Ask Me Help Desk - How old is too old?

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Originally Posted by Miss lovley

I AM FREE TO DATE HIM
WE JUST CANNOT HAVE SEX
AND QUITE FRANKLY I HAVE NO INTENTIONS TO UNTIL I'M LEGAL I DO NOT WANT TO GET IN TROUBLE
DO YOU THINK I AM UNAWARE OF THE LAWWS?

Its him that would get in trouble, not you.

What do you think of a 35 yr old woman dating a 17 or 18 yr old? What is your first reaction to this?

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Originally Posted by cerulean

Its him that would get in trouble, not you.

What do you think of a 35 yr old woman dating a 17 or 18 yr old? What is your first reaction to this?

Sorry I made a typo I meant him...

It doesn't bother me

I have a question. You said that you were pursuing this older guy. Where did you guys meet? Has he even been responsive to your pursuit?

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Originally Posted by cerulean

You know, I wish I could hotly deny that, and believe there are some men left that only want platonic friendship, but i have to agree with you. Every male "friend" I have wants to have sex.

Its very depressing. I mean, there isn't a man out there that doesn't have designs on a woman.. its almost safe to say "all men" because it just seems like all men, we can't meet all the men in the world, but we know for sure they don't want to be our friend to play scrabble or knit sweaters with us. Unless the woman is so unattractive that he just can't go for it, he will go for it, which is no compliment at all. MANY Men will F anything if given half a chance and have no respect for the fact that a female is a minor. Thats tells you their character and what kind of person they are, and is enough to get away from them. Once you are with him, how will you trust him around other underage girls once you are not underage anymore? You will always remember how you met him. Men are entirely too transparent.

Well... that is not quite what I meant Cerulean.

Yes I believe that he told her the "dirty" truth in "When Harry met Sally", but there IS an override. Men are hard wired a bit differently than most women (not all) and yes we do probably consider sex "every 6 seconds or so."

But there are are guys like myself who channel that desire to the woman we love and passionately try to show her in this and many ways that that we love only one. And all of us are not so immature as to chase every nice shaped skirt that may smile and wink at us.

That sex drive, when handled properly and concentrated to only her has given me the love of my life and I waited a long time for her. And she lets me know everyday that she is happy and content.

No offense,
Stringer

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Originally Posted by Stringer

Well......that is not quite what I meant Cerulean.

Yes I believe that he told her the "dirty" truth in "When Harry met Sally", but there IS an override. Men are hard wired a bit differently than most women (not all) and yes we do probably consider sex "every 6 seconds or so."

But there are are guys like myself who channel that desire to the woman we love and passionately try to show her in this and many ways that that we love only one. And all of us are not so immature as to chase every nice shaped skirt that may smile and wink at us.

That sex drive, when handled properly and concentrated to only her has given me the love of my life and I waited a long time for her. And she lets me know everyday that she is happy and content.

No offense,
Stringer

*nods*.. every 6 seconds eh? And why do men always say that its us women who are overly hormonal. Lol:rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by cerulean

*nods*.. every 6 seconds eh? and why do men always say that its us women who are overly hormonal. lol:rolleyes:

Please read my post again, I was attempting to say that the facts of life are what they are.

Sex dive is there; would you want to be in a serious relationship without it?

One of the many differences between us and the animals is that we have the ability to reason and love. (Please no arguments about animals' ability to love.)

I don't know if you will understand what I mean here but from a mans point of view; it is basic. I have doubts about any man that says when he sees a beautiful woman that he doesn't look. I don't care what his age is (at least over maybe 13/14) he is "hard wired" possibly in his DNA to appreciate the what he sees.

I am not so shallow, and please don't judge me by taking this post out of context. Take the time to review my previous posts.

Thanks,

Stringer

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Originally Posted by Stringer

Please read my post again, I was attempting to say that the facts of life are what they are.

Sex dive is there; would you want to be in a serious relationship without it?

One of the many differences between us and the animals is that we have the ability to reason and love. (Please no arguments about animals' ability to love.)

