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  • Jun 21, 2012, 08:38 PM
    deadchild
    I haven't been belligerent I have been thinking all day about all of this advice and I find it helpful and I really wish that you people would stop saying that it isn't true because whether you all want to believe it or not I know its true and Athos thanks
  • Jun 21, 2012, 08:41 PM
    Athos
    As I already said, give her your best advice and then leave it. It's not up to you to force her to take it. Thirteen-year-olds are not adults. The best you can do is give it your best shot, and hope that somehow, someway, it will get through to her. It might take a day or a week or longer until she "gets" it - if she ever does.

    She needs understanding and love.

    If she is, in fact, a troll, so what? Give it your best, anyway.
  • Jun 21, 2012, 08:48 PM
    Alty
    I'm done.

    If other people want to waste their time, so be it. This thread is on page 7, and the poster has learned nothing, and taken no ones advice. I've fallen for the sob story one too many times, and I won't fall for it again.

    Had the poster been respectful, and actually willing to listen, I would have given my advice. I really don't have to though. Others already posted the advice I would have given, and they were ignored, or hit with posts like this;

    Quote:

    I have a stepdad dumb***
    Nope, not at all rude (sarcasm).

    Athos since you believe this story, and are so ready to stick up for this poster, then give her advice. I think the rest of the posters are done, having dealt with this since this morning. So you're all she has left. Time to post advice and not just criticism to those that put in the time and effort all day and were ignored.

    I'm out. Good luck. If this story is true, I wish you the best of luck. You're going to need it.
  • Jun 21, 2012, 08:49 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Athos View Post
    As I already said, give her your best advice and then leave it. It's not up to you to force her to take it. Thirteen-year-olds are not adults. The best you can do is give it your best shot, and hope that somehow, someway, it will get through to her. It might take a day or a week or longer until she "gets" it - if she ever does.

    She needs understanding and love.

    If she is, in fact, a troll, so what? Give it your best, anyway.

    Nope. You give her your best advice, since you're the one that had an issue with the advice already posted. If you can do better, which you obviously think you can, then go ahead. She's all yours.
  • Jun 21, 2012, 09:05 PM
    Athos
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    Nope. You give her your best advice, since you're the one that had an issue with the advice already posted. If you can do better, which you obviously think you can, then go ahead. She's all yours.

    I have no issue with "advice already posted". Best I can tell, it was good advice.

    Deadchild, you've been given some good advice. It's up to you now to follow through and do something about it.

    Good luck and God bless you.
  • Jun 22, 2012, 03:34 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by deadchild View Post
    I havent been belligerant i have been thinking all day about all of this advice and i find it helpful and i really wish that you people would stop saying that it isnt true because whether you all want to believe it or not i know its true and Athos thanks

    Let me explain something to you (and others). We have been burned several times by members who think its amusing to tell some sob story or try to shock us to see our reactions. This has caused us to be skeptical of such stories. I do not blame the people who have trouble believing your story. But if you want us to believe you then start taking action.

    In my last note I told you to get your adult friend to get you a HPT. Did you do that? Do you understand that, at your age, letting the fetus develop without proper care increases the already significant risks to both you and the child? So, if you story is true, then DO SOMETHING besides just thinking about it.

    There are three things you need to do immediately.

    1) confirm you are pregnant
    2) get care for the child if you are
    3) tell your parents that you were raped.

    Point 3 needs to be done whether you are pregnant or not.


    To Athos, Alty has explained this to you very well. I'm not going to criticize those who have expressed disbelief, because I have trouble believing it. But if you want to help the OP then give her advice, don't criticize others who have let her know that we are not fooled by her. Again, my preference here is to try and get the OP to do the right thing, while at the same time, letting her know that I am erring on the side of caution in the unlikely event the story is true.

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