The human body has a strange way of fighting back when people use drugs or alcohol... right after the temporary numbness wears off from them... the body is even far more sensitive to the stimulous than it was before.

That's how it makes it worse... and doesn't help anything.

Its making you sound like an out of control troll. Not only hurting those that have befriended you, but also will hurt your mom to find her daughter in a drunk stupor, and breaking her trust.

No matter what you have been through, it's a BAD decision by a traumatized 15 year old, and you can do better than make a bad situation worse. Cut it out!!

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I feel like I'm going to cry and I don't want to I just want to let it go for one friggin night I know it will still be there but not for now. How am I suppose to co operate I don't even know what she wants me to do I can't even look at her. I don't even like the taste of this stuff but at least I won't be able to think

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Night time is when doubts and concerns become monsters waiting to pounce. Alcohol makes them stronger and puts you in a very bad situation. No Alcohol. No Drugs.

You need to start finding better ways of coping. We have given you several options. Can you think of something that normally grabs your attention and holds it? When the anger and frustration start taking over, find a positive thought/action to focus on instead. Banish the monsters by not giving them space in your head. It takes work, but you can do it.

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Its making you sound like an out of control troll. Not only hurting those that have befriended you, but also will hurt your mom to find her daughter in a drunk stupor, and breaking her trust.

No matter what you have been through, it's a BAD decision by a traumatized 15 year old, and you can do better than make a bad situation worse. Cut it out!!

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Fine I don't want to hurt mum and I don't want to hurt anyone else. I don't think. I can drink I anymore of this stuff anyway it gross. I'm just being selfish think about mum. Why is it that I always have to think of everyone worry about them it doesn't work anyway they end up getting hurt. I need help I don't know what I'm doing anymore

Another thing to share with your mom! You cannot do this alone and drugs and alcohol make it worse, so take that shower, and get some hot tea and RELAX!

Did the police refer you to any helplines or support groups?

If you give your general location (Country/State/Territory) we might be able to help you find some on-line resources or phone numbers.

In the morning you need to let your mother know you need help dealing with this. Be honest with her. That is the main way you can get the help you want and need.

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Fine I don't want to hurt mum and I don't want to hurt anyone else. I don't think. I can drink I anymore of this stuff anyway it gross. I'm just being selfish think about mum. Why is it that I always have to think of everyone worry about them it doesn't work anyway they end up getting hurt. I need help I don't know what I'm doing anymore

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Welcome to what its like for adults... and doubly so for parents.

Children think only about themselves... what they want... whats good for them. THey really don't understand the world doesn't revolve around them and their actions affect others... good or bad.

You are just beginning to understand this... but you are still used to thinking as a child. The older you get... the less you will do that. Your mother will have put most of what she wanted asside in order to be able to give more to you and your sister. So much you really can't understand right now... but in the next 5 or 10 years.. you will really understand how much. And you will feel ashamed that you actually felt the way you do right now.

Maturity and courage is all about doing what's right, even if its not what we want, and sometimes when it hurts... if its going to help someone close to us. Nobody is closer than family.

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Did the police refer you to any helplines or support groups?

If you give your general location (Country/State/Territory) we might be able to help you find some on-line resources or phone numbers.

In the morning you need to let your mother know you need help dealing with this. Be honest with her. That is the main way you can get the help you want and need.

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I live in australia in adelaide. I don't really know what they said or gave mum she didn't really talk to me much but ha you grt that right

Drinking your troubles away does not make you feel better, and if you don't even like the taste of it, it does not even make sense. You are opening yourself up to developing a horrible habit and as young as you are, you are asking for bigger trouble. Listen to those who know better than you. Do you want your mom to feel worse knowing you are now drinking? You need someone there to talk to. Ask your mom if there is a group of some sort you can join or talk to her.

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Welcome to what its like for adults... and doubly so for parents.

Children think only about themselves... what they want... whats good for them. THey really don't understand the world doesn't revolve around them and their actions affect others... good or bad.

You are just beginning to understand this... but you are still used to thinking as a child. The older you get... the less you will do that. Your mother will have put most of what she wanted asside in order to be able to give more to you and your sister. So much you really can't understand right now... but in the next 5 or 10 years.. you will really understand how much. And you will feel ashamed that you actually felt the way you do right now.

Maturity and courage is all about doing what's right, even if its not what we want, and sometimes when it hurts... if its going to help someone close to us. Nobody is closer than family.

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Well that's something to look forward to. I wish the world would go away right now I don't want anything revolving around me. Does it not get tiring then make you go mental always thinking of everyone putting what you want last because I'm finding it hard. I want to get drunk and make it go away but then I hurt my family and offend people who are here helping me so I won't drink anymore

It's time to start talking to yourself in a positive way, not negatively like you've been doing. It will take some practice, but I know you can do it.

I was going to list some positive thoughts to have, but how about if YOU tell us at least three positive things you can say to yourself.

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Drinking your troubles away does not make you feel better, and if you don't even like the taste of it, it does not even make sense. You are opening yourself up to developing a horrible habit and as young as you are, you are asking for bigger trouble. Listen to those who know better than you. Do you want your mom to feel worse knowing you are now drinking? You need someone there to talk to. Ask your mom if there is a group of some sort you can join or talk to her.

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I don't want to join a group and I don't want to talk to my mum about it I want to push it aside and forget and if I can't do that by drinking then I will just try myself. I had the will power not to talk to anyone for months so I can do this I just need to snap out of it I'm not this person I know I can be strong

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Well that's something to look forward to. I wish the world would go away right now I don't want anything revolving around me. Does it not get tiring then make you go mental always thinking of everyone putting what you want last because I'm finding it hard. I want to get drunk and make it go away but then I hurt my family and offend people who are here helping me so I won't drink anymore

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You night not see it this way yet... but when you are an adult... its natural to do things that way. You don't sit there and think... oh how I hate this, or oh how I hate that... you just do it because you need to do it. And it actually feels good to help others.

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It's time to start talking to yourself in a positive way, not negatively like you've been doing. It will take some practice, but I know you can do it.

I was going to list some positive thoughts to have, but how about if YOU tell us at least three positive things you can say to yourself.

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Three I can't even think of one thing at the moment. The only thing I'm still here for is my sister and mum. I don't want to hurt them

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Three I can't even think of one thing at the moment. The only thing I'm still here for is my sister and mum. I don't want to hurt them

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1. "I'm here for my sister. I don't want her to get hurt too."

2. "I'm here for my mum."

Okay, good. I KNEW you could do it! I want you to think of one more.

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Three I can't even think of one thing at the moment. The only thing I'm still here for is my sister and mum. I don't want to hurt them

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And those are good thoughts to be having, they will help keep your mind where it needs to be... not, I want to get drunk...

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1. "I'm here for my sister. I don't want her to get hurt too."

2. "I'm here for my mum."

Okay, good. I KNEW you could do it! I want you to think of one more.

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3. I should not complain there are people out there who have been through worse situations than me

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3. I should not complain there are people out there who have been through worse situations than me

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Hmmmm, a little iffy there with the "not" in it. Let's turn that into more of a positive. You try first. Maybe start out with "I'm going to...."

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3. I should not complain there are people out there who have been through worse situations than me

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Those are good positive thoughts and the last one is a good one and shows maturity. You will get through this. Your mom listened and took steps to change things. There are girls out there whose situation did not turn out as well, so your ahead of it already.

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And those are good thoughts to be having, they will help keep your mind where it needs to be... not, I want to get drunk...

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I wanted to get drunk because if I did what I felt like doing it would hurt my mum and sister I though that if I got drunk I would not hurt anyone but myself and it would help bunt I get it it won't help