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May I talk to him?

Hi.. I'm 14 yrs old & I need some help... There is this guy that I'm 99% that he likes me.he used to tease me (4 times) and I did used to say wow he's cute but I tought he was just another guy that likes to have fun.He used to tease me as I said and I just blank every time he tell me something so he just go back sad. It's was about a month that he last talked to me but since he used to look at me and walk near me.He just looked extreamly sad so I decided to try to talk to him... it was a bit of success because I passed by him and smiled and he said hi and waved but he didn't stop to talk to me so I waved back.(I think he's shy because his friends say him waving to me and some of his female friends are crazy about him but he makes it clear he doesn't like them although sometimes he talks to them and even flirts a bit)so I think he is shy about talking to me in front of them.The day after I waved to him he passed from behind me and glanced at me but he didn't smile or anything!(I don't know maybe again it is because of his friends)but I can't find him anywhere to talk to him alone because the once I tried to go after him to talk, his friends followed me and made fun of the situation.I'm just worried if I talk to him as he is coming alone but his friends will see me or just wait until he come and talk to me(I'm 99% sure he'll never come because of his friends):confused: .I'll be glad if you help me & thanks

You need to talk to him. He obviously likes you and you like him. Tell him how you feel about him. If friends follow you tell them to give you some privacy, and if they don't tell them it's serious.

Should I let him go?

I'm 14 & there is this guy that I like him(or I used to) and he likes me.He talked to me 3 times but I never respond because I just blanked & he taught I didn't like him... so after 2 weeks I went past him and smiled.. and he said hi and waved & I waved back... but now it's like he has gave up all hope that I like him.I don't really like him but I want to give this a second chance and maybe start over again.What could I do if I have no mobile number of him?. I am trying to go to talk to him but every time it's a failure because his friends come along or something else that makes it imposible to talk to him happens.Tell me what I have to do because I am totally lost. Thanks for reading and I hope you can help me.. I would really appreciate.

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Originally Posted by funky1

I.I don't really like him but I wanna give this a second chance and maybe start over again..

Okay so you don't like him but want to give him a second chance? I don't think its worth your time. If your not interested in someone you don't have to give him another shot just because he likes you. You should like a person and want to get to know him not like someone because they like you. There are plenty of fish in the sea my dear and you will find one that you like and will like you back,

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Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

Okay so you don't like him but want to give him a second chance? I don't think its worth your time. If your not interested in someone you don't have to give him another shot just because he likes you. You should like a person and want to get to know him not like someone because they like you. There are plenty of fish in the sea my dear and you will find one that you like and will like you back,

Exactly, as I have repeated hundreds of time before on this forum! I am not trying to convince you into a nerd.
At your age, study DOES come first. If u like someone want to go out with thm , fine! But here, "so you don't like him but want to give him a second chance? I don't think its worth your time."( As Glinda said), why do you want to waste you time on him?
Girl, I am not being harsh but you will regret if you are going make this happen anyway!

Wacked... nothing came before girls when I was in school. But... we would multitask! Girls & Grades at the same time~

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Originally Posted by Haplo

Wacked... nothing came before girls when I was in school. But... we would multitask! Girls & Grades at the same time~

LMAO:D u guys~

I don't like him anymore but I want to give it another chance because when he used to talk to me and the way he look into my eyes I just feel better than I am now:(

If you don't like him anymore... then let it go.:) Find someone new and better and give them all your feelings of love.:D

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Originally Posted by funky1

i don't like him anymore but I want to give it another chance because when he used to talk to me and the way he look into my eyes I just feel better than I am now:(

Lord, young girls these days are so easily falling in love.:eek: That is just a feeling u have when he is looking into your eyes, let it go. If u go to Home Depot, Lowe's, Engineering Lab, Men's bathroom, Eating Contest, Star War Convention... u will see more guys that look at you like that.:D
Find someone that u love to death and he loves you with his whole heart who is mature enough, then decide if u should give him a chance!;)

If you don't like him then leave him alone. There's no good reason for you to lead him on just because you want the attention. Girl that's just wrong and selfish! How would you like having your heart played with?

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Originally Posted by stonewilder

If you don't like him then leave him alone. There's no good reason for you to lead him on just because you want the attention. Girl that's just wrong and selfish! How would you like having your heart played with?!

U nailed it...

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Originally Posted by funky1

i don't like him anymore but I want to give it another chance because when he used to talk to me and the way he look into my eyes I just feel better than I am now:(

Why because he gave you attention? So, you are saying that you would lead him on and use him to make yourself feel good.

These are not good behaviors Dolly. Learn now, if you are not interested in someone do not play with their feelings. If you don't like him let it go. You will meet someone else and not for nothing but you should feel good about yourself and not rely on a guy to make you feel good.

