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:confused: :confused: omg! All my friends say I'm a slut!
I wear short skirts, those shirts with lase going down the front that show my belly, a lot af makeup, and I look at least 16... I'm 12.
I had a 11 grader ask me out and I'm in 7th.. and whenever I'm walking down the street guys stare at me and whisper to each other and then smile.. its weird.
I developed faster than most girls too. If you know what I mean..
Do you think I'm a slut?
I know people are looking at this...
Please...
No I don't, but cut back on the make up, at least till 9th grade. Slut is a harsh word, and I doubt if you sleep with everyone that whispers about you.
-P.S.- guys are pervs and girls are moody, try to tone down your appearance a little (make up is a good start).
What's the definition of "slut"? Buy clothes at Lands' End and there won't be a problem.
Oh, where's your mother?
Well not really slut. Because I don't sleep with every guy I see. Just how I dress.
Just be careful you don't want to draw too much attention to yourself. There are a lot of creeps out there. What do your parents have to say about all this... or do they buy you those clothes?
Um I doint live with them... m moms has been in a hospital sense I was 3 or 4 for o.D. ing
My dad? He sells drugs and who knows where he is... I get the clothes from my friends get money from my grandma..
Sorry to hear that but just be careful. You don't want to send out the wrong message.
Thanxzzzz...
Your right, I don't want to send the wrong impression.
That implies that you DO sleep with some guys. And if you do, at 12 then I'd classify you as a slut.Quote:
Originally Posted by XxXscarsXxX
You obviously have no one controlling you. No one giving you the limits, examples and direction that a 12 yr old needs.
By asking this question I think it bothers you that people think you're a slut. So what does that tell you? It really doesn't matter that much whether you are one or not. Its how people perceive you. And if you don't like people perceiving you are a slut, then stop being one. Cover up more, cut back on the makeup, stop playing up to boys. Act more your age.
Let me make that clearer... I don't sleep with guys at all..
Sorry I didn't make that clear.
Oops!
Hello.
It's not important what I think, its important what you think and because your asking the question you think you are at least dressing like one. That's not to say how you dress makes you a slut but in general terms a Girl that shows more then she covers is slutty. If your actions are like how you dress then I can see how people will think your doing more then you are sexually. You know the guys are going to say they have been with you even if they haven't. Its how most young Men try to look cool with their friends. We all know they don't get anywhere near the action they say they do but that's another question hehhee.
I have the feeling that you are a sweet young Lady that wants to look and act like a young Lady but because of your home life and friends you feel like you need to act older. Be who you are, You're a special Girl and every one would see it if you let them. So give yourself a chance to live your life and dress down a little, let people see your sweet face without all the makeup and enjoy how people will treat you better. Wouldn't it be nice to have friends that wanted to be around you not want what you have or try to make you do things you don't want to do.
Good Luck
Dennis777
Omg! Dennis!
Thanks soooo uch!
Your advice is really good but just one problem I don't know who I am.. I typ who I am and how I feel I just can't act like it in person! I just don't know anymore...
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Okay soooo I don't sleep with guys but I have a feeling I might.. but not a lot just one.. well my boyfriend... or, or, or... my boyfiriend?
If your 12, you shouldn't need make-up, and as many have said before, just becareful. There are so many perverts that would love to take advantage of you. And be thankful that your pretty, and remember that you should only date boys your age at the moment. But as someone said before, who cares what we think? Be yourself and enjoy each day of your life.
Thanks chris...
Great advice!
I can't tell you what to do because only you know what your going to do... but please be smart before sleeping with your boyfriend you're a little too young to give it up... especially from what I've seen on your other post he doesn't deserve your purity... And about being a slut NO! Just calm it down on the dressing so sexy.. you have a lot of time for that... you don't want to give older men the wrong impression... Sometimes just by the way you dress you can provoke the wrong people... remember your body is your temple no matter what you put on it on who you let touch it...
Ohh and friends don't call friends sluts
I know!.
My boyfriend calls me one too!
Don't show your belly, make sure your skirts are at least down to the half point between your knee and your hip and don't have sex! 12 is too young. If you're doing all that then yes I'd call you a slut
I think you need to talk to someone about these issues. I've read about three of your new questions and all of them seem to put you down.
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No I don't think you a slut, just tone down on the makeup.. you way too young for that.
As for your parents, I'm sorry about that, why don't you show them that you can become better then that?
I don't think you're a slut unless your sleeping around with everyone which you say u don't,so no your not a slut, u may dress like one, why don't u start wearing different clothes I mean girls can look very nice in sum stylish pants, maybe u should cut back on the makeup it only gives u pimples and it makes you look fake or like u have something to hide. If it bothers u so much, CHANGE UR APPEARANCE
Thanks haze.. your right! I should definitely cut back on make-up... and wow! Hey cool my 12 year moler is loose! Ya-hoo!
I apologize if I interpeted what you said incorrectly. But the rest of my advice stands. I would suggest talking to a school counselor or maybe a clergyman to try and help you decide the type of person you want to be.Quote:
Originally Posted by XxXscarsXxX
Hi dear, this is not a chatroom, so nobody needs to be 'online' when you are.Quote:
Originally Posted by XxXscarsXxX
Different parts of the world have different timezones - which makes it better as there are more competent and caring people coming on this site to help others.
In your life, there will be many experiences where you can later say 'been there, done that' and the heavy make-up and too revealing outfits should be a 'done' deal now.
