You I know...

I had a feeling that all he wanted because he talks about it to and I walk away and I'm like okay whatever perv...

You but he's still my friends nothing more. Anyway he thinks I'm cool and I hang with all his friends.. unno I'm like one of those girls that hang out with the boyz...

Hun,
You know that behavior determines if you are a "slut" not clothes. The problem I see is that you don't want IDIOTS to perceive you as something you're not by your outside appearance. There are jerks out there who would act aggressively toward you, party because they may think you are older, and I wouldn't want to see that happen.

Just be safe in whatever you do.

What is the first thought that comes into YOUR mind when you see a girl dressed provocatively?

If you slept with no guys than u CANNOT be a slut, a slut is someone who sleeps with a lot of guys. HOWEVER, u can give the impression you are a slut by the way you dress. High skirts and other revealing attire gives the impression of showing off for the men, getting their attention through what we all know makes them look.

But no your not a slut... my ex-girl... well that's a SLUT... LOL!

Let's put some responsibility on the guys who look at girls in a perverted way. Guys that are perverts will be so, regardless of what girls wear. No girl is suggesting that she will give away free sex by wearing makeup and a short skirt, that is simply the perspective of the one looking. It sounds like you are in need of some attention, even if it isn't positive. Yes, there are creeps out there that you need to watch out for, no matter what you wear! Also, I think slut is a strong word for a twelve year old. I don't think most girls who sleep around at age 12 do it because they love to have sex and be promiscious. IT is usually because they want to be loved and accepted by guys and they think that is the way to get it. They don't usually want to have sex, but they do it because they feel that is what will keep or get them a boyfriend. Don't allow yourself to be sterotyped in such a way. You have a difficult time already. You are a child, but what you have been through in your life is more than some adults that I know. It seems you want to feel like you belong somewhere, you want to be noticed and loved. That is normal. Everyone does. The people who should be giving you that love and security aren't in your life and that makes everything more difficult. It is hard to know what the right choice is sometimes, and the fact that you aren't sleeping with anyone, is very smart of you. I am proud of you. That isn't easy when you have no one really setting boundaries or limits for you. You need to get involved in something that you care about. Get your mind off what others think of you and if they approve or disapprove of who you are, what you look like and how you dress. If you continue to dress older than your age, it will continue to attract people that are older. Be the 12 year old that you are. Innocence is so precious and I speak from experience. I did way too many things too young and I didn't feel like a kid anymore. It changes you. You can still climb trees, use your imagination, start volunteering and work with people or animals, dress up and be goofy, dance and have fun with your friends. Start a club of some sort. Do something that you are good at and realize the talents and gifts within you that are waiting to come out. Don't allow other people to define you or determine your worth. This has to come from within. You are a good person, you are beautiful and intelligent and you have a lot to offer this world. IT doesn't come just from the way you dress. Live your life to be the best you can be, and remember never allow ANYONE to tell you that you are a slut, or stupid, or anything. You teach people how to treat you, and the better you feel about yourself, the less people will try to take advantage of you.
So, bottom line, answer your own question. NO, you are not a slut. YOu are figuring out how to be a young girl in this crazy society. You get a lot of mixed messages from many different sources. The media, magazines, the movies and of course, your peers. Listen to your own voice. That is the one that will guide you down this turbulent path of the teenage years. Continue to write down your feelings and express yourself, it is very healthy for you.
I wish you the best. You beautiful, young girl!! YOu are just trying to find your way, give yourself a break. You are your own worst critic!

Omg!

I LOVE YOU!!

Haha! What you just said says it all for me that's how I feel and, and, omg I couldn't agree more!

Oh and I like acting... that's something I could start. When I was little I used to fake cry and my dad would feel bad so we would go to chucky cheese! LOL! You and I've played in a lot of plays! So maybe.. I love to write poems.. I'm really good at it.. and they aren't likke about little kid things the are meaningfull...

Here's one I wrote at um 11?


Do I love him?

How do I know?

Is there any love left for me to show?

How can I find my heart?

I thought I loved him from the start.

Now I'm just confused not knowing what to do.

There has to be a way.

Should I let him go?

Or should I let him stay?

Right now I don't even know.

If he stays with me he will never be able to see

And he will always be lost.

My heart is what I have to find

And now I finally made up my mind.

I'm going to let him go,

But it doesn't matter anymore

Because love is something that I don't know how to show.

The memories I will miss a lot

I guess I will never know if I loved him or not…



Good huh?

LOL I made so many people cry with some of my other ones...

Hey thanks chery... you all my friends say I'm great at acting.. its sort of funny.

That is something to think about.

Acting and comedy are two of the chosen careers of former battered children and children (boys and girls) with really lousy pasts. Those that survive their childhood use this to keep their sanity.

It is far better than drugs and ditches as a choice for life.

Choose your path, dear, and don't let anyone stop you.

