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  • Nov 14, 2009, 06:01 PM
    2ndTime

    I don't know where you are, but I think you should give her a break. You may not have been a trophy boyfriend, but more about your relationship is needed to know more about you. In addition, because of your age people can consider you as a pedofile. If you don't know what this means try to look it up. I am not being mean it's the law.
  • Nov 21, 2009, 06:35 PM
    CGM91
    Safety Net?
    My now ex-girlfriend (who is 16) just broke up with me because she said that "she needs to date other guys because she can't commit to a long term relationship and that she needs to get hurt in relationships and gain experience before she is any good of a girlfriend to me"

    I was her first boyfriend (I am 18) and I have been around per say..

    What do you guys think? Should I forget about her? She is quite the women and we are both very compatible and our families are awesome. But she is very inexperienced and it would be unfair for me to make her only have one guy for the rest of her life?

    Opinions?
  • Nov 21, 2009, 06:54 PM
    Gemini54
    Yes, she needs to gain life experience, and, may I add so do you. Your own inexperience is patently clear if you actually believe that at 16 and 18 you would be together 'for life'. The likelihood of this is so slim, as to be almost non-existent.

    Listen to what she's saying. She's a teenager and she wants to do teenage things like date and have a good time. You should be wanting to do these things as well.

    In fact she's more mature than you think - the fact that she recognizes her need to get more life experience is indicative of that!

    Have a great time exploring the world.
  • Nov 21, 2009, 07:02 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Well honestly it is not your choice, but there is nothing wrong at all in finding and dating only the one person you end up with.

    But just like when you were 16 and may have changed girl friends like you did socks, at 16 this is what normally happens and to be expected
  • Nov 21, 2009, 07:51 PM
    Cat1864
    Once again, let's get the whole story in one place: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ed-404786.html

    You need to let her go to live her own life. It sounds like she is letting you down as easily as she knows how to. At least, she is stopping the game playing.

    I think you have seen this coming because you have written about being concerned over her hanging out with other guys and her choice of clothing and actions along with the way other guys have been treating her.

    Compatibility and families aren't the only requirements for a good relationship. So is trust and maturity.

    I am not sure you trust her and she definitely does not have any maturity yet.

    I would suggest reading the stickies at the top of the Relationship Forum about breaking up. They may hold some valuable information for you.

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