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When are you going to stand up for yourself?

Everybody understand but your getting the same advice over and over. It is obivious he doesn't make you happy because if he did you wouldn't be in this dilemma or on this site.

It doesn't matter what we say because your going do what you want. Of course he gets angry or defensive when you asked him about his cheating ways because he is guilty but you stated you don't care--remember? So why do you keep asking him the same thing when you know he is going continue to lie about it?

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Originally Posted by kelly10jonson

im sorry im wasteing everyones time but i just wish someone would understand the situation im in and that i love im too much i can't leave!!!! im scared of bein on my own i guess but i dnt wna not have him, sometimes i guess i think if i jus stay with him atleast iv got him which is better then nt havin him at all

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Sorry if I seem a bit frustrated, but you really are wasting your own time. Not mine, I like to help but if you just don't see the advice that you are given on here and take it as people trying to help then, it is what it is. Put it this way if you detach yourself now from him, you can save yourself a very painful break up. You're obsessed. It is Very unhealthy, and don't be surprised if it drives him away.

Try not to make him the reason for your happiness, find other things to do that will make you happy.

I can't let go

You can't let him go? Or the fact that he cheated? You're going to have to choose one.

Both!. he always shouts at me all the time as well. I know I shouldn't put up with it but I can't understand why I love him so much!! I just wish I could make I'm c what he's doing to me

To OP-

I kind of have a feeling you are trolling for attention,either that or really thick headed.

If I'm wrong,then come up with a substantial argument that isn't the same thing over and over.

I don't think I can help you anymore. We're going to be going in circles here. You can't hang on to him AND the fact that he cheated. You just can't. It doesn't work that way. You need to decide what's more important, being in a relationship with someone who will cheat on you and then lie about it or getting out of this controlling relationship and finding someone that you can trust.

Yer well I do love him so I guess il accept it because I can't see to finnish with him can I !

If this isn't for attention,then what does she expect us to say?

She can work it out with him?

I really don't think it's possible to work it out with a cheater and liar.

Based on everyone I know who has tried.

Yer but what if it was a mistake and he's only dun it 1nce ( of which I no of )

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Originally Posted by kelly10jonson

i just can't let go

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That's what you keep telling yourself, and I hate to say it, but until you tell yourself you may want him, but don't need him, things will only get worse not better, and you will really be hurt. Its up to you.

Your not the first, nor will you be the last to make someone so important in your life, that you justify his bad behavior, and put him and what he wants before you and what you really need, which is to dump him and work on your very real low self esteem, and self confidence. That's a lot more important than have a cheater as a boyfriend.

I do understand your situation very well, but it seems you don't.

By the way, this thread will be closed if you can't at least take time use better spelling, it only takes a second to use spell check.

Yerh I know that I shouldn't be with him but he does make me happy , I duno why I keep holding on I think because of our holiday maybe things will get better and he will feel like he 1st did for me

Starting other threads will not get you different answers for your problem.

I need more advice and answers! :(

You aren't going to get the advice that you are looking for.

You have gotten great advice and answers in this thread.

Hey, I'm not saying he hasn't cheated on you, but I have had trouble with my GF thinking I cheated on her. I've had pictures in my messages that wernt sent by me, because of my friends taking my phone. However once I did comfort a girl because she was going through a hard time and all I said was u can have anyone because your very pretty. I've also had two girls come up to me why I was with my GF and ask if I had got the naked picture they sent and I didn't even know them. This tears me apart because I know my GF does not trust me now and she constantly gets angry at me. I know how u feel from her, and he should feel like and be angry and depressed if he hasn't done anything, if he hasn't done anything he would b able to talk to you about it instead of getting angry tell him u went on FB and tell him u know. He is just scared of losing u, not so much losing u but having no one. And don't listen to people when they say u too young for a serious relationship. U have feelings too

In order to have a relationship with a person you need to have trust and once you break that trust it hard to gain. The only way he would admit to you he cheated its if you have prove him how or why you know he cheated. But like I said once he broke that trust its going to be hard for you relationship to be the same as before. He might love you the way he claims he does but guy fall in to temptaions

Yeah he says he does love me but if he did why would he cheat? A drunken kiss maybe.. I'm so confussed because I just can't get it off my mind.