It is exciting at any age, to have guys take a second look - but how we feel after that is our choice.
The lookers should mature as we grow, so try a new look to attract new lookers. Believe me sometimes it is worth it, because the lookers get better too.
There is not much we can do about the 'talkers' because what has been said cannot be taken back, so get over it. You know your are not a 'slut' and those who care enough to find out who you are will not call you one.
Now, once the 'rebel' in you is tired of playing with your parents, go to them and tell them that you will be trying out something new and to work with you. That will warn them of the next phase of your growth. Parents went through all kinds of stages too, so unless your are learning from a martian, it will be nothing new, maybe a little different - but not new.
Oh, and stay with us and let us know how you progress and have fun
http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_18.gifhttp://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gif The outside sends messages, so what do you want to say, really?
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So how can your friends call you a slut for dressing the way you do... when THEY are giving you those clothes?Quote:
Originally Posted by XxXscarsXxX
If you ask me anyone who called me a slut wouldn't be my 'friend' as it's not exactly a compliment is it?
You're not a 'slut' as this describes someone who is sexually promiscuous and as you've said, this you are not... but by dressing the way you do then people may have that impression.
I agree with most though.. wear less make-up and cover up, you're only young and have plenty of time ahead for all that, plus you'll find by leaving a little to the imagination it's sometimes more attractive!
:) Hope this helps
Hello again, cars:
I know - you don't like my advice. Too bad.
If you don't sleep with people, you're not a slut. That's just so, if go by what the word means, and we do here. But, you're going to BE a slut pretty soon here if you keep going on the way you are.
Don't get me wrong, sluts are good people too and the world needs 'em. There's nothing wrong with sluts. If you want to be one, be a good one.
However, you'll have plenty of time to do that - the REST of your life. Right now, you're a little girl. You'll NEVER have another opportunity to be THAT again, so that's what I think you should be and act like.
But, I'm not your parent.
excon
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You Said
"your advice is really good but just one problem i dont know who i am.. i typ who i am and how i feel i just can't act like it in person! i just dont know anymore..."
I understand your confused because all your life you have tried to be older and fit in. You have never lived life as yourself, that is until I hope now.
You can be anyone you want to be in this life. Your young and have years ahead of you so now is the time to make your changes and be who you want to be not who your friends want you to be. If your friends can't understand why you want to change then they are not real friends. I bet you have a few friends that you have pushed away over the years because they where not cool so contact them and get back into the life you know you want before you make some mistakes that will make things harder then the have to be for you.
Dennis777
You may not be a slut YET, but you are on the right path.
I have to wonder why you don't respect yourself more. Your mother is in the hospital and your father is a drug addict. Is it right to guess that you want to be like them when you grow up?
In my opinion, no 12 year old should be showing her body as you do, yes that is slutty. In my opinion, no 12 year old should be wearing make up unless it is a special occasion and it is worn subtly. In my opinion no 12 year old should have a boyfriend of 1 year (that made you 11) who calls you names and verbally abuses you. In my opinion, no 12 year old should be swearing and using the language that you do.
So, yes, you are following the right path to becoming a slut.
I tell you, if my 13 year old did ANY of this I would tan her hide and lock her in her room until she learned some morals.
I just hope you don't turn up pregnant when you are 13.
U do need to be careful about what you wear!
I would guess you dress to get attention the attention that you are not getting from loving and caring parents. Be very careful, it is a short walk from dressing like a slut at 12 and being a porn star at 18. Please try a more appropriate way of getting attention like getting straight A in school. It is far more challenging and noble to overcome the hardships in life than to give in to an easy fix like putting on a shorter dress for quick attention. Study do good overcome that gains a long lasting attention people respect.
Attracting a good boy is very simple actually. Dress as though you respect your body, dress in a sporty or casual fashion. Very little or no makeup. Moderation is the key to everything in life.
Less is more, and I don't mean the amount of cloth used to make the clothes. Less frills, less cleavage, less SKIN.
In your post you say some things that makes me feel like you think that you look like a slut. So what is your true feelings, do you feel like a slut because of the way you dress and the way you wear makeup?Quote:
Originally Posted by XxXscarsXxX
If your dress does make you feel like a slut then change the way you dress, that way you will know that you are not a slut and others will not think of you a slut, if what others think matters to you. If it doesn't matter don't change the way you dress and leave everyone wondering if you are or not.
Thanks guys... I'm ganna try your guys's advice it sounds easy ut hard unno? Well I hope I'm not pregnant when I'm 13 too. :(
I'll start with the make-up... not as heavy
And clothes? No show? Okay...
Ill try-jk
I will no show...
Okay I will tell you guys how its going!
c-ya
Cut back on the make-up and get some jeans. :-)
LOL, when my husband was younger he would tell me to trade in a pair of jeans for a skirt any day. Most real boys and real men like a little left to the imagination.Quote:
ultimate_user_name agrees: good advice, I've always thought jeans can be just as hot as any skirt. I'm 15(male)
J_9!
You're a girl?
Omg! LoL! I thought u were a guy!
Sorry! Hehe..
:P
Giggle, I am a mom of 4 kids, one just a little older than you, she's 13.Quote:
Originally Posted by XxXscarsXxX
LOL..
Their lucky to have a wonderful mom!
Hun, the first thing you can do is place an age appropriate pic on here.
Okay... hold on
There...
Its my dog.. better?
LOL thanks..
It's a girl. Her name is bebe/baby!
<3
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