want you no.. take all the classes off.. and just have like one or two fun classes... and lunch.. so I can have more time to hang out with friends and having fun.. instand of doing hw during lunchs and home..

Steven, we really need to get you going in some sort of positive direction here. I do understand that your classes are hard. And, what you are taking and if you are doing well in them is going to get you off to a great start in college!

Is there any one class that might appeal to you more than the others?

In how many languages do you feel that you might be fluent?

If you are a translator and, depending on how many languages that you know and can learn, being a translator in a number of languages can maybe be a possibility for a really bright future for you as far as a career! :)