Ask Me Help Desk - Losing my faith

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Originally Posted by KBC

As a family tradition we still say grace before the evening meal(when we are all together) but beyond that,no,I have my own beliefs in religious things,,,as you already know:p

Yuppers, as do I

So she called me and she invited me over at her place for dimmer!
Is that a date, sounds like one to me

Sure it is,, go make a good impression and have fun.. that's what its all about,relax and be yourself.

This is the time of your life where you begin testing the waters,as far as a girlfriends parents are concerned.If you are real,honest and appear 'normal' they should be cool with the 2 of you doing things together.

If you fail to impress them,there will always be other parents to impress(but the others might not have a daughter with awesome eyes like this one... :) )

NOOOO I'm not putting pressure on you(am I... lol):p

Just be yourself,if that isn't good enough for them,you could always be the one that the parents warn their daughters about... :p

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Originally Posted by KBC

Sure it is,,,go make a good impression and have fun..that's what its all about,relax and be yourself.

This is the time of your life where you begin testing the waters,as far as a girlfriends parents are concerned.If you are real,honest and appear 'normal' they should be cool with the 2 of you doing things together.

If you fail to impress them,there will always be other parents to impress(but the others might not have a daughter with awesome eyes like this one...:) )

NOOOO I'm not putting pressure on you(am I...lol):p

Just be yourself,if that isn't good enough for them,you could always be the one that the parents warn their daughters about...:p

Ive been the one the parents warn their daughter about:cool:
So it turns out her dad is a viet nam vet, marine corps, but I know how to deal with veterans, my dad was an ex seal, grandad was in the navy durin ww2, got the golden gloves, and my godfather is a world class seal team sniper
So all I got to remember is to be respectful, call him sir, and never talk about nam

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Originally Posted by AManWithNoName

and never talk about nam

Not even if he brings it up,, never keep it going.

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Originally Posted by KBC

Not even if he brings it up,,,never keep it going.

If he brings it up, hells yeah, I love talking about wars

It would be a test of what you know and how far you are willing to stick your neck out(and remember,he was there,you only know what was sent out,propaganda was rampant during the nam war)

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Originally Posted by KBC

It would be a test of what you know and how far you are willing to stick your neck out(and remember,he was there,you only know what was sent out,propaganda was rampant during the nam war)

Oh I've talked to plenty of veterins, id probubly talk to him about weopons, or what he did

Ha I like reading KBC's comments :D
& looks like you're all good now.
By the way... girls are pretty sensitive, don't hurt her! ;P
Make sure she's no slutty dumb girl!

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Originally Posted by marriaget

ha I like reading KBC's comments :D
& looks like you're all good now.
btw...girls are pretty sensitive, don't hurt her! ;P
make sure she's no slutty dumb girl!

Hey, don't talk like that, she isn't no slut, and you don't say that about any girl
I would never hurt her

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Originally Posted by marriaget

ha I like reading KBC's comments :D
& looks like you're all good now.
btw...girls are pretty sensitive, don't hurt her! ;P
make sure she's no slutty dumb girl!

When I was young; everyone wanted the slutty dumb girl ;) Now that I'm older, not so much fun and looking back; the poor girl was taken advantage of by so many all in iher search for love and acceptance, but she didn't love herself enough to set boundries, if she had she would have ended up with the respectful guys. That's the thing really, a lot of times you can tell how healthy you are by the type of girls that will go out with you. If they respect themselves and don't put up with crap and your able to take it; it speaks to your own maturity.

Godamn, it wasn't dinner with her folks, it was a christmas party, with her family nand neighbors, I was bushwacked maaaan, it was FUBAR, constant interogation from every one, what are your hobbies, do you have a job, what do you want to become when you finish college, and if you think that was bad, I had to hang out in the basement with all the "kids" that included, her faggy friends, her girl friends, her cousins, her brothers and sisters, and every one that knew her, and didn't know me, some were softmores, so they know of my violence, and they spill the bucket, hey aren't you that guy who got in those fights, I'm all like, uuuuuh, yyyyeeeeaaaahhhnooooommmaaaaayyybbbeeeeeyy, they got me cluster f**ed up the @$$, so they all want to ask me ?s about the fights, and she's all like, you've been in fights, and I'm like, kind of, so her friend says, kind of,you've been in like 5, YEEEAAH, but I don't want people talking about it, not something I exactly I want a girl I have a chance with to know about me, so I say, but I gave up fighting, and one of her faggy friends wispers to another faggy friend, puusssy, so she says, I think he made a mature choice, so I'm like, thank you, we went up to her room away from all the sh*t and laid on her bed and talked, that's all talked, she held my hand, it was hard cooorre maaan

Sounds like she is very understanding; she's a keeper. As for all her friends and family, I've been there and it's very uncomfortable, but in a short time once you get to know her better it will be cool, and you will be the one who knows her well and things about her that no one else knows.

Congratulations.

