Ask Me Help Desk - Losing my faith

You can take it,but what are you going to do with it?

Are you beating yourself up over it again?

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Originally Posted by KBC

You can take it,but what are you going to do with it?

Are you beating yourself up over it again?

Nah, I understood why she didn't feel the same way I did

So? What is next?Do you have any thoughts about last nights discussion?

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Originally Posted by KBC

So? what is next?Do you have any thoughts about last nights discussion?

Uuuum, yeah, how can I make self pitty leave

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Originally Posted by KBC

the medication you said doesn't do you any good,,,for whatever reasons, would eventually help you by clearing those obsessive thoughts,therapy is necessary to help you address them as your mind starts to unscramble those thoughts.

KBC

This is a good start to getting relief from this 'pity pot'

Therapy is another.

Facing your reasons as to WHY you feel like you do.

What makes the pity so attractive.It's addictive isn't it?

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Originally Posted by KBC

This is a good start to getting relief from this 'pity pot'

therapy is another.

Facing your reasons as to WHY you feel like you do.

What makes the pity so attractive.It's addictive isn't it?

I don't know it=f its exactly addictive, but it feels like it almost gives me an "edge"

An edge over what?

It's keeping you from feeling anything.

It uses up all your energy to keep it alive,it dominates what you are.Keep thinking like this and you'll never succeed in anything.

Where is your ambition today?Do you want it to stay the same forever?

People who talk about hell? People do talk about it... hell and heaven... part of history.. but if they do say like omg hell woohh. Then get away from those people.

& try not to put yourself down, go out find better people.

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Originally Posted by AManWithNoName

I dont know it=f its exactly addictive, but it feels like it almost gives me an "edge"

Some people use 'pity' or a victim role for approval. Try not to be an an approval sucker. Which mean try not to suck sympathy from others, eventually they will tire of it and you will find yourself having to find other people to suck approval from. It's a never ending cycle and you will never feel like you have enough approval.

The trick, if you've been reading my posts is about love, and love is about giving. Try giving to others and that means listen to them more than talk about yourself or your problems. Be the friend others have been to you, etc.

It is in the giving we receive, 10 fold more than what you get when you approval suck.

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Originally Posted by TexasParent

Some people use 'pity' or a victim role for approval. Try not to be an an approval sucker. Which mean try not to suck sympathy from others, eventually they will tire of it and you will find yourself having to find other people to suck approval from. It's a never ending cycle and you will never feel like you have enough approval.

The trick, if you've been reading my posts is about love, and love is about giving. Try giving to others and that means listen to them more than talk about yourself or your problems. Be the friend others have been to you, etc.

It is in the giving we recieve, 10 fold more than what you get when you approval suck.

Quit assuming that I use pity for acceptance, you don't f**ing know me, I want answeres, not your damn accusations

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Originally Posted by AManWithNoName

quit assuming that i use pity for acceptance, you dont f**ing know me, i want answeres, not your damn accusations

Dude,what is the anger from?

If you want help we will try,but this isn't going to do you any good trying to argue with the people who are here out of the kindness of their hearts.We aren't paid to be here,this is only to better ourselves and to help others.

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Originally Posted by AManWithNoName

quit assuming that I use pity for acceptance, you don't f**ing know me, I want answeres, not your damn accusations

Funny, you were the one who said you used it and it gave you an edge. I was merely trying to give you an understanding of pity and how it's used.

You know, we aren't professionals here, but we are people who have experienced life and likely what you've gone through. Take what you like from us and leave the rest; we are simply trying to help.

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Originally Posted by KBC
This is a good start to getting relief from this 'pity pot'

Therapy is another.

Facing your reasons as to WHY you feel like you do.

What makes the pity so attractive.It's addictive isn't it?

I dont know it=f its exactly addictive, but it feels like it almost gives me an "edge"

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Originally Posted by TexasParent

Funny, you were the one who said you used it and it gave you an edge. I was mearly trying to give you an understanding of pity and how it's used.

Well what does having an edge have to do with being accepted

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Originally Posted by AManWithNoName

Well what does havin an edge have to do with bein accepted

I'm assuming to you having an edge is a good thing, a thing to be desired; something others admire? If so (and that may be not how you interpret it), it may make you feel more approvable to others or maybe just yourself. All I am saying it to look at your behaviors and ask yourself is this really in my best interest.

Or why don't you tell me what having an EDGE means to you?

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Originally Posted by TexasParent

I'm assuming to you having an edge is a good thing, a thing to be desired; something others admire? If so (and that may be not how you interpret it), it may make you feel more approvable to others or maybe just yourself. All I am saying it to look at your behaviors and ask yourself is this really in my best interest.

Or why don't you tell me what having an EDGE means to you?

Its having an edge over people who try to read me, try to find out how I feel, I don't exactly feel comferatable with that

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Originally Posted by AManWithNoName

Its havin an edge over people who try to read me, try to find out how i feel, i dont exactly feel comferatable with that

I'm just trying to help, I apologize if my words seemed too personal. I know you are looking answers and I applaud you for your desire to improve whatever you are going through.

The very best of luck to you and God Bless.

Nah Texas parent you are right, and so is KBC.
No need for anger. Take what you get from here and learn from it.
Sometimes you just can't change the way you think of something, or the way you think and feel.. and it sucks... but yeah.

I hate myself for feeling and thinking in some way... but I can't help it, you have to try to ignore it and keep yourself busy. Stay away from weirdo's and stuff like that... hang out with nice people.& try to be nice and cool yourself... cool not in the way of a want to be way.

What's up dude?

I am going in for surgery in the AM but I can stay up for a little while longer.Want to try chattin tonight?

Take things in stride, whatever you believe whether it be believing or not, never be scared, because if you let the fear of death get to you , then you won't have a chance to truly live, Faith is not a question of the existence of god, but the hope that there is something more in the end, if you live life to its fullest with no regrets, then whatever becomes of you, you will be happy. I wish you the best of life my friend, I hope you find peace.

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Originally Posted by KBC

Whats up dude?

I am going in for surgery in the AM but I can stay up for a little while longer.Want to try chattin tonight?

I'm not exactley sure if this will go through, I'm using my psp, but I think I accept the fact that I don't really believe in god