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  • Aug 14, 2010, 07:06 PM
    Wondergirl

    He really said that, huh?

    What's "resobcible"?

    You ARE going to work on your spelling and grammar and punctuation now, aren't you? I'll help, if you want me to.
  • Aug 14, 2010, 08:06 PM
    bijiou36

    Yup but I'm still sad, & I think you know what I meant, and I was in a rush that's why I typed it wrong.
  • Aug 14, 2010, 08:21 PM
    Wondergirl

    Now that you're not in a rush, can you spell it correctly?

    Do you realize that you will now have free time to learn how to cook and bake, to do your homework correctly, to keep your room clean, and to help us here with other teens and their problems?? YAY!!
  • Aug 14, 2010, 08:54 PM
    bijiou36

    Responsible. & I was doing all that stuff perfectly Fine When I was Dating him. Now I'm not even in the mood really all I want to do is listen to music and draw/write.
  • Aug 14, 2010, 09:03 PM
    Wondergirl

    What you're doing sounds perfectly fine and useful. Plus, school will be starting soon. Are you ready with new clothes and school supplies?
  • Aug 14, 2010, 09:41 PM
    bijiou36

    Our school has a pretty stupid dress code, we can only wear white/Blue/Kaki/ Shirts
    & White/Black/Kaki/Blue Jeans and it can't have any decorations. But yea I got school supplies
  • Aug 14, 2010, 10:33 PM
    Wondergirl

    That dress code sure saves money for families! (Pssst, it's khaki -- tricky little "h" in there.)

    When does school start? You'll be a sophomore?
  • Aug 14, 2010, 10:50 PM
    bijiou36

    yea (: I always have troubles with that word =/
    & sophomore, I got to do 10th grade Again cause I failed the finals (math)
  • Aug 14, 2010, 10:55 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bijiou36 View Post
    yea (: i always have troubles with that word =/
    & sophomore, i gotta do 10th grade Again cause i failed the finals (math)

    Algebra? Geometry?
  • Aug 15, 2010, 12:03 AM
    bijiou36

    All of it
  • Aug 15, 2010, 05:38 AM
    DoulaLC

    Plenty of people here who could help you out with your math if you need it!. :)

    It is sad when you breakup... give yourself some time, draw, write, listen to music. When you have had some time to think about the whole situation, and ask yourself if you were being treated how you would like to be, you will likely think "not really".

    It was a learning experience... no doubt you will have some more along the way to help with finding out what you will allow and want from some one who claims to care about you. That is what dating and early relationships are all about.

    As you write, make a list of what are important characteristics in a guy for you. What will be OK and what won't.

    Be sure to come back and let us know how things are going for you!
  • Aug 15, 2010, 07:03 AM
    jmjoseph

    Angel, things always seem worse than they really are in the "teen" years. That's just the way it is. I can tell you one thing. That life does indeed go on. You'll have several boyfriends before you settle down and get married. Most of us have to have the good with the bad, the ups with the downs. That's what makes us stronger.

    If your father is abusing you, then by all means, please get help. Tell someone.

    And never, ever, entertain the thought of taking your own life. Suicide is for quitters.

    Someone said that if you killed yourself, that this guy would have a new girlfriend at the end of the week. I agree.

    You'll be fine, and so will he.

    I hope that you'll be happy soon.
  • Aug 15, 2010, 09:57 AM
    bijiou36

    Okayy So Far things Are Worse. His Friend Told me That His Parents Caught I'm Trying To Overdose 3 Times Already And he Keeps Saying he Doesn't Want Another Girl Just Me, So Now What Do I Do? (Ignoring It IS NOT an option)
  • Aug 15, 2010, 10:18 AM
    Wondergirl

    He's tried to overdose three times since last night?

    The military definitely won't take him.