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Haha! I wish a could acctually become and actress.. I mean my grandmas filthy rich anyway cause my grandpa was the first mayor of villa park but you.. I really do wish I could becaome one that would make a lot of things better...

I have two friends that are modals.. so you..

Your not a slut unless you act it , slut is a way you act, a personality traight, not a way you look

You don't have to wish, you have to plan and make goals for yourself. To act and to write, or to be the mayor of your home town are all real possibilities for yourself. Sometimes those that have struggled and endured the most pain, come out on top! You have to begin by not worrying what your friends think. Stay true to who you are. Find ways to continue to develop your talents and make friends with people who have similar dreams and goals like you. You don't have to dress like anyone else or do what they say, in order to be like them. If you really like wearing what you wear and its for YOU, than do it. If it is for attention seeking behavior, then I would really evaluate if you want the attention from the idiots you will get it from. You are better than that. If someone likes you or notices you, you want it to be because of who you are, not who you are trying to impress. I am glad you liked what I wrote. I don't want to sound like a big lecture, but there are other people out there who can love and support you, even if your parents can't. Try to forgive them, because they just can't be who you need them. You will be for yourself. Be strong and share whenever you would like. I loved your poem. It was truly beautiful.

p.s. I love your pic now rachel its so cute

I'm still pretty new here.. but I wanted to to put my 2 cents in.. No I don't think you're a slut at all.. specially since you don't even sleep with guys... I know now a days the age is getting younger and younger for the way girls dress like that.. id say be young as long as you can :) maybe dress a little more, covered? Lol what I'm trying to say is.. you can still wear your skirts and all just don't wear something really bad on top you know? There are still really cute stuff out there that doesn't show off a lot of skin.. There are a lot of older guys out there waiting to just kidnap pretty girls like you. I guess guys take it as a message if you dress that way. Stay safe hun! (im only 20, so I still very much know what it was like to be that age.. I didn't dress like it at 12, but I did at about 15 and ended up getting pregnant at 16, can't say it was the clothes or anything.. but it did sure help get me boyfriends.. id take my time being young, I sure do miss it, and feel like I didn't get enough time being young :(

Omg.. I stopped being a kid at like 8 or 9? You those were hard times..

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p.s. i love ur pic now rachel its so cute

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Oh really you think? You I was 10 there.. or 11? I 4got.. but you thanks! No makeup! Woo!!

Thanks for the good comments :)

You I miss being young.. specially when you don't realise how much bad is in the world.. and how hard the real world really is.. you really miss just not worrying about those kind of things.. and just... sitting outside playing with friends :) I really do miss it. All though.. some of my childhood was tooken away anyway, when my little sisters dad molested me.. I guess I didn't let that stop me from loving childhood all though it frightened me. Having kids however though sure did stop it lol cause you basically give up your life and share it. Can't really regret it though because I love them more than life itself... but I do wish they could have come later...

I know I ramble. Lol

Just cut back on the short skirts,make-up, and be a 12 yr old girld you will have plenty of time to dress older when you are OLDER. Good luck sweety

If your dressing thαn in things like thαt then YEA you'd look like one-- however α slut is α girl thαt bαsicαlly sleeps αround or is pαrticipαtes in sexuαl αctivities with α lot of guys.. whαt your thinking is more "hoe" αnd yeα by thαt description αnd previous posts it gives me the impression thαt you must be one.. girls usuαlly dress like thαt for αttention-- well it isn't so pretty once the wrong kindα guy comes αnd wαnts to rαpe you-- don't be foolish αnd go out αnd dress like some two-cent whore.

! your 12 for goodness sαke! Stop weαring tons of mαkeup αnd strippers outfits.. this is the wrong kind of αttention girlie..

sαve yourself before you develop α bαd reputαtion...

Persoanlly... if you go out of the house with those clothes YOUR asking for the trouble you get and in my opnion your not a slut. Your dressing like whore. So of course people are going to say things about you I would. One day your going to come across the wrong guy and he might try to voilate you. Do you want that to happen? Are you secretly trying to get attention? Sounds like it to me. Your 12, your parents shouldn't let you out of the house like that, but since they do have some self respect and dignity. Dress like a young lady stead of a prostitute. Wear a skurt that goes to your knees, shirts that go right to your skirt line. Makeup that is light if any. Why do you need make up anyway? Are you ugly or something and trying to hide it? LOL I doubt it. I think you got yourslef thinking that dressing this way is cool or that it will score you guys. Get serious, and change your wardrobe or some guys might change your life... and not for the better either.

Give her a break, she is asking questions because her parents aren't there to guide her. Maybe you shouldn't be so hard on something you don't really understand. It is narrow minded ideas like yours that make people think it is OK to hurt people based on how they dress or how they look. NO matter if you walk naked down the street, it gives no one the right to abuse you or put your hands on you. Rape has nothing to do with sex, it is an act of violence and it is due to a lack of self control, regardless of what the victim is wearing. Say what you want, but for goodness sakes, be more kind about it. Read her previous posts and you would understand where her parents are.