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  • Aug 16, 2010, 11:00 AM
    Unknown008
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bijiou36 View Post
    i haven't done history yet, i have that starting this year. & i have
    Math-F
    Reading-A
    Art-A
    Science-B
    P.E-A
    Biology-A
    Extra Math-F
    Extra Math2-F

    Well, the B in science explains it. I would like to know something though. What do you exactly do in science?

    Because, from what I know, the 3 main parts of science that are usually called pure science that is taught are biology, chemistry and physics and I find it strange that your system is such that science and biology are considered apart. They should either be considered as one, or totally separated.
  • Aug 16, 2010, 11:11 AM
    bijiou36

    I really don't know why their seprate but in science (since I last went to school) we weren't really doing nothing but taking notes for finals and in Bio it was basically like Sex Ed or something.
  • Aug 16, 2010, 11:12 AM
    FoxCash
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bijiou36 View Post
    i haven't done history yet, i have that starting this year. & i have
    Math-F
    Reading-A
    Art-A
    Science-B
    P.E-A
    Biology-A
    Extra Math-F
    Extra Math2-F

    You need to work on schooling before you concern yourself with the experience of love, boyfriends, and a sex life. Without taking your education seriously you will end up nowhere, looking back on your life wondering where you went wrong.

    There will be plenty of times to come for you to find a boyfriend, eventually settle down, and have a family. But for you that time is not now and it's especially not with this person.

    The things people are telling you are not things they're just pulling out of the head to make it sound good. We all on here have had experiences, lessons, and have learned from them. What's great about learning life lessons is not what we ourselves get from them but the knowledge that we can also pass on to others to help them out or prevent them from making the same bad choices we did.

    These people have been there.

    You nor your "boyfriend" hold the knowledge or maturity at this time to be together or to work together to fix what is going on. Your "boyfriend" needs more help than you can give him. He has some mental issues going on that CAN be fixed. But not by someone that is the same age and has some issues of her own.

    I know you feel like this is love but it's just not. Keep yourself occupied by making friends right now but only friends. Enjoy what you have of your years before you need to face the real world. Look into places like Big Brother/Big Sister to see if you can be enrolled as a child through to program and get some help with areas in your life by someone who has been there but won't seem like it's an adult telling you what to do.

    Work on your schooling, look into to a tutor, or as suggested try the math section of this site. You will get passed this situation and some day look back on it and realize just how juvenile and self-destructive it is. This is not all there is to life.
  • Aug 16, 2010, 11:20 AM
    Unknown008
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bijiou36 View Post
    i really don't know why their seprate but in science (since i last went to school) we weren't really doing nothing but taking notes for finals and in Bio it was basically like Sex Ed or something.

    Wait... do you mean you got an A in Sex Ed and still don't know the risks you are taking in your life?
  • Aug 16, 2010, 11:21 AM
    Homegirl 50
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bijiou36 View Post
    because, he was trying to but i know he's scared to

    He needs professional help.
  • Aug 16, 2010, 11:31 AM
    bijiou36

    Yes I got an A in sex Ed & I do know the risk. If I get pregnant at this age it'll ruin my whole life I could be out on the streets with a baby no food/water and nothing to support us. I Know the risk that COULD HAVE happened that DID NOT happen.
  • Aug 16, 2010, 11:36 AM
    Unknown008

    You already forgot what I told you it seems... I'll repeat myself. What did not happen might not happen the next time... but what IF it had happened? You seem to think that since it didn't happen the first, nor the second and nor the third time, you're safe. I told you already that the more try, the more likely it'll happen.
  • Aug 16, 2010, 11:43 AM
    bijiou36

    Nooo I don't think that I know that it doesn't matter if it's the last time ever it can still happen. It doesn't matter how many times it is it can still happen, so no I don't think that
  • Aug 16, 2010, 12:15 PM
    Wondergirl

    So you won't have sex again unless you are financially stable, in a permanent relationship, and eager to have a baby?
  • Aug 16, 2010, 12:18 PM
    bijiou36

    I will just not really "sex" as in a penis in a vagina I'll do it other ways I guess.
  • Aug 16, 2010, 01:20 PM
    Homegirl 50

    You still want to guard yourself against disease. You can get herpes from oral sex and anal sex.
    You need to be careful.
  • Aug 16, 2010, 01:25 PM
    bijiou36

    I Know, I don't plan to do it anytime soon anyway, I don't even have a boyfriend. But even if I do get one, we won't be doing any of that the 1st few months, that's how I get to know if they really want to be with me or if their using me
  • Aug 16, 2010, 01:33 PM
    Homegirl 50

    That is smart thinking.
    Use this time to concentrate on your studies. Hang out with your friends, leave dating and boy friends alone for a while.
    You have plenty of time.
  • Aug 16, 2010, 01:40 PM
    bijiou36

    I Am, but the problem with that is, I have more friends that are guys than girls, I Don't know why but I don't get along with girls much and my dad thinks that if I hangout with a guy I'm going to have sex wit him. But Yeea I'm not even focused on friends I'm focused on my grades so I can go to colleague and major in Writing if they have that
  • Aug 16, 2010, 01:43 PM
    Homegirl 50

    I can understand that. My daughter when she was your age had more male friends than female.
    Have you tried talking to your dad about this? Not in anger just a chat.

    I have a feeling you're going to be OK
  • Aug 16, 2010, 01:47 PM
    bijiou36

    Yea I tried to explain to him that its hard for me to get along with girls a lot & way easier to get along with guys and he said "still no only girls i don't need you to lie to me i know you've probly thought about sleeping with one." I try a lot every now & then though.
  • Aug 16, 2010, 01:49 PM
    Homegirl 50

    Well it's too bad he does not understand that it is possible to have guy friends.
    You will be OK though. Just hang in there.
  • Aug 16, 2010, 01:50 PM
    bijiou36

    Okay, well can I major in colleague at writing?
  • Aug 16, 2010, 01:55 PM
    Homegirl 50

    You can if you work hard, but you better get a handle on that spelling of yours :)
  • Aug 16, 2010, 01:59 PM
    bijiou36

    Okay! I always spell wrong if it's on something like this or myspace/facebook etc, But if it's something importantt for skool or a Job or something then I'll do it properly

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