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Guy problems?

Um okay I like this guy and we gve had a thing for like a year and it's been off and on. We have dated but it just didn't work out because we were in differeent schools ( he was in high school (freshman) and I was in middle school (8 th grade)). So that's why. He just told me that he's starting to like me again and I feel the same way, and I also told him that... But we decided not to date until next year cause then we won't run into the same problem luke last time, so this time we will be in the same school. But we barely ever talk... And I really like him and don't wannt to loose him. What should I do to keep the fire burning?

If you two really like each other, the fire will not go out.
Do what you have decided to do, wait!

Don't rush cause it will only end up like last time and this not talking part you wrote, well that would be a big sign for me if a girl was going that to me (not really interested)... so maybe you should talk to him and see what's up with him.

Wel if you guys really like each other.. u know that fresh first love?. than the fire will not burn out.. but if it does.. than don't worry because you are barely going into high school and there will be plenty of fine young boys out there for you.. so don't worry.. and don't throw too much wood into the fire..

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Well you don't want to start acting up, and how do you know they are not on your brother as well?
I just can't imagine them thinking you lie about EVERYTHING. If that were the case, they would never let you out of the house. How old is your brother? What is your relationship like with your brother?

Um he's 17 and my relationship is I guess okay. All his friends hit on me and really don't like him too much, but like him enough to hang out wit me. (which is a little akward) so my bro thinks that like I'm more popular than him wit his friends. So our relationship isn't the greatest.

Well perhaps your parents keep a watch on you because of your brother's friends. They should not be hanging out with you.

It may not be they don't trust you, but are just cautious.

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Originally Posted by lovingmonkey14

All his friends hit on me

Now I understand your parents' paranoia about how you might behave. I'm guessing you enjoy their attention (I certainly would have!) and your parents notice that.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Now I understand your parents' paranoia about how you might behave. I'm guessing you enjoy their attention (I certainly would have!) and your parents notice that.

Haha yup. That's what I'm thinking

Is it meant to be? Or should I just stop thinking about it? Going for it.

Ever since the beginning of the school year there has been this guy who liked me. And it was kinds cute cause we were friends and like everyone knew he was going to endup liking me and when he did everyone but me knew it. It was like I was blinded, but then after a lot of people told me I finally realized it. I feel really bad because I knew that he leked me and every now and then I would use it to my adavntage but trust me not in any mean or bad ways, because I had always told myself I would never like him or date him. Well... I was wrong because the more we talked and had each other in classes the more I guess I kind of fell for him, but before that happened I told him that maybe me and him had a chance. Then like he started not liking me so much but still liking me but dated another girl, mostly just to get me jell and I have to say it kinds worked (haha). And honestly I thought they would never break up, until one day he came up to me and said I need to talk to you about my girlfriend " can you break the news to her" I was like no you need to do it. So anyway there not dating no more. And I was just at his house the other day and I was talking to his dad and he was telling me a story about how I should just give him a chance and just because he's not first on my "list" or "tops" doesn't mean he's not good enough. His dad also said everyone who was somebody and thought that some people were nobodys those nobodys turned out to be somebodys. So in a way his dad like made me feel really really bad.. But I didn't feel to bad because in a way I was falling for him. So his dad made me really think about things and everyone always tells us were meant to be and such a cute great couple! And every time I hear that my heart just smiles, but I act like it's kind of some nonsense. So I guess in a way I have been lying to myself and telling myself not to cal for him but omg I just can't stop thinking about it! So what do you think I should do... GO FOR IT OR NOT!!

What?
Your post made my head spin because it was really difficult to understand and it doesn't seem like most of it related to the question I think you're trying to ask...

Are you asking if you should date your friend?

If you don't like him, why do you need to date him? You shouldn't date someone just because other people think you should.

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Originally Posted by iluvjUDGEjUDY

Walk outside your door pack your stuff and move out they clearly only wanted one child (your brother)

Stop causing them hassle just leave

LOVE MOM

What?

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Originally Posted by nikosmom

What??
Your post made my head spin because it was really difficult to understand and it doesn't seem like most of it related to the question I think you're trying to ask...

Are you asking if you should date your friend?

If you don't like him, why do you need to date him?? You shouldn't date someone just because other people think you should.

No it's not like that, I'm not asking if I should date him or asking if I should cause others are saying I should. Sorry.

So then what are you asking exactly? I think I missed something.

He's your friend.
You don't really like him as a BF.
Buuut, everyone else thinks you'd be cute together.
So now you're considering dating him.

Did I miss anything?

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Originally Posted by nikosmom

So then what are you asking exactly? I think I missed something.

He's your friend.
You don't really like him as a BF.
Buuut, everyone else thinks you'd be cute together.
So now you're considering dating him.

Did I miss anything?

Yes. Everything that you just like listed has kind of nothing to do with it. I'm asking because j like him should I go for it and then I just gave some background about the whole situation.

If you can't decide for yourself, then obviously you aren't ready for a relationship. Figure out what you want on your own, otherwise you're going to have an empty relationship with this guy and end up breaking his heart.

None of us know how you feel, and as far as background info goes, it's mostly irrelevant. If you like spending time with him, that's fine; you don't have to be in a relationship to spend time with someone.

Do you feel like you're obligated to give him a chance? You shouldn't. You seem like an insecure person, and a bit of a user (you said it yourself, don't get mad at me for calling you out on it) so I really think your best option is to stay as friends. Who cares what everyone else thinks. They aren't in your head or your heart, so they don't have the right to judge you.

~ Tee

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Originally Posted by lovingmonkey14

Yes. Everything that you just like listed has kind of nothing to do with it. I'm asking because j like him should I go for it and then I just gave some background about the whole situation.

Everything I 'like' listed was 'like' from your post. So I had to 'like' try to 'like' decipher what was 'like' important.

So 'like' since you're now 'like' saying you like him, what's the question?

As Tee said, if you're unsure, then don't get involved with him and end up hurting him.

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Originally Posted by lovingmonkey14

I just still really don't get it. My parents don't even know what my brothers friends say and half the time neither does my brother...!

Your parents and your brother may know more than you think and if they don't you need to tell them. I suggest you stay away from from his friends. Their actions appear to be inappropriate.
You are 14 years old and have older friends of your brother hitting on you and you have no problem with it, don't see the danger in it, this is why you also don't understand your parent's reasoning.
Trust your parents. You may not like it, but they know best.

What guy?

I like both of these guys so much.
Which one: the one who I've liked for a long time and I can picture being with, and I really like him a lot... OR
The guy who I always kind of had feelings for, for like the past few months but really can't picture myslef with, but is willing to give it a try.
I'm stuck! Like I said I like both of them so much!

Which one is more sincere in liking you back?
It is one thing to pick a guy but they have to want to be with you too.
Are they both interested in being your boyfriend?

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

Which one is more sincere in liking you back?
It is one thing to pick a guy but they have to want to be with you too.
Are they both interested in being your bf?

Yeah and that's my problem.. They both like me. And like just when I think I am going to make up my mind the other one says or does something that gets me thinking again.