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You sound a lot older then your age. I think a lot of us are forgetting that you too are still a child.

Try and see it from our perspective. We're all adults, we lived through our teen years. Many of us made the same mistakes you're making, and we survived.

We aren't trying to be mean. We aren't trying to bring you down. We're telling you the reality of your actions, the consequences that can follow. But really, you're still a child too.

You really just need to find out for sure if your girlfriend is pregnant. If she is, then go from there. If not, then you dodged a bullet and I'm hoping this is a wakeup call for the both of you.

Let's put one foot in front of the other. The next step is a pregnancy test. Then we can move forward from there.

Okay?

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Originally Posted by CGM91

She is not a little girl, maybe shes hasn't been on this planet long enough for her to be classified as a "big girl" but she is quite mature. She works 2 jobs, finishing high school and trying to get a scholarship.

I mean in all seriousness... do you have any idea how many times we have heard that "she is quite mature" for her age either on this website or from our own children? Not only do many of us have children your ages, but we were also your ages once.

If she works 2 jobs, the places that she works should be reported. Children are only allowed to work a specific number of hours per week while in school. So this doesn't fly with me.

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Originally Posted by CGM91

I am planning in the future, what is the problem with doing that?

The future does not include a baby... so keep it in your pants. If you are so mature, then learn how to say NO.

There is nothing wrong with that, but I'm sure a baby wasn't in the equation.

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Originally Posted by CGM91

Would you not do the same?

Already been there done that. That's why all 4 of my children were born IN wedlock and so were my grandchildren.

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Originally Posted by CGM91

Would you not want to create a plan or gain more information on decision you might need to make? If you answered no I question your reasoning and mentality.

Unfortunately for you, if she is pregnant, this is not a decision YOU need to make. It will be HER decision and the decision of her parents. She is a minor and will need the consent of her parents for an abortion. The decision will be out of your hands.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

You sound a lot older then your age. I think a lot of us are forgetting that you too are still a child.

Try and see it from our perspective. We're all adults, we lived through our teen years. Many of us made the same mistakes you're making, and we survived.

We aren't trying to be mean. We aren't trying to bring you down. We're telling you the reality of your actions, the consequences that can follow. But really, you're still a child too.

You really just need to find out for sure if your girlfriend is pregnant. If she is, then go from there. If not, then you dodged a bullet and I'm hoping this is a wakeup call for the both of you.

Let's put one foot in front of the other. The next step is a pregnancy test. Then we can move forward from there.

Okay?

Yes, and thank you. I would have repped you but I already have.

She was about 14-16 days late.

Not going to be a daddy, yet.

Lets see how close we can come next month :D! Yea.. no.

Not going to happen again for a while..

Although I strongly encourage you to abstain until you are both ready to have children, at least go buy some condoms just in case you have anymore spontaneous moments.

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Originally Posted by CGM91

She was about 14-16 days late.

Not going to be a daddy, yet.

Lets see how close we can come next month :D!! Yea.. no.

Not going to happen again for a while..

Glad to hear you learned your lesson. Now, remember, she is jail bait!

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Originally Posted by justcurious55

although i strongly encourage you to abstain until you are both ready to have children, at least go buy some condoms just in case you have anymore spontaneous moments.

I have heard till after marriage, but I have never heard of "when you are ready to have children." Which makes more sense, but.. I doubt I am going to or will be able to wait 10 years to have sex again.

In my case I was never "ready to have children" it just happened... all 4 times. Good thing I was married during all 4 times.

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Originally Posted by J_9

Glad to hear you learned your lesson. Now, remember, she is jail bait!!

For a month and a half :p

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Originally Posted by CGM91

For a month and a half :p

Yup, then you'll have pregnancy issues to worry about all over again. :cool:

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Originally Posted by J_9

Yup, then you'll have pregnancy issues to worry about all over again. :cool:

Not until she is on B/C and I finish my Mid-terms.

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Originally Posted by CGM91

Not until she is on B/C and I finish my Mid-terms.

Just remember that birth control is not 100% effective. As a matter of fact, it wasn't effective at all for me... just ask my two oldest sons. ;)

Interesting..

True story. I was using the birth control pill when I became pregnant with both of my oldest sons. I was on high levels of hormones when I became pregnant with my daughter (3rd child), AND I was rendered sterile by chemo therapy. 6 years later came my youngest son. There are other members here who were using 2 or 3 methods of birth control and still got pregnant.

This only goes to show that the only 100% proof positive way that pregnancy won't occur is either abstinence or sterilization.

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Originally Posted by CGM91

Interesting..

Even if she takes the Pill and you use a condom, she could still get pregnant.

And don't use the pull-out method as birth control.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Even if she takes the Pill and you use a condom, she could still get pregnant.

And don't use the pull-out method as birth control.

WHAT? Why not? :confused: I am kidding =)

Um. Because "pulling out" is code for unprotected sex. It's not even truly considered birth control.

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Originally Posted by justcurious55

um. because "pulling out" is code for unprotected sex. it's not even truly considered birth control.

Lies.

Show me some evidence!

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Originally Posted by CGM91

Lies.

Show me some evidence!!

Why don't you come with me to work tonight and I'll show you some evidence. I was supposed to be off, but 6 women came in in labor, now I got called in to deliver the babies.

Okay, for real now. Pre-ejaculate is what lubricates the penis prior to ejaculation. You cannot control pre-ejaculate just as a woman cannot control her vaginal lubrication when aroused. Pre-ejaculate contains sperm... sperm makes babies.

Are you serious?