You know what my first reaction was,, UHOH this is going to be a can of worms,, dude is going to have a meltdown!!

But again, you have shown the maturity I was hoping for... WTG!:)

You know you have to pick your 'fights',not the physical ones,the mental ones.You have the ability,this time you were bushwhacked into the spotlight and came out looking like a star,and got the girl!! (I am damn envious):D

The big school dance aught to be simple compared to this little party.

How were you when you got home,you know ,away from the performance?

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Originally Posted by KBC

You know what my first reaction was,,,UHOH this is gonna be a can of worms,,,dude is gonna have a meltdown!!!!

But again, you have shown the maturity I was hoping for...WTG!:)

You know you have to pick your 'fights',not the physical ones,the mental ones.You have the ability,this time you were bushwhacked into the spotlight and came out looking like a star,and got the girl!!!(I am damn envious):D

The big school dance aught to be simple compared to this little party.

How were you when you got home,you know ,away from the performance?

When I got home, hmmmm, I was pretty damned proud

I bet you were! :p

That's what you need to remember when this bs starts again,how you beat it and how it feels to be the victor,instead of the victim.

Well I turns out she went out with that one douchbag, you know the one, and that's why he showed hostility twordes me, I asked her why she dumped him, she said she wantes someone less girly, I laughed my @$$ off, that's some funny sh!t, should I tell her about my smoking, and drinking, or wait, I want to be honest with her, but I don't want to drive her away

I think you would have to take your time on that one.

You have no reason to tell her,you wouldn't impress her,even if you think its best to be totally honest.Brutal honesty doesn't mean honesty,it means too much info is just standing behind your past,like a shield.That wouldn't be a good move.

Let the relationship develop,if she asks(like if one of the punks goes blabbin his mouth) then you can explain your situation.Your not lying,your just not proud of the past.

In answering your question, I will reply by asking you a question. What does the alternative side (non belief) offer to a person in eternity? Where would you rather spend eternity? Having faith and holding on to the faith are very different. However, both are attainable. Life is the ultimate TEST, and that's one test I want to get an A+ on. You can too, it starts with believing.

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Originally Posted by 99trooper

In answering your question, I will reply by asking you a question. What does the alternative side (non belief) offer to a person in eternity? Where would you rather spend eternity? Having faith and holding on to the faith are very different. However, both are attainable. Life is the ultimate TEST, and that's one test I want to get an A+ on. You can too, it starts with believing.

Sorry bro, there's nothing you casn say to convince me lifes a test, and if it is, this mofos got a D+, and there's no extra credit

Now how is that helping you,, you got a better life than that... lmao

You crack me up man! :p

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Originally Posted by KBC

Now how is that helping you,,,,,you got a better life than that...lmao

You crack me up man!!:p

I know, its like a C
But I was jokin around with him , if he tries to get me to change my mind by using inspreational bs like that, I'm going to use it against him maaan

I did it, my first kiss with this girl, we were hanging out at the mall, with her friends, and she turned and kissed me, right on the mouth, ha ha, it was great, we were there to see a movie, the day the earth stood still, I didn't get to watch the movie, I was busy, making out maaaan

Awesome,, she's a looker,nice eyes,likes to make out... sure your not being played,right?

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Originally Posted by KBC

Awesome,,,she's a looker,nice eyes,likes to make out...sure your not being played,right?

Oh I hope not, that would suck bro, but why would she do that

I don't know,I am just keeping you on your toes.

You know what your getting into,if it feels right go for it!

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Originally Posted by KBC

I don't know,I am just keepin you on your toes.

you know what your getting into,if it feels right go for it!

I will, dude, you should have seen the look on her exs face

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Originally Posted by AManWithNoName

I will, dude, you should of seen the look on her exs face

Are you sure this isn't a rebound for her?

How long has she been broke up with the ex?

Being a 'fighter' who has reformed(even IF she knows about the smoking/drinking,stuff)you are a hot ticket for the girls who like the 'bad boy' image.

Many a girl has an appreciation for that kind of image.

I could get a few to chime in on this topic if you'd like,they would give you a females perspective.(only if you say so,would I invite them to add here,I don't have control over anyone in this site,but I can ask some who I trust to give an opinion.)Up to you.

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Originally Posted by KBC

Are you sure this isn't a rebound for her?

How long has she been broke up with the ex?

Being a 'fighter' who has reformed(even IF she knows about the smoking/drinking,stuff)you are a hot ticket for the girls who like the 'bad boy' image.

Many a girl has an appreciation for that kind of image.

I could get a few to chime in on this topic if you'd like,they would give you a females perspective.(only if you say so,would I invite them to add here,I don't have control over anyone in this site,but I can ask some who I trust to give an opinion.)Up to you.

Be my guest bro, but I'm pretty sure I'm not a rebound, she broke up with him

OK cool,it might be a few days till they are back on but their input will be very welcome.

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Originally Posted by KBC

OK cool,it might be a few days till they are back on but their input will be very welcome.

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