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  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:22 PM
    lexibunny
    Living on your own at 15
    I'm sick of my parents treating me like
    I'm done here how do I get out ?
    Ontario canada
  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:29 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma

    Most kids are tired of their parents every once in a while. Why is your environment so bad? What is the adult age in Ontario? Here it's 18. I got emancipated at 15, that could be an option if you are within the requirements and you have a good reason. It's not an easy process by any means.
  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:30 PM
    justcurious55

    So, where do you plan to live? How are you going to support yourself and finish school? I don't know canada's laws, but I'd bet they're not that different from laws in the u.s. and no judge would emancipate a 15 year old with no place to go, and no way to support them self, and no way to stay in school. So how do you plan to do these things and how will you prove to a judge that taking care of yourself will be better for you than being with your parents?
  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:35 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma

    Exactly. Not only that but you have to prove that you are capable of obtaining your driver's license early. Already have steady employment. Most states require a certain bank account balance. And a place that will take an emancipated minor. Again, this isn't a simple task. It's worth it if you are already doing these things. It's not going to be possible if you are just mad at your parents, no judge will grant you emancipation under those circumstances. We really need more information from you to best answer your question.
  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:38 PM
    lexibunny

    They treat me like I'm nothing , I babysit their little brats all the time and they never let me out. My mother is doing nothing but making my life missrable. I'm not ready to live on my own I want to find a way to get a foster home
  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:40 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Yes, your what type of job do you have that pays enough to live on your ow.

    Do you have enough money saved to pay rent and deposit. Enough money to pay attorneys
  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:43 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma

    You can't just opt into a foster home. The state has to prove that your guardian/parent(s) aren't fit. At what age in your area are you considered a legal adult?
  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:43 PM
    justcurious55

    I realize that there are some really wonderful foster parents out there. But I think its important for you to realize that not every foster parent or foster family is good. If you did figure out some way to end up in a foster home, there's a very real possibility you'll end up in a home much worse than with your own parents. It doesn't sound like they're actually do anything wrong from what little you've told us. Having to babysit and not being allowed to go out isn't abuse. Unless there's a lot more to your story, it sounds like you've got a pretty normal life and just need to learn to deal with it.

    Is there a family member, maybe grandparents or aunt and uncle, that might be willing to let you stay with them for a while? With your parents consent of course.
  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:46 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma

    It sounds like you are upset that you are getting older and therefore gaining more responsibility (babysitting). These things might not always be the most fun, but your parents need your help sometimes. I really think we are missing some of the story. I think EVERY kid has said "I hate my parents" at least once.
  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:49 PM
    lexibunny

    Babysitting is one thing but having your friends ask you who's baby it really is because you're the one watching it all the time is another thing
  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:50 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma

    When are you watching the baby? When your parents are at work?
  • Apr 10, 2010, 03:51 PM
    lexibunny

    I'm the one watching him even when they are home and when I say something they say that I do nothing for them and I never have the baby. My dad works my mom stays home
  • Apr 10, 2010, 04:03 PM
    Wondergirl

    Do you attend school?
  • Apr 10, 2010, 04:04 PM
    lexibunny

    Yes I am in grade nine
  • Apr 10, 2010, 04:06 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Cultures differ, at 15 it is not ucommon for parents to expect you to watch another child a lot of the time you are not in school
  • Apr 10, 2010, 04:20 PM
    justcurious55

    I know its not fun always having to be responsible for your little siblings. But unless your parents are actually being neglectful (like my mother was, for example. She would leave me at home with my four younger siblings not only while she worked, but then for all hours of the night while she was out drinking and partying), I don't see any reason why a judge or anyone else would think it was in your best interests to be removed from their care. You haven't told us about anything they are actually doing wrong, like any that is putting you are your siblings in any sort of danger or anything. You just have a lot of responsibilities that, while they may not be fair, aren't illegal. At least from what you've told us
  • Apr 10, 2010, 04:22 PM
    ScottGem

    You sound like every teenager who is expected to help out at home and balks at the task.

    But the bottom line here is that you have two choices; a) qualify and apply for emancipation or b) prove your parents unfit so you get put into the foster care system. Neither of which is very likely to happen.

    But there is a third option. Talk to the guidance counselor at school, your clergyperson or a relative your parents will listen to. Get that person to intercede with your parents. Maybe some compromise can be reached.
  • Apr 10, 2010, 04:27 PM
    lexibunny

    I'm 15 I can't apply for emancipation till I'm 16
  • Apr 10, 2010, 04:28 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by lexibunny View Post
    im 15 i can't apply for emancipation till im 16

    You will be ready then and have everything in place?
  • Apr 10, 2010, 04:30 PM
    lexibunny

    I would like to be moved out of here by the end of the sumester

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