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OK..
I'm 11 years old and I'm in love with a 16 year old.
Can I date him without one of us getting in trouble?
We don't want to have sex.
We just want to hangout,hold hands, hug and a kiss every now and then,
That's all.
What do I do?
I love him so much and he loves me back.
Can I date him?
Oh my, what interest does a 16 year old have in an 11 year old other than sex? (what interest does a 16 year old boy have in anything other than sex? :rolleyes:)
What do your parents say?
11... 16 totally different spectrums! I would steer clear from this guy until your are older, then see what you still think of him sweetie!
At 11 hun, this is not true love. This is what is referred to by us adults as puppy love.
Have you asked your mom and dad if they will let you date him? They probably won't. The age of consent in your state is 16, which means that he is above the age limit and can very well get in trouble if you two did something behind your parents backs and they found out.
Now as far as a 16 year old loving an 11 year old... hmmm, this makes me wonder what he really has on his mind.
Hi I'm 17. U have to see what you really see in him and see if you really like him and if he's really feeling you like that. Because he might not and just want sex but if you have to trust and know that you two won't be doing anything else. But its ealyl your decision because all the advice won't help you. Youhave to decide for yourself because you're going to do what you want in the end, but di you really love him??
Hello Sstarlady, or more like Stargirl.
She is 11 years old for heaven's sake. She can't trust that they won't have sex, boys have a way of talking young girls into that. They have a way of manipulating the innocent into believing that they love them, that they will be with them forever. 11 year olds just do not grasp that it is all talk to get them into bed.
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No, it's not really (is what I think you meant to say) her decision, she is 11. It is her PARENT'S decision. She is too young to make a decision of this proportion.Quote:
but its ealyl your decision
You need to take your mom's sewing machine and make some new dresses for your dolls Oh wait a min. you might not be old enough for the sewing mc. NO YOU CAN'T DATE ANYBODY AT 11.
No, you are not emotionally matured. I know you might think you are but you're not. Wait a few years, if he's your true love, you'll find him againQuote:
Originally Posted by iminovewithryan281
There is no way an 11 year old needs to be dating. Period, I do hope your parents would not even think of allowing it.
Oh my, oh my, oh my... this is scary...
What happened to the age of innocence? I am 23, and I can remember being 11 not so long ago... I was playing with Barbie and watching Saturday morning cartoons... boys were the last thing on my mind, and it wasn't until around this time when I saw the family dog mating with the neighbours that I asked about sex... without that incident it probably wouldn't have even entered my mind!
This is wrong on a couple of levels - One... An 11 year old should NOT be thinking about relationships, sex, love... and a 16 year old should have no interest in an 11 year old!
There is NO way this relationship should be allowed to begin.
Quit trying to play grown up and go play with your Barbie dolls.
Wooooooooooooooooowwww! First thing's first: a slap in the face by reality. Hunni, you're 11 years old. You barely know what love is, you barely know what love means. Not when it comes to boys anyway. Maybe when it comes to family and friends and toys (not trying to be mean, cause I still love my teddy bear). Look, you should enjoy your youth... you're not even a teenager yet. You should enjoy life instead of rushing through it, because it's going to go by sooo fast as soon as you hit 15. Trust me, it's a bad idea. More importantly, what do you think an 16 year old has in mind to be doing with you? Just stay away and be careful...
I am no expert but a 16 year old should not be desiring an 11 year old... something is wrong on numerous levels. You're 11, you should be thinking about other things. I feel bad even responding because I think you may need a lot more help than what is available here.Quote:
Originally Posted by iminovewithryan281
I agree with you but she's going to be the one who chooses in the end so she can take advice or leave it. I'm just saying from my view that there are a lot of young ladies who have much older boyfriends that aren't just in it for sex, but you never know.
o0o and she should talk to a family memebr she trust's that's an adult, it doesn't have to be her parents but someone she's close to in the family.
iight I understand and don't jump on me! What I am saying is that no matter what advice we give, because in the end she can be like "i "love" him and im going to do watever i want", she's go'n 2do what she wants. If anything, she's needs to talk 2 someone she trust and it doesn't have to be her parents just an older family member. I would wna to protect her if I was her mother but put'n her in a cage and straping her to a seat won't help because she's going to rebel if she really wants to be his girlfriend. But NO I understand in a mother perspective that she shouldn't be dating a 16 year old
It does have to be her parents, they are responsible for her.
You are barely a teenager and you want to kiss and hold hands already? Wow!
No you cannot date a 16 year old, you can't date anyone. You could get him in a lot of trouble from your parents, and the police, or anyone who catches you holding hands or kissing.
Ok. First of all. Your 11 years old and you do not know what love is. This is just a crush you have. And how can he love you when your not fully developed you're a baby still. I say wait unti your older and if he loves you he would wait.
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Originally Posted by starlady
Nothing a good smack on the a** or a girls home won't take care of. When you as a parent can't lay the law down in your own home with an 11 year old, something is wrong with your skills as a parent.
I fail to see how you can seriously love someone who's 5 years older than you when you're 11. I think you're just having a crush. Two very different things. A crush is like being visually attracted. Love is more complex and hard to understand at a young age without experience. 21 dating a 26 is one thing but 11 dating a 16 is well.. simply put... wrong.
There are many cases where the guy 5 years older is in "love" with the girl, and then just uses her for sex. This is just online advice from people with experience. Keep in mind that we don't know anything about this guy, but ask yourself.
"How will I live knowing that I was used when others told me it was going to happen."