I don't know if you will understand what I mean here but from a mans point of view; it is basic. I have doubts about any man that says when he sees a beautiful woman that he doesn't look. I don't care what his age is (at least over maybe 13/14) he is "hard wired" possibly in his DNA to appreciate the what he sees.

I am not so shallow, and please don't judge me by taking this post out of context. Take the time to review my previous posts.

Thanks,

Stringer

I was JOKING. :rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by cerulean

I was JOKING. :rolleyes:

Joking..

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Originally Posted by Stringer

Joking............?

Yes, it had nothing to do with you, it had to do with the comment that its been said that men think of sex every 6 seconds.

I have often heard that men think women are hormonal, that perhaps they can't be "president" etc. because of those "crazy hormones". etc. etc. However, if men are thinking of sex every 6 seconds, the cause is a very powerful hormone called testosterone, that apparently has total control of men's minds! Lol

I would hate to feel that way all the time! Ugh!! I would feel as though my body is in an overwhelming way, ruling the way I feel, instead of me controlling my mind and body. I am the soul in charge of this carriage, its not meant to be the other way around.

Anyway.. I've never heard or read anyone talk about men's hormones, because it explains why men feel as they do, all I ever read is men talking about women's hormones.

So I made a joke about that. Not you. Lol

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Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

I have a question. You said that you were pursuing this older guy. Where did you guys meet? Has he even been responsive to your pursuit?

We met online.
And yes he has been and he understands that I'm not "easy"
And he respects that

If everything is innocent then I don't understand why you haven't said anything to your parents.

That to me is a red flag. If you don't think it's a big deal then you should be okay with telling people about the guy in your life.

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Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

If everything is innocent then I don't understand why you haven't said anything to your parents.

That to me is a red flag. If you don't think its a big deal then you should be okay with telling people about the guy in your life.

Because me and my mom are not close like that
She minds her business and I mind mine

But you said if anything bad was to happen they would come after the guy with a fury. That implies some sort of closeness.

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Originally Posted by Miss lovley

my father is a dead beat and no i am not looking to replace him
and my male friend does not have screws loose thank you very much

I can't help but giggle..

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Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

But you said if anything bad was to happen they would come after the guy with a fury. That implies some sort of closeness.

Yes I did say that but it is not the closeness where I tell my mom who I'm dating or talking to

I would tell them eventually when I knew we were steady

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Originally Posted by Miss lovley

we met online.
and yes he has been and he understands that i'm not "easy"
and he respects that

Oh my goodness another red flag.

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Originally Posted by Miss lovley

we met online.
and yes he has been and he understands that i'm not "easy"
and he respects that

Yet another RED flag. Where online? Were you hanging out in a adult area or was he hanging out in a teen area? Was he aware of your age from the beginning?

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Yet another RED flag. Where online? Were you hanging out in a adult area or was he hanging out in a teen area? Was he aware of your age from the beginning?

I was playing pool on Yahoo (mixed crowd) no specific age prefrence
And yes he was aware of my age

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Originally Posted by Miss lovely

yes he does and he doesn't care.
AGE IS NOTHING BUT A NUMBER!
if your going to keep giving me negative feedback i would love for you to stop

Of course he doesn't care. You meet this 28 year old guy ONLINE, he knows you are a minor and doesn't care. This guy is a creep. I wonder how long he'll hang around when he figures out he's not getting any.
Or maybe he will hang around because he can't deal with women his own age.
I know you're tired of the negative, but you asked the question and this guy is a creep.
I'll bet he won't be taking you home introducing his 17 year old friend to his family. This is wrong on a whole lot of levels.
You won't like this, but I think if you had gotten positive attention from your father, we would not be having this conversation. In fact I bet if your father knew about this guy, he would hit the ceiling. I know if you were my daughter, I and my husband would be paying Mr. Wonderful a visit a long with the police.

New piece to the puzzle scroll to #7

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...le-129948.html

You guys have never even met?? How do you even know he is who he says he is? He could be a 50 year old pervert trolling for young girls. He could be making it all up. I know you don't want to hear this but you need to tread VERY lightly here.