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There is nothing you can do for her if she is, but you can get out and not sit around moping. That is if you really want to.

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I will go out its just that it won't mean that I'm better and happy

I'm not saying you will be happy, I'm saying it will help you get through this. So do you want your girl friend to know that you are miserable? Do you think that will make her feel better?
I'm assuming it won't.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I'm not saying you will be happy, I'm saying it will help you get through this. So do you want your girl friend to know that you are miserable? Do you think that will make her feel better?
I'm assuming it won't.

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She already knows I'm sad and I know she sad too.. And I'm trying, I'm trying it's just hard and you should understand what I'm going through I hope..

I know it's hard but I also know mopping around changes nothing. Make better use of this time

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I know it's hard but I also know mopping around changes nothing. Make better use of this time

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I'm trying my best.. I really am

Well leave the subject alone for today. Go out to a movie, read book, something to get your mind off this.
I will be here tomorrow if you need me.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Well leave the subject alone for today. Go out to a movie, read book, something to get your mind off this.
I will be here tomorrow if you need me.

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Ok thanks so much. I'll send you a message tomorrow

Have a good evening

Ok so yesterday I went to one of my friends birthday dinner at a restaurant and then we all drove to the beach to hang out then went home.. It was good but yet at the end of the day, I think about her and ever since this incident started, I have had that feeling in my stomach you know? Just won't go away.

Anyone there?

I'm glad that you went out.
I can understand your feeling that way. You will have them less and less. Just keep yourself busy

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I'm glad that you went out.
I can understand your feeling that way. You will have them less and less. Just keep yourself busy

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I know but it's not going to mean I'm happy

You could be relatively so if you want to be. I think you want to be miserable.

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You could be relatively so if you want to be. I think you want to be miserable.

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What do u mean by that? I'm just asking.

I think you believe that being miserable proves your love for this girl. It's like you're saying to her "see how miserable I am, I love you" It proves nothing and drags you down. Miserable people are not fun people to be around. You get comfortable in your misery and you stay there.
I think you need to shake this off, have fun and live your life as if she may not call you. If she does great, if she doesn't you are on your way to moving on.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I think you believe that being miserable proves your love for this girl. It's like you're saying to her "see how miserable I am, I love you" It proves nothing and drags you down. Miserable people are not fun people to be around. You get comfortable in your misery and you stay there.
I think you need to shake this off, have fun and live your life as if she may not call you. If she does great, if she doesn't you are on your way to moving on.

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I'm not trying to be miserable just hard

What do you mean just hard?

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What do you mean just hard?

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Like this whole situation is hard and all I want to do is talk about it and make things right and better

Talking about it is not going to change it. You need to prepare yourself for the worse( she may not call you back) You can't make things happen in this case. Stop talking so much about this, dwelling on this. It changes nothing

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Talking about it is not going to change it. You need to prepare yourself for the worse( she may not call you back) You can't make things happen in this case. Stop talking so much about this, dwelling on this. It changes nothing

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I know she's not going to right now because of everything going on right now