All this may sound unfair and unjust to you because you're 11 and you "can't make your own choices." Yeah it sucks we've all been there, but there is a reason. Age comes with experience, and knowledge. It's not just a number. Everyone who's giving you advice is an individual who knows what they're talking about because of what they went through in life.
Enjoy your life while your young because now it is simple and fun. When you're older you will regret not being 11 and wanting to grow up to soon. Trust me on this one :). Have fun and don't worry about relationships now. Remember, sometimes your heart is like a child that needs to be put in place by the mind.
Honey, my daughter is only 2 years younger than you and I won't tolerate dating until she's 16. And I'm sorry, but at 11, trust me, you really don't know what love is. It's more like lust. Please wait! I know it sounds like fun and 'adult like', you're not. You're still a child.
I think its up to you. Although Cation: coming from an 11 year old guy you should trust me, don't get too close or he will get annoyed and dump you, and don't get used to it because he might feel weird about dating an 11 year old and leave for someone his own age.
I am 18, and at 16 neither me nor any of my friends had interest in someone that young. I'm sorry, but even if his intentions are noble, something about this just doesn't sit right. I'm not sure if you really love him or if you just think that you do, but either way you should wait because you are living in two completely different worlds
Yes you can I know that you said you do not want to have sex, but if you ever decide to make sure he has not turned 18 yet so that he does not get in trouble you will not get in trouble no matter how old he is
Please take the time to read this.
5 years difference? Sorry, but at 11, you really do not know what love is. He must be after only one thing if he is willing to want a relationship with someone still in elementary school. And that one thing is sex. I am not trying to rain on your parade here, I just don't want you to give yourself away to someone who is only after one thing, no matter WHAT he says. He will say he loves you, he will say everything he thinks you want to hear. So in the long run, he can get in your pants. Sorry babe, but it is not a good idea to date someone at your age. Especially a 16 year old who is horny and wants sex and doesn't care who it is from. I do not even know if I have much more to say, because it isn't like you are going to listen to us anyway. You are going to say "no they're wrong, I really DO love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him." No hun, in about 10 years if you are still with him, give us a call and tell us how wrong we were.
What do your parents say about this ? Do they even know ? Or do they think you are going to your friends house, which may be his little sister? I am sorry I am coming down so hard on you, but this is serious and now is not the time to ruin your life. If you do decide to date this boy, and your parents are okay with that, DO NOT have sex with him, save yourself for marriage. I am sure all of us have made the mistake of giving ourselves away to someone we don't even talk to anymore.
Give this time and thought because you may think you know what you want, but you still have your WHOLE life ahead of you.
You may not want to listen but oh well I will say it anyway given his age he is probably only after what is between your legs and he will say anything to get what you have that he wants and just think about this if he does you like I am saying how many others could he have done the same way
I'm 14 and never dated anybody.I think that I am still young but I would date somebody if he's OK and if I know him for about a month yeah.But at the age of 11 you shouldn't!! Your still way to young to date even an 11 year old guy! He's 16 and you think he is kind and gentle but you might find him very different.If I was you I wouldn't date him.I know you're thinking that you have what you want and nothing can be better but when you hang out with a group and laugh and have a good time I'm sure you'll have a MUCH BETTER time(from my experience)... 16 year old guys just don't want an 11 year girl to fall in love with.Get away and enjoy your teenage years... you'll have a lot time to love!
At 11/16 the age difference is HUGE. 30/25 no big deal. If he doesn't now, he will very soon want to have sex with you. Ready to be a mother?
I think you scared of me.
U know what, every time I read somethine like this, I wonder what do your parents answer about your question?Will they be fightened?
I personally think that's not true love, too early to date no matter how old the guy is.
It's just too early.
There is also laws that prohibit this from happening for example in some states the age of consent is 16 so it could be considered statuatory rape if you were to have sex, there is also the romeo and julet law in Georgia.Quote:
Originally Posted by Pook_Myster
All I can say is at age 11 I was playing with my Little Pony and Barbie. Sure I thought my brothers friends were so cool and so cute being that they were 14. But they wanted nothing to do with an annoying 11 year old.
This guy is bad. What does your mom think about this? I imagine since you are so mature to date a 16 year old that you are discussed this with your parents?
A 16 year old has serious problems if they really want to date an 11 year old. The age gap is way way to big, 11 year olds should not date regardless.
[QUOTE=answers_16]yes you can but it is not a good idea to have sex until marriage
[QUOTE=answers_16]You are actually saying its okay? What interest could a 16 year old possibly have in an 11 year old? When I was 11, I was in 5th grade, when I was 16, I was a sophomore in high school. That doesn't sound like a huge gap to you? The age is bad enough, but the school year gap is huge too! Do you think it would sound good for a sophomore going around telling everyone his girlfriend was in 5th grade?Quote:
Originally Posted by answers_16
k, 11 year olds don't play with dolls anymore, believe me. I know this because I'm pretty close to your age hunn, and you have to go what with your heart tells you, I've always been intrested in older guys, if you go out with him, make sure your safe and one I was taking to an older guy, it got into too much, if he ever wants to make you do something you don't want to do, then walk away form him right away k? I hope this is helpful.
You shouldn't date.
That simple.
Im 22 years old and you know how many times I tought I was in Love once too many... I think you should not date him first because he is 5 years older than you and apparently he is in high school and trust me he is not thinking just about holding hands and kissing every now and then... I think you should give yourself time... pretty soon when you are 15 or 16 you can start dating.
You should never be thinking about guys. You should be playing outside with your friends
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