Glinda is right... I have gone through half the stuff people ask about on this site and I went through something similar to this. I wanted a guy because of how he made me feel and not how I felt. It made me want him more and more until he finally hurt me really badly. That's not how I want you to learn, so I sure hope you'lltake our advice and not go out with this guy cause he made you feel special. Find someone that you actually like who makes you feel special.:)

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Originally Posted by funky1

I'm 14 & there is this guy that I like him(or I used to) and he likes me.He talked to me 3 times but I never respond because I just blanked & he taught I didn't like him...so after 2 weeks I went past him and smiled..and he said hi and waved & i waved back...but now it's like he has gave up all hope that i like him.I don't really like him but I wanna give this a second chance and maybe start over again.What could I do if I have no mobile number of him???...I am trying to go to talk to him but everytime it's a failure because his friends come along or something else that makes it imposible to talk to him happens.Tell me what I have to do because I am totally lost. thanks for reading and I hope you can help me..I would really appreciate.

Well I am just 13.
But it sounds like you need to talk to him.
And if it is too hard to talk to him then what's the point in dating?
I mean maybe he is shy.

I don't want the attention!I just don't want to hurt him because I know how it feels.

If he loves me and I just let it go and hang around with my group like he doesn't exist don't you think he will be hurt?? :s what can I do to let him go and not hurt him?

funky1.. I'll tell you this once. DO NOT BE WITH SOMEONE IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO, BECAUSE IT IS SOO MUCH WORSE TO BE WITH SOMEONE AND REALIZE THAT THEY ARE WITH YOU OUT OF PITTY RATHER THEN BECAUSE THEY WANT TO!

I know:(

Then let him down easy. Don't let him find out through the grape vines that you're only with him out of pity.

Talking to a guy

THere is a guy that I like & he likes me too:)I want to talk to him but I'm shy.When I go past him to start a conversation he look at the floor and I feel stupid to say hi.How can I get to talk to him? 10x for your help

How do you know you like each other, especially he likes you without talking to him much?

Sounds like he may be shy too by looking down at floor.

Hello.

Each time you see him flash him your sweet smile and say Hi. He will soon relax and be able to say Hi back. If that doesn't work walk up to him and give him a big wet kiss, that will get his attention hehehehe... Just kidding, Sorry couldn't help myself with that one hehehe.

Honestly I know your both shy but it only is scary for a moment and after you break the ice its all good from then on. So next time you see him give him a sweet smile and looking him in the eyes say Hi and use his name.

Good Luck
Dennis777

I know that he likes me because he used to tease me and I just blank every time he tell me something so he just go back sad. It's was about a month that he last talked to me but since he used to look at me and walk near me.He just looked extreamly sad so I decided to try to talk to him... it was a bit of success because I passed by him and smiled and he said hi and waved and I waved back.But I don't know how to stop and say hi because he is thinking that I don't like him & that I am making fun of him that is why he is looking at the floor as I pass.

If you like him just go up to him and ask him out.

Starting a conversation with your crush

I'm shy and I'm trying to talk to my crush but I find it really difficult and I blank every time I see him.What to do to start a conversation and what to say?(he likes me and he tries to start a conversation with me 3 times but I blanked and said nothing and he is like waiting for me to talk to him now.) help I'll appreciate :d

The hardest part isn't what to say, it's just getting the nerve to go over and say anything at all. If you wait for the perfect time, you'll just keep putting it off. Next time you see him just go over and ask him how is weekend was or find something that you have in common and ask him about it. Another thing is that if he's really good at something then you could ask him to help you with it or show you how to do it because guys like to think they are good at things and help girls with things they are good at. The main thing is just to go do it before it's too late!:)

It's hard for me to know why you can't say anything because I've always been more out-going. So I'll just tell you what I know. Don't make it seem like a big deal, just act casual and suave. If the words won't come out, then don't force them but try thinking of something to say. As for him having trying to start conversations with you, think of what you can say the next time he tries talking to you.
Maybe if you can work up the nerve, you could ask him out. Try wearing something that bring you confidence but keeps you comfortable->ALWAYS be comfortable with yourself.
If he asks you out, and the words won't cme out, nod... might seem dumb but once, that manouver totally helped me.
Just try being more confident in yourself and eventually everything will come out naturally.:)

Hi.Both posts were really good.I was going to talk to him tonight but he didn't show up :(.I went to walk in a street were there are a lot of bars(the centre of the city)and I just felt something that told me to go back and when I told my friend she told me keep walking.she didn't finished the sentence.. there he was walking... I did the worst thing I could ever do I know:(... I crossed the road.. and he stopped walking and looked surprised.then he continued walking and my friend followed where he was going... he went to a club(where mostly there are girls half naked but anyway.. )I think that he used to hang out with a group of people that didn't took any notice of him and totally ingnored him just to stay in the place where I was and now he is hanging with 3 boys who are club type and things... but he isn't!! It s like it is too late!:'(... any advice what to do?? I would REALLY appreciate!

Call him up and ask him to come over or something and explain you end of what happened.

I don't have any mobile number of him :(

Do you have his home number?

No neither

Then how do you guys keep in contact?

We don't have any contact.We just hang in the same place every day at the same time.(or we used to)

Then hope you see him in the near future or even go see him...

Does he have AIM or any chatting tools? Start from there then move to converstation if you are more comfortable with it.
Text message before calling.
Or maybe talk to a mutual friend see if she/he can think of anything that will assist you spend time together and start a conversation with you two together.:)

Somebody know what I can do??

He has a mobile but I don't have any mobile number of his :(