    He needs to get into counseling immediately. And now I have absolutely no doubts that you should have nothing to do with him.
  • Aug 15, 2010, 11:32 AM
    Homegirl 50
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bijiou36 View Post
    Okay So Far things Are Worse. His Friend Told me That His Parents Caught im Trying To Overdose 3 Times Already And he Keeps Saying he Doesn't Want Another Girl Just Me, So Now What Do i Do? (Ignoring It IS NOT an option)

    Are you sure your friend is not exaggerating? If he has tried three times already, I'm sure his is hospitalized now.
    If she is not, he has problems you can do nothing about. He needs professional help and you need to stay away from him. If he is a danger to himself he could also be a danger to you. This is something way beyond you.
    You need to be concentrating on school not this boy. This problem is his parents to deal with.
  • Aug 15, 2010, 12:14 PM
    martinizing2
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bijiou36 View Post
    Okayy So Far things Are Worse. His Friend Told me That His Parents Caught im Trying To Overdose 3 Times Already And he Keeps Saying he Doesn't Want Another Girl Just Me, So Now What Do i Do? (Ignoring It IS NOT an option)

    Look into cloning?

    I apologize for that.

    Bij, I think there is some exaggeration going on here.

    If I caught my son trying to overdose I would not be letting him out my reach until I was satisfied he would be safe. And I'm not easily satisfied.

    And if by some miracle he managed to try it again in the same night, we would be on our way to the Crisis center.

    I cannot believe his parents would give him an opportunity to try it again
    AND then a third time??

    What we have here is a failure to communicate...
    Someone is not telling you how it really is or you may be twisting the truth a little in order to get an answer you are happier with.

    I hope you can find a safe and sane answer to this. I wish you well
  • Aug 15, 2010, 01:03 PM
    DoulaLC

    If this is true, he would be in the hospital on the psych floor. I am sorry if this is the case, and I agree, all the more reason to cut your ties with him. However, I also don't believe this is the truth. If it's all a big story to make you feel sorry for him... he has some very real problems. Stay away!

    To be honest, I'm not even sure I believe you actually broke up with him.

    Get yourself sorted out... stay away from guys for awhile... focus on school... clean your act up, or you stand a very good chance of heading down a road you don't want to be on.
  • Aug 15, 2010, 01:48 PM
    Homegirl 50

    Whether you are serious or just fooling around here, these are some problems.
    You need to get a hold of yourself. None of this, if true is anything to joke or exaggerate about.
    I'm understanding why your father wants you to leave this boy alone. You did poorly in school and there is way too much drama going on here.
  • Aug 15, 2010, 02:14 PM
    FoxCash

    Please understand that no one here is taking the situation of suicide or self-harm lightly. It is just the facts do not add up.

    He is being manipulative. Whether the situation is true or not he is using his attempts at self harm to control you and make you stay with him. Either way, he is very troubled and in need of help that you cannot provide for him. At this point I am not even sure if his parents can provide it for him. They need to get him to a center that is trained and educated on this subject to help him.

    This just further proves that you do not belong in a relationship with him. It will only progress further down the road that any time things go wrong he will throw out "if you leave me I'll kill myself" and my fear based on the way you're reacting to everything so far is that you will buy what he says and continue in a volatile relationship.

    We actually care about you, despite what you may think. If we didn't care one bit about you we'd be here telling you what you wanted to hear instead of what you NEED to hear. I think I can safely say that we all want what is best for you and hope to see you succeed. Not get stuck in a situation that will hurt you or further bring you down.

    This situation is way too much for you to handle and it's one that you need to stay away from. I know you feel like you love this guy but sometimes the best thing to do for someone you love is to step away and allow themselves to get the help they need.
  • Aug 15, 2010, 07:15 PM
    bijiou36

    Not in a "Rude" Way but If You Don't Believe me About Me breaking up with him I Honestly Don't Care, Just Don't Give me Advice if Your Not Going to Believe me. & His Parents Basically think of him as a Screw up. Not in a Mean Way But his life pretty much sucks, They've Always Been Kind of Poor. So They Really Don't Care Which Is Another Reason Why I Really Wanted To Stay With Him, Everyone In His Life [Family/friends/ExGf's] Gave Up On Him & I Promised I Wouldn't so Now I Feel Like a Liar & "Female Dog" & My Grades Are All Straight A's & B's and Always Have Been Except For in Math, Even Before I Met Him I Started Messing Up In Math I Even Have Summer School/Tutors/Extra Classes I Take Notes & Pay Attention I Think I Have Short Term Memory Loss Because I Always Forget How To Do Something That Has To Do With Math.

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